Expect losers, freaks and geeks - and you won't be disappointed or proven wrong!

Let me just say, "You are right!!!" Gals YOU are going to meet are going to be exactly as you expect them to be - losers, freaks or sloths! Then you'll have every right to say, "See, I told you so!" But there is hope! See and feel if any of the following statements mean anything to you.

"Who so diggeth a pit shall fall therein." --Proverbs, 26:27

"What we think about - we bring about." -anon

"Beliefs are self-fulfilling prophesies." -anon

"We create our fate every day... most of the ills we
suffer from are directly traceable to our own behavior." --Henry Miller

If you want to change what you are attracting then change what you are focused upon. Change what you expect, and change your beliefs about women! Your ability to attract someone who has integrity, for example, is limited to your expectation of such. Believe that there are women out there that in fact meet your criteria and have integrity AND that you can meet one. You will get nothing less than what you focus upon and expect.   It's the law of attraction at work; the universal law of attraction operating easily through the power of your thoughts.

Let's take a situation like online dating. There are plenty of players, losers, nymphos and con artists waiting for their prey online, and if you are fearful of meeting them, then you will be in perfect harmony (and alignment) with that happening. However, if you look at online dating like a numbers game, and then you say, "Okay, I'm just going to go into this with the intention of meeting lots of women. I may or may not find my ideal partner, but I'm definitely going to have fun. I'm going to say "No thanks," when someone doesn't meet my standards and I'm going to say, "Yes, let's play," when someone does."

How do you begin to change what you're attracting, as well as protect your experience from the losers? First, don't have a pity party! We (myself included) have a tendency to sensationalize our woes. We like (and sometimes crave) the momentary recognition and connection that we get in the sharing. In other words, we like to talk about our worst experiences. So, we hang out with friends who can sympathize. We begin telling our, "Would you believe what happened to me…?" stories and pretty soon, everyone around is reaching far and wide to come up with a better "NO Way - you've got to kidding! That's terrible!" horror story! What's worse, if we are in a mood to rant and rave, and a friend says, "You know, that's just not my experience and I would prefer to talk about something more positive." We want to call them a Pollyanna or a metaphysical woo-woo-weirdo. Don't do it! Instead, start hanging out with the friends who refuse to put up with or allow you to be negative!

Second, stop judging. The more you judge others and the more critical you are of others - the more likely you will attract not only women who will be critical of you but who will also give you reasons to criticize. Be willing and totally committed to surrendering to the fact that yes, there are in fact women other there with whom you will not want to be in relationship. AND there are in fact, women who you would definitely want to be in relationship. Stop judging women as either good or bad, right or wrong, and instead accept that you will be completely accepting of every human, simply because they are human. Also speak aloud to yourself the following and do so often, "In perfect timing, I will meet my ideal partner."

Know that what you are sending out (by your expectations and beliefs) actually invites, magnetizes and even inspires your dates to BE exactly what you expect. Therefore, the third action for you to exercise is to change your expectation! To illustrate my point of how we inspire others to fulfill our expectation of them, I'd like to share a story from The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff. Jean describes her experience while living amongst a South American primitive clan of Indians and how what they expect naturally of their children actually occurs (creating a completely opposite view of what children are like, when compared to ours). For example, they expect their children, even infants, to survive, to be self-caring, self-protective and to be safe even amidst the jungle, turbulent rivers, poisonous intruders and razor-sharp weapons. Jean gave the example of how she watched an infant, playing at the edge of an eight-foot deep trench. The infant was barely crawling, could only occasionally manage to pull himself to a sitting position, and played all day within inches of this deadly pit (as she saw it). At times the child was virtually at the edge of the pit, sometimes even sitting with it's back toward the pit. Not for one instant did the mother, the father or anyone else in the village think this child was in danger. They expected the infant to be safe, and it was. They demonstrated their belief and expectations further by the random placement of their hunting knives and bows which children played with all the time, without getting cut. They also expected their children to be safe along the water's edge and within the water, and therefore death by drowning did not occur. What they expected was in fact what they experienced. Their expectations actually inspired an innate intelligence within their children to fulfill their families' expectations.

So, change your belief, and you will protect your experience! Believe that your ideal partner exists, believe and expect to meet him or her in perfect timing and believe that you will be Divinely guided, and you will be!