This is not working -
My soul mate must not exist!

Nothing. You're doing nothing wrong - except of course, assuming that you're doing something wrong. And of course, assuming that God and the Universe have ignored your desires or that the Law of Attraction individually singled you out to punish and forsake you. To assume that you're doing something wrong you have to be judging and looking at your life with pre-selected opinions and ideas and analyzing and assuming that you AREN'T getting exactly what you're a match to, right now. Take fearless action towards offsetting the doubt that has now accumulated. You are justified in having doubt but no amount of justification will help you attract what you want - so instead accept that all is as it should be. Accept instead of Justify. Surrender instead of Fight!

"To surrender is to display courage and wisdom." - Ralph H. Blum, The Book of Runes

Surrender and say, "I accept that this is perfect and I am grateful for this time to my self" - and really mean it and feel it.

Then, look towards becoming aware of the guidance and the opportunities within and around you that will lead you to your soul mate. Begin by going within; ask for guidance and understanding, patience and "right-mindedness." Doubt will come and go but one thing is for certain - your Divine Partner exists and absolutely will arrive in perfect timing - keep that end in mind and be steadfast with your conviction of faith. The worst thing you can do is stay focused on the "reality" that you are not already with your partner. There is nothing that will ensure and create your loneliness more than sniveling. Treat yourself kindly whenever doubt appears - if you're feeling lonely or sad - do for yourself what you would like a mate to do for you. Take yourself to a movie, call a friend over for dinner, take a walk on the beach or in the park, teach yourself how to roller-blade or take a kickboxing class. I have to repeat this because it's so important --- Do ANYTHING but wallow in your misery of NOT having what you want. Instead, monitor your "attraction meter" - which is how you feel and choose to be the source of your own fulfillment! Choose to be the source of your own joy, your own reason for being, your own fancy tickler and your own instigator of laughter.

"As you feel positive - you are in harmony with your desire. As you feel negative, you are out of harmony with your desire." - Abraham-Hicks

Ten Ways to BE the source of your own fulfillment

1. Write a list of 50 things that you love to do and then commit to doing at least one of them every day and one of the more time-consuming things at least once a week!

2. Keep a journal of all the things you are grateful for and update it daily - what am I grateful for today?

3. Clean off a dusty dream that you've put in the attic and ask yourself what it would take to make this a reality in your life - then take one action step, followed by another action step, and so on.

4. Pray, meditate and seek spiritual enlightenment.

5. Look at your list of what you want in a mate and become your list. If you want someone who is generous - decide to be generous to yourself and to others, now. If you want someone who is educated, a good communicator and loyal - become educated, communicative and loyal. Our outer world is merely a reflection of our inner world.

6. Enjoy the creative process of defining and attracting a mate so much - that you literally feel it doesn't matter if you ever meet him - because you are enjoying your life so fully right now! Make your attraction process fun by using collage, song, dance, creative projects and activities.

7. Get involved in a cause - one that you can feel like a source of positive influence on the planet. Be selective and choose one that leaves you feeling more enthusiastic and energetic - not less. Choose one that puts you in the presence of positive people not radical negative people.

8. Learn a new skill. Always wanted to sing? Take a singing lesson; always wanted to snow ski? - Take a ski trip, yes, by yourself! Always wanted to learn the stock market - take a class, read a book, hire a consultant. And decide and choose to love every minute of it!

9. Create a grab bag of fun projects and when you aren't sure what to do with yourself - blindly choose one from the bag.

10. Restore yourself - make a habit of nurturing your mind, body and spirit. Listen to relaxing music, take warm baths, read a great book, have a facial or a manicure - (this goes for guys too -Men in the "know" - think manicures are hip!) and breathe deeply and exercise regularly.

Restore your faith and your level of personal satisfaction and you will absolutely be in harmony with your Divine Partner. Listen for the guidance and joyously follow the inspirations that come forth - they will eventually (and in perfect timing) lead you to your rendezvous!