When is it okay to try and attract a specific person?

It’s not that it isn’t “okay” to try and manifest someone specific, or even that it’s wrong; it’s just that if you succeed and there is someone that is a better match to you, you’ll miss out. Additionally, if you set your sights on something or someone specific, then it’s more likely that you’ll get attached to the outcome. Attachment destroys your positive “vibes;” making it impossible to attract easily not only that someone but anyone else also.

 Remember the wise saying, “be careful what you ask for.” Conscious creation is a science, it is applicable in every situation, under every circumstance. If a person sets out to attract a specific person into their life – it is possible to have this manifest, however, once you get the person, what will you do with them? 

 This reminds me of Shel Silverstein’s poem: Recipe for a Hippopotamus Sandwich.

A hippo sandwich is easy to make.

All you do is simply take

One slice of bread,

One slice of cake,

Some mayonnaise,

One onion ring,

One hippopotamus,

One piece of string,

A dash of pepper –

That ought to do it.

And now comes the problem….

Biting into it!

-From Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein

  You CAN manifest what you put your attention upon. However, the Universe always knows the Divine Timing, the Divine Order, and the Divine Manifestation that is truly in alignment with what we really want.    And, what we really want is NEVER just the “physical object” that we think it is! What we really want is always the “feeling” that we think that “physical object” will give us once we get it. 

 When we try really hard to manifest something before it’s time, or something instead of an experience – we will always be disappointed in the results in the end.   To some degree, our humanness prevents us from being capable of seeing the bigger picture, which includes all the pieces of the puzzle.

 When we try really hard to manifest something specific, sometimes we’ll get it – but “it” may NOT include the higher experiences that include ALL that we want, not just SOME of what we want.

 The specific person may NOT be a true match to what you really want, therefore, it would be better to let the Universe do its job. Focus instead on the experience of what you believe this specific person will bring to your life; the love, joy, comfort, security, freedom, fun, etc. that you believe having your ideal relationship, or a relationship with this person would give you. And, if this person is a vibrational match to what you want, and wants this too – you can’t help but manifest them into a relationship.

 For example, after my divorce, and some personal healing, I decided to practice what I preach and try to manifest my ideal mate, again. Since I teach this stuff, it was even more important for me to get it right, lest I be a failure – proof that “those who can – Do, those who can’t – teach.”    (I didn't want that!)  

So I sat down. Pen and paper in hand, and began listing the characteristics of my ideal mate. On my list, I wrote, “the many qualities that I loved so much in Allen. Including…. (the list was very long).” Allen was my first love. Long story short – we met in college, got engaged, got unengaged, and I married someone else. But, I never stopped loving him. 

 I focused on the qualities that Allen possessed that I wanted in a relationship, and the feelings that I believed my ideal relationship would nurture.    Ultimately, in a strange set of circumstances, Allen came back into my life (even though we were 800 miles apart, and hadn’t spoken in 4 years). Now, I have what I wanted – “a loving, fun, supportive, passionate” relationship with a “family” man, that wants to continue growing, and evolving as lovers, partners, parents, light-workers, and soul mates.  

I NEVER thought, “I want Allen,” and therefore I was never attached to HIM being the only one for me. However, because he was a match to me, and I was a match to him, the Universe moved “Heaven and Earth” to make our ideal match come together.  

If your “specific” dream lover is meant to be, you can’t prevent it from happening. If it’s NOT – then the last thing you want to do, is make it happen anyway.