my cousin passed away today

[Nirakia]

I just heard my cousin died today in car accident leaving behind his wife and two very young boys. 

[dolphindream]

Nirakia~
I am so sorry to hear of this loss.  I just sent you a post and saw this post.  Please know that I am sending you and this family prayers of comfort, love, and healing.  I am asking God and his holy angels to surround you all with love and light to ease this emotional hurt.    So it asked and so it shall be. Amen.

[cjbeale]

Greetings Nirakia,

I am sorry to hear of your loss, and I am sending you and your family thoughts of love, light and healing.

Hugs,
Carolyn

[Nirakia]

Thank you girls.  It was just such a shock yesterday and I feel so sorry for my aunt and my cousin's wife.

[dolphindream]

Continuing to send love, light, and peace in your hearts. 

[ronit]

Hello Narkia,
When somebody young leaves the planet like this it is always so shocking .
This coming August will be the anniversary of my first husbands death . He was 43... i was 33 and our daughters were very small, 8 and 10.
I am glad to report that we survived !!! i married again and had another daughter.
My heart felt empathy to you and to your family.

[dolphindream]

Hello Ronit~
Your first husband was very young...he was the exact same age as my dad....when he passed.  I was 23 y/o and it was an extremely difficult time in my life.  You had so  much responsibilty at your husbands passing...you truly are an inspiration.  Thank you for sharing this with us.
Love and Light,
Desiree

[Nirakia]

Hi Ronit

I can only imagine what you must have gone through with the death of your husband, but I'm so glad you found happiness again.

[ronit]

Thanks to you both , that was 30 years ago...
I was in shock for most of the first year and can remember very little ...
When i started picking myself up ,i had very law self esteem ... i felt old.. second hand... barer of bad luck... who will want me with 2 children... ugly ... fat... on and on and on and of course the few men i met - reflected this back to me by treating me badly..
Than , one day , years before i knew all the great stuff we talk about here - i had my  epiffany !
It happened at a friends bathroom , i felt very low and obsessed with the notion that 'everybody was in a couple except for me'...
Looking at myself in the mirror i started with my usual ' poor unlucky me lamentations' when quite suddenly and out of nowhere, i 'heard'
a voice 'saying' :'You, love yourself !' and i nodded at the mirror and whispered :'ok ... i will love myself..'.
... A month later a met my James and the rest is history as they say..
I am offering this story not really  to  the girl who lost her husband last week , she can't hear this right now .
I am offering this as a great example of LOA  at work... i needed to be in love with myself first in order to attract someone who could love me . not the other way around.

[Nirakia]

Thanks for sharing your story.

I have a partner who has the same religion as I do, Christianity, but who is from a different denominational background and is not very into prayer, etc. which I love.  Yes, I really love it when someone prays for me, and God many times will give them a message for me that I find precious.  So it's hard not being to share my spiritual experiences with her... and I was wondering if I could do any LOA work to change some of the spiritual dynamics between us.   But I can't really think of what to intend as my girlfriend has the choice in how she pursues her own spiritual journey.

[ronit]

Keep the best and ignore the rest . Really .
Focus on her good qualities and she will yield more of those .

[dolphindream]

Nirakia~
Relationships are about respecting the other persons values  and respecting your own....and this includes their/your  path to God.  Everybody has a personal relationship with their Creator(whether they know it or not!). As Ronit said if you focus on the good things that your partner brings to 'your' relationship.....than the things that you deem not so good or not in your vibrations.... will not be given any power.   I have friends that are married that have completely different  religious backgrounds....their relationship works because they stand in their faith and their own truth,  and respect the others path.  They do not expect the other persons relationship with God to be the same as theirs.    We all have our 'own truths'  and it is not up to anyone but ourselves to know and understand these truths.   If you love prayer...then celebrate in the joy that it brings to YOU and that it brings to others.
In my thought  (I call it Universal)....an open line of communication to the Most High is beautiful...no matter how one chooses to do it.  There is no right or wrong way....EVER!  God does not judge...and this includes  our communication process. 

The  spiritual dynamics between each other are only what you perceive them to be.  Do not judge these dynamics.  Celebrate them. When we set expectations...we set limitations.  Open up to all the possibilites.  Be grateful that you are each unique in your own way!  Just think  of a snowflake or a fingerprint.  Each is different...each is  unique....   

Sending you love and light.

[Nirakia]

Thank you both for your thoughts.  I know I can't change what my partner believes and I respect her beliefs. 

But I miss having someone intimate to share my experiences with - I'm going to focus on the good stuff that we do share.

The problem sometimes is she doesn't respect or understand MY beliefs and can become aggresive, snide, sarcastic, etc about it.

[ronit]

What is the nature of your partnership ?

[dolphindream]

Nirakia~
I know that is very difficult when we feel that someone does not respect our beliefs or values.  Again...this is your partners feelings, and as hard as it is to not take it personal.....this is what you have to do.  Celebrate what makes you happy and aligns you with your relatiinship with the Divine.  We can not change the way a person feels or acts...but we can always kill them with kindness.  We can not 'own' their misery or issues.  Nine times out of 10...when another person is negative towards others....it is their misery that they are expressing.  It has nothing to do with the person it is directed at.   It's easier to direct it at people we love.....KINDA CRAZY....but ego has a way of guiding us to this behavior. When we are functioning from Spirit....we see this behavior as the "Is that so" mantra!   Spirituality is a very personal  path.  Keep your focus on what your truth is..........that really is all that matters!


Again....you can call on AA Raphael to heal this issue.....!  Your angels are a gift from your Creator.  A beautiful gift at that!