What do I do..?

[beautifulbri]

 PLEASE HELP!!!!!
This is part good and part horrible... I'm just really frustrated right now, and I really need the advice of someone who knows a little more than I do about the Law of Attraction and how this Universe works...Please, if you can advise me on what to do, I would be soooo thankful!!!

After going through an extremely painful break up, I was sitting on my balcony one night and looking up to the sky with tears in my eyes. I remember saying "Please...Universe, Galaxy, God...I want to fall deep in love with a man who feels the same for me. Someone who makes me happy and secure, who will be my best friend AND lover, A successful man who is just as sensitive, emotional and intense as I am..." I found myself doing this about 2-3 times a week, late at night.  Approximately 6 months ago is when i watched the secret. I realized that I was pretty much applying the Law of Attraction to this situation without even knowing that the law exists.

Around that same time, a friend of mine invited me to a little get-together that was being held at her guy friends house. Usually, I wouldnt have gone, but something urged me to go. When we arrived there, I was impressed by the luxurious enviornment and everyone seemed to be pretty nice. However, there was a specific person who really caught my eye. Turns out it was likewise, and we ended up talking the night away...LITERALLY till 10AM. We got to know eachother better, he told me that he's 3 months fresh out of a 7 year relationship (Again, I was recovering from a VERY painful breakup myself) and he just moved here from a different state....

We saw eachother a few more times after this night, but I was always being as distant as possible due to the hurt that I experienced with that other guy throughout my entire childhood. But, I deffinately kept reminding myself that thoughts become things and if I think negative, I'll get more of what I dont want. I started changing my way of thinking when it came to him, and the more time I spent with him and the more I got to know him, the more I started realizing that he has every quality in a man that I requested from the universe, and we are now in a relationship! He is EXACTLY what I kept telling myself I wanted. To top it off, he also became my best friend in the process. I'm deeply in love, and so is he and I realized that he happens to be the first man that I TRULLY love...In my previous relationship, I thought I was in love, but after trully experiencing this amazing feeling, I realized that I was trying to convince myself that I love the person that never once cared for my own well-being.. ..and yes, I know its only been a few months, but our relationship is so deep and intense that we have spent hours laying in bed, holding eachother and crying because of how strong our feelings are for one another in such a short period of time- I BELIEVE THE UNIVERSE IS TO THANK FOR THIS, RIGHT? RIGHT!


But, here is my problem::

Although we're so in love and everything is pretty much great, I need to address these few things. For one, the first two or three months of this relationship were AMAZING, he gave me all the attention I could ever want and made me feel happy and so secure...I dont know what got into me (Especially knowing the LOA), but I kept telling myself that this seems too good to be true, and in my case, it deffinately is. I was constantly thinking that this wont last, and I'm headed for pain. I now see that things slowly started going wrong. His ex-girlfriend is now a part of our every day conversations. They still talk on the phone and I know, my female intuition is telling me that he still has some feelings for her deep down. And I honestly cant blame him, she was his first love,  but I warned him from the beginning not to deal with me if that was the case. he knows the way that I've been hurt in my past and swore to me that he wouldnt ever treat me in a way that didnt make me feel secure and happy. I felt that he was still sensitive to the subject, but the fact that he was so in love with me made me calm. In the beginning, he just confirmed that she was his "psycho ex". Turns out that yes, the psycho part is very true (I.E. she cuts her wrists in attempt to get his sympathy). Yes! But on top of this, Even though she lives half way across the country, I feel very insecure when it comes to their relationship. It is more than clear that she is still in love with him. She highly disrespects him and he knows that she's not the one for him BUT...he cant let go of the years. He still cares for her, is in love with me, and I'm stuck in the middle... I had no problems with her in the beginning, but once she found out about me, his attitude toward ME has changed drastically.

He left on a vacation to see his family about...a week ago, and please note that his ex is his next door neighbor in his hometown...He is coming back on Monday, but I havent spoken to him since Thursday night!!! He started an argument with me for absolutely nothing, and obviously he realized that toward the end of the conversation...however, I didnt call him since then because I wanted him to realize he cant treat me just any ol way, but he hasnt called!!! This is SO not like him...

I know I'm supposed to think of GOOD in our relationship, and be thankful for the traits in him that I love, but this situation is getting the best of me! No matter how much I try to be greatful for the things that I admire about him, I keep getting reminded that he hasnt acted like himself in a while and I lose hope and prepare myself for the worst...I guess I need some inspiration or...wow I dont know..

I REALLY miss and want the person that I fell in love with...I dont even recognize him anymore and this is EXACTLY what I feared, this is what I attracted by constantly thinking about it...Is it possible to reverse it?? I dont know what to do..


If anyone reads this, thank you for you patience and understanding!! I'm sorry for posting such a sad post (especially this being my first time posting here).... I know, and completely understand that I attracted this apon myself with the negative thoughts, but I was so used to being hurt that I couldnt stop thinking negative! How can I reverse this situation now?? And how do I get myself to stop thinking about the bad??? How can I be positive now when things are just the complete opposite from what they use to be??

I just needed to get this off my chest........Please, if anyone can help me out, it would be MORE than greatly appreciated!!!

--Bri

[ronit]

Hello Bri ,
What a great  post .
The good news is that you are a great manifester ...you attracted the man and you attracted the difficulty..
However, the jump from being in a long term relationship with somebody who took you for granted  - to being with Mr. wonderful was to high.
You missed the step of " I deserve to be in a good relationship ".
So , work with the above affirmation , create an inner space for good things to come to you and to stay with you .
Remember , just as in dreams , so in nightmares, you create it all .
Treat this experience as a growing curve .. it is not tragic ... you can turn it around !

[Nirakia]

I agree with you Ronit

When we've been that hurt in a previous relationship, and we become involved again soon after that, we still have lots of issues to work through first.  It's usually not the time for THE ONE.

Also, as I read somewhere: "Sooner or later the day will come when your partner won't want to focus solely on your need and you will feel like he/she is "forgetting to love you." Now what should you do?
Should you get a divorce? Beg for attention? Maybe you should push him/her- just to let them know how much you are suffering.
THIS HAPPENS WHEN WE TRY TO REACH HAPPINESS THROUGH OTHER PEOPLE."

[dolphindream]

HELLO ALL~
and welcome Bri~

I have missed you all so much.  I just read this post and amazingly enough......I can share a success story in the romance department!


Bri~

I sooooooo know how you feel.  I have seemed to attract the same kind of men over and over and over again.  I finally Let God and Let go.  I did not ask God....but I told Him that I have taken a lot of time off in the 'men department' and I have really been working on loving ME and if he deemed me to meet my soulmate....then it would happen in divine time.   I just let it go at that point.

I have met the most incredible man...a real Gentleman....authentic....and he is journeying on a incredible spiritual path..that I am so blessed to be able to share.    I have been a little ungrounded,  I am letting go of things that have not served me (like working a billion hours) !   He and I are not fallling in love...but we are growing in love.  It is quite the dance.  I have been delivered by the Universe my soulmate.......................................and I am just in awe!     How did this happen?   I detatched.  I quit looking for love and found love in ME!   I have never felt so realtionship healthy.   I realized that I did not need another to make me whole....I ALREADY AM WHOLE!     This is incredible.............and as Ronit has said....The better it gets...the better it gets!!!!!!!!

So Bri....heal yourself and then you will attract the loving healthy relationship that you deserve!   It is the truth!
Love and Light to you al! 

[ronit]

Congratulations Desiree !!!!!!!!!
As i shared here before, this exact same experience happened to me . 28 years ago ... and we are still very much in love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The same happened when we were looking for a house to buy , it was only after i "made peace" with were i was - that i found THE HOUSE...
As Abraham says: what you think and what you feel is equal to what you have !!!
So we need to think and feel happy so as to become happy.

[dolphindream]

I like that....what you think and what you feel is what you will have.  Right now I am walking on sushine....and it sure feels good!
There is one thing that t is so cool....that is that I know I am worthy of a loving relationship.  For the first time i my life I can look in the mirror and say...Yes Desiree you are VERY WORTHY of a happy, blissful, loving, relationship.

I am so very blessed!

[ronit]

Yes You are , and so is everybody else!!!!!
I don't know why the human race fell into this mass-trance of law self esteem and self doubt... it is time we all wake up !!!!

[dolphindream]

Ronit~
There is a global awakening going on right NOW...no worries!

Blessings,
Me

[ronit]

Desiree,
Its so nice chatting here again !! how long have we been in this forum ? a year ?
It is my impression that the big awakening resulting from 'The secret ' , has petered out already ...

[dolphindream]

Hi Ronit~
the Secret was just a catalyst delivered in perfect divine timing to help us understand that we can co-create wih the Universe. I believe that it not only opened up the eyes of millions ...but it gave people the food to start thinking with the right side of their brain.

It will be a year in November that I found this site and all of you..........how time flies when you are in great company!

Be well and Be blessed! 

[ronit]

Time indeed flies... my mantra is : The older i get , the better i feel !!!

[dolphindream]

Yes Ronit.....you are like a fine wine!  You are BEAUTIFUL!    How are things going?  I am doing wonderful!   I have to pinch myself every morning!   It is so KEWL!!!!!

Love aqnd Light

[ronit]

Thank you Desire,
Life is very sweet here too !!!
Enjoying the pool  in the midst of  a heat wave....
Our first paying guests have arrived , a nice family from Scotland . very appreciative  , just the kind i have visualized and written about !!
Doing quite a bit of EFT .Signed up to do a course in September in AGE GATEFT a combination of AGE GATE THERAPY and EFT...