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November 20, 2008, 06:23:01 PM

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So, what if absolutely NOTHING you do is working? I consistently tap for at least 30 minutes a day. I've visualized, I've read everything I can about EFT, I've bought program after program about abundance and EFT and using EFT to get money (and used them!), but NOTHING. I'm past frustrated to just plain tired. I'm so worn out. I just can't function anymore. I've tapped on everything I can think of and NOTHING. Absolutely NOTHING. Are there just some people EFT doesn't work for? I guess I must be one of those.

I've tapped, I've begged, I've prayed, I've bargained, I've rain danced, I've sown seed money and I still have nothing to show for it all. I'm beginning to lose my faith in it all. It's SO hard to continue when there's no progress. I just can't go on like this.

And, yes, I've tapped on everything I've just written about, and that hasn't worked either. Nothing does.

Any words of wisdom?

InsideChange
Your posts certainly sounds like frustration. Appears that you are maybe trying to hard to force something and than your negative thoughts about not getting what you are asking for is cancelling out your request. Think of it this way, if you can, a negative and a positive cancel out each other. Than nothing will come that you want.

Here is an article by another writer that you may find beneficial.

Ten Ways We Hinder the Law of Attraction
by Wendy Betterini

"Why isn't the Law of Attraction working for me?" This cry of frustration is uttered often by people who are learning to consciously create better lives using the Law of Attraction. After spending weeks trying to raise their vibration, focus their minds and bring forth a better reality, they can't understand why they're not seeing results. Or sometimes they'll see small results which gives them incentive to keep going, but they still don't see improvement where it REALLY counts.

Does this describe you? Have you raised your eyes to the heavens and demanded to know why the Law of Attraction isn't working for you? Or perhaps you've resigned yourself to one of these deadly beliefs:

"It seems to work for other people, but I just can't get it right."

"I must be doomed to failure."

"I knew it wouldn't work, but at least I tried."

"I'm such an idiot; why do I keep getting sucked into these ridiculous schemes?"

"God must really hate me."

Well, wipe those destructive thoughts right out of your mind! Seriously, they won't serve you a bit, though I can understand why you're tempted to believe them - I've been there too!

Here's the good news: the Law of Attraction IS working for you. It works all the time, every time, without exception. If you're not seeing the results you want, the time has come to ask yourself what you're putting out there that is attracting similar energy back into your life.

Before you get angry at me for telling you you're "doing it wrong," please understand that you're probably NOT doing it wrong - but there may be one or two things you're doing that are creating resistance, which slows down your results.

Skim down this list of the most common ways we hinder the Law of Attraction from delivering what we want, and compare them carefully with your own habitual thoughts and feelings:

INDECISION
Do you have a clear vision of exactly what you want? Perhaps you aren't picky, you just want things to be "better" than they are now, whatever that ends up looking like. However, the Universe doesn't want you to settle for "something good," but instead attract EXACTLY what you desire!

What do you desire? Take some time to think about the facets of your life. Think about your job, financial status, relationships, health, body size, vehicle, residence, and more. Are all of these things an accurate reflection of what you would create if you could start over? Make a detailed list of EXACTLY what you want to create for yourself. Write down every tiny aspect you can think of. Then read this list frequently to keep your vision sharp and clear in your mind.

UNWORTHINESS
Do you REALLY believe you deserve the things on your list? What makes you so special that you deserve abundant health, wealth and happiness? That's not a rhetorical question. I'm really asking, what makes you so special? Don't have an answer? How about this: you exist. Someone breathed you into existence and infused you with all these desires, and for what? Why would your desires exist if you weren't meant to experience them?

Until you can understand just how special and unique you truly are, you might resist the abundance and joy the Universe is offering you. Perhaps you feel guilty that others are struggling, so you keep yourself at a lower level so you don't make them feel bad. However, holding yourself back doesn't serve them, or you. Embrace your true worth as a human being and let it be a shining example for all to see. Empower others (and yourself) with the knowledge that they too can create better lives.

DISTRUST
Some of us have a skewed view of the Universe (or God, if that term resonates with you). From an early age, we're taught that we have to comply with certain guidelines and behavioral rules - or else. We see the Universe as some angry force that will deliver a wrath of misery upon us if we do something wrong. It's no surprise that most of us end up feeling like we're walking on eggshells. We actually EXPECT bad things to happen because we've developed such a negative view of the powers that be. We're afraid to ask for what we really want because we might be viewed as greedy, ungrateful or selfish. We're afraid to hope for something better because we might get a lightning bolt up the wazoo.

How about turning this belief around? We can just as easily believe in a loving Universe, one that wants us to do well, be happy, and feel abundant. Rather than approaching the Universe with the mind-set of a scolded child, why not step forward confidently and joyfully and claim ownership of what is already yours? Believe me, the Universe will applaud you for doing so, and reward you beyond your wildest dreams.

DOUBT
Even if you WANT to believe that the Law of Attraction really works, you might be holding back somewhat to protect yourself from disappointment. If you don't give it your "all," you think it won't hurt so badly when it doesn't work out. However, doubt is like a big old rubber doorstop that prevents the gateway of prosperity from opening. You affirm, you visualize, you get clear, and the gate begins to swing inward, creating a crack through which shimmering golden light shines forth. You begin to step forward into your glorious new reality, when "bump!," -- oops, never mind, there's a doorstop there and the gap isn't big enough to let you through. Oh well, better luck next time.

Think of FAITH as the oil that keeps the hinges on the gates of prosperity operating smoothly. If you keep the hinges lubricated and the gates free of any obstructions (doubts) - they will swing right open and you'll be dazzled by what you see on the other side.

DISBELIEF
No matter how badly you want something, if you don't believe it's possible, you will resist it. Perhaps you've set some lofty goals for yourself, things that almost seem too good to be true. Perhaps you want to be a millionaire, but you're currently earning $15,000 per year. Or you want to meet your soulmate, but you long ago convinced yourself that he or she doesn't exist. Turning these negative beliefs around is CRUCIAL to attracting your desires!

For every limiting belief you hold, I want you to take a blank sheet of paper and come up with ten reasons why your desires are POSSIBLE. It's important to make the reasons believable and logical. For example, "It's possible for me to become a millionaire because other people have done it, and some of them started with less than what I have now!" Or, "It's possible that my soulmate exists because I simply haven't met every person on the planet yet. He or she might be searching for me even as I search for him/her!"

Keep repeating these reasons to yourself, until you are absolutely CONVINCED that your desires are indeed possible. It may take time, and it will certainly take lots of repetition, but the stronger your belief is, the more likely you are to attract the end result you desire.

DUALITY
Do your day-to-day thoughts, feelings, and actions paint a very different picture than the affirmations and visualizations you project? Are you affirming your financial prosperity while at the same time worrying about your bills? Both realities CANNOT co-exist in your life. Either you're prosperous, or you're not. Either you're successful, or you're not. Either you're healthy, or you're besieged by aches and pains.

At every possible moment, you need to let go of your old reality - even if it means pretending that the symptoms of lack, struggle, and illness do not exist. At the very beginning, it will be a challenge to do this fully, but if you keep at it day after day, repeatedly turning your attention to thoughts of wellness, abundance, and joy, and focusing less on lack, struggle, and illness, you begin to shift your reality to what you focus on the most.

FEAR
Perhaps you're claiming to want something better, but you also fear it on a deeper level. If you want to be a best-selling author but you fear publicity and fame, guess what happens? You resist the formation of such a reality in your life because it makes you uncomfortable. If you want to be financially abundant but you worry about what others would think of you, resistance is woven throughout your desire for more money. In effect, you're asking for something but also pushing it away at the same time.

One good way to overcome these fears is by facing them on paper. Ask yourself how you would handle people who thought poorly of you for being wealthy. "I'd tell them to mind their own business," might be one response, or "Their opinions of me don't affect my life one way or the other" would work nicely also. If you get clear about your fears, you'll realize that most of them are irrational or irrelevant. Even the ones that hold merit, however, can be worked through and your resistance will dissolve in the light of clarity and purpose.

FORCE
You watched the movie, "The Secret," or read a great book about the Law of Attraction, and now you're all fired up! You're SO DETERMINED to change your life that you proceed full steam ahead. You begin religiously reciting affirmations and performing meditations and visualizations and feeling good at every possible opportunity. After a week or two nothing has happened, so you increase the intensity of your efforts. You start meditating not just for 15 minutes a day, but for two hours a day. Your affirmations become a litany of desperation to make something happen. Still no results, so you work harder, and harder, and HARDER at it - until finally you scream in frustration, utterly exhausted from trying so hard.

Lighten up! I know, that's easier said than done when you're not happy with your current reality. But seriously, the harder you "try," the worse it's going to get. Back off, relax, and just let it happen when it's going to happen. The more relaxed and joyful you can be about the process, the more quickly your desires will come forth. Read more about the process of "allowing," and learn how to BE what you're trying to attract. It's a much simpler way to activate the Law of Attraction, and everything will just FLOW smoothly and easily. No force required. Really.

FRUSTRATION
Speaking of frustration - it's yet another way we hinder the Law of Attraction. When we feel frustrated, we emit an unmistakable signal to the Universe that acts as a beacon to attract more situations to be frustrated about!

Remember the importance of FEELING GOOD! Why is it so important? Because of the signal it puts out to the Universe. The more you feel good, the more you attract situations and experiences that will help you to feel good. I know it's challenging to feel good when things aren't going the way you want, but it's so important to do so anyway! I don't care if you have to slink off to a private place to be alone with your thoughts, or sit in a movie theater to watch a comedy, or go window shopping on your lunch hour. FIND things that make you feel good, and do them as often as possible. It is so, so, SO important! If you have a few moments of frustration here and there, don't sweat it too much, just do what you can to have MORE moments of feeling good than you do of feeling frustration. It will make an incredible difference.

And finally, the Number One way we hinder the Law of Attraction:

IMPATIENCE
Most of the people I hear uttering the weary cry above (Why isn't the Law of Attraction working for me?) haven't been working at it for long. Perhaps a few weeks, maybe even a few months. Believe me, I know the feeling of desperation to get things moving in a more positive direction, but it takes time!

Remember that we're constantly experiencing a RESIDUAL effect of our PAST thoughts, feelings and beliefs. It's unrealistic (though understandable) to want to change it all overnight. But it's not going to happen that quickly most of the time.

Sure, you might see small improvements here and there, which can make you feel like you're making progress. That's a good thing! Just don't despair if you seem to be moving in slow motion through unpleasant circumstances. You're not crazy, you're not doomed to failure, and you're not a complete idiot. The transition you're going through is completely normal.

Simply do what you can to stay positive and keep up with the activities that will attract something better in the future. Be gentle with yourself, and know that this too shall pass. And in the very near future, when you really begin to see this force shifting the circumstances of your reality before your eyes, WOW - you'll be so glad you stuck with it through the tough spots!

The journey is worth it in the end, believe that.

Dear Insidechange
Why don't you take a short break from all this mental work...go to the movies; bake a cake ; read a novel; have a massage; spring clean.......
do something that makes you feel good so that you will be able to allow the good stuff in .

Ronit~
What an excellent article! Thank you for sharing. Wow! I agree with you that when we try to hard this leads to frustration. Tking a break is an excellent idea! I know with anything I do...if it is causing frustration I step away, do something else (that I enjoy!) then come back with a new perspective.

Insidechange~
I feel your frustration. Please know that just because you do not see it..it is not on it's way. One of the biggest and hardest steps to take is DETATCHING and ALLOWING. The Universe works in miraculous ways and we need to have the FAITH that it is responding to our needs....and at the same time remember that we don't need to know how it will respond....we just have to BELIEVE everything is happening in divine order, with divine timing! We become Masters when we do this..and it is beautiful!

A little story....my mortgage payment was due. I had worked many hours and I knew my needs were met financially. One of the jobs I had completed...well I did not get the money when I thought I should get it. I was down to the wire and I was short about $400 after paying other obligations. I started to panic..then I focused on gratitude and not fear. I just kept saying out loud that I am a loving child of God and I am so thankful for EVERYTHING! That night when I got home...there was a check in the mail.....NOT the one that I thought should be there, but another one that when I looked at the postmark had been sent 3 days ahead of the pay schedule. Now figure that one out! No matter what, I was going to be taken care of...it just wasn't the way I thought it should be. In this case the Universe had other plans...I didn't try to figure it out..I just went with it and allowed the good to happen. The other check showed up the following Monday and I put it in savings! YOU SEE.....it was all good! Oh...and I also went partners on a $3 lottery scratcher with a friend and I kept saying to him "let's but this one ..I feel good about it".....and when he scratched it we thought we won another ticket. When he uncovered the prize ..it was $300! So we each got $150! This was also on the day that I should have recieved the other money....so It all worked out! I was actually ahead of the game!

My point here is....when we have faith and allow things to happen instead of forcing them to happen, we get into alignment with the flow of the Universe. That flow attracts to us what we want and what we have asked for. When we go against the flow...we repel or negate that natural energy. Then what we create is a domino affect...we become negative, not trusting, even angry, and when we get into this vibration we are working against the Universal intelligence and power...not with it! Have faith Darling, and know and believe that you are deserving! Everything else will follow.

Thanks so much for this article! I am trying to help my college age daughter who is going through some lack of confidence right now with her athletics. She's worked for 2 years to get a good scholarship, did really well last year and now this year, she's suddenly having a crisis and it's affecting her overall feelings about school, friends, etc. I will share this article with her. I've been giving her audio CD's to listen to and she's listened to The Secret and Wayne Dyer's Power of Intention several times. She recenlty told me "I'm doing all this and it ISN"T working"

Joan

Hello ,
Introduce her to EFT , so empowering , free ...and very powerful .

Ronit, I have to be honest and say, I have tried EFT on one or two things with no measurable results.

Not to say it doesn't work, it just didn't work for me.

Cheyenne - Thank you for the article. It was very interesting, but really left me feeling like saying "bite me" to the author who obviously has no clue whatsoever about actually having real problems. It's so hard to hear all this stuff about why you're screwing up, according to the experts, when it is SO easy for them to spew all this "just be happy and trust" and everything will be okay. Well, it is obviously NOT okay and it is very difficult to trust in a system that is not showing any significant results. But, that said, I really do appreciate the article.

Ronit - As always thank you for your thoughts. It's just hard to take a break and not have it be a permanent break from using the tools when it doesn't seem like anything's working.

And, that's great that others are able to get into a vibration where the Universe brings you what you need, but for those of us who can't (apparantly I'm the only one) it's a little difficult to hear "just trust and be grateful for what you do have". I know that goes directly in the face of LOA but I just can't get out of my negative vibrations. I'm reaching the point of just giving up entirely. I can't hold the faith much longer. It has been months and no improvement. I just can't handle it anymore. And, again, yes, I've tapped on that with no results.

Greetings Everyone~

First of all I apoligize....I see the article was posted by Cheyenee...ooops! Hadn't had my second cup of coffee....I always come to this board first thing in the morning before I start my day! So ...Cheyenne...Thank You for sharing this article. I read it several times and it is very good and very helpful!

Insidechange~
We all get frustrated! And to be honest...this is not a bad thing. Frustration brings us to the point of FOCUS. For instance....when something is not working, we either vacate the situation or we try again. The beauty of it is....it is your choice!
Do what makes you feel good! If something is not feeling right...then don't do it! I truly belive in my heart that you are going through these little lessons and frustrations because you are being led to what works for you. I see you are a big fan of James Ray...and one of his biggest teachings are when we do something with ENTHUSIASM....it just brings more of the good stuff.

So....maybe by just taking a Moment and searching your inner-self......really SEARCHING...I think you will find exactly what you are looking for. It is already there.....it is not lost....this is just part of your soul growth. We have all been through times where we feel like nothing seems to be going right...in our world. But these are the times that are the BIGGEST BLESSINGS. I only say this from pure unconditional love and personal experiences! Life is a blessing and we as humans try to make it more complicated than what it is...hence..the saying...Human Nature! So focus on the "Human Be-ing" part of it and just be! You have a very strong determination, and you speak what you feel! These are all wonderful qualities and they will truly help you see the BIGGER PICTURE!

I know I have used this saying before on this board. It is one of my favorites and it is so True. "There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way" ~Buddha~ Think about that, and how profound it really is. We are already happy, but we think we have to find something that is already there!

Sending you tons of love and light and may your day be filled with miracles!

dolphindream - Thank you for your message. Just reading it made me feel better and raised my vibration.

On a side note, OMG! Am I really that pro-James Ray? Now I sound like a super-fan that's wearing an I <heart> James Ray t-shirt!

Which, BTW, I'm not!

Okay, back to my whiny-ness. I've decided I'm going to try not to force things, like both you and ronit suggested. I'm going to give it a while of tapping when I feel like it and just chilling. I think you're right, I'm making this more of a to-do than a joyful experience, and that forcing is holding the door shut to what wants to come in and is already there on the other side if I just let it.

Thank you everyone for all your help and kind words! I really do appreciate all of it!

Hello Insidechange~

You answered your own question...I pasted it below. Read this to yourself and know that you just took a HUGE step....

Quote:
I think you're right, I'm making this more of a to-do than a joyful experience, and that forcing is holding the door shut to what wants to come in and is already there on the other side if I just let it.

The magic words here: that forcing is holding the door shut to what wants to come in and is already there on the other side if I just let it.

BRAVO MY DARLING....pat yourself on the back. You walked yourself right to it!
Life is wonderful!

L&L,
Desiree

Hello Inside ,
You had your 'moment ', shared it with us , vented a bit ,listened to some great advise ,and now you are off and running again with the best of them .
This forum is functioning at its best when we rally around the way we have done for you , thanks !!!

p.s i was not born a 'positive thinker'... i exercised my way into it the way bodybuilders transform their bodies.

dolphindream & ronit - Thank you both so much for your support! You really helped getting me turned around again. Exactly what I needed. I'm SO glad that there are people like you in the Universe, and (selfishly) in this forum!

The universe delivered once again .... from both sides of the Atlantic Desiree and i wrote to you simultaneously ... pretty cool don't you agree?

You know Girls.....Life can not be much better than this! Hope your day and every day is filled with miracles and blessings in abundance! Wink

This forum is surely full of miracles! How grateful I am to be a part of it! Thanks Ronit.....for all you do!

Insidechance...when you see the beauty of the moon this weekend....the perfection of the All.....soak it up like a sponge. When the Universe gives us these gifts...they are for a reason. From this full moon to the next new moon..it is all about allowing for the new to come into your life. Remember the cosmos in greek translates into Divine order.....perfection! We have so much to learn from the cosmos and Mother Earth. We truly are in an earthly classroom! Sooooo cooool! Until next time...BE HAPPY!