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November 19, 2009
What if we speak different languages? How do I do surrogate EFT?
Category: law of attraction — Anisa @ 7:57 pm
Q/A: What if we speak different languages? How do I do surrogate EFT?
USE the language that you feel most comfortable speaking fluidly. Whenever possible, include WORDS that have meaning in your friend’s native language and finally, consider and acknowledge any cultural differences you can identify while you are tapping.
Since our collective minds are interconnected and we cannot actually remove this connection (no matter what we do), tapping while speaking in either language is fine. Use what works for you. And, if there are certain phrases that your ’surrogate EFT beneficiary’ uses to express their personality, their emotions or worldviews then by all means use those words when tapping.
For example, Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) is a collection of models and tools that assist us in understanding how to change our behaviors by changing our patterns of thought. Through NLP studies of how language affects our behavior, we’ve come to understand that words hold different connotations, meanings, and emotional triggers to different people. Since understanding what someone means by the words they choose to use is important to successful communication, whenever possible USE the phrases and words exactly as your friend would use them.
Here’s a challenge for you…
Let’s say you are more proper than your friend. You prefer to refrain from cursing or using language that is offensive in any way. However, your friend (that you want to do Surrogate EFT for) uses profanity and offensive language. It’s your call how you choose to deal with this when tapping surrogately. However, I believe that WORDS are very important and if my friend says, “This sucks”, I’m not going to try to modify it when I’m tapping to suit my sensibilities. I’m tapping for my friend and the more aligned my language is with what they really feel, the more likely I am to be effective with my tapping. Therefore, I’m going to use the same words because those words have a vibrational pattern within my friend that is important.
Additionally, remember that an event has no meaning until we give it meaning. The meaning we give to any situation is influenced by our beliefs, previous experiences, our cultural conditioning, our likes/dislikes and even our mood at the time.
When it comes to different languages, there will likely be different cultural barriers that could get in the way of really effective communication and surrogate EFT.
For example, I was speaking to a friend the other day who was born and raised in India. He was taught that it was inappropriate to express any affection towards a woman outside of marriage. Well, now he’s living and dating in America. Through trial and error, he has discovered that ‘not showing any affection’ to his dates (American women) is often misconstrued as a lack of interest. He has found it challenging to find the happy balance between showing his interest and honoring his heritage. “How do I know it’s the right time to kiss her and not get slapped, or worse thought of as a very bad person?” is a question that will rarely cross an American man’s mind. However, because of my friend’s cultural conditioning this is a very real dilemma for him.
We want to take into consideration the culture of whomever we Surrogate tap for.
If we were to tap surrogately for my friend, we would want to take into consideration how his friends and family would react should he choose to suddenly change his personality. We would want to make statements in our Surrogate EFT that allow for BOTH cultural views to evolve into a blended, more enlightened world-view that takes the best of both perspectives.
Now, having said all the above – don’t worry about it and certainly don’t overcomplicate this! Tap and talk however it at feels right for you in the moment. Use your native language when it feels right and use your friend’s words when you feel inspired. The key is to just do the tapping and the rest will fall into order.
Why Use the Negative Phrases When EFT Tapping?
Category: Surrogate EFT, conscious creation, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 7:55 pm
Q/A: What I don’t get is that EFT states things in the negative. Why not use positive statements like what we were taught in books like “Think and Grow Rich” etc.?
A: This question is a common one – especially from those of us (myself included) that have always believed that we are supposed to be positive at all times.
–> How many times have you heard someone say something negative and then say, “Oh.. I don’t even want to go there! Cancel, Cancel!”
Of course we do not want to focus on the negative or we’ll attract more of it. And, it can feel very contradictory to what we’ve been taught to realistically face all the reasons why we don’t have what we want.
However, just because we ‘pretend’ something does not exist, does not mean that it will go away.
A woman victimized by her husband’s abuse may pretend that one peaceful night is the beginning of a renewed relationship. Unfortunately, statistics reveal that pretending that ‘all is well’ will not prevent the next round of violence.
Likewise, some students of the law of attraction will reach for abundance through the excessive use of their credit cards. Today, they may be pretending they are abundant in hopes of enacting the ‘law of attraction.’ Unfortunately, tomorrow they wake up to realize they are deeper in debt and further from the wealth they desire than ever before.
We’ve heard the phrase, “fake it, till you make it” and attached ourselves to the idea that we have to pretend our way into success. While there’s wisdom in this axiom, faking it alone is not enough to remove the limited consciousness that is the source of our need to pretend in the first place.
On the other hand, when we accept our unlimited potential as our True nature, we can no longer pretend. Instead, we just are.
While using a tool such as EFT requires that we acknowledge those negative beliefs and problems, we are not going to focus on them long enough to expand and attract more negativity. On the contrary, through the very act of becoming aware we instantly weaken the negativity while empowering our consciousness of well-being.
When we start the EFT phrase with the ‘Elephant in the room’ clearly acknowledged, then there’s no place for this subconscious fear, doubt, or belief to hide any longer. Then, after we’ve ‘called it like it really is’, we say “Even though I have this ‘dysfunction’, I LOVE myself anyway!!!” We are actually saying, “I allow myself to love myself in spite of my problems.”
Our subconscious mind has been taught to protect us from falsehoods. It’s like we have this determined gatekeeper standing outside our mental gates, protecting us from being hurt by illusions and false promises. When we say something like, “I am rich, rich, rich!” About half the time our gatekeeper smirks back at us, “No you’re not!”
With the EFT set-up phrase, we catch the gatekeeper off-guard! When we acknowledge and then allow LOVE to flow, our subconscious mind lets the new intention past the gates and into the fertile soil!
[ Side-note: (although not completely unrelated… )Another way to do this is by using assumptive affirmations that start with “Why is it…?” Such as, “Why is it that I always have all the abundance I require, when I require it no matter what?” When we phrase our affirmations as a “Why is it?” question, we again ‘stump the gatekeeper’ into trying to answer the question! ]
By stating the problem, we shine a light on where it resides within us. EFT is about resetting our energetic grid. In order to see where the disconnection is located, it’s necessary to speak the situation as negatively and as boldly as possible in order to shine that spotlight directly on the source of disconnection.
With EFT, we are eliminating our limiting beliefs. In order to eliminate them, they must be brought into the light. Through the process of EFT, we not only put our problems out there and love ourselves anyway, but we take our positive intentions and get them past the gatekeeper!
This is why EFT is so effective EXACTLY as it stands. Many an experimenter has tried to do the set-up phrase differently, without success. If it’s not broke, don’t fix it! EFT works so let’s keep using it!
As you grow in your EFT practice, you’ll find that you naturally gravitate to move quickly out of the negative and into the positive. Thus, using more positive-toned ‘I choose…’ statements or ‘What if…’ statements allow you to shift very quickly as well.
For more information, See Gary Craig’s Videos.
November 16, 2009
Spiritual Mind Treatment: Peace & Courage to Support Global Transformation
Category: law of attraction — Anisa @ 3:26 pm
A Spiritual Mind Treatment:
For Courage to Support Global Transformation: Last week held
an important milestone -the 11-11. And, although I don’t
really ‘get’ all the stuff about a portal being opened
etc.,there were so many folks excited and talking about this
magnificent 11-11 day, I thought I should jump-in and
meditate and pray too! (I don’t want to be the only
spiritual by-stander not praying, after all!) The prayer I
share with you today is what came of it. It’s about taking
ownership of our role and our responsibilities during this
time of global change. I hope you find it helpful in
finding the courage and awareness you require to also step
into your calling as well.
I claim my birthright to Divine Right thinking now. As a
magnificent child of an omnipotent father/mother/Gaia/God I
allow this magnificence to shine and embrace the truth that
as a child of God, I am unlimited. I embrace the Truth -
that which God is, I am. Therefore, I embrace, accept, and
allow myself to fully experience the Love, Beauty, Joy,
Prosperity, Passion, Compassion, Harmony, Wholeness, Health,
Certainty, Bliss, Abundance, and Fulfillment that is my
birthright to be my very experience now. These qualities,
life experiences, emotional being-ness are not just external
ideas or philosophical platitudes but instead are the
actual, realistic, quanta particles that comprise the very
core of my being. If God is all there is, then that which I
am must be that which God is. Thus, I revel in humble
homage in the glorious immensity of my Divine Inheritance.
As no miracle is too big or too small for the Divine, I seek
to fully embrace, understand and to know that as the Divine
works through me, in, around, from end to end within me,
thus I too permit miracles to transpire with ever increasing
ease. As a matter of course, I allocate respect, energy and
meaningful expectation to the ascension of these miracles
not only in my life, but in the lives of those I love and
those I need to love; those I know and those I will never
know; those that need miracles and those that wish to
experience miracles. I give thanks for this blessing.
As the Truth of my being, as an unlimited child of an all-
providing, ever-increasing Divine Supplier takes hold, I
allow myself to give up the struggle for control and instead
choose to relax into the flow. And, as this is the Truth
for me and as I am inseparably intertwined with All and
Everyone, I claim this to be the Truth for ALL. We are
Love, Beauty, Joy, Wholeness, and Prosperity and richly
rewarded for our full expression of this Truth. We
therefore allow this full expression to come through in our
willingness to valiantly open our hearts to the miracle of
loving transformation happening right now, all over the
Globe, in full force.
As I seek to see ONLY Truth on our planet, I may be saddened
momentarily by injustice, sickness, poverty, ignorance and
evil. However, I am reassured and reminded that miracles
are not only possible through the Power of the Divine Love
within but guaranteed. I give thanks for the realization of
this Truth as I attempt to take in and consider my part in
the creative solution(s) unfolding before me as well as on
the worldwide front-lines.
The time for Global transformation through enlightened
activism is upon us. I ask and give thanks for this time to
be one of magnificent ease, full of grace and meaningful
effortless effort. I ask and give thanks that the fears
that may have previously prevented our personal
participation are now reconciled and released. I ask and
give thanks because all frightful thoughts/beliefs that we
are insignificant and incapable of meaningful and eloquent
change are now immediately eradicated. I embrace the
essence of my being, and as I do, others allow their essence
to soothe their hearts and minds and energize their ambition
and motivate their souls to join the call and align with
loving, just, peace-filled transformation.
I see the momentous influence of humanitarian capitalism and
spiritual entrepreneurship catapulting successfully into the
stratosphere of global business. I see and give thanks for
this positive influence and the rapid transformation of
business as usual into triple-bottom lines that honor an
altruistic code of people and planet first while still
allowing for prosperity and profits to flow and come forth
for the greatest good and abundance for all. It is
possible to have both – profits and philanthropy! It is
possible to shift our planet using the power of conscious
capitalism, conscious consumerism, and intentional
evolution. We are doing this now and I give thanks for the
fact that more and more are joining the call to create this
shift.
Although I may not know what my role will be, I give thanks
in advance for the courage to fulfill my destiny just the
same. I ask and give thanks for the insight to know when
the inner voice within is calling me; to know when it’s my
turn to speak loudly, pray voraciously, love passionately,
tread softly, or act boldly. I ask and give thanks for an
open mind and heart to know how to make a difference. I ask
and give thanks for knowing when to seek guidance, garner
support, or expand my knowledge, and when to adapt for the
highest level of effectiveness.
I am grateful to now be a part of this all-important time of
transformation. I am grateful to have this opportunity to
witness and participate in this age of transcendence. We
are filled with courage and love and our world is
transformed in positive and miraculous ways. So be it. It
is done.
November 12, 2009
How-to-Surrogate-EFT-for-two-year-old
Category: Surrogate EFT, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 1:49 pm
Q:
I watched your video and I am having a hard time doing this
surrogate tapping for my son, Samuel. He is 2 years old and
has a VSD (small hole in his heart). Samuel is in the gray
area, but the doctors are still suggesting we do surgery. If
we decided to do surgery it would be next summer. It is
possible the hole could close by itself. I have been praying
and sending my Samuel healing power to heal the hole. I know
the surgery is done often and is low risk. It is open heart
surgery and does have some risk. Since Samuel is 2 he
doesn’t really know what is going on. He doesn’t appear to
have any worries or concerns. How would I do surrogate
tapping for him to help with the healing?
Quick Video Coaching – Doing Surrogate EFT for a child example:
–> Quick tips for Surrogate Tapping for Children and others:
First, I would suggest doing a lot of regular EFT just on
your thoughts, beliefs, and fears. As a parent, our
vibrational offerings are very influential and can
absolutely positively (or negatively) influence the outcome.
Thus, take time to heal your thoughts and align your beliefs
with the certainty you seek for absolute health and
wholeness for Samuel now.
In regards to Surrogate EFT:
* We are mostly tapping on ‘our thoughts’ and ‘our
perspective’ about an issue,even when we tap surrogately.
Therefore, if you do not have specific words/fears/ideas
that came directly from your surrogate EFT beneficiary’s
mouth, don’t worry! Simply tap on whatever comes to mind
that you ‘think’ could be an issue even remotely. And, be
sure to tap on your issues as they come up as this will
ensure that you are addressing all angles of the problem.
You’ll find that when you shift into the YOU and HE/She (In this example…”You, Samuel…”
and “He, Samuel…”), you’ll really be tapping on your own
issues. This is a powerful process and you’ll end up feeling more confident
about creating what you desire and a positive outcome for
all.
* If you do have words/ideas/thoughts that your beneficiary has
used, then by all means, tap using your perception of their
experience. But, if you do not – just tap on what you
imagine it could be.
* If your surrogate EFT beneficiary is oblivious to the
‘problem’ then you can choose to tap on just the issue that
IS within her awareness:
In this example, it might be:
- “Even though, I Samuel, have to keep going to doctors and
I don’t want to…”
- “Even though, I Samuel, feel scared when I see my mommie’s
face look so scared… ”
- “Even though, I Samuel, must have something wrong with me
or my mommy/daddy wouldn’t be so anxious…” – “Even though,
I Samuel, have a hole in my heart…”
Reminder examples: – I’m confused. – I don’t understand. -
I’m afraid because they are afraid.
Positive Implants:
- I allow myself to be loved and to feel great.
- I know I’m healthy and whole and perfect exactly as I am.
- What if all this ’stuff’ was behind us and I were just playing 100% all day, everyday from this point forward!
Remember, you want to first tap on YOUR issues about the
subject and then tap surrogately for their experience.
To read more about Surrogate EFT, be sure to watch the other videos and read the other posts in the Surrogate EFT category.
November 3, 2009
How do I use the law of attraction to manifest someone specific?
Category: law of attraction — Anisa @ 2:04 pm
How do I manifest someone specific?
The question was:
Q: I know who I want to be in a relationship with. Is it recommended to use their name when doing visualizations? Or should I just imagine that person? I have found the one I want to love and be loved by and now I want to use the law of attraction to create success for us both. How do I do that?
A: Well…
I have several articles I’d like to refer you to:
“How do I attract someone specific?”
When is it okay to manifest someone specific?
In a nutshell… here’s what I suggest on the Video Coaching:
- Do not focus on the specific person. This creates attachment and fear and limited success at best. Instead focus on the essence of what you believe a relationship would be like with someone who has the same qualities you LOVE about this specific person. When you focus on the ‘essence’ and detach from the ‘person’, you allow the Universe to open up thousands of pathways to support your real goal: a loving, harmonious, passionate, stable, and healthy relationship!
- If you are already in a relationship with this person – use their name/image, of course. And, find ways to detach. For example,
“I hold the vision of all that is meant to be as fulfilled now. I hold the vision of that which I desire in a relationship – health, wholeness, harmony, peace, stability, joy, passion, etc. being exactly my experience and I allow for the Divine creation of this between my mate and I now. Therefore, I am willing to be flexible and patient as this unfolds according to both of our Divine Plans. This or something better for the best of all parties involved is happening now. So be it!”
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