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February 23, 2010
How do I get unstuck?
Category: law of attraction — Anisa @ 1:19 pm
How do I get unstuck? I’ve done EFT, Affirmations, etc. and I’m still stuck!?!
Dear Anisa,
I am wondering if you have any advice on getting “unstuck”? For example (and there are many examples right now), I was laid off last year and still cannot determine what the right direction is for me to head in. I was not happy with my job/career and feel the universe responded by removing that from my life, but I have not been able to figure out what I want to do now. I don’t feel it is procrastination, because if I knew what to do I would jump at it, and I am eager to make advances in my life. I have used EFT, meditation, affirmations, you name it and I still feel like I am in this holding pattern and my energy is just stuck. Any advice or insights??? Many thanks and blessings to you! – Erin
Quick Audio Coaching, listen here:
Quick recap of the Audio: We believe that we’re stuck
because we don’t know what to do. We are afraid that we’ll
make the wrong decision or a mistake, if we choose to jump
into something.
I’ve discovered, however, that being ’stuck’ is a result of
being unwilling to make decisions and unwilling to make
mistakes.
Therefore, my first suggestion is to set aside the
frustration you feel about ‘not knowing what to do’ and
instead CHOOSE to educate yourself fully on your options.
Go into a full-force ‘Discovery’ mode!
When a corporation decides to add a new product line, the
first thing they do is analyze their options. If a rubber
tire company is considering adding windshield wipers, they
first do a competitive analysis and business plan to really
get a clear view of what will be required to make this new
line successful.
For example, they investigate, who’s selling wipers now?
What’s their price, quality, market share and methods? What
has created their success or failure? Do we possess the
capacity to be competitive in this market given what we
know? What unexpected challenges might we face? What would
support our success? What might cause our failure? How
will we know we’re successful? How will we know when to
quit?
Now, why not do this same kind of ‘Business Analysis’ for
your options? Additionally, consider a personality test
that will enlighten you with a better view of what ignites
your passion and what skill-sets you already possess. (I
know Chris and Janet Attwood’s The Passion Test book and
quiz has been very helpful to others, for example.)
Secondly, after really moving forward with the Discovery
Analysis, be willing to EFT the fear of making the wrong
decision or making a mistake. Indecision is usually caused
by one of two things – a lack of knowledge/information or a
fear of making the wrong choice. The only WRONG decision is
making the decision to make NO decision at all. You can
always change your decision later, but refusing to make a
decision will result in the least amount of success
possible, every time.
Therefore, be willing to do your homework and analysis. Get
rid of the fear of making a bad decision then, JUMP in with
both feet knowing you can always adjust your sails later.
Taking a leap of faith is called a LEAP of FAITH because it
really is a ‘leap into the unknown’. Be willing to jump
into that unknown and trust the process. We get unstuck by intentionally pushing through the inertia of standing still.
February 18, 2010
How do I manifest a relationship with someone I know I want to be with?
Category: law of attraction — Anisa @ 2:56 pm
Q: I know who I want to be with. How can I use EFT or LOA to manifest them?
I have a question about your Relationship Program, Attract
Your Ideal Mate (or ReCreate the One You Have) with the
Power of EFT & LOA.
I know who I want to be with. I would really appreciate if
you could explain how to get back with someone who is the
man of my dreams? We were in a relationship but we broke
up. It was really tragic for both of us and now it’s been a
year and a half but my love for him has increased immensely.
He’s in my class and it’s really difficult for both of us to
face each other but I truly deeeeeplyyyy love him. There
is not a single second when I don’t miss him. I really miss
him and I want to do so many things for him and want to make
him feel special. All my dreams have simply shattered…
Please help me in getting him back in my life. I would be
thankful to you if you could help me. – “P.”
Q&A:
Listen, Audio Coaching with Anisa: Click below to listen…
I must tell you that I’m not an advocate of ‘attracting
someone back into your life’ as the singular focus of your
conscious creation process.
I’m not saying this doesn’t happen or that you can’t be
happy if you attract them back into your life. But, most of
the time, when we focus on the ‘object’ of our desire as
opposed to the ‘essence’ of what we want, we are almost
always disappointed with the outcome.
It’s like saying, “I want to be a train conductor. And,
managing and operating a train is the ONLY thing that will
make me happy.”
You may manifest an opportunity to conduct a train but it
may mean moving across the country (away from your family)
or taking a cut in pay, or it may be the ‘kiddie train’ at
the zoo. In other words, if you limit what you believe will
make you happy, you may get what you ask for and still be
unhappy. (No – there’s nothing wrong with the kiddie train,
except it may not include the ‘excitement’ etc. that was in
fact what you thought you were getting!)
If, instead, you focus on all the things that you believe
‘conducting a train’ will give to you that really want, then
you may find that being a conductor of another form of
transportation meets all of your needs including prosperity,
location, family, work/life balance, etc.
This is known as focusing on the ESSENCE of your desire, not
the OBJECT!
In relationships, the more you focus on THAT SPECIFIC PERSON
(even from within a marriage) as being the one responsible
for your love and happiness, the more attached,
disconnected, and resistant you are to manifesting it!
Remember, the more attached we are to an outcome the less
confidence we have that it will manifest. The less
confidence we have, the longer it will take to materialize.
The longer it takes to materialize the less confident we
become and the cycle goes on ad infinitum.
Thus, your first order of business is to ELIMINATE all fears
about releasing your attachment to this person. (Yes, this
goes double for a marriage.) This includes eliminating the
idea that your source of happiness must be supplied by this
person. You can do this with EFT (Emotional Freedom
Technique) in a matter of 3 to 20 minutes a day. It’s not
difficult – but does take commitment and some persistence.
Whatever method you use to eliminate limiting beliefs and
negative emotions – pull it out and get rid of ALL those
fearful, doubtful, shameful, sad, angry, guilty emotions
around your current or past relationship. Choose to make
complete peace with WHAT IS and with never having your needs
for happiness met from this specific person. Then… once you
really detach from this PERSON being the source of your
happiness, you MAY be able to attract (or re-create) the
relationship.
After you’ve completed the detaching process, your next step
will be to focus on the ESSENCE of what you really want; not
the object but the essence – the joy, love, peace, fun,
adventure, passion, etc. that is what you REALLY want to
experience.
Once you feel confident that the LOVE you really want is
happening with or without this ‘person’ being the source of
that love, then one of three things will happen.
Your relationship will improve and become what you wanted it
to be all along. Or, your relationship will change and
you’ll invite a different form or mate into your life to
fulfill your goal. Or, you will change so much that what
you previously thought was ‘required’ for your happiness is
no longer an issue, thus the relationship or lack of
relationship is no longer an issue either.
In regards to the Attract a Mate (with EFT & LOA) program,
it’s for anyone who wants to attract a new relationship or
improve, re-create, refresh their current
relationship/marriage. It also addresses how to attract
back the love and affection you once shared (or would have
liked to) with an ex. I’ll speak first to those of you
wanting to attract an ‘ex’ back and then we’ll talk briefly
about how to re-create a relationship from within a marriage
or coupled situation.
If you want to attract a romantic relationship with an EX
(past love, partner, friend) or with a specific person, or
if you are seeking to attract someone specific or to attract
a past romance BACK into your life, then allow me to
forewarn you…
You cannot win (attract) them back AND experience the love
you really want without first employing the Law of
Detachment and the Law of Allowing.
My EFT & LOA for Attracting your Ideal Relationship program
can ONLY support the reunion, if in fact there’s a Divine
Order that includes a calling from BOTH of your Inner-beings
to reunite. Until you are willing to let go and allow your
greater good to flow, you will find that your relationship
with this person will be far from ideal if there’s a
relationship at all.
And, I have GREAT NEWS…
ALL that you shared in that past love can be re-created
(with or without) that specific person using the principles
of intentionality and EFT! In fact, my program walks you
through that process… and at the end of the program -
freedom and self-love will return to your heart.
Other than this detail above (you must detach before you can
create), all that you require to re-create the love you
really want is already within you – this program helps you
access it in a timely and efficient manner! To read more
about how you can apply this powerful technology to your
relationship dreams, please visit here to learn more about
the Attract a Mate (or Re-Create the One You Have) with the
Power of EFT (emotional freedom technique) & LOA (law of
attraction) online program.
Now, if you want to re-create a better relationship with
your current partner.
I designed this course with both singles and coupled
individuals in mind. In order for you to re-create a
relationship you will be required to let go of the current
relationship form. This is done from two vantage points, the
first is to enact the law of detachment (and thus detach
from the outcome – no matter what the results) and the
second is to create an overwhelming faith that what you want
can and will happen for you. For many coupled individuals,
it can be frightening to give up (detach) and at the same
time accelerate your faith that what you want can occur.
However, unless you are willing to put your focus on your
unlimited nature (as if you were responsible for your own
happiness – just like when you were single) then you’ll be
disappointed in your co-creation results within your
relationship.
And, I have GREAT NEWS for you too!
ALL that you loved about this relationship can be re-created
and the essence of what you want for your future can
absolutely manifest for you when you use the principles of
intentionality and EFT; this course walks you through that
process… and at the end of the program – joy, passion, love,
acceptance, and confidence will return to your heart.
All that you require to re-create the love you really want
is already within you – this program simply helps you access
it in a timely and efficient manner! To read more about how
you can apply this powerful technology to your relationship
dreams, please visit here the Attract a Mate (or Re-Create
the One You Have) with the Power of EFT (emotional freedom
technique) & LOA (law of attraction) program.
I hope this answers your question adequately. I look
forward to hearing of your success!
For more information, visit:
http://www.creatavision.com/products/EFT-relationship.htm
Also note: Between now and the 20th, there’s THREE bonuses
- two group coaching sessions where we will address your
specific questions & Alan Tutt’s “Blissful Relationships” audio.
Alan Tutt of PowerKeys Publishing has offered to add a bonus
to my Valentine’s Day Special (Attract A Mate with the Power
of EFT & LOA), which ends this Saturday, the 20th.
If you haven’t heard of Alan Tutt, he teaches some rather
unique concepts about how NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)
may be used to activate the Law of Attraction. If you want
more information on Alan’s material, you can register to get
a series of special reports he offers at
http://www.PowerKeysPub.com/gifts.
Alan will send you a brand new, short 14-minute audio
program which uses NLP principles to make it easy to use the
Law of Attraction to attract and maintain blissful
relationships.
All you have to do is forward a copy of your receipt (to
alan@powerkeyspub.com) showing you’ve purchased my
Valentine’s Day Special, and he will send you a private
download link to get a copy of his new “Blissful
Relationships” audio program.
Whoo hoo – is what I say! Oh – and thank you Alan!
http://www.creatavision.com/products/EFT-relationship.htm
Next Week’s Quick Manifesting Morsel:
I have a Vibrational Video Coaching for you in which I’ll
share the 5th Key to Manifesting Your Dreams – Resilience
and Expectation. It’s important to PLAN for how you intend
to be resilient, not as a means of preparing for failure but
as a means for dealing with the inevitable changes that will
occur as you manifest your dreams (and change always
occurs). In regards to expectation, we not only get what
we put our attention upon but what we expect. However, most
of us don’t really realize what we expect. We tend to
dismiss our ‘expectations’ as mere observations when more
often than not they are insidious ideas that prevent our
dreams from manifesting with greater ease.
February 2, 2010
Insidious Limiting Beliefs – How to find them and what to do with them
Category: attract relationship, conscious creation, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction, limiting beliefs, manifest a mate — Anisa @ 3:22 pm
QUICK MANIFESTING MORSELS
With Anisa Aven
Q: “I have a question on breaking down a goal (mine is
getting my soul-mate). How do you know what you should do? I
don’t want to go out in a sense of “panic” like “am I doing
the right thing?” And, then go home perhaps disappointed. Do
you get a “hint” beforehand or what? – C. San Diego
A: It’s important to understand that if you felt confident
and at ease, then you would not have the question ‘am I
doing the right thing?’
Thus, the important issue is what’s causing that question to
come to the surface in the first place?
Do you know what the biggest relationship repellant is?
I bet you can guess, can’t you?
—> Desperation and Disappointment
Let’s face it. We’ve felt the creepiness that exudes from
people that are desperate. There’s a disturbing atmosphere
surrounding them; an unpleasant stench practically transmits
from their very being. We sense it and are mutually
repulsed by it when they are so worried and desperate for
something that they practically pant with anxiousness and
erratic intensity.
What’s the picture you get when you think about the
following?
- Try going to a bank for a mortgage loan when you feel
desperate about avoiding homelessness for you and your
family.
- Try taking the BAR exam, again, when you feel desperate
that you must pass or else face complete humiliation and
failure.
- Try a new diet and exercise routine when you feel fraught
with the memories of past failures and your high school
reunion coming up.
- Try going to a singles event and at first, confident that
you are putting your best self forward only to feel the
ticking of your biological clock reverberating within
reminding you with every passing moment that you are one
minute closer to never having a family.
Now, for most reading this article, you’ll think, “That’s
not me. I don’t reek with desperation. I might feel a
little worried or anxious at times but who doesn’t?!? I’m
not desperate!?”
My challenge to you is to remember that ANYTHING that pushes
your buttons on ANY level, anything that causes you to
adamantly say ‘That’s not me!,’ is the EXACT negative
emotion and belief insidiously sabotaging your dream. The
real question is not ‘am I doing the right thing’ nor ‘how
will I know?’ but what causes this fear? What are the
thoughts, fears, and beliefs underneath this question that
make me fearful that I might have to settle for less or
worse, not achieve my dream at all?
Is it something like the following?
“I’m afraid I must be doing the wrong thing. And, if I’m
doing it wrong then I will never get it right, never find my
soul-mate, or it’ll take too long. If it takes too long
then I will be lonely, sad, and pathetic for most of my life
and this is too much to bear. Maybe, I was just born to be
alone. Maybe, I’m not worthy loving or not deserving of true
love.”
You see, I know the thoughts well, because I’ve had plenty
of limiting and fearful thoughts in my past about everything
from ‘will I ever find my true love’ to ‘how will I ever be
successful’ to … well, you get the idea the list goes on and
on.
First, you want to FACE the fearful, negative thoughts. Dig
them up and look them square in the eye! What is the worst
thing this says about me, if this ‘fear’ were to come true?
Usually, in addition to the ‘fear of being alone’, ‘fear of
having to settle’, ‘fear of never finding someone to love as
much as you loved your previous lover,’ etc. Underneath
these surface fears, will be more destructive thoughts and
beliefs.
I’d like to share with you two types of beliefs to look out
for.
First, look for your core beliefs. Core beliefs are usually
overarching thoughts that are about ‘you as a person’. They
will be the limiting beliefs that come up repeatedly
throughout your life such as:
- I’m not good enough.
- I’m not smart enough.
- I’m not worthy.
- I do not deserve.
- I’m too stupid, selfish, ugly, fat, etc.
- They were right, I’ll never amount to anything.
- I can’t do it. There’s something wrong with me.
- I was born deficient.
- I am unlovable (and so many nasty untruths!)
These are the decisions we made long ago when a parent,
teacher, or authority figure said (or didn’t say), did (or
didn’t do) what we needed in that moment to feel lovable,
worthy, valuable, and deserving.
Guess what? It’s time to get over it and stop allowing
those nasty moments in our past predict our future
happiness. Now, let’s talk briefly about the second type of
limiting belief. This one is far more sinister, disguising
itself as our protector. This second type of limiting
belief is known as the portentous secondary gain.
Secondary gains are elusive; they are tricky, sly, and
difficult to trap unless you really know where to look.
These are the beliefs that we’ve developed as a means of
protecting ourselves from change, disappointment, pain,
hurt, judgment, responsibility, etc.
Examples of secondary gains:
- I want to lose weight but then I’ll just have to buy new
clothes. And, since I don’t {fill-in-the-blanks- have the
money – like shopping – want to waste my old wardrobe, etc.]
thus, it’s better to stay overweight than to risk not having
any clothes.
- I want a relationship but then I may have to quit my job
because [fill-in-the-blanks- women don’t like my job, men
don’t want their women traveling, making more money than
they do, etc.} thus, it’s better to stay single than have to
lose my job.
- I want a relationship but what if I {fill-in-the-blanks -
get my heart broken again, am cheated on, end up ruining it
and hating myself, etc.}
- I want to be wealthy but then I may have to {fill-in-the-
blanks: pay my family to stay out of my business, learn
about finance, stocks, bonds, and all that ‘rich-folk’
stuff, deal with people only being my friend because they
want my money, suffer the judgment of my loved ones because
I’m wealthy and they aren’t, etc., etc.} Thus, it’s better
to stay put, than to risk it.
- I want a new, better job but {fill-in-the-blanks -then
I’ll have to learn something new, I’m too old/tired to
change, will have to work hard again and I need a break,
etc.}
- I want to let go of my anger but {fill-in-the-blanks – I’m
afraid that there’s far more difficult emotions like sorrow,
shame, or guilt waiting to overtake me if I let go of my
anger, etc.}
- I want to forgive but {fill-in-the-blanks – if I forgive
then it will happen again, it will let them off too easy,
I’ll be a fool, I might let them back into my life again,
etc.}
Look carefully at ANYTHING that you’ve wanted for a long
time that continues to elude you. Look carefully at the
benefits to staying put. I usually ask myself a few
questions about the benefits of staying put, to uncover my
secondary gains.
For example, if you want a relationship you might ask
yourself:
- What are the benefits to not having my soul-mate, right
now?
- How does being alone, keep my safe from harm?
- What would be the worst thing that could happen if I had a
relationship? Is this something I’m worried about?
- What would I have to give up in order to attend to my
soul-mate?
- What’s the price I’d have to pay in order to make room for
a relationship? Am I afraid that price might not be worth
it?
Dig deep and you’ll find those secondary gains. You are
sure to find that there are secondary gains preventing your
success all the while pretending to protect you from the
pain of failure, the heartache of loss, or the torture of
disappointment.
Now, once you have your inventory of limiting beliefs – EFT
the heck out of them (use Emotional Freedom Technique to
eliminate each limiting belief)! That’s the fastest and
most consistent way I’ve used to get rid of the ridiculous
rationalizations we have for sabotaging ourselves.
Desperation and disappointment are terribly repellant of
your goal; any goal, for that matter. Therefore, dig a
little deeper than the initial ideas around what makes you
feel anxious or worried. Discover the REAL reasons you feel
desperate or disappointed, and apply Emotional Freedom
Technique until you feel complete relief.
Once you’ve done this work, the original question, “How
will I know that I’m doing it right?” will simply be
obsolete. In fact, that question will seem entirely
irrelevant as you instead start asking questions like, “How
do I want to show up today that will give me the greatest
joy?” And, “I wonder what adventure spirit has in store for
me today? I can’t wait!”
This will work – but you do have to do the ‘work’!
Thank you for the honor of supporting you!
Love and light, Anisa Aven
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