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May 21, 2010

Affirmations Don’t Work for Me. They Only Make me Feel Worse.

Category: Affirmations,emotional freedom technique — Anisa @ 2:29 pm

Q: But what if affirmations only make me feel worse?

A: If you are reading this then you have a knowing within that
says, “I have untapped potential” and a belief that
resonates with “My thoughts create my reality.” Therefore,
the first order of business is to CHOOSE to BELIEVE there is
a solution to your ‘affirmation’ problem.

“Believing there is a solution paves the way to a solution.”
- Dr. David Schwartz

A Canadian study entitled, “Positive Self-Statements: Power
for Some, Peril for Others” published by Psychological
Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological
Science, suggests some people shouldn’t even bother with
affirmations. (But, there’s NO way I buy that. I’ll
explain why in a moment.)

Here’s a quick excerpt as reported in The Star Phoenix,

“…paradoxically, low self-esteem participants’ moods fared
better when they were allowed to have negative thoughts than
when they were asked to focus exclusively on affirmative
thoughts.

“One possibility is that, like overly positive praise,
unreasonably positive self-statements, such as, ‘I accept
myself completely,’ can elicit contradictory thoughts,” the
authors wrote.

So, for example, someone who feels deficient in some quality
might repeat the mantra, “I am a lovable person” but really
be thinking “. . . but not as lovable as Chris,” which the
authors argue can make that person feel worse.

“Contrary to popular belief, positive self-statements can be
useless for some people, even though they may benefit
others. They may even backfire, making some people feel
worse rather than better.”

Positive self-statements may remind people that they are not
measuring up to important standards and that they should
only have positive thoughts, said the authors.” -

Source The Star Phoenix:

Drawing the conclusion that ‘affirmations are useless for some people’ if they make them feel bad is similar to a coach saying to the batter, “You feel bad that you struck out? It’s okay, next time just don’t swing.”

If you’ve ever shot a basketball, swung a club, tried to
volley a ball or run a race then you know how bad you feel
when you miss, strike out, or worse, make a fool out of
yourself by falling or running in the wrong direction, etc.

However, there’s never would we imagine a coach saying, “If
it makes you feel bad to miss the play, just don’t try
again!” NOOO! The coach would say, “I know you feel bad.
But, you have to keep trying. Next time, don’t focus on what
you don’t want to do, focus on what you want to do. You’ll
get it, I know you can do it.”

The same goes for positive affirmations. We are not just
saying affirmations to feel better in the moment (although
that’s one intention), we are saying affirmations to
TRANSFORM our minds and thus TRANSFORM our LIVES! That’s why
we have to keeping trying!

Now, what do you do with the negative thoughts that make you
feel bad? You have to get rid of them! I say go ahead and
acknowledge the negative ninny! You know, the voice of the
gatekeeper that is trying to protect you from
disappointment. The one that says, “But, you’re not worth
loving. Don’t kid yourself or you’ll only end up hurt.”

With EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) this is exactly what
we are doing when we say the set-up phrase where we
acknowledge verbally the negative ninny: “Even though I’m
not worthy of love, I love myself anyway!”

As you acknowledge the ‘Ninny’ and command yourself to LOVE
yourself anyway the ‘Ninny’ goes away. Then, by continuing
with the EFT round you can eliminate the negative thoughts that make you feel bad for good.

For example, one of my favorite ways to
get rid of a negative ninny fast is to use the ‘argument’
approach when tapping:

Even though I’m not worth loving, I love myself anyway. And, what if I were worth loving?

IE: I’m not worthy of love

OE: Yes I am.

UE: No I’m not.

BN: What makes you the boss of who’s worthy of love? I am
too worthy of love.

Ch: No, I’m not -look at how many times I’ve been rejected.
That proves it.

CB: That doesn’t prove anything other than those people had
issues with giving love, not me.

UA: I still don’t think I’m worthy of love.

UR: That’s your choice but what if you allowed yourself to
accept that you were worthy of love? What would your life
be like if you accepted this as your truth instead?

CC: Well, I’d be happier. But, I’m afraid to be a fool.

IE: So what. What’s the worst thing that could happen? You
get disappointed? Is that any worse than what you feel
right now?

UE: No. But, I’m still afraid.

BN: So, be afraid but choose to accept that you’re worthy of
love even though you’re afraid….etc.

(Yes… I hear voices! I just try to be mindful when
arguing with myself in public.)

If affirmations make you feel worse, uncover the hidden
negative ninny underneath that is causing you disconnection
and pain. This ‘ninny’ is also likely to be one of the
primary reasons the law of attraction isn’t working for you
either. Once you identify it, take time to use Emotional
Freedom Technique to get rid of it. You’ll know it’s gone
when you can speak the positive affirmation and feel good
about it!

For EFT instructions, visit here. http://www.creatavision.com/manifesting-eft/emotional-freedom.htm
For How to Use EFT & LOA for Manifesting Prosperity, visit here. http://www.ManifestingProsperity.com (watch for upgrade offer.)
For How to Use EFT & LOA to Attract (or ReCreate) Your Ideal Relationship, visit here. http://www.creatavision.com/products/EFT-relationship.htm

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May 6, 2010

Ho’oponopono & EFT for healing personally and globally

Category: Conscious Evolution,Conscious Leadership,global transformation,law of attraction — Anisa @ 3:26 pm

Q: I’m having some challenges at work…. power struggles, employers refusing to pay for my travel expenses, technical malfunctions with equipment in the field, missed or poor communication on my part and theirs etc. I had good intentions on providing status updates but then even the phone lines kept disconnecting on us and then I become sick with the flu. Looking at the way everything seems to be going wrong, I’ve become more aware of the fact that I have had a lot of resistance to this project from the beginning. And, I also recognize that I have a belief that I am not ‘good at field work’ due to some past negative experiences. Now, I’m afraid I’m sabotaging this opportunity and they will think I’m unprofessional. I’m not sure what I’m asking but I want to first, get healthy and second make sure I communicate and fulfill my responsibilities next week. Do you have any suggestions?

A: Sometimes the fastest way to overcome resistance is through directly and intentionally applying
REPENTENCE, FORGIVENESS, and GRATITUDE (TRANSMUTATION). Ho’oponopono to the rescue!

I’ve never spoken of Ho’oponopono and I’m by no stretch of the imagination an expert on the history or practice. However, a friend introduced me a few years ago to this Ancient Hawaiian Healing method. I have combined it personally with some quick EFT and find it to be incredibly healing. The basic premise is one of atonement (At-One-ment with the Divine) through the process of personally accepting full responsibility for the situation, sending forth love and compassion, forgiveness (both given and requested) and gratitude.

When used consistently, the technique is not only effective but transformative! In fact, used often and persistently Ho’oponopono can heal not only ALL of our personal limiting beliefs and self-limiting behaviors but can heal our world. Yes, this is a big statement. However, can anyone argue that the energy of love is transformative? As we learn to send forth this evolutionary energy towards not only our personal situation but every defective and dysfunctional social/environmental issue that we now face, the result will be nothing short of global healing. When this happens we will witness the arrival of a more compassionate, loving, honoring, and sustainable world and the Universal Human.

But… back to healing our ‘own stuff’!

There are 4 Ho’oponopono statements:
I love you.
I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.

The Practice: Hold the situation in your mind and repeat these statements over and over again.

What?

“What do you mean hold it in my mind? But, how do I hold it in my mind? Which part of the situation do I hold? What does hold it in my mind actually mean? What do I do if my mind wanders? Who am I saying these words to?”

Unfortunately, the perfectionist’s pattern of rejecting something because either it’s too simple, or we are afraid we will get it wrong, don’t fully understand, or because we have a few unanswered questions will prevent some of you from giving this a try.

Not today!!! Allow me to break it down for you into simple bite-sized steps that you can use, now. AND, once you ‘get’ the process, allow yourself to experiment! Cut out some of the steps I define below and just SEE if you can send forth the healing prayer into any situation more effortlessly.

The more you use the healing instant meditation of Ho’oponopono the easier and more effective (and healing) it will become for you.

To spell it out, holding the situation in your mind might look like:
- What’s the situation?

o “Work is very stressful and I’m afraid I’m not good enough. I have made some mistakes in the past and I feel as though I can’t prove myself. I’m afraid I may get fired, reprimanded, or thought of as unprofessional and incompetent.”

- What’s the worst thing this says about me? (Tip: This is the fastest way I know to instantly find our core limiting beliefs.)

o “I’m a loser. I can’t do anything right. I’m lazy, incompetent, and unprofessional. I’m worthless. I don’t deserve a second chance. I don’t deserve success. I’m a failure. I sabotage myself.”

- Hold these thoughts/feelings of the above in your mind and say the words:
o I love you.
o I’m sorry.
o Please forgive me.
o Thank you.

“Hold’ means whatever it means for you. For visual learners, this may be visually seeing yourself in the work situation and having these self-limiting sabotaging thoughts. For auditory learners, this may mean hearing the arguments in your head and for kinesthetic learners you may just feel the situation.

Whatever ‘hold’ means for you, allow this to be perfect for YOU. Then, with solid intention say, “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.”

The primary intention is to allow yourself to unify with the event, situation, person, place, or thing; to join in such a way as to accept personal responsibility for the creation of this circumstance. When you employ Ho’oponopono, you are allowing yourself to embrace your role in the manifestation of the event and send forth love, remorse, forgiveness and gratitude.

We all play a very important part in the creation of not only our own lives but our thoughts, beliefs, and actions contribute to the global experience. For example, our beliefs that ‘there’s not enough to go around’ actually inspire and contribute to this reality. Our beliefs about ‘evil’, actually go forth and inspire more evil to be perpetrated.

In the YouTube video below, you’ll hear the story of Dr. Hew Len and how he used Ho’oponopono to heal an entire ward of seriously psychotic patients by healing his thoughts about their illness. He would invoke his personal responsibility and the process of self-identity with – “Please forgive me for whatever is going on in me that I perceive this unit the way it is. I would like to make amends.”

Dr. Hew Len would do this process every morning and throughout the day. It took three years the entire unit was transformed as a result of Dr. Hew Len only working on himself. He would say, “I don’t know how this worked” but it certainly did.

Thus, whether you apply Ho’oponopono to your personal experience at work or in a relationship or to a foreign tragedy such as war in Afghanistan or the Palestinian conflict, for example, you are sending forth the energy that creates worlds and transforms dysfunction into love.

When we set free the love in our heart we engage in “Peace beginning with me” and as students of conscious creation, we know that as we find peace, we inspire peace in those around us.

Brad Yates, also an EFT expert, has put together a simple tap-along EFT-Ho’oponopono video too:

Thank you for the honor of supporting you!

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