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September 30, 2010
Identify Your Operating System and Upgrade to Realize Your Dreams
Category: law of attraction — Anisa @ 7:25 am
Who would you have to be to have this work out for you?
I asked this of a friend who is having recurring trouble at
work. He stopped in his tracks, thought about this for a
very long time and said, “I have no idea. I’d… I’d… I’d
have to be someone else entirely. I’d have to be someone
completely different. Things have never really worked out
easily me.”
We both had an awakening. I’ve been talking about infusing
certainty into your conscious creation activities…
“choosing to be intentionally certain that the Universe has
our backs and that our dreams are already coming true no
matter what the evidence. Choosing to understand that it
cannot be any other way. That’s certainty. And, this is
still the place to reach for – being so certain that your
dreams are a reality that you feel the same level of
confidence about your goals as you do that the sun will rise
tomorrow. You don’t ever have to worry about the sun rising
tomorrow and you never have to worry about your goals
manifesting. They are as dependable as the sunrise. This
is so very important for masterful conscious creation.
However, what do you do if you can’t be certain? I mean you
can’t on a deep internal level because it feels impossible
to be YOU and to have your dreams come true? What do you do
if deep within you it’s a conflict to feel certain about
your goals and be yourself?
When our IDENTITY is solidly opposed to ease, grace,
confidence, etc. then infusing certainty may require more
than the “just do it” attitude.
For example, my nephew has the long-held belief – “I always
mess everything up!” This belief has been reinforced so
many times that it has become who we believes himself to be.
Thus, he gets to be right. He continues to “accidentally”
sabotage everything good in his life. Yesterday, I found
his mobile phone in the driveway (again) and he missed a
call from work (again) and was fired (again). He’s a really
good kid but just kicks himself for being so “stupid”, as he
puts it. His “identity” is now more than a belief, it’s
become his operating system that runs his life.
An Identity is different than an ordinary belief. To
understand the differences, I liken beliefs and values to
the internal software that influences how we operate but an
Identity is software that becomes hard-wired into our system
- like an operating system with restrictions. Until this
operating system (identity) is identified as the problem and
upgraded, we will perpetually bump into the limitations that
our identity produces.
Using Emotional Freedom Technique, my nephew can tap on
“Even though I always mess everything up…” and might
produce some relief and change. However, until he taps on
the Identity issue underneath those beliefs with phrases
such as “Even though I would not know who I was if I didn’t
mess things up…” and “this is who I am and I cannot
change it”, etc. he will likely have limited success.
I’ve created a quick video tutorial explaining the logical
levels of change, an NLP model that helps us to understand
where our limitations land in the hierarchy of our life.
The great thing about these logical levels is that when we
intentionally heal at the higher levels (identity and
spiritual/purpose) all the lower levels tend to heal
themselves and align with our unlimited potential. However,
when we change at the lower levels, we still have the upper
levels influencing our life experiences (positively at times
and negatively at times.)
Watch my Logical Levels of Change videos and then ask
yourself questions. Ask yourself “Who am I” type questions
to understand your identity and how it may be influencing
your ability to consciously create your dreams.
Continued with Video 2 of 2:
As always I welcome your feedback and comments.
September 22, 2010
How to Infuse Certainty into your dreams for successful manifesting.
Category: Attract Prosperity,Audios Free Downloads,conscious creation,Creative Manifesting,law of attraction,limiting beliefs,LOA doesn't work for me,Videos — Anisa @ 10:32 am
Certainty is pure faith that no matter WHAT you see or WHAT you witness or WHAT you hear – ALL is WELL and ALIGNED with The Divine Order.
Certainty is understanding that it is impossible for you to have any wants, needs, or unfulfilled desires. It is IMPOSSIBLE for the Divine Order to NOT support your highest and best good; your most dominant dreams and desires.
In the video coaching segment, I ask you to do an exercise to illustrate how doubts – even one doubt can weaken your entire system, while intentional confidence and conscious certainty, can make all the difference to the fulfillment of your desire.
World class athletes know the power of certainty, they understand what happens when doubt and fear are allowed to pervade their thoughts in critical moments. It’s the meaning of the phrase, ‘he choked.’ It’s what happens when we are choking on our own self-conscious thoughts and doubts and allow those fears to cause us to break-down in confidence in the moment and fumble the ball, miss the shot, etc.
One doubt – one fear – can be lethal if it happens at the right time/moment.
An exercise:
- Find/create a photo/collage that represents what you want.
- Look at it and take notes about how it makes you feel (both negatively and positively.)
- Then, intentionally CHOOSE more faith/certainty/confidence.
- If you can’t find faith – then use Emotional Freedom technique to eliminate the doubt.
Be sure to add your comments/feedback below! I have some ideas for additional Certainty vibrational video instructions… I’ll post those over the next few weeks and will attend to your questions, if you post them below. Thank you!
September 16, 2010
Why Chemicalization is Necessary
Category: law of attraction — Anisa @ 3:34 pm
Watch the Video: Why Chemicalization is Necessary:
Change occurs out of our desire for something better or
something more. Chemicalization is what happens when our
desire for this change begins to manifest. It’s the
reordering of our lives to accommodate the manifestation.
It’s the shifting around, making room for and cleaning up of
our bodies (physical/environmental/spiritual) to be prepared
for the change.
Our dreams manifest when the elements of ‘success’
restructure through the process of chemicalization and
become solid matter.
However, chemicalization – does not have to
be painful unless our reaction is rejection.
Instead:
1) Watch for the red-flags of rejection/resistance to what is.
2) Neutralize & Eliminate:
–> Rejections, fears, doubts, anxiety, stress (EFT/Meditations/Journaling/NLP/etc.)
3) Detach from the Outcome –> Commit to Equanimity (It’s all good no matter what)
Read more about chemicalization, here.
September 8, 2010
Find a Spiritual Personal Growth Community
Category: law of attraction — Anisa @ 9:51 am
There’s so many ways to find a community these days. I’d love to hear how YOU connect with people on the same path. Do you use meetup? or a spiritual church? or creative life seminar center of some kind? what about working with a coach, mastermind group, etc.? Share with us your ideas.
(Twitter engage with me here:@AnisaAven @Community http://twitter.com/AnisaAven )
The following wisdom came from YOU, my fellow conscious creators. (I’m sharing it with you so you too can see how much can be gained when we have community, connection, and interaction!) We were born to be social!
Dear Anisa,
Loved your story, I think your honey must have
wanted you to drown the pizza, he is still creator of his
own reality- 
. I have a light hearted way with the people
in my reality who know me for my verbal “we create our own
reality etc etc etc. Sometimes when an incident happens just
like the one you described I turn to the other person and
while they are in the moment of surprise I say “Why did you
create that to happen?” The question is sometimes so
absurdly placed that humor is the only option and we usually
end up laughing.
<Note from Anisa: I love this! My kids do this to me all
the time. I can’t help but look at them sideways and laugh
as I realize they know more about the Universal principles
than I do! 
>
While some people may have travelled life with only one or
two major issues to deal with there are plenty more who have
a rap sheet of life issues that would read as an
unbelievable why are you still standing? I, due to actual
memory blocks to my childhood, would have a hard time
processing what I remember little about.
But I have gone on to “move forward” by a process I am now
formulating into my second book.
re: “I can’t help thinking that there must be a way to
release my past and heal my limiting beliefs without having
to go back through every memory.”
Just the fact that you thought it makes it so (As a man
thinketh.)
re: “I know others that live successful lives and I can’t
believe they all had to regurgitate all their wounds to move
forward. Is this really necessary?”
No it is not necessary.
re: “And, if it is – I might as well give up before I begin
because there’s just too many.”
That sentence is self sabotage but I understand it is a cry
for help.
I too used to wonder how I could deal with the long trauma,
drama list I had obviously skillfully but unbeknownst to me
created. I honestly thought about hypnotherapy to remember
and relive my past stuff so that I could process it. That
was until I started working with the energy body and
vibrational frequencies. It was this awesome understanding
that lead to my own releasing of the energetic affects my
past was still having within my present moment.
But the past affecting my now was because I believed somehow
that it could. Then a revelation hit as I was clearing
energy blocks from my energy body by tuning in, resetting
the frequency then feeling the block alter vibrations until
it transmuted completely and joined harmoniously with my
natural energy body flow.
That revelation was I did not need to remember the story to
re-member to flow. I tuned in to my energy body through
simply awareness and acceptance of it’s existence (usually
eyes closed to heighten awareness) at that point it became
real enough to feel and that awareness lead to the ability
to actually start to feel the subtle vibrational changes
within the energy body.
From here the next step was a faith filled request and my
energy body and energy systems complied.
I am also now much more in tune with the intent, words and
emotions that other people experience in their own energy
body. It is as if the unseen part of our existence has a
unique language and we just have to experience it to get
better at it.
Tuning in to the energy body vibrations allowed me to adjust
my energy body to a higher vibration than the disease I had
been diagnosed with. and I no longer take any pills or
experience any symptoms. Do I vibrate low in energy? Yes,
just like your wet pizza moment I may get a headache or feel
low on energy but I can quickly adjust and change the course
of any low vibrating energy by tuning in to my own energy
body, and adjusting so that I am again living life in a
loving joyful way.
The only way your past will have an affect in the now moment
is if you give it the power to do so.
I have gone on to write the book my previous husband told me
I could not do. I have developed an emotional and energy
body intelligence program for parents and a thirty five week
Emotional Intelligence circular for the school system. I am
working on book two and loving life. Choose what you believe
carefully as your life depends on it. Watch out life because
I choose fun! Hope this helped and love your e-mails.
Namaste` Tanya Jopson Author~Higher Vibrational Living
Creator of The Feelings Map Founder
http://www.higher-vibrational-living.com
Dear Tanya, I just have to share your kind words and
wisdom. Your instructions for tuning in are right on the
mark. Thank you for sharing so freely and being a
consciousness leader. I’m following. love and light, Anisa
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Hi Anisa, I’m a little late in responding to your article
about “Honey’s pizza..”, but I came across a quote from
Abraham today (9/6/10) that has some relevance to our issue
of healing past traumas. I’m working on my own limitations
which are based in past experiences, and this quote has
given me another perspective to approach them from:
You don’t have to go back and deal with childhood issues,
because those childhood issues produced a vibration within
you that you are still offering — which is producing today
issues. You can shift your vibration a whole lot easier when
you’re dealing with today issues, than trying to deal with
childhood issues. It’s the same vibration. That vibration
that was creating childhood issues, now it’s creating today
issues. Deal with it in your now. “Which thought feels
better? Which thought feels better? Which thought feels
better?” — Abraham
To integrate this is “another matter”, but I may be able to
alter present vibrations more readily than alter the effects
of my past reactions. I’ll let you know!…. – Robert G.
Thank you, Robert, this is a great quote! Thank you for
taking a moment to share with us. I couldn’t agree more.
Our point of attraction is RIGHT now – so what are we
thinking and feeling in this moment?
I find that some issues just linger too long as a result of
my inability to let go of my past conditioning. Thus, if
something is a recurring theme and I attempt to change my
‘moment to moment’ vibration and just fail, then I will go
back into my past to see where I may have made that limiting
decision.
For example, I have a friend that has this belief that when
he acknowledges good things, for example when his wife or
children do something right, people stop doing it. So, he
refuses to acknowledge their successes or pat them on the
back when they make good choices or contribute positively.
Thus, they feel they are not appreciated or getting the
recognition (or love in the case of his children and wife)
they crave from him. While he feels that he is protecting
them from negative ‘change’ by not acknowledging their
positive behavior, he’s coming to realize that he’s
neglecting their emotional needs by NOT stroking them a
little when they do something right.
As he recounts his life, he has plenty of stories to back-up
this belief. He shared with me stories of his past
girlfriends who he gave positive accolades to who ended up
cheating on him, etc. He even has the memory of being kind
to his brother and saying/thinking something positive only
to be beaten up (sibling fight) by him.
He’s been unable to shift in the moment. He made a decision
just recently to work on his childhood and when he first
took on the belief, “when I say something positive, people
stop doing the thing I acknowledge”. The jury is still out
about the results, but I have a good feeling he’s on the way
to shifting it in a positive direction.
Thanks again for sharing the Abraham quote – it’s good
stuff!
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Hey Anisa, it is so refreshing to be reminded that no one is
immune from emotional reactions which get the better us. To
hear you admit to being caught in an over-reaction
despite knowing you “should not” be reacting in this way
gives us all a break from trying to be perfect and
realization that the stresses of life will sometimes
overwhelm the progress we have been making.
Working with my list of limiting beliefs I tune into the
emotional feeling beneath the belief and check if other
beliefs have similar emotions, I EFT on the feeling,
imagining it is the hook upon which the beliefs are
anchored. I have found this is a very speedy way to work on
many beliefs at once. It is as if these beliefs are a means
of protection so I don’t feel the feeling – which is usually
things like fear of abandonment, annihilation or total
emptiness. When I allow myself to access the feelings I
notice the beliefs release and I feel more empowered. -
Simone
Thank you Simone for your kind words and compassion. I also
appreciate you sharing your idea – what a great EFT
exercise.
You may already know this but you are using NLP with your
EFT! NLP (neuro-linguistics programming) is super powerful
all by itself but I’ve found that when I combine it with
EFT, for example as you have, shifts happen even faster.
If a person is visual, they can ‘SEE’ those hooks latching
onto the other beliefs lurking in the corners of their
mind/heart. If they are more auditory, they might try
‘hearing’ the clacking sound that a hook makes when it
catches onto another belief. If they are more kinesthetic,
then it might be more of a feeling that occurs when the hook
has taken hold.
I tried your exercise and loved it.
As a primarily visual learner with a back-up kinesthetic
style, I used colors. I imagine a misty, white colored hook
(it’s a bit ethereal, transparent, and the texture of a
cloud) slowly rummaging through my ‘negative beliefs’,
latching onto the issues/beliefs as they reminded me of my
‘need to be right’ – which are RED. I tapped on the ‘red
beliefs’ until I felt a shift. Then I implanted (tapped in
the positive) using the color sky blue, removing any and all
remaining red beliefs and replacing them with ‘sky blue’
beliefs which are compassion, acceptance, allowing others to
have their opinion, etc.
Ahhhh…. so much fun to shift!
Thanks again and create a fantastic day, Anisa
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Good article. How about karma? Can it be a block to
moving forward? For example, if a person was wealthy in the
past, and didn’t give money to the poor, would that affect
prosperity in the present? Thanks – lovecats101
NO, our past lives influence our lessons but do not rule our
world. Our actions or inactions of good/evil in the past
affect what lessons we ‘choose’ to go through in this life
but it’s not black and white and if we “get” the lesson
quickly, we get to move on without further pain/punishment.
The reason I believe this to be true is because the
Universal Laws are consistent and dependable AND our point
of attraction is always in this MOMENT. How we feel and
what we believe in this moment dictates our experience.
However, when we feel indifferent, ambivalent, or sour in
some way for whatever reason, those past beliefs/thoughts
about how life is become our present moment vibration ‘by
default’. This is why it’s so important to be vigilant in
monitoring our feelings and CHOOSING gratefulness in this
moment, no matter what’s happening around us.
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None of us are perfect but… OH MY GOD! You ruined a pizza?
That may be acceptable if it was just a frozen one that got
thawed and micro’ed cause basically, you were just looking
out for his health, lol. But Puhleeze.., don’ do that to a
real Pizza, especially one from Chicago, lol. – Bogdan
Ha Ha! Thank you for the fantastic laugh, Bogdan. You are
so right – it’s been years since I’ve enjoyed a good Chicago
Pizza! Please have one for us!
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I can’t believe you did that! As my British Aunt would say “How grossly un-civil of you!” Time for some
deep peace meditation with a heavy dose of Zen for you.
Kudos to your man-friend for sticking with you. I would be
giving you some “Time off”. – John
So true! Thanks John for keeping it light! love and light,
Anisa
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Dear Anisa,
I just loved your outburst of….normality! Why should we
teachers not have the right to lose our temper once in a
while?
Why shouldn’t we have the right to be weak, angry, cursing
etc. We are a soul in a human body trying to fit in, playing
the game…As long as we find our way back into our calm,
soul-related state of being in a short laps of time – well I
think, there is no reason to despair. Loving Self-Grace is
the Key…! No self-judgment, no “should not’s”, no bad
feelings about being a “normal” human being with all its
emotions. A teacher/healer being perfect and having no more
human reactions – what would that be worth? When we learn to
take each other by the hands, when we share our experiences
without judging them, when we learn to be One with all what
surrounds us, then teachers and “students” are on the same
level – even it the teacher has more experiences of what he
talks about and knows about – he just shares his life
lessons, his wisdom with others to give them back their
power, to let them discover who they really are.
If only my English were a bit more fluent – I would continue
to write about this. But it takes me so much time to
express/translate what I mean.
Never mind, I congratulate you for all what you share here.
I love to read you and see how you give advice and wisdom to
your clients/readers. Thank you so much! Warmly, Silvia
Thank you, Silvia. It’s good to be human. love and
light, Anisa (P.S. Your English is just fine!)
There’s so many ways to find a community these days. I’d love to hear how YOU connect with people on the same path. Do you use meetup? or a spiritual church? or creative life seminar center of some kind? what about working with a coach, mastermind group, etc.? Share with us your ideas.
I look forward to hearing of your success!
Comments and Correspondence above is referring to the following previous articles:
“My conversation with God before I was born”
“Find the linchpin to release limiting beliefs” (also known as I drowned my honey’s pizza.)
September 6, 2010
How Does the Law of Attraction relate to Blessings in Disguise?
Category: Conscious Evolution,law of attraction,limiting beliefs,LOA doesn't work for me — Anisa @ 8:50 am
How does the law of attraction relate to blessings in disguise?
Q: I found myself wondering what, from your perspective,
prevents you from dealing with negative experience in the
way that your mother did? I am deeply interested to know
the answer for personal reasons I do not know how to put in
words at present. It interests me because you seem to be
suggesting that it is something about ‘different make-up’ or
something, & not a matter of choice – but you also say that
you believe it is a choice your mother made a long, long
time ago. Or do you mean that it is harder for some people
to make that choice? If so, why do you think that is? What
is it that ‘makes the difference’ do you think?
I am not sure if I have misunderstood what you have written,
& would really appreciate your thoughts about this. – Love,
Ama
Answer: All of my life challenges are blessings in disguise.
Let me explain…
I think you’re asking why do some of us have so much more
trouble than others?
And, why do some of us have a more difficult time going
through challenges than others?
(My friend A is referring to last week’s eZine, “I can’t
believe I drowned my honey’s pizza” about my lapse into
previous patterns even though I’ve done all this work. Link
at the bottom of this article.)
I want to clarify my comment, “I wasn’t built that way.” I
was flippant and did not mean to suggest that we are born
with a predestined blueprint. While I do believe in the
possibility of karma as an influential factor, I do not
believe in a karmic debt that controls our lives. The
distinction for me is the difference in our soul’s calling
being controlled by a pre-ordained agenda (karmic debt) vs.
influenced by pre-selected, pre-birth soul path (karmic
influence).
Karmic influence is akin to calling ahead for take-out.
Between worlds, I sat in front of the life-values menu and
circled a few that I believed would equip me best.
I imagine it went something like this…
Soulmate G: “So, ‘nee…” (That’s my nickname) “You gonna go
back or stay around here?”
Anisa: “What? Of course, I’m going back – I’m nowhere near
done! What about you?”
Soulmate G: “Naw… I’m thinking I’ll hang out on this side
and see if I can’t help those zany humans from this plane.”
Anisa: “Wow, that’s cool. Hey! That means you’ll be there
when I need you too! And, I’m sure I’m going to need lots
of help this time. I’ve got some big plans for what I want
to do.”
Soulmate G: “I’ll be here for you – definitely. What plans
you have?”
Anisa: “Well… I don’t know exactly what or how it will play
out – but I really feel this compelling desire to do
something BIG this time. I really want my life to have a
profound impact and make a difference. There’s some crazy,
messed up stuff happening down there right now. I gotta get
in there and see if I can help straighten things out in some
small way. I don’t know if I can but I have to try. It
would be so awesome to see if I can help that planet return
to love. I get this incredible HIGH just thinking about
it!”
Soulmate G: “I knew you were going to say that. Sooooo many
are returning right now with the same mission – big plans to
help the humans make that global shift. And, what with all
the innovations that are going to happen there over the next
50 years… it’s really possible. But, I hate to be the
bearer of bad news…
Anisa: “Ohh… Here comes the but…”
Solmate G: “But, you know you’ll have to go through and see
some terrible things, right? I mean you’re prepared for
that, if that’s what it’s going to take, right?”
Anisa: “Prepared? Ha! I don’t know that I’m prepared – I
mean who’s ever really prepared for pain?!? But, I’m
thinking I’ll put in some intentions to go through “just
enough” to equip me properly. Since I can’t take all my
memories and wisdom consciously into this next life
adventure, I’ll have to experience opportunities to remember
who I really am and regain my wisdom. And, I don’t want to
wait until I’m older to get it together, so that means I’ll
have to have a childhood that gives me the opportunities to
learn.”
Soulmate G: “Indeed. You’ll have to re-learn that you are
unlimited and have a huge capacity for love. You’ll have to
remember that we are connected and that you have unlimited
resources accessible; you’ll have to remember that you are
not alone but that the Divine always has your back. I hope
you get that quickly… I’m gonna miss you if you don’t!”
Anisa: <Ha ha… > “Yeah… I hope I get it quickly too… it’d be
so cool to just pop-out knowing I’m unlimited and just stay
that way no matter what happens.” <We laugh and then I take
a deep breath.> “But, we both know that’s not likely. I
mean I’m not choosing to be the Dalai Lama!” <We laugh>
Soulmate G: “I sort of envy you… you get to taste all that
contrast and all that passion. It’s going to be so
delicious. Okay, so what life-values are you going to
choose?”
Anisa: “I really think I’m going to have to choose the big
ones this time. The planet is really disconnected right
now, so if I’m going to make it count, I’ve got to choose
the highest values I can. I’m thinking I’ll need to master
forgiveness, compassion, and resilience for sure.”
Soulmate G: <cringing grin> “Wow… you’re not choosing the
easy ones are you?!”
Anisa: ” Erghh…. I know… and I can’t lie. I wish it could
be easier this time -but I absolutely don’t want to miss a
growth opportunity just for the sake of easy. Making a
difference is more important to me than having it easy.
I’ll manage whatever life brings me so long as at the end of
the day I’ll be able to fulfill my mission.”
Soulmate G: “What other values do you think you’ll need to
remember?
Anisa: “Well… since I’m sure I’ll have to develop other
skill-sets along the way, I’m going to need patience,
persistence, flexibility and resourcefulness.”
Soulmate G: “Ahhh… persistence. Did you choose that one
last time? I did – and ouch! The only way to learn to be
persistent is to be knocked down. And, knocked down a lot!
I remember I had to force myself back up over and over
again, sometimes it paid off but persistence isn’t an easy
one either.”
Anisa: <Nodding in agreement.> “I guess I don’t have to know
all the values I’m to learn so long as at the end of my life
I’ll be able to look back and say I made a difference. I
made my life count. I can leave this planet knowing I lived
my life to the fullest and fulfilled my mission. I learned
my lessons quickly, put them to good use and left the planet
better off than when I started.”
Soulmate G: “Beautiful. Well, remember to close your eyes
and listen. I’ll always be here for you; guiding you,
loving you, inspiring you, and whispering in your ear. You
are loved and supported. You are on your Divine Right
Path.”
Anisa: “Thanks. I love you too. Okay… I’ve got a train to
catch! See ya! Whoo hooo!”
I’ve thought a great deal too about why my personal growth
journey has included some disturbing traumas and violations.
I have shared some of my life challenges in past articles
and inside my programs to make a point, but feel that my
point today is not that I’ve had these horrible life
experiences and managed to succeed in spite of them, but
that on a deeper, soul-purpose level I understand that this
was a chosen path; a path that was required for me to do the
work I do today.
One example always bubbles to the surface whenever I think
about my life experiences and how they help me make a
difference today. About 10 years ago, I had the honor of
coaching a teenage girl (we’ll call her Callie). Callie had
an extremely challenging childhood, was skipping school,
experimenting with drugs and engaged in very risky behavior.
I was able to relate to some of her experiences and choices
because I had been through a similar time myself. I was
able to reach her in a special way because I understood and
I did not judge.
After working together for about 3 months,
my client’s grandmother showed up on my doorstep with tears
in her eyes. I was so afraid that something had happened.
She threw her arms around me and said, “Thank you. I don’t
know what kind of magic you performed but I have my
granddaughter back. I love you.” Callie is now in her late
twenties and has said to me, “When I say you saved my life -
I mean it. I was seriously thinking of leaving this world.”
If I never make a difference for any other person or cause
in my life, I will still feel like it was worth it. Every
challenge that I experienced growing up equipped me with the
right compassion at the right moment to make a difference to
Callie.
My answer to the question, “Why did you choose more
difficult life experiences?” is because I wanted my life to
make a difference. I want to have a profound impact on this
planet and leave it a better place. And, my pathway to do
this is through coaching, writing, and sharing spiritual
principles. Without my ‘rough patches’ I would have had no
reason to grow and learn this transformational stuff!
I believe we choose on a soul level to experience certain
lessons as a means of preparation. I also understand that
growth never occurs without a reason and change rarely
occurs without pain. (Why would we close the window if it
wasn’t hot or cold? Why would we get up and get a job
unless the pain of not having one inspired us?)
“Nobody’s life is entirely free of pain and sorrow. Isn’t it
a question of learning to live with them rather than trying
to avoid them? The greater part of human pain is
unnecessary. It is self-created as long as the unobserved
mind runs your life. The pain that you create now is always
some form of non-acceptance, some form of unconscious
resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the
resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level,
it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain
depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment,
and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified
with your mind.” - Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide
to Spiritual Enlightenment, (New World Library, 1999)
I also want to address quickly the question, “why do you not
choose to deal with negativity as your mother did”? There
are plenty of times when I too deal with negativity with
extreme flow, love, and kindness. And, times when my lesson
of “comprehension” or “compassion” or “sacrifice” or
“selflessness” or whatever value was up for bid that day
required me to fall out of my flow and fight the situation.
It’s all good as we cannot get it wrong and we’ll never get
it done. (Love this Abraham paraphrased quote! )
When spiritual seekers get to that enlightened place of
understanding that “It’s all good, all the time”, weathering
storms simply becomes a matter of flexing and flowing. We
do not stand in judgment with terms such as “that’s good”
and “that’s bad” and “that’s right” and “that’s wrong”.
Instead, we stand in awe as we wander curiously what
adventurous road will unfold next.
“If I had a formula for bypassing trouble, I would not pass
it round. Trouble creates a capacity to handle it. I don’t
embrace trouble; that’s as bad as treating it as an enemy.
But I do say meet it as a friend, for you’ll see a lot of it
and had better be on speaking terms with it.” ~Oliver
Wendell Holmes
For me, it is not about the pain of the traumas now but
about what these wounds have given me in the way of
fortitude and wisdom for fulfilling my bigger purpose.
It’s about seeing that the ever-flowing continuum of life
dictates that each of our challenges, when embraced, are the
experiences that become blessings in disguise when applied
to our life purpose.
I look forward to hearing of your success! (Please post
your questions and comments – I’ll try to answer them in
future morsels.)
To read last week’s article, “Find the linchpin” (also known as I drowned my honey’s pizza.)
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