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We were born with the unlimited potential to intentionally create (use the law of attraction) to manifest all of our heart's desires. Together, as Conscious Leaders guided by the Divine, we have the Mind Power necessary to co-create a sustainable, harmonious, peaceful, and prosperous world.  And, we can do this while also attracting and creating a passionate, loving, rich, healthy life with all of our personal dreams fulfilled.

October 4, 2012

Astral Projection: Really?

Category: Astral Projection,Attract Opportunities,Audios Free Downloads,Conscious Evolution,law of attraction — Anisa @ 1:43 pm

Have you ever been curious about Astral Projection? Me too.

In creative timeline work, I encourage clients to use thier imagination to go back along their timeline to re-create troublesome manifestations and experiences. And, we’ll also use the same timeline to go out into the future to create great manifestations. (Yes, it works!) This process is similar to astral projection… but I’ve never consulted an expert on the subject. Until tonight, that is.

You know I rarely share off-the-wall, over-the-top Woo-Woo stuff… But, I’m too curious about the event tonight, not to let you decide.

Let me know (comment below), what you think!

Anisa Aven
Guest Author: Steve G. Jones

Out Of Body Experience Guaranteed – Alarm Clock Technique

This technique needs to be done after a full six hours of sleep, ideally in the wee hours of the morning. Start by setting your alarm clock for exactly six hours from the time you lay down to sleep.

So if you lay down at 8:15pm, set your alarm for 2:15am and the go to sleep. When the alarm rings, get up and out of bed. Plan to stay fully awake for an hour.

If you need to, splash your face with cold water, walk around or do something to fully waken yourself.

After an hour, lay back down. Follow these five steps and get ready for an Out of Body Experience.

Step 1: Focus on your Third Eye

With your eyes opened, roll them up so that they’re looking at the center of your forehead, between your eyebrows. This will feel uncomfortable, but you won’t keep this focus for long. Once your eyes are focused (you’ll feel like you’re ‘crossing’ them), touch a finger between your eyebrows then pull it about three inches from your head. Follow your finger with your eyes and then close your eyes. Drop your hand but keep your eyes focused on that point where your finger was, even with your eyes closed.

At this point you can say to yourself, “I now put my body in sleep paralysis” as you imagine yourself leaping out of an airplane or very tall building.

Step 2: Relaxation

When you start to feel your body vibrate, you can relax your eyes. At this point you want to be sure your entire body is fully relaxed. You can affirm this by repeating to yourself “my body is completely relaxed. I now move myself to the next level. As my body falls asleep, my mind remains awake.” Remain in this state until you begin seeing pictures, colors or even video images. When these appear, you know you’re getting close to having an out of body experience.

At this point it’s important that you avoid physical movement of any kind, this will disrupt the process.

Step 3: Vibrational Pulsing

Bring you attention to your body and try to feel for the vibrations that underlie the stillness. This can be challenging at first because you’re trying to perceive extremely subtle energies. A good way to begin to get a sense of these vibrations is by tuning in to your heart beat and imagining waves of vibration flowing in time with the beats. If this doesn’t work, try refocusing on your third eye in time with the beating of your heart. Keep your eyes closed and the rest of your body totally relaxed as you do this.

Keep focusing on the vibrations until they either intensify or subside.

Step 4: Watching

Now bring your attention to any images, colors or videos you might be ‘seeing’ with your eyes closed. It’s at this point that a lot of people fall asleep, but if you can stay conscious now, you’re almost ready to project yourself out of your body. Be sure to keep your body fully relaxed. If you feel tension rising anywhere you can again repeat to yourself, “I am fully relaxed” and “I now move to the next level.”

Step 5: Floating

The only thing left to do now is wait until you feel yourself begin to float up and out of your body. This may be accompanied by intense vibrations, but if you stay relaxed, you’ll find yourself up and out! At this point you can do what you want. All you need to do is picture where you want to be or who you want to be with in your minds eye and you’ll instantly be there.

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Happy (astral) travels!

Editor’s note: If astral projection could be proven – and then practiced by the masses – would all hell break loose?
Check out these arguments for the possible risks of ‘proving’ astral projection exists. Do you think economies would crash, religions would disappear and people would ‘slack’ through life? Let us know your thoughts!

Can we prove astral projection exists?

Mainstream science cannot readily accept astral projection because it cannot be duplicated in a controlled environment such as in a lab. Although some natural projectors have demonstrated this ability under professional monitoring, it still needs to be more widely controlled before it can be accepted.

And it is not like we can go into the astral planes and pick up souvenirs to bring back as showpieces. It’s the same as traveling to the moon. People were so in awe with the artifacts brought back that even a tiny grain was proof that the journey did happen. People need proof. But is that really necessary?

We simply lack the tools and techniques to monitor astral projection when it happens. But imagine if we had something like an electromagnetic pulse device, or if you’ve watched the show ‘Inception’, a machine that could hook us up and help us astral project, now imagine what the world would be like then?

There are far reaching implications with this possibility. With any significant advancement or discovery in science, the potential for abuse always exists. Just look at what the discovery of atomic energy did, or medications that are now more commonly used as drugs.

The moment we can prove that astral projection does happen and can be monitored, the world as we know it would come to an end.

Here’s what could happen:

1) Our present economy would crash

Imagine what would happen to the financial market, lottery, elections and sporting events? Because we all know that time and space can be transcended in the astral, who knows what kind of abuse might happen there. There is no way huge organizations or government will allow astral projection to rule.

2) Religious beliefs? What beliefs?

Although astral projection has been widely accepted and practiced in the east for a long time, it’s still a new concept in the west. This is partly due to our religion. Maybe it’s our religion that censored all notions of the soul being able to leave the body or the power of the mind. Maybe it’s possible that religious leaders fear the loss of power over their people. When people astral travel and they know that there’s more to life than what is here on earth, these religious institutions will have no followers.

3) A different way of living

The moment we understand that the physical body is just a shell, imagine what people would do. They’d take their bodies for granted. They will no longer struggle to live in the physical world with the ailments of the physical body. Undeveloped souls may even take the easy way out of this life through suicide and listless living. Why would a person, full of problems in physical life, want to live when he can access the glories of the astral? But what they don’t know is that these very problems are helping that person to grow spiritually and to learn valuable lessons.

But we can’t deny that if astral projection was widely accepted, the potential for healing would be massive. Sickness could be detected in the aura without going through the sufferings of physical tests.

And of course we’d no longer have to deal with plane tickets and crafty travel agents. Why take a 16-hour flight when you could travel the entire world and leap through universes in a blink?

Wish so much at stake, astral projection will never be allowed into mainstream science. But maybe, just maybe, in the secret
labs unknown to us, astral projection has already been proven to exist.  Sssshhh…

If this story resonates with you and you to know more, click here to find out things like the seven steps to safe astral travel, its ancient history and how it can bring peace to your daily life.

Learn how to astral project here >>


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January 5, 2012

Affirmations Work: Succeed with Your New Year’s Resolutions by Mind-Washing – with Affirmations!

Category: Affirmations,Attract Opportunities,Attract Prosperity,attract relationship,Audios Free Downloads,law of attraction,Videos — Anisa @ 5:58 pm

Happy New Year!

I LOVE this time of year!  The energy of change, growth, renewed excitement about goals and what lies ahead… I love getting recharged over the holidays and then using January to launch full force  into my new year.  I do this by going over my goals, setting out new mind-maps around what I want to achieve and re-aligning my affirmations for the year.

  • What do I want to create now?
  • What was great about last year that I want to appreciate and expand?
  • What will help me to expand my consciousness and create an even better new year?
  • What new adventures do I want to manifest?
  • What’s my next level of prosperity, love, contribution, fitness, etc. that I want now?

I ask the questions and allow my heart to answer.  Then, I write out affirmations that specifically appreciate ALREADY achieving and living the very thing I now want to create.

Here’s a video with a LONG list of powerful affirmations for many different areas of life (Health, Wealth, Love/Relationships, family, parenting, personal/mental/spiritual growth, global evolution, etc.) I hope you enjoy it and be sure to create your own:

And, here’s a list of affirmations for you to pick/choose from:

Affirmations and Positive Statements absolutely work!


If they didn’t, then they would not have stood the test of time for thousands of years; nor would every mystic and every spiritual teacher that has ever lived have been consistent with this same Truth, “Be mindful of your words for they are powerful.”


Affirmations are simple.  Simply say what you want as if you already have it.  Then, as your confidence picks up, stretch yourself to the next level of belief by asking for just a wee bit more!


A couple of quick do’s:


-Do state affirmations in the present tense – NOW.

-Do keep them short and meaningful for you.

-Do reach for as much as you can believe while not going so far that you doubt the possibility.

-Do focus on the positive of what you want, not the negative of what you don’t want.

– Start with I or I AM; include positive emotions such as, “I am grateful.”

-When necessary, you may DENY the negative that you do not want during times of transition.  In other words, if you KNOW you are doubtful and you can’t speak positively without the feeling of doubt, then DENY the negative by REFUSING to accept it.  It’s perfectly acceptable to REFUSE to accept ‘this poverty’, ‘this ailment’, ‘this failure’.  Eventually, however, you’ll want to get over the transition period and focus only on the positive outcome you intend.

– Do use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to remove all doubt.


Here are some affirmation examples:


Examples of Health Affirmations:


I put my desires and health first.  I take care of myself.  I honor my time.

I am motivated and inspired to work out regularly and consistently.

I love to exercise.  I thrive on moving the energy.  I feel good when I work out.  I make exercise a priority and it’s effortless effort!

There is nothing more important than my physical health.  It is a way of life.

I like the way I look and feel in any and all of my clothes.

I feel and act trim and energetic at all times.

I enjoy eating healthy and take time to plan my meals.  I choose the food that makes my body celebrate.

I eat fresh, raw, whole, organic fruits & vegetables frequently.

I enjoy preparing my meals and snacks.  I always have healthy snacks readily available.

My skin is smooth and young and glowing with health.

I cleanse my body and release refined sugar.

I have a habit of educating myself on the effects of sugar and draw a book about this into my life.


Examples of affirmations to specifically heal a portion of your body: (Knee example)

Regarding my Knee: I commit to:

I focus on the truth that my knee is perfect and healthy right now.

My perception of myself is the only thing that needs to be healed.  Any evidence that I’m less than optimally healthy is a meaningless illusion whose purpose is to distort reality.

I choose to commit to healing my knee.

I do medical hypnosis on my knee every night before I go to sleep.

I exercise my knee regularly.

I turn all my fears over to God.

I acknowledge healing happens when the sufferer no longer sees any value in pain.

Decisions are of the mind, not the body.  There is no gain to me at all in this knee problem.

My knee is strong, stable, reliable, flexible and active.  I now release all fears about this.





A Prayer example:

Universe – God – Help me know the Truth of my wholeness; the Truth of my Divine health and inspire me to take action to heal; and to allow healing to occur.

God, work your magic through me as I focus on healing myself.  Shift me and help me to be open to feeling your loving energy.

Jesus, Master Healer, please assist me in this healing.  I allow that Christ Conscious energy to flow through me at all times.



I allow myself to feel, express and honor my full range of emotions and I express them freely and in the moment.

I no longer repress or deny my feelings ever again.  I claim my right to a broad range of emotions, now!

God, help me to say “no” lovingly and truthfully.

I communicate my boundaries clearly and lovingly and say no when I want to say no.



I honor my time.

When I am inspired, I say “yes” and when I am not inspired, I say “no.”  I allow myself to say no without guilt and without excuse.



I delight in my wonderful adventures around the Globe.  I’ve traveled from shore to shore and I’m delightfully open to more!

I gratefully acknowledge my remarkable real estate savvy.  I’ve purchased homes in a variety of different locations.  All of which appeal to any number of my interests.  I own waterfront, mountain-top, suburban, and urban properties.

I so thoroughly enjoy my Meditation Room.



My primary intent is to realize the presence of God within.  It is not I alone that creates; but the consciousness of Spirit within that is my master creator.

The pursuit of my spirit atonement is my primary purpose in life.

I meditate daily and it’s fun, effortless, natural and an essential part of my everyday life!

I read and affirm my affirmations daily.

I journal regularly.

I seek peace first.

I participate in a spiritual support group every week.

Peace Reigns Supreme in My Life, now and always!

I seek atonement. I am gratefully and completely connected to the power and the presence of God at all times.




I experience and draw into my life many caring, loving, spiritually open and uplifting friends.

I uplift and inspire and support my friends in a loving way.

I am grateful for my fabulously aware friends.

My friends are kind, loving, giving, honoring, integritous, and like-minded.

My circle of friends is ever-expanding to match my highest ideal for intellectual and spiritual stimulation.




I always speak lovingly and truthfully to my family.

I uplift and support my children and other members of my family.

I support my children mentally, spiritually and emotionally and continue to assist them to grow yet I allow them to make their own decisions.

I am an awesome parent!  I intend to be the best mom/dad I can be! I intend to continue being an aware conscious parent!

I am a Conscious, Aware, Loving, Kind, Creative, Attentive and Consistent Mom/Dad. My children are becoming conscious, self-regulating, loving, aware, conscious, spiritual, kind, considerate, well mannered, co-creators who develop and grow in alignment with their highest path of personal growth and fulfillment.





I am grateful to have the means and resources to exert minimal effort for maximum returns.

We attract spiritual seekers that are a perfect match to our life purpose and financial goals.

Our website is acknowledged and receives awards and accolades for it’s content, design and community.

Our website explodes with popularity and work of mouth travels.  People are telling everyone they know!

The upkeep on our website is a fun and easy process.

I am grateful to know receive in excess of $5 Million for my share.

I am grateful that I easily and effortlessly attract all the resources I require, when I require them, to do what I want, when I want!



I have a loving, peaceful, considerate, thoughtful, compatible, supportive, communicative, easy, understanding, passionate and joyful relationship.

I trust myself to make decisions wisely for my highest good and I honor my boundaries firmly and in every situation.

I am thankful for my lessons.  Now, I choose a relationship that is mutually supportive and uplifting on every level.

My mate uplifts me to a heightened place of prosperity consciousness.

I have all that I desire without compromise.

I am deserving and worthy of an awesome relationship.

God, help me heal my past and help me forgive myself and my ex-partners for anything I may have judged us for.  Help me to know we did the best we could, given our intellectual tools and state of enlightenment at that time.

Help me release my need to attract codependent partners and to honor my worth – and attract a healthy interdependent relationship.

Please help me see instantly and with crystal clear vision the compatibility of any partner that may enter into my life as a potential mate with my highest desires in mind.



I am set free from the past and my financial mistakes of the past.

I now face the present and future wise, secure and unafraid.

I am grateful to receive $100,000 per month – free and clear! (NOTE: Use the amount that stretches you but does is not full of doubt. When I first started this, I was only able to imagine $15.00 an hour or about $1200.00 per month!)

I release the burden of debt to the Christ within and I am free, clear and paid in full at all times.

I now give and receive freely.

Money is energy representing my inflow and outflow.

Abundance is my Birthright and anything less than prosperity is an illusion.  I reject the illusion of poverty and choose abundance, financial freedom and success.

I am the embodiment of wealth.

God, take away all inequity and deliver to me the truth of my being as a prosperous, rich child of a loving Father.

The Universe spoils me!

In the past, I was uncomfortable receiving, but now I recognize God’s gifts and I now accept them gracefully and peacefully.

I attract people that help me grow, and I now accept all loving gifts.

All of my financial fears and questions are now put to rest easily.

When the right home appears, the perfect financial means and/or lender is instantaneously available.

I am Prosperous!  I am grateful to now have a net worth in excess of 60.6 Million dollars! (NOTE: Again, use the amount that is the most realistic stretch for you at this time, while stretching yourself a little more as often as possible)

I purchase anything I desire, when I desire it in cash.

My obligations are always paid in full and in advance easily and effortlessly.

I am an abundant child of a Rich Father in Heaven – Prosperity is my Birthright and I claim it now.

I have more than enough to spare and to share.

My income far exceeds all of my wants, needs and desires.

I effortlessly give 10% of my income to where I feel spiritually fed and this feeds my soul and supports my life.




I take time to enjoy the beauty and goodness that surrounds me.

I maintain peace of mind in all situations.

I forgive myself quickly and easily, learning my lessons and letting go.

I look for the blessing in every event.

I experience boundless enthusiasm and joy in my life.

I now radiate unlimited love to others.

I live a life that flows peacefully.

I respond positively and enthusiastically to my inner guide, having and maintained close contact with that part of me.

I am filled with creative ideas to benefit mankind.

I act on these ideas without hesitation.

I experience a lot of laughter!

I have focus.

I live a life where I am relaxed and free of stress.

I live my dreams.

I act with confidence and determination.

I strongly attract that which is good and uplifting into my life.


Now, remember that affirmations planted on toxic soil are less effective than a positive statement planted on healthy, confident soil.  Remember, if you are doubtful about something you want or an affirmation, use Emotional Freedom Technique to clear the doubt.  Then, return to your positive intent!

Since many will set a New Year’s resolution to lose weight and get fit, here are a few extra Health and Weight Loss Affirmations: (And, if you’re serious this year, may I suggest my Get Fit and Fabulous with EFT & LOA program… visit here.) 


I feel healthy, strong and energetic.


My body converts everything I eat into energy and beauty.


I CAN take off weight and I am doing it right now.


I am in total control of what I eat.


I eat only what I choose to eat and I only eat when I am hungry.


Food nourishes me.


I am now in control of my weight.


I am now becoming slimmer and healthier.


I love myself no matter what I weigh.


I love myself and this allows me to love others and accept their love.


What I eat is automatically processed by my body and changes into energy.


I maintain my chosen weight.


What I eat turns to energy and health.


The fruits and vegetables that I choose to eat are pleasurable and aid me in becoming slimmer.


Love is always available to me.


I love myself, whether I am eating healthfully or not.


I am taking off weight and gaining in beauty.


I deserve the pleasures I receive from being slim, healthy and attractive.


I now allow myself to let my natural good looks show.


It is safe for me to be my ideal weight.


I am at peace with myself and with the Universe.


The more I love my body, the more lovable it becomes.


It is easy for me to love my body.


I forgive myself for eating when what I really wanted was love.


I now allow myself to feel safe in accepting love.


I now accept the responsibility for my weight.


I am now prepared to create the kind of body I choose.


As I free myself of blame, I free myself of excessive weight.


I am in control of my mind, my body and my life.


My body converts food into loving energy.


I love how my body is getting slimmer and healthier with each passing moment.


The more I love my body, the more it conforms to the weight and shape I desire.


I am now and forever at peace with my body.


When I am eating, I pay full attention to the experience of eating.


I feel no need to eat merely because others are eating.


I chew my food thoroughly.


I eat only what I want when I want it and only when I am relaxed.


I love myself as I am, regardless of my weight.


I mentally press the reject button on any negative images, thoughts or feelings about my body.


I now release all fear, blame, guilt, sadness, anger and resentment towards myself and others concerning my weight!


I regard food as a blessing.  It is meant for me to enjoy and maintain my health.


I think of food only as a positive influence on my life.


I love how good it feels to let go and free myself of resentment, blame and guilt.


I choose to stay young, energetic and healthy.


I am strong and healthy.


My body is a beautifully functioning vehicle of my mind and spirit.


I appreciate the years of faithful service my body has given me.


I will only eat and drink what is appropriate for me to release weight and maintain my perfect shape.


My metabolism is influenced by my thoughts, and I now direct it to function in such a way as to promote my good health and desired weight and shape.


Although in the past I may have eaten to fill an emptiness inside, I now fill myself with love for myself and others.


I am nourished by loving energy that is always available to me.


I am lovable and loving at any weight.


My body is becoming exactly the way I want it to be.


All excess fat is disappearing and melting from my body as I think this thought.


My body is conforming to the shape I have chosen.


I have a very healthy, youthful and attractive glow and appearance, externally and internally.


I am in better condition and shape than I have been in a long time, and it feels good to allow myself to experience the positive emotions that go along with this end result.


I look forward to, and get a great deal of pleasure from moving and stretching my body daily.


I feel the satisfaction, fulfillment, confidence and self esteem that go along with being the way I choose to be.


As my weight comes off, I feel rejuvenated, refreshed and revitalized.


I am filled with feelings of enthusiasm, well being and excellent health, feeling more secure and confident every day.


I know I am in control of my weight, and I feel a great amount of inner strength and energy growing with each passing moment.


All changes begin with the thought, the inner reality, and work towards the outer reality.


I understand that when I visualize the end result, there are trillions of chemical reactions happening in my body.  The thought comes first.  Physical matter forms around the thought.


My brain, body and subconscious mind are an intelligent guidance system, and work in perfect harmony.  This intelligent system knows automatically how to release weight easily and effortlessly.


My subconscious mind has a blueprint of me in perfect health, balance and integrity within my body.  All I have to do is remind this system and accept now.


Written & Copyrighted by ©Anisa Aven.

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June 23, 2011

How to Consciously Create When Another Has to Change (pt.2)

Category: attract relationship,Audios Free Downloads,emotional freedom technique,law of attraction,Surrogate EFT,Videos — Anisa @ 7:05 pm

Q: How to consciously create when your Dream (or Wish) depends on someone else’s cooperation.

Last week I shared with you the answer to our friend’s question:

Dear Anisa, I love my husband but I’m not happy….. (you can see the full article on my blog here.)
And, I promised to share an example of how to use Surrogate EFT to get what you want in your relationships, so here it is…

The Surrogate EFT Points:

  1. S – Sore Spot (or KC Karate Chop point on side of hand)
  2. EB – Inner Eye Brow
  3. OE – Outer Eye
  4. UE – Under Eye
  5. UN – Under Nose
  6. CH – Chin
  7. CB – Collar Bone
  8. UA – Under Arm
  9. RR – Right Rib
  10. H- Head (Crown Chakra)

Step 1) Surrogate EFT – Set your Intention:

“Universe/God – my intention is to create a more loving and harmonious relationship with my husband. If the words that I speak are not aligned with our mutual, highest and best good, then I ask they go forth and help someone else. I intend for this work to influence our relationship in positive ways according to our mutual desires. Thank you for this creative power and manifestation, now.”

Surrogate EFT Example:

1) SS/KC – Even though, I, John, feel frustrated that my wife is unhappy and I just can’t please her, I love and accept myself.

Even though, You, John, are neglecting your love responsibilities at home, leaving your wife feeling lonely and abandoned, you love and accept yourself anyway.

Even though, He, John, is doing the best that he can and is exhausted with work and family responsibilities, he loves and accepts himself anyway.

2) EB- I, John, feel frustrated, why can’t my wife just get off my back?

3) OE – You, John, are neglecting your wife and causing unhappiness by dismissing her needs.

4) UE – He, John, feels like he can’t possibly please everyone, so why bother trying.

5) UN – I, John, am tired of the constant nagging and unhappiness.

6) CH – You, John, are not trying hard enough and you act like you don’t even care.,

7) CB – He, John, is doing the best that he can but has too many burdens to bear.

8) UA – I, John, wish my wife would just back off and be happy with the way things are.

9) RR – You, John, are neglectful and refuse to pay any attention to your wife.

10) H- Head – He, John, is tired and frustrated and although he wants to please his wife feels like he doesn’t know how anymore.

Repeat the ‘negative’ tapping until you feel a shift towards Neutrality. Neutrality does not feel like apathy but it feels like a peaceful acceptance, “it’s all okay, even as it is.”

Then, implant the positive:

1) SS or KC – Even though I, John, feel frustrated, I am willing to do what I can to make things right.

Even though, you, John, are stretched too thin, you are willing to pay attention to your relationship and show your wife you love her.

Even though, He, John, is exhausted and doesn’t know what to do, he is willing to find creative ways that allow him to connect with his wife and restore thier romance.

2) EB – I, John, am willing and open to rekindle our marriage.

3) OE – You, John, are doing the best you can and you are open to doing what must be done to connect with your wife.

4) UE – He, John, is open and loving; thoughtful and committed to loving his wife.

5) UN – I, John, want to be inspired to show my wife more affection and attention.

6) CH – You, John, are willing and open to having more meaningful conversations with your wife.

7) CB – He, John, is creative and imaginative and feels inspired to be more attentive to his wife.

8) UA – I, John, find myself thinking more and more about how to connect, talk, and love my wife more fully.

9) RR – You, John, are getting more and more excited about rekindling your relationship with your wife.

10) H- Head He, John, is a loving and giving man. He feels inspired to pay more attention to his wife and family and feels energized and uplifted by his efforts.

I hold the vision of a renewed, loving and fun relationship for you. It is in fact, the ONLY possibility, now.

Copyright, 2011 CreataVision Enterprises, Anisa Aven.

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How to Consciously Create When Your Dream Depends on Another

Category: attract relationship,Audios Free Downloads,emotional freedom technique,law of attraction,manifest a mate,Surrogate EFT — Anisa @ 4:57 pm

Q: How to consciously create when your Dream (or Wish) depends on someone else’s cooperation:

Dear Anisa,
I love my husband but I’m not happy. I’m frustrated that he works too much and rarely makes time for us. We talk very little and our once passionate bedroom life is almost non-existent. You might think, “He’s cheating” but that’s not the case. He’s not the cheating type; he wouldn’t have the time or freedom if he were the type and besides I know he loves me too. But, we are both bored and complacent, I suppose. I’ve tried talking until I’m blue in the face, with small progress that seems to backslide within a very short amount of time. My problem is that I’m a pretty good manifestor but I can’t figure this one out! I’ve created a great job making more money than when I was full-time and I’ve lost over 40 pounds (thank you, by the way – I did it and have kept it off for 2 years after taking your EFT & LOA for weight-loss program). I know I did these things with the Law of Attraction… but I’m just stumped now because I don’t know how to create when someone else is involved. How do I get him to want to attend to us? How do I get him to help me bring more fun back into our relationship? – “Shhh!!!” I’m keeping my name a secret for this question. Thanks!

A: Let me start with the bottom-line  – the important caveats:

  • We cannot create in someone else’s life anything they are also not aligned with.
  • We cannot force someone to be aligned with our wish/desire.
  • There’s always a yin/yang – a cost/benefit for every manifestation. (Ex: The sun must go down for the moon to come up and vice-versa.)

The Possibilities:

  • We CAN influence a compromise and create an outcome that is mutually aligned.
  • We CAN fulfill our own needs while maintaining our integrity and honoring our relationships.
  • We CAN re-align and re-frame our ‘happiness’ quotient – allowing greater happiness with less need for external input.

We are either moving towards what we want, or away from it. Learn to analyze which way you’re headed so you can immediately course-correct when needed.

In relationships, picking apart what’s not working, focusing on all the things our partner is doing wrong or obsessing about the things our mate is not doing can become a sick habit. So obsessive and destructive that it can (and often does) destroy the love and kindness that once inspired us to move mountains together. 

A healthy relationship begins with accepting our mate exactly as they are. Love, in its honest and purest form, is unconditional acceptance. From this place of unconditional acceptance, we are poised to leverage the Universal Laws in a very masterful way – but only after we’ve surrendered to what IS as absolutely perfect, in and of itself. 

Let’s address what unconditional acceptance does not mean. Accepting our mate does not mean we are willing to be abused or taken for granted. Full, unconditional acceptance does not mean we are willing to sacrifice our souls and personal dreams/ boundaries/values to be with them, it simply means they get to be who they want to be, without exception; and when they choose to BE unkind or immoral then we get to choose not to be with them, in spite of the fact that we still accept them as a person. 

Thus, accepting your mate exactly as they are is step #1. Any and all judgments that you hold regarding what he is or is not doing must be completely and totally released. All criticisms and resentments must be forgiven, now. Forget about manifesting anything until you’ve completed this step. In fact, as soon as you commit to forgiving, releasing, and accepting him exactly as he is right now, as a perfect child of God, doing the best he can, given who he is and what he knows up until now, you’ll discover there are many things you appreciate about him, right now. You’ll begin to notice the things he’s doing ‘right’ and less of your attention will dwell on what’s wrong. This is a natural by-product of full-force acceptance. 

Once you’ve mastered ‘full-acceptance’ then manifesting greater love, romance, connection, fun, and adventure will be a matter of expansion. Like any other conscious creation, you want to act as if you had it now, in order to manifest it. You want to SEE it and BELIEVE it, now. You want to FOCUS on expanding upon what’s right and wonderful, in order to capitalize on the energy of love that is already flowing and thus re-direct some of that creative force to new adventures and experiences of connection with your mate. 

You want to create a masterpiece of beautiful love and fulfillment in your mind and heart that is so enjoyable, it will naturally manifest externally. 

Launch the visions of love and connection as you desire them, fully willing to detach from the outcome; willing to be happy with or without their manifestation. Then, go about fulfilling your own happiness needs. Gone are the days of depending upon your mate for self-fulfillment. Do you need conversation and connection, re-engage with friends and make new friends. GET those needs met in an honorable fashion elsewhere. Do you need adventure? Choose to take yourself out – enjoy a movie, go for a walk, or plan a vacation. Create adventure with yourself while envisioning the perfect adventure with your mate. 

One primary source of dysfunction in modern relationships is this idea that our mate must fulfill all of our needs to have a happy marriage. It’s a recipe for failure! We all have different social and relational needs; expecting and demanding that our mate meet all of these needs is ridiculous. Re-energize your life by giving yourself permission to have a relationship with yourself and simultaneously increase your social circle by seeking out uplifting friends and engaging activities. 

Now, I realize I’ve shared with you ‘What’ you need to do, but I’ve neglected to share with you ‘How’ to do it. Don’t worry, I don’t plan to leave you hanging! Next week, I will share with you some methods for releasing the old and creating the new. I will share with you a powerful process that will utilize both the law of attraction and Surrogate EFT. In the mean time, make a commitment to begin full-force acceptance now. 

I hold the vision of a renewed, loving and fun relationship for you. It is in fact, the ONLY possibility, now. 

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March 10, 2011

Lessons in Detachment 7 of 10: If What You’re Doing Isn’t Working, Do Something Different

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Why are we studying detachment? Isn’t detachment just a matter of learning to “Let Go and Let the Divine” work in our lives? Yes. However, knowing that we must “let go” consistently and actually doing it are two different things. Stress, for example, in many cases is a clear sign that you are attached to something and in oppositional resistance to your real desires. Everything you desire is in vibrational harmony with the peace and appreciation that comes from being detached and allowing (yes, everything). By practicing the ideas in this series you will engage in consistent peace and more readily know that all is well, no matter what. Master detachment and you will master the art of intentional creation.

This brings us to the topic of today’s lesson in detachment. It is a simple idea really: If what you are doing isn’t working, do something different. This too is an NLP (Neuro-Linguistics programming) pre-supposition. At first consideration, this may seem trite and elementary, as we all know this in theory. However, being detached includes maintaining our clear, connected state of flow in all situations. Thus, if you can make this idea, “If what I’m doing isn’t working, I will choose to do something different” as an ethos, or a way of living, then flow, connection, solution oriented thinking and action oriented behaving becomes a more natural path.

If you want something different, you will have to do something different, and continue to vary your behaviors until you get the result you really want. This underlying assumption automates your intention to be flexible. And, we learned in Lessons in Detachment Video 5, the most flexible person has the most power and influence in any situation. Thus, the more you accept and apply this idea, “If what I’m doing isn’t working, I just need to do something different until I find the method that works” the more detached and vibrationally aligned with your true desires, you become.

In practice, this idea assumes there’s a solution to every problem if you’re prepared to keep looking until you find it. For example, if a person wants to lose weight and get healthy, they must first recognize, “What I’m doing isn’t working, I need to do something different”. If a person wants to succeed in school or succeed or in business, they may have to first realize, “I will have to do things differently than I have before.”

As students of the law of attraction, we’ve learned that what we focus upon expands. And this idea “If what you’re doing isn’t working, do something different. And, you have to vary you behaviors until you manifest the result you desire” shifts our perspective from what’s not working, to “I’m willing to experiment until I find the formula that works.” It’s literally an attitude adjustment and a time proven formula for success.

The most successful people that have ever lived think this way. Thomas Edison, held over 1000 patents including a voice recorder, a battery for an electric car, recorded music, movies, the light-bulb, and of course he was the originator of the crazy concept that we could ALL have electricity inside our homes, businesses, and factories. His ideas, at the time, were completely unrealistic and even absurd. He was successful, by his own admission, not because he was a genius but because he believed success was 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration. He once said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” This is the exact same ethos as, “If what I’m doing isn’t working, I choose to do something different.”

I could go on and on about how the most successful people that have ever lived fully embrace and live by this idea. Possibly the most famous of Einstein’s quotes is “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Yet, in our everyday lives we are often insane with repetitive behaviors.

How many people, now be honest, are constantly late for appointments? Is it because you do not possess the capacity to be on time? Not likely. The same old thinking, “Oh… there’s plenty of time” for example’ will produce the same old results, “I can’t believe we are going to be late again!”

What about your relationships? How many times have you tried the same old way to get your needs met only to be disappointed in the lack of change? The same old thinking, “I have to throw a fit to get any results” will produce the same old experience, “They never listen to me”.

The problem is that we get attached and disconnected when we start to feel as though we are out of options, as though it must be a capacity issue; a fear that we or the person we are frustrated with does not possess the capacity for growth, change, or success.

What about money?? How many do we know that desperately want to be financially secure and attract prosperity, yet they continue to behave irresponsibly, over-indulging and behaving recklessly with their money?

This repeated pattern of “I’m affirming and believing in my financial unlimitedness” followed by “I’m so wealthy I can go ahead and spend a bunch of money… “followed by “I cannot believe I’m over-drawn again! I cannot believe I’m such a terrible money manager. When will I ever manifest the prosperity that is supposed to be mine? I just don’t get it! Maybe, I’m just not good enough or it’s not meant to be for me?”

Without the idea, “If what you’re doing isn’t working do something different”, you begin to question your capacity; your innate ability to create and achieve the success you really desire.

When you question your capacity, you are questioning your very core; you are questioning whether or not you actually possess the ability, the talent, and the deservedness to experience love, wealth, health and success. Just the act of wondering whether or not you deserve it, immediately causes distress. The stress of “I’m not good enough” or any derivative thereof is another example of attachment. You see, you shut down the flow of possibility; the flow of the Divine, every time you even ponder for a moment – “what’s wrong with me that I can’t get what I want?” This is another way that we get attached to the outcome. In that moment, you are creating the opposite of what you really desire. And, STRESS is your indicator that you are attached and not practicing the law of allowing.

Here’s a decision that I encourage you to make: Do not question your capacity, question your methodology. If you are not ‘on time’ it’s not your capacity it’s your methodology. If your relationship life stinks, it’s not your capacity that’s the problem, but the way you go about relating to others that’s in question. If you have money troubles, it’s not your capacity for creating wealth that’s in question; it’s the way you go about attracting, managing, and making it that’s in question.

One word of advice – most people will fall short on implementing this idea because it requires effort. And, it requires thinking to embrace the truth that there’s another way, another solution to every problem. Your work will be to stick with it until you find the choice and the behavior that creates the fulfillment you seek.

If what you are doing isn’t working, do something different. Be willing to vary your behavior until you get it, & don’t question your capacity, question your methodology. This one idea – can create an avalanche of prosperity, love, and fulfillment for you. Now, let’s put it into practice.

1) Consider something that you feel STRESSED about.
2) What are you doing?
3) What are 10 ways to do it differently?
4) Choose one.
Imagine the future as you would like it, while trying on this new option/behavior.
5) Go do it.
6) Did it work? Yes, keep doing it. No, do something different.

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March 1, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: Video 6 of 10 Choice is Better Than No Choice

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Lessons in the Law of Detachment: Video 6 of 10 Choice is Better Than No Choice

The Law of Attraction cannot be employed without the Law of Detachment. They go hand in hand. And, the Law of Detachment says you must relinquish your attachment to have your desires manifest.

This means that the Essence of detachment is Equanimity (a state of being centered, faithful, aligned and serene, no matter what you see or experience.) In Lessons in Detachment, we will explore exactly what it means to intentionally detach from the outcome and HOW exactly to do it. Be sure to explore all of the detachment videos and you will have a greater understanding of how to finally Let Go, and Let God, create miracles in your life.

Everything you desire is aligned with peace. If you want

to create more love in your life, then obtain greater peace in your heart. If you want to create more prosperity, then obtain greater peace in your heart. Being detached from the
outcome produces that peace in your heart. However, detachment can be tricky and slippery and that’s why I’ve created this series; to help you take The Law of Detachment to a deeper level. When you fully embrace the law of detachment, you become a better manifestor. When you fully understand exactly what it means to remain detached then you leverage the full power of the law of attraction. In fact, you cannot be a masterful creator without integrating detachment.

Now, let’s explore the subject of this lesson on detachment:Choice is better than no choice. (Also an NLP presupposition – a belief that when applied creates a solid foundation upon which to be more intentional and influential in every situation.) Think about this for a moment:“Choice is Better than No Choice.” Now, how do we apply this in our lives to be more allowing; to practice the law of detachment and become more effective conscious creators?

This idea goes hand in hand with the lesson in video 5: The Law of Requisite Variety – translated as the person with the greatest flexibility has the greatest influence.

This idea, that choice is better than no choice helps us to be more flexible in the moment. We get to choose how we respond to each situation; thus taking ownership of our experience.

One of the key tenants that helped me to live a more intentional life, I learned from Jack Canfield in about 1992. He shared with me his equation: E+R= O (the Event plus our Response equals the Outcome. Event + My Response = The Outcome) It is not the event alone that determines the outcome of a situation but the event plus our response to
that event that determines the outcome.

For example, there will be times when you feel you are backed into a corner with no way out. We may feel that you have NO choice. But, you ALWAYS, without exception have choices. It’s a matter of choosing which option is right for you. Even when you are unable to physically choose something different, you still have the choice of your emotions. In fact you have many choices.

Choice is better than no choice – teaches us to be mindful of the truth that we always have options. There’s fight, flight, freeze, and flow, for example.

We can fight! We can strike like a defensive snake! And, sometimes that feels like the best choice.

We can flee or take flight. Or, we can freeze, until we figure out how to respond.

Heck – sometimes it’s even better to play dead as a choice!

Even Playing Dead is a Choice... “Ueghhh…. I’m just going to roll-over and play dead for a minute.”

Or we can also learn to choose to FLOW! We can choose to go with the flow and practice the art of the aikido way. This is a skill that we can develop as we begin to fully embrace

the truth that choice is better than no choice. And, the choice of flow is the most aligned with the law of detachment and the art of allowing.

Let me explain. Morihei Ueshiba, the famous martial artist and founder of Aikido, believed that it was important to extend love and compassion to all, and especially to those who seek to harm others. Aikido is often translated as “the way of unifying with life energy” or as “the way of harmonious spirit.”

Ueshiba’s goal was to create a martial art that practitioners could use to defend themselves while also protecting their attacker from injury. Out of this philosophy and spiritual path, was born Aikido, a martial art that teaches the student to receive an attack while harmlessly redirecting it. In an ideal resolution, not only is the receiver unharmed, but so is the attacker.

When considering your choices, the highest most aligned choice, will align with no harm across all channels. Thus, flow and the aikido way is one option that uses the energy of the situation for a more enlightened and harmonious outcome. By adopting the idea that choice is better than no choice and combining it with the person with the greatest

flexibility has the greatest influence, you will find yourself living more in the flow of life more often and thus detached and allowing.

I’d like to give you some examples of how to employ Choice is Better than No choice.

You’ve heard of Murphy’s law?

Everything than can go wrong, will go wrong – that’s the summation of Murphy’s law.

When we remember that it is our response to the event that creates the outcome and we always have a choice as to how we respond, then we turn Murphy’s law upside down. For

example, a more harmonious choice would be, “Even if it goes wrong, I choose to see it as perfectly imperfect.”

Another example of a limiting belief (Murphy’s Law) turned upside down, is “Nothing is ever as simple as it first seems.” A choice that is more aligned with the law of detachment would be,“Even if nothing is as simple as it seems, I choose to be comfortable with complexity.”

Here’s one more. The limiting belief that “every activity takes more time than you have” becomes, “even if it takes more time than I have, I choose to eventually have enough time.”

It’s very important that I make the point that Choice is Better than No Choice means having more freedom, flexibility and personal responsibility for your life. All of which are essential for leveraging the power of detachment. I heard a story once that has stayed with me and helped me to understand that even in the most difficult of situations, I

have the power to choose how I respond.

There was once a ruthless warlord that captured a town where there were many monks. The warlord was infamous for killing without cause, slaughtering people for no reason and many monks fled to the hills.

But, one monk remained in prayer. The warlord came upon him and with rage-filled annoyance said, “What are you doing? Don’t you know who I am? I can run my sword through you without blinking an eye.”

The monk finished his prayer, rose
slowly, looked the warlord in the eyes and calmly said,“Don’t you know who I am? You can run your sword through me and I will never blink an eye.”

You see, we get to choose how we respond to even the most difficult situations. And, choice means greater freedom and flexibility; both of which produce greater solutions and enact the law of allowing. How do you practice this?


  • Consider a time when you felt backed into a corner without options.
  • Re-frame it using this new belief: Choice is better than no choice.
  • Consider how it might have been different had you believed that you had options.
  • Ask yourself: How could I have responded with Fight? Flight? Freeze? Flow?
  • Now go into your future.
  • Think of a time when you mightfeel backed into a corner or as though you have no options.
  • Knowing there’s always a choice as to how you respond, what are your options?

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February 22, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: Video 5 of 10: The Law of Requisite Variety (The Most Flexible Has the Most Influence)

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Lessons in Detachment:  Video 5 of 10 The Law of Requisite Variety: The Person with the Most Flexibility Has the Most Influence

Hello!  This is Anisa Aven and this is vibrational video coaching #5 of 10 in my series: Lessons in Detachment.

The Law of Detachment says “You must relinquish your attachment to your desire, to have it manifest.”

To become a master conscious creator, you must employ the Law of Attraction & the Law of Detachment together. Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself.

This brings us to the subject of this video The Law of Requisite Variety:  The Person with the Greatest Flexibility Has the Greatest Influence (An NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming – key presupposition – this is a BELIEF that when implemented will provide you a stable, detached & very resourceful foundation.)

Let’s read that again – The Person with the Greatest Flexibility Has the Greatest Influence

Like many of the lessons in this series, understanding this idea will make a significant difference in your ability to leverage the law of detachment.   Here’s what I want you to know.   Our primary role in every relationship and every situation is to become the most flexible element within the system.  If the most flexible element, controls and influences the outcome then by focusing on being flexible you are actually focusing on solutions and thus practicing the law of allowing.

We will face times when we are met with unexpected and unappreciated changes.  And, if we choose to be inflexible – we will crack just like this egg as the vice-grip of life presses upon us.

It is IN relationship to others and IN relationship to life that we often become inflexible and inflexibility equals resistance, which equals attachment.  When we are attached to the outcome or attached to how we think things should be, we halt our greater good and our Divine Flow.  Often, our inflexibility is an unconscious attempt at protecting ourselves (like the hard shell of an egg).  We believe that we must stand strong and be uncompromising in order to be safe.  However, we are soft on the inside and our hard shell is weak and provides little protection.

Virginia Satir, probably the most celebrated, and effective family therapist ever studied said flexibility is crucial in relationships as it influences how a person feels in a family, she wrote, “Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family”

Being flexible is a strong and powerful response to life’s changes.   Lao Tzu (founder of Taoism) said, “Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it.” By choosing to be as flexible and flowing as water, you become the most influential element in the system – whether that system is your relationship, your family, your work, or any other aspect of your life.

Many of us have a habit of resisting change and refusing to release our firm grip on life; not realizing that this prevents our dreams from coming true.  Resistance and inflexibility do not help us manifest!!! In fact, it is just the opposite that is true.  It is better to bend than to break.

I am not saying you should compromise on your values or your principles in order to ‘get along’ or ‘make nice.’  “Niceness” is over-rated if you ask me.  However, kindness and a commitment to being flexible in your approach produces greater strength and greater access to resourcefulness.

When you find yourself being inflexible, remember how the natives in North Africa capture Monkeys!  It’s very easy.  They simply fill a gourd with a monkey’s favorite treats ( nuts or fruits) then when the monkey puts its tiny hand through the hole to grab the nuts, the monkey clenches his fist around the treat but now he cannot pull his hand back out.  The hole is too small for the monkey to withdraw with a clenched fist; but being too stubborn to let go of the nuts, he will work all night pulling and pulling without success.   Then, he is easily captured at the break of dawn, because he was too stubborn and inflexible to know when to relax and let it go.

Watch for inflexibility traps, such as “But this is how we’ve always done it.”  Instead learn how to ask questions about the ‘tradition’ and learn how to willingly change plans when unexpected conditions require an adaptive response.  Beware of getting discouraged when plans change. When you realize you are resisting change, choose to be the one that bends, refuse to allow anxiety to rule you.  Instead look for the inner strength to respond gracefully and with ease and flexibility.

How do I learn to be more flexible?

Instead of being stubborn, upset with change, impatient and closed-minded, CHOOSE to be flexible and adaptable; choose to allow change, to be patient and to be open-minded.

How to Practice Flexibility:

  • Be willing to be wrong.
  • Be willing to not know the right answer.
  • Be willing to be imperfect.
  • Be willing to change ideas and plans.
  • Be willing to be open to other’s suggestions.
  • Be willing to view emergencies as opportunities for growth.
  • Be willing to give up on activities that conflict with your values.
  • Being willing to help others.
  • Be willing to listen to the advice of others.
  • Be willing to observe and model those who have the success, health, love or prosperity you desire.

Blessed are the hearts that can bend; they shall never be broken.” – Albert Camus (French Novelist, 1957 Nobel Peace Prize for Literature.)

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February 9, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: 3of10 Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent

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Lessons in Detachment: Video 3 of 10 – Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent

Hello! This is Anisa Aven and this is vibrational video coaching #3 of 10 in my series – Lessons in Detachment. The Law of Detachment says you must relinquish your attachment to have your desires manifest. This means that the Essence of detachment is Equanimity – one of being centered – Faithful – Aligned – and Serene – no matter what you see or experience. Detachment can be the most troubling aspect of conscious creation. In Lessons in Detachment – we will explore exactly what it means to intentionally detach from the outcome and HOW exactly to do it. Be sure to explore all of the detachment videos and you will have a greater understanding of how to finally Let Go, and Let God… create miracles in your life.

Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself. Which brings us to the subject of this video: Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent (In NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming – this is a key presupposition – this is a BELIEF that when implemented will provide you a steady, stable, and detached foundation.

This one and the next Video/Belief in this series (video #4) will not automatically go over well or easily. There will be many arguments that this is NOT true and much evidence that could refute this idea. Perhaps you’re even saying, “what about lying, cheating, stealing, or mass murder? Are you saying that murderers have a positive intent?” No, hurting others is never a positive or acceptable behavior. And, that’s not the aim of this assumption.

However, there’s always a positive intent underneath the behavior. People believe they will gain something positive or they would NOT choose the behavior. This idea that underneath every behavior, no matter how misguided the behavior, no matter how wrong the behavior, no matter how horrific the behavior – underneath it the person has some belief that there will be a positive gain or they would not do it. Thus, this assumption that every behavior has a positive intent allows us to bypass the judgments (that cause disconnection) and bypass our reactions and instead look for the positive intent underneath the behavior. This re-focusing on the question, “what did they hope to gain from this?” shifts our perspective to one of awareness and potential compassion. When we find the positive intent, we learn to allow people to be people, and that ALLOWANCE is the art of detachment.

Okay – I’ve explained the assumption but so what? How will this help us be detached from the outcome? How will accepting this idea support us in utilizing the power of our minds and the law of attraction? The answer lies in our relationships. ALL emotional turmoil is disconnection from the Divine. And, what’s the cause of much of our disconnection – our emotional turmoil? Relationships! It’s our family, love, co-workers, neighbors and even the relationship we have with the world at large. When we are ill-equipped to understand the motives of others, we easily disconnect from source and when we are disconnected, we attach to our assumptions, our desires, our need to be right, what we believe another should or should not do, what we need from our relationship(s) etc. And ALL attachment, no matter how justified we are causes disconnection from Source. It’s this disconnection that halts our Divine Good – our ability to manifest our true desires.

The Course in Miracles says, “Forgiveness is the central theme that runs throughout salvation.” And, “Forgiveness is the key to happiness.” We cannot leverage the law of allowing without mastering the art of forgiveness. When we integrate this assumption that Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent, we easily slip into compassion and forgiveness – two necessary ingredients for connection and detachment.

This idea That Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent along with the next assumption in this series (People Do the Best they Can – be sure to watch video #4 in this series) can make a significant difference in your ability to detach from the negativity in your relationships. You will find yourself more willing to love and forgive. So, let’s talk about how to implement this idea.

First, understand that just because there’s always going to be a positive intent – some idea that there will be a pay-off to the behavior – does not mean that every behavior is the best way to fulfill a need. It is also not meant to absolve a person of their hurtful actions – they are still responsible for their choices.

Let’s apply this more deeply. For example, consider the man that cheats on his wife. What’s the positive intent under the behavior? Perhaps it’s to experience adrenaline, or the rush of getting away with something. Or since we are just guessing here – perhaps his wife is frigid or crazy or abusive and he just needs to feel alive and loved again. Now, let’s look at it from her point of view. What’s the positive intent underneath whacking her husband with a crow-bar? Perhaps it’s retribution – that internal need to stand up for ourselves, to feel important, special, powerful or acknowledged. Or perhaps she’s afraid for her children and how she will survive without him.

Now remember we are NOT ever saying the behavior is positive or the best way to fulfill our needs but we are choosing to act as if, there’s some positive intent underneath every behavior. And, by figuring this out, we can more readily inspire and create change AND practice detachment.

What about for ourselves – how do we apply this to our lives? Here’s one example, let’s say you want to lose weight, but you have a bad day and all you really want to do is have another piece of chocolate. The behavior is self-sabotaging – eating sweets while trying to lose weight, will not help your cause. However, when we look at ourselves in the mirror and we only see the behavior, it’s hard to love ourselves; we see the failure not the person.

Yet, when we look at the intention underneath the behavior, “I just want to feel better. I just want to experience the deliciousness of life.” There’s a moment there that satisfies our need for yumminess, our need for freedom, our need for attending to our inner desires without judgment, fear, or deprivation. And, by identifying THAT need – THAT positive INTENT – we can a) choose to have compassion and b) choose to find another way to meet that Need. For example, “What else can I do to experience the deliciousness of life?”

Our objective becomes LOOK for the positive intent under the behavior, find a healthy solution for meeting that need. Here’s a resource you may find helpful – to gain a better understanding of our needs, I suggest reviewing Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs. (Search online and you’ll find a visual map.)

By reviewing and studying this model you become more masterful at identifying the positive intent under the behavior. For example, when good people do bad things, often it’s a basic need (Physiological Need – Survival Need) they are trying to meet. I.E. A man steals a loaf of bread to feed his family.

Perhaps, a woman betrays her husband trying to experience more love. Or a philanderer betrays a mate trying to experience the need for achievement or conquest. Our objective is to preserve that intent (that need) by attending to it in a healthier manner and not only can we change our personal behavior without loss but we gain the ability to experience compassion and forgiveness – essential ingredients for practicing the law of detachment.

Here’s an exercise for you: Consider a past transgression against you. Re-frame it using this new assumption. Ask yourself: What was the need or positive intent they were trying to fulfill? Knowing now that they were trying to fill a need, albeit poorly, how would I feel if I had that need?

And, be sure to apply this idea to yourself as well. Extend this exercise to consider a past mistake/ poor choice that you made. Re-frame it using this new belief. Ask yourself: What was the need I was trying to fill? Knowing now that I was just trying to fill a need, what options do I have for filling that need with a more positive behavior?

Be sure to watch the other videos in this series: Lessons in Detachment (also using NLP pre-suppositions to master the law of detachment.)

Video 1: The Map is Not the Territory
Video 2: There’s no Failure, Only Feedback
Video 3: Behind Every Behavior Lies a Positive Intent
Video 4: (coming week of 2/22/11) People Do the Best They Can, With the Resources They Have

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February 1, 2011

Lessons in Detachment 2of10: There’s no failure, only feedback

Category: Audios Free Downloads,Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 10:26 am

This is Anisa Aven and this is video #2 in my series  – Lesson on Detachment.  Detachment – being the most challenging aspect of conscious creation, I’ve decided to dive deep and explore what exactly it means to intentionally detach from the outcome.  Thus, this vibrational video coaching series was born!  Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself.  This brings us to the subject of this video, for my NLP friends, you’ll recognize this as one of the key presuppositions of Neurolinguistics Programming – There’s no failure, only feedback.

ADOPT the credo ‘there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback’ and apply it across all areas of your life and you’ll be practicing the law of detachment. Remember the law of detachment says we must relinquish our attachment to something in order to have it manifest.  When we believe in failure, we are attached to the outcome – we see the experience in front of us as wrong and negative & in that moment, the moment we get disappointed – we attach to the outcome (we judge it; we deny the Divine Order; we dismiss our unlimited potential ) and we instantly disconnect from the flow of greater good, we cut off our energy source, slow down our ability to manifest and literally break the union we previously had to our Divine Good – the fulfillment of our goal that is still in the works, is now pushed further and further away – all because we believe in the possibility of failure as opposed to ‘feedback’

We have a choice – we can look at a setback as the end – a failure, or we can look at a setback as a part of the journey, a middle point that provides valuable information, essential for success.

Connected, intentional conscious creation means we see everything as a part of the Divine Plan, a part of the Divine Order of life and thus when ‘FAILURE’ STRIKES – WE choose to see it as an opportunity.  It’s a fork in the road and we choose, “Hmmm… this is an opportunity”.. An opportunity to learn, an opportunity to know what doesn’t work, an opportunity to proceed with greater knowledge than what we had before.

Successful people look at ‘failures’ as required information and required steps towards obtaining success.  The famous quote by Thomas Edison when reflecting on how many ‘failed’ attempts he had to endure to invent his version of the electric light.. He said, “If I find 10,000 ways something won’t work, I haven’t failed. I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.”  You see Thomas Edision held the belief – There’s no failure, only feedback.

Michael Jordan, considered the greatest basketball player the world has ever known also held the belief, “there’s no failure, only feedback.”  In a Nike Commercial that you can see on Youtube, he says, ” ‘ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career.  I’ve lost almost 300 games.  26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot, and missed.  I’ve failed over and over again in my life – & that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan, Nike Commercial (YouTube it!)

If you haven’t seen the Honda Dreams documentary at, I recommend it… Sochiro Honda originaly founder of Honda believed, “You can fail 100 times as long as you succeed once.”  And, carrying on that belief now is the Honda CEO, Takeo Fukui, who has said “We can only make fantastic advances in technology through many failures.”  – Takeo Fukui,  —  When Honda first started racing in 1994, by their own admission it was a massive failure; their engines blew up and they were the laughing stock of racing, but these failures were used as feedback which lead to a new engine in ’95, when they won their first race and in 96 they won the championship.  Now, Honda dominates the IRL, as the sole supplier of engines for the Indy Racing League.

Great success never happens without SOME failures along the way.  There is no such thing as failure, only feedback allows us to see life as a series of trial and error experiences that actually help us stay on the patch to success.  Our work is to VIEW each obstacle, setback or perceived failure as a LESSON to be Learned – as a NECESSARY and essential part of the journey towards success.  And, then instead of failure being a negative end result it becomes a milestone to pass on the journey – just a bump in the road, recognized as perfect in and of itself.

So try it – look at a past failure – and this time reframe it – say to yourself if this wasn’t a failure but vital information that I need to have in order to be who I am today and to continue on my journey towards life fulfillment and success – what lesson did I learn? What’s the feedback I’m to receive from this event?  Now, do this across every past ‘roadblock’ and you’ll see that there were lessons that you are using today to better facilitate your future success.  As long as we recognize and accept that there is no such thing as failure, only lessons to be learned – or feedback – we will continue on our journey towards our successful goals.

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January 25, 2011

The Map is Not the Territory: Lessons in Detachment 1 of 10

Category: Audios Free Downloads,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 1:19 pm

The Law of Detachment / The Law of Allowing must be enacted to leverage the Law of Attraction.

The reason to study and learn detachment is to acquire an internal peace that is aligned with what you intend to create. Everything you desire is in vibrational harmony with serenity – and serenity comes from knowing that all is well, no matter what – this is the outcome of detachment. Thus, master detachment and you will master the art of intentional creation.

He who would be serene and pure needs but one thing, detachment. – Meister Eckhart

This vibrational video series (this is 1 of 10 – nine more to be created over the next 9 weeks) will offer a set of assumptions (they are actually NLP  – Neurolinguistics Programming presuppositions).  When you embrace these assumptions you gain a foundation and a new filter for more fully integrating and behaving in a detached manner. The first assumption (filter) is The Map is Not the Territory.

The main idea: We rarely with few exceptions have the whole story.  Even the story of our lives will vary from year to year.  Think of what happens when 20 people experience something together.  There will be 20 different perceptions about what actually occurred – each person has a unique experience depending upon their own views, beliefs, and internal map of life.  Another way of saying this is — you can’t see the forest for the trees.  When we look at the small picture we are always missing the bigger picture.

No matter how much of the story you think you know and no matter how far back you stand, you will always only have some but never all of the real story.  Even from out of space you can only ever see half the Earth at one time.  Likewise, in our lives you will never have the entire story – thus the map in front of you is never the full territory.  And, when you behave with this understanding – that the map is not the territory, that you do not ever have all the facts, then you behave with a peacefulness that all is well, no matter what’s in front of you.

Corrective learning begins with the awakening of spirit, and the turning away from belief in physical sight.
– A Course in Miracles

By accepting this presupposition –The Map is Not the Territory –  you accept that a) you don’t ever have the entire picture and therefore you cannot possibly understand it clearly and b) if you don’t have all the picture then why not accept it as part of the Divine Plan?

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“The reason to study  detachment is to acquire an internal serenity. Everything you desire is in vibrational harmony with serenity – and serenity comes from knowing that all is well, no matter what – this is the outcome of detachment. Master detachment and you will master the art of intentional creation.” – Anisa Aven See video:

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