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November 19, 2009
Why Use the Negative Phrases When EFT Tapping?
Category: Surrogate EFT, conscious creation, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 7:55 pm
Q/A: What I don’t get is that EFT states things in the negative. Why not use positive statements like what we were taught in books like “Think and Grow Rich” etc.?
A: This question is a common one – especially from those of us (myself included) that have always believed that we are supposed to be positive at all times.
–> How many times have you heard someone say something negative and then say, “Oh.. I don’t even want to go there! Cancel, Cancel!”
Of course we do not want to focus on the negative or we’ll attract more of it. And, it can feel very contradictory to what we’ve been taught to realistically face all the reasons why we don’t have what we want.
However, just because we ‘pretend’ something does not exist, does not mean that it will go away.
A woman victimized by her husband’s abuse may pretend that one peaceful night is the beginning of a renewed relationship. Unfortunately, statistics reveal that pretending that ‘all is well’ will not prevent the next round of violence.
Likewise, some students of the law of attraction will reach for abundance through the excessive use of their credit cards. Today, they may be pretending they are abundant in hopes of enacting the ‘law of attraction.’ Unfortunately, tomorrow they wake up to realize they are deeper in debt and further from the wealth they desire than ever before.
We’ve heard the phrase, “fake it, till you make it” and attached ourselves to the idea that we have to pretend our way into success. While there’s wisdom in this axiom, faking it alone is not enough to remove the limited consciousness that is the source of our need to pretend in the first place.
On the other hand, when we accept our unlimited potential as our True nature, we can no longer pretend. Instead, we just are.
While using a tool such as EFT requires that we acknowledge those negative beliefs and problems, we are not going to focus on them long enough to expand and attract more negativity. On the contrary, through the very act of becoming aware we instantly weaken the negativity while empowering our consciousness of well-being.
When we start the EFT phrase with the ‘Elephant in the room’ clearly acknowledged, then there’s no place for this subconscious fear, doubt, or belief to hide any longer. Then, after we’ve ‘called it like it really is’, we say “Even though I have this ‘dysfunction’, I LOVE myself anyway!!!” We are actually saying, “I allow myself to love myself in spite of my problems.”
Our subconscious mind has been taught to protect us from falsehoods. It’s like we have this determined gatekeeper standing outside our mental gates, protecting us from being hurt by illusions and false promises. When we say something like, “I am rich, rich, rich!” About half the time our gatekeeper smirks back at us, “No you’re not!”
With the EFT set-up phrase, we catch the gatekeeper off-guard! When we acknowledge and then allow LOVE to flow, our subconscious mind lets the new intention past the gates and into the fertile soil!
[ Side-note: (although not completely unrelated… )Another way to do this is by using assumptive affirmations that start with “Why is it…?” Such as, “Why is it that I always have all the abundance I require, when I require it no matter what?” When we phrase our affirmations as a “Why is it?” question, we again ‘stump the gatekeeper’ into trying to answer the question! ]
By stating the problem, we shine a light on where it resides within us. EFT is about resetting our energetic grid. In order to see where the disconnection is located, it’s necessary to speak the situation as negatively and as boldly as possible in order to shine that spotlight directly on the source of disconnection.
With EFT, we are eliminating our limiting beliefs. In order to eliminate them, they must be brought into the light. Through the process of EFT, we not only put our problems out there and love ourselves anyway, but we take our positive intentions and get them past the gatekeeper!
This is why EFT is so effective EXACTLY as it stands. Many an experimenter has tried to do the set-up phrase differently, without success. If it’s not broke, don’t fix it! EFT works so let’s keep using it!
As you grow in your EFT practice, you’ll find that you naturally gravitate to move quickly out of the negative and into the positive. Thus, using more positive-toned ‘I choose…’ statements or ‘What if…’ statements allow you to shift very quickly as well.
For more information, See Gary Craig’s Videos.
November 12, 2009
How-to-Surrogate-EFT-for-two-year-old
Category: Surrogate EFT, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 1:49 pm
Q:
I watched your video and I am having a hard time doing this
surrogate tapping for my son, Samuel. He is 2 years old and
has a VSD (small hole in his heart). Samuel is in the gray
area, but the doctors are still suggesting we do surgery. If
we decided to do surgery it would be next summer. It is
possible the hole could close by itself. I have been praying
and sending my Samuel healing power to heal the hole. I know
the surgery is done often and is low risk. It is open heart
surgery and does have some risk. Since Samuel is 2 he
doesn’t really know what is going on. He doesn’t appear to
have any worries or concerns. How would I do surrogate
tapping for him to help with the healing?
Quick Video Coaching – Doing Surrogate EFT for a child example:
–> Quick tips for Surrogate Tapping for Children and others:
First, I would suggest doing a lot of regular EFT just on
your thoughts, beliefs, and fears. As a parent, our
vibrational offerings are very influential and can
absolutely positively (or negatively) influence the outcome.
Thus, take time to heal your thoughts and align your beliefs
with the certainty you seek for absolute health and
wholeness for Samuel now.
In regards to Surrogate EFT:
* We are mostly tapping on ‘our thoughts’ and ‘our
perspective’ about an issue,even when we tap surrogately.
Therefore, if you do not have specific words/fears/ideas
that came directly from your surrogate EFT beneficiary’s
mouth, don’t worry! Simply tap on whatever comes to mind
that you ‘think’ could be an issue even remotely. And, be
sure to tap on your issues as they come up as this will
ensure that you are addressing all angles of the problem.
You’ll find that when you shift into the YOU and HE/She (In this example…”You, Samuel…”
and “He, Samuel…”), you’ll really be tapping on your own
issues. This is a powerful process and you’ll end up feeling more confident
about creating what you desire and a positive outcome for
all.
* If you do have words/ideas/thoughts that your beneficiary has
used, then by all means, tap using your perception of their
experience. But, if you do not – just tap on what you
imagine it could be.
* If your surrogate EFT beneficiary is oblivious to the
‘problem’ then you can choose to tap on just the issue that
IS within her awareness:
In this example, it might be:
- “Even though, I Samuel, have to keep going to doctors and
I don’t want to…”
- “Even though, I Samuel, feel scared when I see my mommie’s
face look so scared… ”
- “Even though, I Samuel, must have something wrong with me
or my mommy/daddy wouldn’t be so anxious…” – “Even though,
I Samuel, have a hole in my heart…”
Reminder examples: – I’m confused. – I don’t understand. -
I’m afraid because they are afraid.
Positive Implants:
- I allow myself to be loved and to feel great.
- I know I’m healthy and whole and perfect exactly as I am.
- What if all this ’stuff’ was behind us and I were just playing 100% all day, everyday from this point forward!
Remember, you want to first tap on YOUR issues about the
subject and then tap surrogately for their experience.
To read more about Surrogate EFT, be sure to watch the other videos and read the other posts in the Surrogate EFT category.
October 29, 2009
How do I do surrogate EFT on myself?
Category: Surrogate EFT, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 6:48 pm
Quick Manifesting Morsel with Anisa Aven
Q: How could I even begin to thank you for this! I did the surrogate tapping
with your video. Happily, my sister did not have to go
through another MRI and the biopsy results were negative. I
truly believe that this was her soul’s way of jolting her
into seeking greater health and more positive energy in her
life. Anisa, you are doing such wonderful work in helping
others towards their soul purpose and healing. Thank you for
making this such a personal connection in spite of never
having met us in person. May you and yours be blessed
Possibly a stupid question…but here goes….how can I do
surrogate tapping for my own physical healing? God bless. D.
A: Hi D. We are so pleased that your sister is well and that
she has seen the ’silver lining!’
If you had asked me even 6 months ago, “How do we do
surrogate EFT for ourselves?”, I would have said, “No, just
do regular EFT!” But, over the last 5 1/2 months I’ve been
experimenting with similar verbiage as what we use for
surrogate EFT. For example, I’ve tried this personally
and had clients use the 1st person, 2nd person, and 3rd
person perspectives (while tapping) with outstanding
results.
Here’s the video, here.
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As with all EFT, our intent is to clear the ‘energetic
disconnects’ such as limiting beliefs and negative emotions
associated with any experience or thought concept. The
result is less pain, fewer symptoms, forgiveness, and quite
often the end of suffering and even the healing of disease.
As what you’ll find on Gary Craig’s site:
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) was originally designed
to reduce the psychotherapy process from months and years
down to minutes and hours. From there it was discovered that
astonishing physical healings also occurred. Symptoms faded
for everything from Migraine Headaches to Cancer. Complete
details are given on the EFT website at
http://www.creatavision.com/recommends/EmoFree It often
works where nothing else will.
What I’ve discovered is that the phrasing of I, You, He/She
when doing EFT on our own issues actually allows us to go
beyond our personal frame of reference. Of course, we start
with, “I have this issue” but then say, “You, ‘insert-your-
own-name’have this issue because….” and She/He ‘insert-
your-own-name’ has this issue and…”. By moving into what
those closest to you ‘think or say’ about you and the issue
and what an outside party might say about you and this issue
we actually address multiple levels of potential energy
disruptions.
As the video example illustrates, you ‘know’ what to say
when you address the ‘first person. For example, “I have
this pain or issue.” However, you may be surprised what
comes up when you start tapping on what ‘others’ say. More
accurately said, when you tap on what you ‘think’ others
say, feel, and think about you, it allows you to release
deeper levels and layers of corresponding negative thought
patterns.
What I find interesting is that we say, “Oh, I don’t care
what others think!” However, I find that the way others
view us and what they think and say about us has greater
influence than we’d like to believe.
Try what I’m calling ‘3-way’ EFT. Try it especially on
something that someone you love or care about has expressed
their oppositional opinions about.
As with any EFT efforts, worst case scenario – you clear
your ‘own stuff’ and best case scenario, you support more
harmonious relations with others too!
I look forward to hearing of your success!
October 16, 2009
Surrogate Tapping without permission wrong and manipulative?
Category: Surrogate EFT, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 4:46 pm
Dear Anisa,
I’m an EFT practitioner and recently had a disturbing
surrogate tapping experience. During a class, a volunteer
(let’s call her Mary) asked that we work on her son (let’s
say John). It seems that John has a serious addiction, has
had serious fights with his parents, moved out of their home
and stopped all contact. Mary wanted to work on this issue.
We mentally asked for permission to work on his addiction.
We did not get permission to work on that (we saw him
turning away, and several participants received a big NO).
After this we asked permission to work on his feelings of
not being loved and accepted the way he is by his parents.
We asked permission, and seemed to get it, so we started to
work surrogately on this. However, right in the middle of
the first round the skype conference room completely
blocked, chucked us all out, we could not get back in and
had to cancel the whole class. Later on I managed to log
back in and the whole recording was gone. When I talked
later to some of the other participants, they said they
sensed a very black, negative energy. So it seems, that
after all there was no permission to work on him. This is
still OK – the problem is, that Mary cannot let go of this
issue and (naturally enough) is very adamant about helping
her son get rid of this very damaging addiction. When I
talked to her, I found out that she was doing surrogate
tapping for her son saying things like: I am John and I feel
less and less craving for this substance, and feel more and
more inclined to go back to my parents..etc. Now to me this
feels like pure manipulation, and as if she cannot hand this
problem over to the Universe. How would you approach a
problem like this? With love and appreciation for your
work, A.
Q: Is Surrogate Tapping without permission wrong and
manipulative?
The thing is – I’ve never asked permission before I pray or
think ‘good thoughts’ for a friend or a loved one. I’ve
never thought, “I know the people in Gaza are in great pain.
I wonder who might grant me permission so that I might pray
for their healing, the restoration of human rights and for
lasting peace?”
Is Surrogate EFT different than a direct prayer? Most of us
would never ‘pray for bad things to happen to another’, nor
would we do Surrogate Tapping for bad things either.
Never the less, it doesn’t matter.
It is my belief that we cannot create in another person’s
reality without their permission (whether we ask verbally or
spiritually for that permission or not.) If we perform
Surrogate Tapping EFT for someone and it’s not a vibrational
match, then it simply cannot take hold – no matter how badly
we may want it!
Our soul’s code is deeply embedded and forever connected to
Free Will and our Soul Purpose. We, as outsider’s thinking
we know what’s best , especially when we are in pain, cannot
supersede their free will without their consent
(vibrationally) no matter what we believe about the power of
our minds. But… what about Voodoo and Black Magic?
Since Surrogate EFT is so effective at influencing others’
experiences and how we relate and experience others, doesn’t
this make it a form of voodoo or black magic?
I don’t know what you call black magic but my understanding
is that it’s nothing more than a negative thought form
thrown into an open doorway. If I leave my door open to
‘victimization’ and someone throws foul spells through it,
is it their fault or mine? Perhaps it’s both. Never the
less, we are in mutual agreement on the dance floor of this
‘magic’.
I look at black magic like I do a virus. I can be around
sick folks all day long and not catch that cold unless I
believe (consciously or unconsciously) that viruses and
bacteria cause illness. No matter what we learn in science
class about viruses causing illness – there will always be
those impervious people out there than NEVER catch that
cold. The assumption is flawed and the science actually
confirms our belief that ‘what we believe, we receive’
instead.
I made Parker, my 12-year-old, do a book report this last
summer on Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements. (Poor
kid… he whined and moaned because he has such a weird mother
that would make him read such a thing!?!) His take-away
was the story of ‘Black Magic’ and why we must choose to be
“Impeccable with our words”.
The example in the book was about the mother who was having
a really bad day. Her daughter was happy and singing her
heart out and the mother lashed out mindlessly, “Would you
shut up?!?! You have a terrible voice!!”
The daughter took these words to heart and never sang again.
The black magic was sent through the open doorway of a
child’s vulnerable, approval seeking heart. The effect on
this child, of course, was different than the effect on
another – why?!? Not because black magic is inconsistent,
but because one child is vulnerable and therefore a
vibrational match and the other is not.
(Ask my father if I listened to him when he said, “You’ll be
lucky if you make it to 20 – as clumsy and stupid as you
are?!?!)
Now, having said all the above, it’s also important to feel
aligned and honoring of the person we are performing
surrogate tapping upon.
Please, by all means, ask permission, if that’s what your
heart says is right! Additionally, I always coach my
clients and myself on releasing attachment to the outcome.
It is NOT up to us to decide what’s for the highest good of
another person’s experience. This is true whether we want
to accept this Truth or not. (Deep sigh… I know this to be
true even when it’s my children’s experience!!)
I choose to say the following to engage the highest
intention for all:
“I ask that this Surrogate Tapping (or prayer) go forth and
do whatever it’s meant to do, for the highest good for all
parties involved. I release my attachment to the outcome.
If this intention is meant to support my loved one, it will
and if not, then I honor their sacred journey as perfect for
them, no matter what. ”
Do what feel is right in your heart.
Regarding the mother who continues to tap for her beloved
son, know that this is all part of the Divine Plan for her
and for him. It can be on other way for God simply doesn’t
make mistakes.
Surrogate Tapping: A loved one may have cancer – How do I tap for her?
Category: Surrogate EFT, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 3:22 pm
I’m in Sedona, AZ.… writing, writing, writing… But, I have a quick surrogate tapping video that I wanted to make sure I shared with you.
A friend emailed about her sister who is going through testing for cancer and how frightened everyone in the family feels. I took a quick video which explains again how to figure out what to say when tapping and did a tapping round for ‘fear of illness’ and ‘fear of dying’ for our friend’s sister.
She writes:
Hi Anisa,
I absolutely love getting your e newsletters. I have a question about Surrogate Tapping. Would it be appropriate to do it for my sister who is currently going through some investigative testing and biopsies for very suspicious breast masses. She has had a breast MRI and is absolutely terrified about having another one because she is extremely claustrophobic. We are also very terrified of what the test results will bring especially because they have told her that it is very suspicious!
Are you able to help me tap for her well being…I was very heartened when I read about the EFT you and your son did for his healing in order not to have surgery. I would be ever so grateful! Yours truly, D.
Here’s the video:
Surrogate Tapping EFT: For a loved one with a cancer scare.
Remember the formula for composing what to say when you do surrogate tapping EFT:
1) I…First Person: Even though, I_____name____…
If I were ____name of person__ what would I believe to be true about this
____situation/problem___?
If I pretended to be _____name of person___ what would I feel, believe, think about ____this
situation/problem___?
2) YOU…2nd Person: State the issue from your perspective. “Even though, You _____name___…”
If you were talking to your friend/loved one, what would you say regarding how you think
they feel or see things?
3) He/She…3rd Person: State the issue from an outsider’s perspective. This is the objective, 3rd person’s point of view. “Even though he/she___name___…” From the third person perspective, you will seek to be more compassionate, less attached, and more focused upon the positive intent, the Divine Order and the unlimited potential that is at the core of EVERY situation/person. As you may be tapping for the healing of a physical, mental, or even spiritual issue, you may find it necessary to adjust the questions below for relevancy.
If I could understand ___name of person’s ____ experience from a non-attached point of view, what would I say about this situation?
If I assumed there was a ‘positive intent’ underneath ‘this situation’ what might that be?
If I assumed there was a Divine Order and Divine Plan at work and relaxed into the Truth that all is well, all the time, what might I feel and say about this situation?
Now, after I recorded the video sample, I realized that I could have been MUCH more specific. So, as you do your surrogate tapping, be sure to use strong, provocative and really specific phrases, words, visions, ideas. This will help shift the situation even more quickly.
I hold the vision of your sister’s health and ideal outcome.
love and light,
Anisa Aven
October 14, 2009
More Surrogate Tapping Examples “How to Figure Out What to Say”
Category: Surrogate EFT, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 12:24 pm
What to say when Surrogate Tapping EFT Video Example Surrogate Tapping Example including ‘How to Figure Out What
to Say When Surrogate Tapping’.
Yesterday, I gave you a step-by-step (video and written
exercise) for how to figure out what to say when you are
surrogate tapping. You can read that article/video here:
Today, I have a few more EFT videos and samples for you.
Example: My friend, K., is having some very frustrating
physical challenges. She’s an amazing woman who lives life
to the fullest in every way; incredibly physically active,
roller blading, surfing, kayaking, bicycling, rock-climbing,
mountain-biking – if it’s outdoors, you can bet that she’s
done it. Because her life is All about physical activity,
having ‘body injuries’ can do more that create just a little
pain for her. I do a surrogate round of tapping and explain
how you can walk yourself through ‘what do I say when I tap
for others’ by simply asking yourself questions about the
one you love.
Here’s the video surrogate tapping example:
http://www.byoaudio.com/playv/WxnzGMTk
Is all this stuff necessary?
A comment that I appreciate (Thank you Garth!) and very wise:
“I am just wondering if all this is necessary, EFT, LOA etc,
these things do work and are good practice for creative
visualization, but for the most part they are hit and miss.
Simply because the are coming from the natural. There is a
place a state of consciousness where all these things flow
freely and automatically, along with spiritual authority to
cause wonders, miracles. It is a place that we all have
access to and is not hard to find, but seek it we must.
Some refer to it as the “Secret Place”, where no disease,
pain, worry exist, only exuding joy, peace and well being. A
place we have access to because it is our birthright, being
born as spiritual beings and made righteous by “ones”
sacrifice. Should and could this not be a better use of our
time and energy, to find this place, and when we find it,
just be, and while we are being, learn and while learning
all the desires we have are flowing into our lives with zero
or little effort?
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his
righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto
you.”
Let me end this by stating, that seeking the kingdom is the
same as “Be still and know God”. There is no prerequisite to
entering into this place, no amount of reading, studying,
works etc, just faith and asking. I know because I have been
there about 30 times in the last few years, but really I
should be there everyday. The only reason I am not is I get
to wrapped up in the natural, instead of the spiritual. EFT,
LOA, creative visualization are all good and do work some of
the time, but spiritual authority works all the time for our
good. Heath and Happiness, Garth
Reply by Anisa:
YES! YES! And YES! Spiritual Authority works all the time.
And, when we seek first the Kingdom of Heaven Within as the
ONE and ONLY SOURCE AND SUBSTANCE of all our Good, then we
experience the flow you refer to!
And, while this is the Truth, how many of us have heard this
message ALL of our lives and still NOT done the work
necessary to fully understand what it means. Imagine that
every week all I wrote to you was, “Seek First the Kingdom
of Heaven Within”. Week in and week out, that’s all I said.
Although it’s absolutely the most important message I can
share, you’d be bored to tears with it.
After about a month and I’d have very few people left to support! Why? Because,
the other ’stuff’ helps you to SEEK the Heaven Within by
appeasing that active part of us that says, “I want more and
I want it now.”
Consider this similar to training for a marathon. Runners
have to get in their 25 to 30 miles a week when training,
but they do more than just run all day every day in order to
prepare. There’s stretching, interval training, weights,
sprinting, mindful eating, and rest, rest, rest. The same
concept of ebb and flow applies to Intentional Manifesting
and self-actualization.
And, yes, the other ’stuff’ (the tapping,
the visualizing, the treasure maps,etc.) can, of course,
take you away from the priority (of KNOWING the Presence
Within) if we are not intentional and mindful. Thank you
for bringing this up and inspiring other to keep it all
balanced!
Since we are talking about “seeking first the Kingdom
within’, here’s a straight Prosperity EFT video sample for
my friend, Brij.
He asks, “How might I use EFT to help with my prosperity
consciousness? I want my grandchildren to go to college and
I want the prosperity to make that happen?!” I recorded a
round of EFT on “Focusing upon the Kingdom of Heaven Within
as your only source and substance.”
Watch the Video: http://www.byoaudio.com/playv/WgfkX6fk
I have more videos to create… so I’ll do some of those
now. Thank you for allowing me the privelege of supporting
you!
I love you!
Copyright, 2009, CreataVision Enterprises, Anisa Aven.
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October 13, 2009
3 easy steps to create your own Surrogate Tapping EFT phrases
Category: Surrogate EFT, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 2:48 pm
Here’s a video and ‘plug-in-and-tap’ exercise to teach you how to formulate your own Surrogate tapping phrases.
“But what do I say when doing EFT or surrogate tapping EFT?”
This is the most frequently asked question I receive -
“…what do I say when I do surrogate tapping?”
The answer is so easy that you’ll likely doubt that it could
be effective. It IS effective and it IS simple.
Listen closely because I have something
VERY important that I want you to remember!
The only way to get this wrong is by NOT tapping!
Even if you stumble, stutter, mess-up, slur things together
and feel completely inadequate doing the tapping – it
doesn’t matter! You cannot get it wrong. Eventually, with
practice, you will learn how to get it more right but you
cannot get it wrong unless you just don’t tap.
For now,realize that your higher self knows your intentions. Your
Inner Being knows what you want to create. Therefore, as
you proceed with tapping, no matter how ineptly you tap,
your Inner Being will direct the intention underneath the
surrogate tapping in a positive way.
Seasoned EFT practitioners and experts know
that there are ways to do EFT more effectively. And, we
know that there are times when EFT doesn’t work ‘as well’
without some finagling. As you proceed with learning the
process, you’ll learn the ‘tricks’ to use when there are
bigger blocks.
(Hint: one trick is to be more specific, for example. If EFT is
not working, BE REALLY, REALLY CRAZILY SPECIFIC; down
to the tiniest of details and see if this doesn’t make a
difference!)
In the mean time, as you’re figuring this out, just start tapping whatever
comes to mind and know that it’s working just because you’re
doing it!
Surrogate Tapping Video Example:
S. discovered that her boss makes decisions from his
political motivation to get ahead as opposed to what’s right
or morally correct. S. ’stirred up trouble at work’ when
she questioned his methods. I recorded a round of Surrogate
EFT on ‘the boss man’ to create greater peace within (for
S.) as well as inspire the best from ‘the boss man.’
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Update…. I emailed S. to ask her permission and share with
her the video of this surrogate tapping round. Below, is
her reply after she met with her boss last Friday:
An updated note from S.:
“Dear Anisa, …the surrogate tapping for BM (Boss Man) really
worked! I’m so excited! So what came out of that meeting
is that he had taken it as a personal attack. I sensed their
relief and I thanked them for addressing the issue before
too much time and ill feelings developed. They at times
were somewhat emotional but I kept it strictly logical. I
could feel the anger rising at times and I thought about
something you mentioned in the surrogate EFT video yesterday
- the 3rd person point of view shows more compassion. I was
able to breathe and respond in a non-threatening way as I
was feeling compassion. I realized that they felt I was
attacking their own customer service skills when I
questioned WHY we are doing it a certain way. And, because
I wasn’t defensive, that lowered their defenses and it was
just good all around!”
I find that Surrogate Tapping always helps, without fail. Sometimes, it seems to just help us to get a better handle on a situation and be more at peace. Other times, it actually inspires a different reaction and outcome for the other person. Either way, surrogate tapping can be the very tool you’ve been looking for to intentionally create positive changes in your relationships.
Surrogate Tapping “Plug-in-and-tap” Exercise:
Example: A friend has a son that is experimenting with
drugs. We’ll call him James. She wants to tap for him but
doesn’t know what to say. The following exercise walks you
through the process of figuring out the best ’surrogate
tapping’ phrases for a situation. Using a piece of paper,
write down the answers to the following questions and
actually write out the ’surrogate tapping’ phrases.
- Even though…. “I….., You….., He/She…”
a. Even though I….(1st Person): State the issue from their
perspective. Say what they say or would say about the issue
from the first person perspective. Write down the answer to
the following question.
If I were ____name of person__ what would I believe to be true about this
____situation/problem___?
If I pretended to be _____name of person___ what would I feel, believe, think about ____this
situation/problem___?
I, first person, Example – James’ Drug Problem:
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“Even though I, James, don’t have a drug problem and I’m
tired of meddling parents and self-righteous, stick-in-the-
muds!” -
“Even though, I James, feel very angry that others don’t
trust me enough to handle my own life.” -
“Even though, I, James, know I can stop whenever I want.”
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“Even though, I, James, don’t want to stop and don’t have
to because no one can make me.” -
“Even though, I, James, feel irritated because other
people think there’s something wrong with me.”
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2) YOU…2nd Person: State the issue from your perspective. “Even though, You _____name___…”
Write down your answer to the following question:
If you were talking to your friend/loved one, what would you say regarding how you think
they feel or see things?
2nd Person Example – James’ Drug Problem:
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- Even though, you, James, are in complete denial…
- Even though, you, James, don’t realize you are playing with fire…
- Even though, you, James, think you have it under control, you are ruining your life and could end up dead, on the
streets, in prison, or you could ruin your entire life…
3) He/She…3rd Person: State the issue from an outsider’s perspective. This is the objective, 3rd person’s point of view. “Even though he/she___name___…” From the third person perspective, you will seek to be more compassionate, less attached, and more focused upon the positive intent, the Divine Order and the unlimited potential that is at the core of EVERY situation/person. As you may be tapping for the healing of a physical, mental, or even spiritual issue, you may find it necessary to adjust the questions below for relevancy.
Write down your answer to the following question(s):
If I could understand ___name of person’s ____ experience from a non-attached point of view, what would I say about
this situation?
If I assumed there was a ‘positive intent’ underneath ‘this situation’ what might that be?
If I assumed there was a Divine Order and Divine Plan at work and relaxed into the Truth that all is well, all the
time, what might I feel and say about this situation?
He/She, 3rd Person Example – James’ Drug Problem:
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- Even though, He, James, just wants to experience life more fully but he may be doing so in a reckless manner…
- Even though, He, James, has the ability within to make wise and healthy choices…
- Even though, He, James, doesn’t realize how much pain and destruction he could be causing his body and his family…
- Even though, He, James, just wants others to believe in his ability to self-regulate and make his own decisions…
- Even though, He, James is making poor decisions, what if he could allow himself to be his very best? What if he were
inspired to healthy actions and wise decisions? - What if, He, James were grounded in a sense of confident certainty that life is really great and he was born for greatness?
As you can see from the examples above, there’s NO one way
that is the right way to formulate the structure of the
surrogate tapping sequences. Just allow yourself to write
down whatever comes to mind as you walk through the
’surrogate tapping plug-in-and-tap’ exercise.
I have a few more videos and examples coming your way, later
this week and the next two weeks. Let me know what
questions you have about Surrogate Tapping (please post on
my blog here….) I will do my best to answer your questions
and/or tap for someone you love.
(I’m working on a few of your questions/requests right now.)
Next week’s Quick Manifesting Morsel – When is Surrogate
Tapping Wrong?
A fellow EFT practitioner had a negative experience with
Surrogate Tapping in a group coaching format. The group
felt that they did not receive ‘permission’ to tap,
perceived a negative energy around the situation but one
member continued to tap despite the lack of soul-compliance
from the loved one. I’ll share with you my experience
regarding the ethics of ‘tapping without permission’ as well
as what to do when your surrogate tapping doesn’t work.
I hope you find this helpful! I welcome your ideas and feedback!
October 7, 2009
Surrogate Tapping – EFT Super Power! (video too)
Category: Surrogate EFT, emotional freedom technique, law of attraction — Anisa @ 12:41 pm
Surrogate Tapping EFT… Wow! Nooooooo…. Could it really be?!?
That’s exactly what you will say after you experience the
miraculous shifts from doing surrogate EFT on someone you
love.
Helena had a very serious conflict with her in-laws. They
were condescending and disrespectful. When they came to
visit their grand-baby, they disregarded every request Helena
made. If Helena said, “no milk” they gave him “milk”. If
Helena said, “no disposable diapers” they went out and
stocked the house with Pampers. It did not matter what she
asked of them, they refused to follow her wishes.
Additionally, they were very vocal and arrogant about their
disapproval of her as a mother.
Helena believed there was nothing she could do to change the
situation, except ban them from her home. She said,
“They’ve always been this way. Even when I first started
dating their son, they ignored our requests for personal
space, meddled in our lives constantly and always
disrespected our lifestyle choices. I really don’t like them
at all.”
After surrogate EFT, Helena now LOVES her in-laws. She
enjoys their company now! They show more respect about how
she and her husband choose to raise their children.
Additionally, they not only follow her requests regarding
parenting choices but she has overheard them talking about
what a great mother she is.
When you begin applying surrogate EFT, you too will go
through several rounds of awe, – “I’m absolutely amazed this
worked” followed by disbelief and rational denial – “…no,
it’s just a coincidence and cannot possibly be permanent”,
followed by a curious guilt “…is it ethical to influence
others in this way?”
Finally, you’ll begin to accept responsibility for what you
created: “Okay, if I did influence this situation what else
could I influence?” You’ll feel a great sense of gratitude
for the changes occurring and realize beyond doubt that you
influenced a previously ‘helpless’ situation in a positive
manner. And, you did it intentionally: “I can no longer
deny that the ONLY thing that could have possibly changed
this situation was the surrogate EFT that I did.”
“I wonder what would happen if I did a little surrogate EFT
on this situation over here….???”
My son, Parker, plays football and Lacrosse -two rough
sports. I’m not willing to be the weenie mom that says “No
way, I’m afraid!” So I’ve had to do enough EFT on my fears
to at least not negatively co-create and influence the
situation. During an Autumn Lacrosse game, he had a bad
collision. The orthopedic surgeon said, “it’s a slap tear
and the only solution is surgery.” My son, having been
raised with the belief that we are powerful creators waited
until we were alone. He said, “Mom, can we heal this? I
don’t want surgery.” I said, “Yes, we can. But, we have a
lot of work to do and we can’t slack on this one.” We EFT’d
all the way home. Then, I did surrogate EFT all night. I
did surrogate EFT until I couldn’t think straight any
longer.
The next day we saw another orthopedic doctor. We
intentionally withheld the previous doctor’s opinions in
hopes that this doctor could make a fresh call based on the
current vibrational influences that we (Parker and I) had
newly established. The doctor said, “Well, I don’t see
anything on this MRI that says we need surgery. Let’s do
physical therapy and rest. I think it’ll heal in about 6 to
8 weeks.”
We were in awe. In fact, we attempted to dismiss the
situation by saying, “the first doctor just misread the
data.” Then, 6 months later, I had another opportunity to
tap again. In football practice, Parker was tackling a
much, much, much larger boy! His arm snapped back and the
pain was excruciating. I was at the office and couldn’t get
to him fast enough so my honey, Parker’s step-dad, picked
him up and took him to the emergency room. Parker was
convinced it was broken as was the coach.
I stayed at home and did surrogate EFT. There was a back-log at the
emergency room and the doctors could not see Parker right
away. Shortly, Parker decided he wanted to take off the
wrap and try out his hand. Within two hours, he decided
there was nothing wrong and he was ready to come home. He
was sore for about a week. We will never know if it was
just a mistaken analysis on our part or the surrogate EFT
that altered his reality.
The awakening to your conscious power is a moment you will
never forget. It’s a moment of no turning back. You may
even feel a sense of regret for not knowing your power
sooner and for not being aware of Surrogate EFT earlier.
You might start to fantasize, “If only I had known surrogate
EFT when this was happening….!” If you allow yourself,
you’ll end up mourning the opportunity lost over past
failures and heartaches. If you must, go ahead and quickly
mourn those losses. Then, put your foot down and
consciously forgive yourself for doing the best you could at
the time. Let the loss go and consciously choose to move
forward, fully embrace your new friend, surrogate-tapping EFT,
and your unlimited potential.
The realization that just maybe you are not so helpless and
powerless after all will set you on a path of renewed
passion. You’ll realize that you are a powerful being;
fully capable of intentionally influencing and co-creating
your relationships in positive and powerful ways.
In fact, my advice is that you be very clear about what you
really want, because when you start intentionally tapping
you will get it. K. had resigned to living with an alcoholic
that she despised. Her husband spent more time at the bar
than at home and when he was at home he was a mean drunk
even when he was sober. While uncomfortable she was not yet
ready to change course. It served a greater purpose to stay
put…for now. She learned of surrogate EFT and thought she’d
give it a whirl, “what have I got to lose?” After only a
couple of rounds, her husband began spending less and less
time at the bar. After a few weeks of surrogate EFT, he was
no longer drinking. She wrote to me, “This surrogate EFT is
unbelievable. However, I’ve learned that I better be careful
what I go asking for! He’s at home full time now, not
drinking and not spending all day at the bar. What was I
thinking?!? I have become so used to him not being around
and now I realize I actually prefer his absence. Now, he’s
home so much I can’t stand it!”
Melissa and Angela were ready to start their families.
Melissa was 36, her biological clock was like a daily alarm
but her husband kept postponing. He assured her that he’d
be ready eventually, but just not yet. We did a few rounds
of surrogate EFT together. Then Melissa practiced alone. It
was not more than 24 hours later that Melissa called at
11:30 PM with a voice-mail, “I’m so sorry for calling so late
but I can’t wait until morning to tell you. He came home
with a dozen roses and said honey I’m ready to remove the
goalie! I burst into tears of joy!” Within 4 months,
Melissa was pregnant and they now have a beautiful, healthy
baby boy named Trevor.
Surrogate EFT is perhaps the most consistently powerful tool
I’ve ever used and had the privilege of witnessing.
However, it would not be fair to mislead you into believing
that surrogate EFT will always make situations the way you
believe you want them to be. This is not the case. The
situation may or may not turn out according to how you think
you want it. It does, however, turn out according to the
higher good and Divine Order of all parties involved.
Sometimes you just have to trust the situation and patiently
wait for the resolution to make itself known.
Angela was 32 and also ready to start a family. She decided
to try surrogate EFT as well. She shared with me her fear
that her husband really didn’t want children and that maybe
she married the wrong man. We EFT’d around her fears and did
surrogate EFT for her husband. Within 3 months, he came
clean and told Angela the truth that he didn’t want
children. A few weeks later he had a vasectomy. Angela
courageously made the tough decision to move on. This was
two years ago, she is happily remarried and expecting her
first child.
As a mom and as a conscious creator, I know in my heart and
soul the Truth about this how surrogate EFT has helped my
family and my magnificent relationship with my honey. I
also know why my children are the healthiest of all their
friends and cousins. I do not know what I would ever do
without surrogate EFT and intentionality.
I’ve only touched the very tip of the iceberg of the
stories that I could share with you regarding EFT and
Surrogate Tapping! And, I intend intend to share more including the actual
steps for HOW TO DO SURROGATE TAPPING.
In fact, I’ve included a video below on the actual surrogate tapping protocol. Watch your inbox for the next in this series.
In the mean time, it’s very important that I
acknowledge Gary Craig, the founder of EFT at
www.EmoFree.com and his original protocal. While this
article series are my good-faith attempts to share what I’ve
learned, I am very clear that Gary Craig has many, many more
hours invested in his protocol and methodology that is
proven and working for thousands of teachers and students.
I highly encourage you to research and read the online
stories at his site as well as learn the traditional version
of EFT as taught by this amazing man. I especially request
that you read his manual and view his videos before teaching
my methods to others.
See a video with a Surrogate EFT tapping example:
Surrogate Tapping – EFT – Example: My Teenager Argues too Much!
Notice: This article is one in a series on Conscious
Creation and Surrogate EFT. If you are concerned about the
ethics of using surrogate EFT on another without their
permission, please also see my video and article, here:
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