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June 23, 2011
Q: How to consciously create when your Dream (or Wish) depends on someone else’s cooperation.
Last week I shared with you the answer to our friend’s question:
Dear Anisa, I love my husband but I’m not happy….. (you can see the full article on my blog here.)
The Surrogate EFT Points:
Step 1) Surrogate EFT – Set your Intention:
“Universe/God – my intention is to create a more loving and harmonious relationship with my husband. If the words that I speak are not aligned with our mutual, highest and best good, then I ask they go forth and help someone else. I intend for this work to influence our relationship in positive ways according to our mutual desires. Thank you for this creative power and manifestation, now.”
Surrogate EFT Example:
1) SS/KC – Even though, I, John, feel frustrated that my wife is unhappy and I just can’t please her, I love and accept myself.
Even though, You, John, are neglecting your love responsibilities at home, leaving your wife feeling lonely and abandoned, you love and accept yourself anyway.
Even though, He, John, is doing the best that he can and is exhausted with work and family responsibilities, he loves and accepts himself anyway.
2) EB- I, John, feel frustrated, why can’t my wife just get off my back?
3) OE – You, John, are neglecting your wife and causing unhappiness by dismissing her needs.
4) UE – He, John, feels like he can’t possibly please everyone, so why bother trying.
5) UN – I, John, am tired of the constant nagging and unhappiness.
6) CH – You, John, are not trying hard enough and you act like you don’t even care.,
7) CB – He, John, is doing the best that he can but has too many burdens to bear.
8) UA – I, John, wish my wife would just back off and be happy with the way things are.
9) RR – You, John, are neglectful and refuse to pay any attention to your wife.
10) H- Head – He, John, is tired and frustrated and although he wants to please his wife feels like he doesn’t know how anymore.
Repeat the ‘negative’ tapping until you feel a shift towards Neutrality. Neutrality does not feel like apathy but it feels like a peaceful acceptance, “it’s all okay, even as it is.”
Then, implant the positive:
1) SS or KC – Even though I, John, feel frustrated, I am willing to do what I can to make things right.
Even though, you, John, are stretched too thin, you are willing to pay attention to your relationship and show your wife you love her.
Even though, He, John, is exhausted and doesn’t know what to do, he is willing to find creative ways that allow him to connect with his wife and restore thier romance.
2) EB – I, John, am willing and open to rekindle our marriage.
3) OE – You, John, are doing the best you can and you are open to doing what must be done to connect with your wife.
4) UE – He, John, is open and loving; thoughtful and committed to loving his wife.
5) UN – I, John, want to be inspired to show my wife more affection and attention.
6) CH – You, John, are willing and open to having more meaningful conversations with your wife.
7) CB – He, John, is creative and imaginative and feels inspired to be more attentive to his wife.
8) UA – I, John, find myself thinking more and more about how to connect, talk, and love my wife more fully.
9) RR – You, John, are getting more and more excited about rekindling your relationship with your wife.
10) H- Head He, John, is a loving and giving man. He feels inspired to pay more attention to his wife and family and feels energized and uplifted by his efforts.
I hold the vision of a renewed, loving and fun relationship for you. It is in fact, the ONLY possibility, now.
Copyright, 2011 CreataVision Enterprises, Anisa Aven.
Q: How to consciously create when your Dream (or Wish) depends on someone else’s cooperation:
A: Let me start with the bottom-line – the important caveats:
We are either moving towards what we want, or away from it. Learn to analyze which way you’re headed so you can immediately course-correct when needed.
In relationships, picking apart what’s not working, focusing on all the things our partner is doing wrong or obsessing about the things our mate is not doing can become a sick habit. So obsessive and destructive that it can (and often does) destroy the love and kindness that once inspired us to move mountains together.
A healthy relationship begins with accepting our mate exactly as they are. Love, in its honest and purest form, is unconditional acceptance. From this place of unconditional acceptance, we are poised to leverage the Universal Laws in a very masterful way – but only after we’ve surrendered to what IS as absolutely perfect, in and of itself.
Let’s address what unconditional acceptance does not mean. Accepting our mate does not mean we are willing to be abused or taken for granted. Full, unconditional acceptance does not mean we are willing to sacrifice our souls and personal dreams/ boundaries/values to be with them, it simply means they get to be who they want to be, without exception; and when they choose to BE unkind or immoral then we get to choose not to be with them, in spite of the fact that we still accept them as a person.
Thus, accepting your mate exactly as they are is step #1. Any and all judgments that you hold regarding what he is or is not doing must be completely and totally released. All criticisms and resentments must be forgiven, now. Forget about manifesting anything until you’ve completed this step. In fact, as soon as you commit to forgiving, releasing, and accepting him exactly as he is right now, as a perfect child of God, doing the best he can, given who he is and what he knows up until now, you’ll discover there are many things you appreciate about him, right now. You’ll begin to notice the things he’s doing ‘right’ and less of your attention will dwell on what’s wrong. This is a natural by-product of full-force acceptance.
Once you’ve mastered ‘full-acceptance’ then manifesting greater love, romance, connection, fun, and adventure will be a matter of expansion. Like any other conscious creation, you want to act as if you had it now, in order to manifest it. You want to SEE it and BELIEVE it, now. You want to FOCUS on expanding upon what’s right and wonderful, in order to capitalize on the energy of love that is already flowing and thus re-direct some of that creative force to new adventures and experiences of connection with your mate.
You want to create a masterpiece of beautiful love and fulfillment in your mind and heart that is so enjoyable, it will naturally manifest externally.
Launch the visions of love and connection as you desire them, fully willing to detach from the outcome; willing to be happy with or without their manifestation. Then, go about fulfilling your own happiness needs. Gone are the days of depending upon your mate for self-fulfillment. Do you need conversation and connection, re-engage with friends and make new friends. GET those needs met in an honorable fashion elsewhere. Do you need adventure? Choose to take yourself out – enjoy a movie, go for a walk, or plan a vacation. Create adventure with yourself while envisioning the perfect adventure with your mate.
One primary source of dysfunction in modern relationships is this idea that our mate must fulfill all of our needs to have a happy marriage. It’s a recipe for failure! We all have different social and relational needs; expecting and demanding that our mate meet all of these needs is ridiculous. Re-energize your life by giving yourself permission to have a relationship with yourself and simultaneously increase your social circle by seeking out uplifting friends and engaging activities.
Now, I realize I’ve shared with you ‘What’ you need to do, but I’ve neglected to share with you ‘How’ to do it. Don’t worry, I don’t plan to leave you hanging! Next week, I will share with you some methods for releasing the old and creating the new. I will share with you a powerful process that will utilize both the law of attraction and Surrogate EFT. In the mean time, make a commitment to begin full-force acceptance now.
I hold the vision of a renewed, loving and fun relationship for you. It is in fact, the ONLY possibility, now.
Copyright, 2011 CreataVision Enterprises, Anisa Aven.
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July 7, 2010
Question: Can you do surrogate EFT on a group of people,
Yes! This goes for any group of people – a family, company,
Allow me to be Captain Obvious, as my son would say, and
However, do not let the fact that you are not sure if its
Just because we are small in comparison, does not mean we
So, how do you tap for a crowd? The same as you would for
For example, a friend recently wrote to me about the crisis
See the Video of the Proxy / Surrogate EFT Tapping:
Dear Anisa, I would like to ask your advice and your help
On Sunday, a horrible tragedy happened: assailants set fire
Sadly, this is just one example of the many problems we have
At this moment I am scared to death even going out in the
Please let me know if there is a way I can visualize a more
A: First, please know that you and your country are in my
You asked what can you do to visualize a more peaceful El
Surrogate EFT can have a quiet yet profound impact on our
Sample Set-Up Statements, Sore spot (S) or Karate Chop point
Even though my country, El Salvador, is overrun with crime
Even though my country, El Salvador, has one of the highest
Even though, my country, El Salvador, is being destroyed by
Reminder /positive turn-around statement:
Inner Eyebrow (EB) – My country is in danger.
Outer Eye (OE) – My country is hurting and in pain.
Under Eye (UE) – My country is losing hope.
Under Nose (UN) – My country may not survive this violent
Chin (CH) – My country is not a safe home anymore.
Collarbone (CB) – My country is devastated and dangerous.
Under Arm (UA) – My country may never be the same.
Upper Rib (UR) – My country may have to be abandoned.
Head, crown chakra (H) – My country is being destroyed by
Inner Eyebrow (EB) – My country is capable of recovering.
Outer Eye (OE) – My country is filled with courageous men
Under Eye (UE) – My country is willing to have balance
Under Nose (UN) – My country will not be defeated by
Chin (CH) – My country is capable of being restored to
Collarbone (CB) – My country is going through a transition
Under Arm (UA) – My country is ready for peace.
Upper Rib (UR) – My country is open to peace, safety,
Head, crown chakra (H) – My country is being restored by
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November 19, 2009
Q/A: What if we speak different languages? How do I do surrogate EFT?
USE the language that you feel most comfortable speaking fluidly. Whenever possible, include WORDS that have meaning in your friend’s native language and finally, consider and acknowledge any cultural differences you can identify while you are tapping.
Since our collective minds are interconnected and we cannot actually remove this connection (no matter what we do), tapping while speaking in either language is fine. Use what works for you. And, if there are certain phrases that your ‘surrogate EFT beneficiary’ uses to express their personality, their emotions or worldviews then by all means use those words when tapping.
For example, Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) is a collection of models and tools that assist us in understanding how to change our behaviors by changing our patterns of thought. Through NLP studies of how language affects our behavior, we’ve come to understand that words hold different connotations, meanings, and emotional triggers to different people. Since understanding what someone means by the words they choose to use is important to successful communication, whenever possible USE the phrases and words exactly as your friend would use them.
Here’s a challenge for you…
Let’s say you are more proper than your friend. You prefer to refrain from cursing or using language that is offensive in any way. However, your friend (that you want to do Surrogate EFT for) uses profanity and offensive language. It’s your call how you choose to deal with this when tapping surrogately. However, I believe that WORDS are very important and if my friend says, “This sucks”, I’m not going to try to modify it when I’m tapping to suit my sensibilities. I’m tapping for my friend and the more aligned my language is with what they really feel, the more likely I am to be effective with my tapping. Therefore, I’m going to use the same words because those words have a vibrational pattern within my friend that is important.
Additionally, remember that an event has no meaning until we give it meaning. The meaning we give to any situation is influenced by our beliefs, previous experiences, our cultural conditioning, our likes/dislikes and even our mood at the time.
When it comes to different languages, there will likely be different cultural barriers that could get in the way of really effective communication and surrogate EFT.
For example, I was speaking to a friend the other day who was born and raised in India. He was taught that it was inappropriate to express any affection towards a woman outside of marriage. Well, now he’s living and dating in America. Through trial and error, he has discovered that ‘not showing any affection’ to his dates (American women) is often misconstrued as a lack of interest. He has found it challenging to find the happy balance between showing his interest and honoring his heritage. “How do I know it’s the right time to kiss her and not get slapped, or worse thought of as a very bad person?” is a question that will rarely cross an American man’s mind. However, because of my friend’s cultural conditioning this is a very real dilemma for him.
We want to take into consideration the culture of whomever we Surrogate tap for.
If we were to tap surrogately for my friend, we would want to take into consideration how his friends and family would react should he choose to suddenly change his personality. We would want to make statements in our Surrogate EFT that allow for BOTH cultural views to evolve into a blended, more enlightened world-view that takes the best of both perspectives.
Now, having said all the above – don’t worry about it and certainly don’t overcomplicate this! Tap and talk however it at feels right for you in the moment. Use your native language when it feels right and use your friend’s words when you feel inspired. The key is to just do the tapping and the rest will fall into order.
Q/A: What I don’t get is that EFT states things in the negative. Why not use positive statements like what we were taught in books like “Think and Grow Rich” etc.?
A: This question is a common one – especially from those of us (myself included) that have always believed that we are supposed to be positive at all times.
–> How many times have you heard someone say something negative and then say, “Oh.. I don’t even want to go there! Cancel, Cancel!”
Of course we do not want to focus on the negative or we’ll attract more of it. And, it can feel very contradictory to what we’ve been taught to realistically face all the reasons why we don’t have what we want.
However, just because we ‘pretend’ something does not exist, does not mean that it will go away.
A woman victimized by her husband’s abuse may pretend that one peaceful night is the beginning of a renewed relationship. Unfortunately, statistics reveal that pretending that ‘all is well’ will not prevent the next round of violence.
Likewise, some students of the law of attraction will reach for abundance through the excessive use of their credit cards. Today, they may be pretending they are abundant in hopes of enacting the ‘law of attraction.’ Unfortunately, tomorrow they wake up to realize they are deeper in debt and further from the wealth they desire than ever before.
We’ve heard the phrase, “fake it, till you make it” and attached ourselves to the idea that we have to pretend our way into success. While there’s wisdom in this axiom, faking it alone is not enough to remove the limited consciousness that is the source of our need to pretend in the first place.
On the other hand, when we accept our unlimited potential as our True nature, we can no longer pretend. Instead, we just are.
While using a tool such as EFT requires that we acknowledge those negative beliefs and problems, we are not going to focus on them long enough to expand and attract more negativity. On the contrary, through the very act of becoming aware we instantly weaken the negativity while empowering our consciousness of well-being.
When we start the EFT phrase with the ‘Elephant in the room’ clearly acknowledged, then there’s no place for this subconscious fear, doubt, or belief to hide any longer. Then, after we’ve ‘called it like it really is’, we say “Even though I have this ‘dysfunction’, I LOVE myself anyway!!!” We are actually saying, “I allow myself to love myself in spite of my problems.”
Our subconscious mind has been taught to protect us from falsehoods. It’s like we have this determined gatekeeper standing outside our mental gates, protecting us from being hurt by illusions and false promises. When we say something like, “I am rich, rich, rich!” About half the time our gatekeeper smirks back at us, “No you’re not!”
With the EFT set-up phrase, we catch the gatekeeper off-guard! When we acknowledge and then allow LOVE to flow, our subconscious mind lets the new intention past the gates and into the fertile soil!
[ Side-note: (although not completely unrelated… )Another way to do this is by using assumptive affirmations that start with “Why is it…?” Such as, “Why is it that I always have all the abundance I require, when I require it no matter what?” When we phrase our affirmations as a “Why is it?” question, we again ‘stump the gatekeeper’ into trying to answer the question! ]
By stating the problem, we shine a light on where it resides within us. EFT is about resetting our energetic grid. In order to see where the disconnection is located, it’s necessary to speak the situation as negatively and as boldly as possible in order to shine that spotlight directly on the source of disconnection.
With EFT, we are eliminating our limiting beliefs. In order to eliminate them, they must be brought into the light. Through the process of EFT, we not only put our problems out there and love ourselves anyway, but we take our positive intentions and get them past the gatekeeper!
This is why EFT is so effective EXACTLY as it stands. Many an experimenter has tried to do the set-up phrase differently, without success. If it’s not broke, don’t fix it! EFT works so let’s keep using it!
As you grow in your EFT practice, you’ll find that you naturally gravitate to move quickly out of the negative and into the positive. Thus, using more positive-toned ‘I choose…’ statements or ‘What if…’ statements allow you to shift very quickly as well.
For more information, See Gary Craig’s Videos.
November 12, 2009
Quick Video Coaching – Doing Surrogate EFT for a child example:
–> Quick tips for Surrogate Tapping for Children and others:
First, I would suggest doing a lot of regular EFT just on
In regards to Surrogate EFT:
* We are mostly tapping on ‘our thoughts’ and ‘our
Therefore, if you do not have specific words/fears/ideas
* If you do have words/ideas/thoughts that your beneficiary has
* If your surrogate EFT beneficiary is oblivious to the
In this example, it might be:
– “Even though, I Samuel, have to keep going to doctors and
– “Even though, I Samuel, feel scared when I see my mommie’s
– “Even though, I Samuel, must have something wrong with me
Reminder examples: – I’m confused. – I don’t understand. –
Remember, you want to first tap on YOUR issues about the
To read more about Surrogate EFT, be sure to watch the other videos and read the other posts in the Surrogate EFT category.
October 29, 2009
Quick Manifesting Morsel with Anisa Aven
Q: How could I even begin to thank you for this! I did the surrogate tapping
Possibly a stupid question…but here goes….how can I do
A: Hi D. We are so pleased that your sister is well and that
If you had asked me even 6 months ago, “How do we do
Here’s the video, here.
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As with all EFT, our intent is to clear the ‘energetic
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) was originally designed
What I’ve discovered is that the phrasing of I, You, He/She
As the video example illustrates, you ‘know’ what to say
What I find interesting is that we say, “Oh, I don’t care
Try what I’m calling ‘3-way’ EFT. Try it especially on
As with any EFT efforts, worst case scenario – you clear
I look forward to hearing of your success!
October 16, 2009
I’m an EFT practitioner and recently had a disturbing
Q: Is Surrogate Tapping without permission wrong and
The thing is – I’ve never asked permission before I pray or
Is Surrogate EFT different than a direct prayer? Most of us
Never the less, it doesn’t matter.
It is my belief that we cannot create in another person’s
Our soul’s code is deeply embedded and forever connected to
Since Surrogate EFT is so effective at influencing others’
I don’t know what you call black magic but my understanding
I look at black magic like I do a virus. I can be around
I made Parker, my 12-year-old, do a book report this last
The example in the book was about the mother who was having
The daughter took these words to heart and never sang again.
(Ask my father if I listened to him when he said, “You’ll be
Now, having said all the above, it’s also important to feel
Please, by all means, ask permission, if that’s what your
I choose to say the following to engage the highest
“I ask that this Surrogate Tapping (or prayer) go forth and
Do what feel is right in your heart.
Regarding the mother who continues to tap for her beloved
I’m in Sedona, AZ.… writing, writing, writing… But, I have a quick surrogate tapping video that I wanted to make sure I shared with you.
A friend emailed about her sister who is going through testing for cancer and how frightened everyone in the family feels. I took a quick video which explains again how to figure out what to say when tapping and did a tapping round for ‘fear of illness’ and ‘fear of dying’ for our friend’s sister.
I absolutely love getting your e newsletters. I have a question about Surrogate Tapping. Would it be appropriate to do it for my sister who is currently going through some investigative testing and biopsies for very suspicious breast masses. She has had a breast MRI and is absolutely terrified about having another one because she is extremely claustrophobic. We are also very terrified of what the test results will bring especially because they have told her that it is very suspicious!
Are you able to help me tap for her well being…I was very heartened when I read about the EFT you and your son did for his healing in order not to have surgery. I would be ever so grateful! Yours truly, D.
Here’s the video:
Remember the formula for composing what to say when you do surrogate tapping EFT:
1) I…First Person: Even though, I_____name____…
If I were ____name of person__ what would I believe to be true about this
If I pretended to be _____name of person___ what would I feel, believe, think about ____this
2) YOU…2nd Person: State the issue from your perspective. “Even though, You _____name___…”
If you were talking to your friend/loved one, what would you say regarding how you think
3) He/She…3rd Person: State the issue from an outsider’s perspective. This is the objective, 3rd person’s point of view. “Even though he/she___name___…” From the third person perspective, you will seek to be more compassionate, less attached, and more focused upon the positive intent, the Divine Order and the unlimited potential that is at the core of EVERY situation/person. As you may be tapping for the healing of a physical, mental, or even spiritual issue, you may find it necessary to adjust the questions below for relevancy.
If I could understand ___name of person’s ____ experience from a non-attached point of view, what would I say about this situation?
If I assumed there was a ‘positive intent’ underneath ‘this situation’ what might that be?
If I assumed there was a Divine Order and Divine Plan at work and relaxed into the Truth that all is well, all the time, what might I feel and say about this situation?
Now, after I recorded the video sample, I realized that I could have been MUCH more specific. So, as you do your surrogate tapping, be sure to use strong, provocative and really specific phrases, words, visions, ideas. This will help shift the situation even more quickly.
I hold the vision of your sister’s health and ideal outcome.
love and light,
October 14, 2009
What to say when Surrogate Tapping EFT Video Example Surrogate Tapping Example including ‘How to Figure Out What
Yesterday, I gave you a step-by-step (video and written
Today, I have a few more EFT videos and samples for you.
Example: My friend, K., is having some very frustrating
Here’s the video surrogate tapping example:
Is all this stuff necessary?
A comment that I appreciate (Thank you Garth!) and very wise:
“I am just wondering if all this is necessary, EFT, LOA etc,
Some refer to it as the “Secret Place”, where no disease,
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his
Let me end this by stating, that seeking the kingdom is the
Reply by Anisa:
YES! YES! And YES! Spiritual Authority works all the time.
And, while this is the Truth, how many of us have heard this
After about a month and I’d have very few people left to support! Why? Because,
Consider this similar to training for a marathon. Runners
And, yes, the other ‘stuff’ (the tapping,
Since we are talking about “seeking first the Kingdom
Watch the Video: http://www.byoaudio.com/playv/WgfkX6fk
I have more videos to create… so I’ll do some of those
I love you!
Copyright, 2009, CreataVision Enterprises, Anisa Aven.
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