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October 13, 2009
3 easy steps to create your own Surrogate Tapping EFT phrases
Category: emotional freedom technique,law of attraction,Surrogate EFT — Anisa @ 2:48 pm
Here’s a video and ‘plug-in-and-tap’ exercise to teach you how to formulate your own Surrogate tapping phrases.
“But what do I say when doing EFT or surrogate tapping EFT?”
This is the most frequently asked question I receive -
“…what do I say when I do surrogate tapping?”
The answer is so easy that you’ll likely doubt that it could
be effective. It IS effective and it IS simple.
Listen closely because I have something
VERY important that I want you to remember!
The only way to get this wrong is by NOT tapping!
Even if you stumble, stutter, mess-up, slur things together
and feel completely inadequate doing the tapping – it
doesn’t matter! You cannot get it wrong. Eventually, with
practice, you will learn how to get it more right but you
cannot get it wrong unless you just don’t tap.
For now,realize that your higher self knows your intentions. Your
Inner Being knows what you want to create. Therefore, as
you proceed with tapping, no matter how ineptly you tap,
your Inner Being will direct the intention underneath the
surrogate tapping in a positive way.
Seasoned EFT practitioners and experts know
that there are ways to do EFT more effectively. And, we
know that there are times when EFT doesn’t work ‘as well’
without some finagling. As you proceed with learning the
process, you’ll learn the ‘tricks’ to use when there are
bigger blocks.
(Hint: one trick is to be more specific, for example. If EFT is
not working, BE REALLY, REALLY CRAZILY SPECIFIC; down
to the tiniest of details and see if this doesn’t make a
difference!)
In the mean time, as you’re figuring this out, just start tapping whatever
comes to mind and know that it’s working just because you’re
doing it!
Surrogate Tapping Video Example:
S. discovered that her boss makes decisions from his
political motivation to get ahead as opposed to what’s right
or morally correct. S. ‘stirred up trouble at work’ when
she questioned his methods. I recorded a round of Surrogate
EFT on ‘the boss man’ to create greater peace within (for
S.) as well as inspire the best from ‘the boss man.’
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Update…. I emailed S. to ask her permission and share with
her the video of this surrogate tapping round. Below, is
her reply after she met with her boss last Friday:
An updated note from S.:
“Dear Anisa, …the surrogate tapping for BM (Boss Man) really
worked! I’m so excited! So what came out of that meeting
is that he had taken it as a personal attack. I sensed their
relief and I thanked them for addressing the issue before
too much time and ill feelings developed. They at times
were somewhat emotional but I kept it strictly logical. I
could feel the anger rising at times and I thought about
something you mentioned in the surrogate EFT video yesterday
- the 3rd person point of view shows more compassion. I was
able to breathe and respond in a non-threatening way as I
was feeling compassion. I realized that they felt I was
attacking their own customer service skills when I
questioned WHY we are doing it a certain way. And, because
I wasn’t defensive, that lowered their defenses and it was
just good all around!”
I find that Surrogate Tapping always helps, without fail. Sometimes, it seems to just help us to get a better handle on a situation and be more at peace. Other times, it actually inspires a different reaction and outcome for the other person. Either way, surrogate tapping can be the very tool you’ve been looking for to intentionally create positive changes in your relationships.
Surrogate Tapping “Plug-in-and-tap” Exercise:
Example: A friend has a son that is experimenting with
drugs. We’ll call him James. She wants to tap for him but
doesn’t know what to say. The following exercise walks you
through the process of figuring out the best ‘surrogate
tapping’ phrases for a situation. Using a piece of paper,
write down the answers to the following questions and
actually write out the ‘surrogate tapping’ phrases.
- Even though…. “I….., You….., He/She…”
a. Even though I….(1st Person): State the issue from their
perspective. Say what they say or would say about the issue
from the first person perspective. Write down the answer to
the following question.
If I were ____name of person__ what would I believe to be true about this
____situation/problem___?
If I pretended to be _____name of person___ what would I feel, believe, think about ____this
situation/problem___?
I, first person, Example – James’ Drug Problem:
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“Even though I, James, don’t have a drug problem and I’m
tired of meddling parents and self-righteous, stick-in-the-
muds!” -
“Even though, I James, feel very angry that others don’t
trust me enough to handle my own life.” -
“Even though, I, James, know I can stop whenever I want.”
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“Even though, I, James, don’t want to stop and don’t have
to because no one can make me.” -
“Even though, I, James, feel irritated because other
people think there’s something wrong with me.”
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2) YOU…2nd Person: State the issue from your perspective. “Even though, You _____name___…”
Write down your answer to the following question:
If you were talking to your friend/loved one, what would you say regarding how you think
they feel or see things?
2nd Person Example – James’ Drug Problem:
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- Even though, you, James, are in complete denial…
- Even though, you, James, don’t realize you are playing with fire…
- Even though, you, James, think you have it under control, you are ruining your life and could end up dead, on the
streets, in prison, or you could ruin your entire life…
3) He/She…3rd Person: State the issue from an outsider’s perspective. This is the objective, 3rd person’s point of view. “Even though he/she___name___…” From the third person perspective, you will seek to be more compassionate, less attached, and more focused upon the positive intent, the Divine Order and the unlimited potential that is at the core of EVERY situation/person. As you may be tapping for the healing of a physical, mental, or even spiritual issue, you may find it necessary to adjust the questions below for relevancy.
Write down your answer to the following question(s):
If I could understand ___name of person’s ____ experience from a non-attached point of view, what would I say about
this situation?
If I assumed there was a ‘positive intent’ underneath ‘this situation’ what might that be?
If I assumed there was a Divine Order and Divine Plan at work and relaxed into the Truth that all is well, all the
time, what might I feel and say about this situation?
He/She, 3rd Person Example – James’ Drug Problem:
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- Even though, He, James, just wants to experience life more fully but he may be doing so in a reckless manner…
- Even though, He, James, has the ability within to make wise and healthy choices…
- Even though, He, James, doesn’t realize how much pain and destruction he could be causing his body and his family…
- Even though, He, James, just wants others to believe in his ability to self-regulate and make his own decisions…
- Even though, He, James is making poor decisions, what if he could allow himself to be his very best? What if he were
inspired to healthy actions and wise decisions? - What if, He, James were grounded in a sense of confident certainty that life is really great and he was born for greatness?
As you can see from the examples above, there’s NO one way
that is the right way to formulate the structure of the
surrogate tapping sequences. Just allow yourself to write
down whatever comes to mind as you walk through the
‘surrogate tapping plug-in-and-tap’ exercise.
I have a few more videos and examples coming your way, later
this week and the next two weeks. Let me know what
questions you have about Surrogate Tapping (please post on
my blog here….) I will do my best to answer your questions
and/or tap for someone you love.
(I’m working on a few of your questions/requests right now.)
Next week’s Quick Manifesting Morsel – When is Surrogate
Tapping Wrong?
A fellow EFT practitioner had a negative experience with
Surrogate Tapping in a group coaching format. The group
felt that they did not receive ‘permission’ to tap,
perceived a negative energy around the situation but one
member continued to tap despite the lack of soul-compliance
from the loved one. I’ll share with you my experience
regarding the ethics of ‘tapping without permission’ as well
as what to do when your surrogate tapping doesn’t work.
I hope you find this helpful! I welcome your ideas and feedback!
October 7, 2009
Surrogate Tapping – EFT Super Power! (video too)
Category: emotional freedom technique,law of attraction,Surrogate EFT — Anisa @ 12:41 pm
Surrogate Tapping EFT… Wow! Nooooooo…. Could it really be?!?
That’s exactly what you will say after you experience the
miraculous shifts from doing surrogate EFT on someone you
love.
Helena had a very serious conflict with her in-laws. They
were condescending and disrespectful. When they came to
visit their grand-baby, they disregarded every request Helena
made. If Helena said, “no milk” they gave him “milk”. If
Helena said, “no disposable diapers” they went out and
stocked the house with Pampers. It did not matter what she
asked of them, they refused to follow her wishes.
Additionally, they were very vocal and arrogant about their
disapproval of her as a mother.
Helena believed there was nothing she could do to change the
situation, except ban them from her home. She said,
“They’ve always been this way. Even when I first started
dating their son, they ignored our requests for personal
space, meddled in our lives constantly and always
disrespected our lifestyle choices. I really don’t like them
at all.”
After surrogate EFT, Helena now LOVES her in-laws. She
enjoys their company now! They show more respect about how
she and her husband choose to raise their children.
Additionally, they not only follow her requests regarding
parenting choices but she has overheard them talking about
what a great mother she is.
When you begin applying surrogate EFT, you too will go
through several rounds of awe, – “I’m absolutely amazed this
worked” followed by disbelief and rational denial – “…no,
it’s just a coincidence and cannot possibly be permanent”,
followed by a curious guilt “…is it ethical to influence
others in this way?”
Finally, you’ll begin to accept responsibility for what you
created: “Okay, if I did influence this situation what else
could I influence?” You’ll feel a great sense of gratitude
for the changes occurring and realize beyond doubt that you
influenced a previously ‘helpless’ situation in a positive
manner. And, you did it intentionally: “I can no longer
deny that the ONLY thing that could have possibly changed
this situation was the surrogate EFT that I did.”
“I wonder what would happen if I did a little surrogate EFT
on this situation over here….???”
My son, Parker, plays football and Lacrosse -two rough
sports. I’m not willing to be the weenie mom that says “No
way, I’m afraid!” So I’ve had to do enough EFT on my fears
to at least not negatively co-create and influence the
situation. During an Autumn Lacrosse game, he had a bad
collision. The orthopedic surgeon said, “it’s a slap tear
and the only solution is surgery.” My son, having been
raised with the belief that we are powerful creators waited
until we were alone. He said, “Mom, can we heal this? I
don’t want surgery.” I said, “Yes, we can. But, we have a
lot of work to do and we can’t slack on this one.” We EFT’d
all the way home. Then, I did surrogate EFT all night. I
did surrogate EFT until I couldn’t think straight any
longer.
The next day we saw another orthopedic doctor. We
intentionally withheld the previous doctor’s opinions in
hopes that this doctor could make a fresh call based on the
current vibrational influences that we (Parker and I) had
newly established. The doctor said, “Well, I don’t see
anything on this MRI that says we need surgery. Let’s do
physical therapy and rest. I think it’ll heal in about 6 to
8 weeks.”
We were in awe. In fact, we attempted to dismiss the
situation by saying, “the first doctor just misread the
data.” Then, 6 months later, I had another opportunity to
tap again. In football practice, Parker was tackling a
much, much, much larger boy! His arm snapped back and the
pain was excruciating. I was at the office and couldn’t get
to him fast enough so my honey, Parker’s step-dad, picked
him up and took him to the emergency room. Parker was
convinced it was broken as was the coach.
I stayed at home and did surrogate EFT. There was a back-log at the
emergency room and the doctors could not see Parker right
away. Shortly, Parker decided he wanted to take off the
wrap and try out his hand. Within two hours, he decided
there was nothing wrong and he was ready to come home. He
was sore for about a week. We will never know if it was
just a mistaken analysis on our part or the surrogate EFT
that altered his reality.
The awakening to your conscious power is a moment you will
never forget. It’s a moment of no turning back. You may
even feel a sense of regret for not knowing your power
sooner and for not being aware of Surrogate EFT earlier.
You might start to fantasize, “If only I had known surrogate
EFT when this was happening….!” If you allow yourself,
you’ll end up mourning the opportunity lost over past
failures and heartaches. If you must, go ahead and quickly
mourn those losses. Then, put your foot down and
consciously forgive yourself for doing the best you could at
the time. Let the loss go and consciously choose to move
forward, fully embrace your new friend, surrogate-tapping EFT,
and your unlimited potential.
The realization that just maybe you are not so helpless and
powerless after all will set you on a path of renewed
passion. You’ll realize that you are a powerful being;
fully capable of intentionally influencing and co-creating
your relationships in positive and powerful ways.
In fact, my advice is that you be very clear about what you
really want, because when you start intentionally tapping
you will get it. K. had resigned to living with an alcoholic
that she despised. Her husband spent more time at the bar
than at home and when he was at home he was a mean drunk
even when he was sober. While uncomfortable she was not yet
ready to change course. It served a greater purpose to stay
put…for now. She learned of surrogate EFT and thought she’d
give it a whirl, “what have I got to lose?” After only a
couple of rounds, her husband began spending less and less
time at the bar. After a few weeks of surrogate EFT, he was
no longer drinking. She wrote to me, “This surrogate EFT is
unbelievable. However, I’ve learned that I better be careful
what I go asking for! He’s at home full time now, not
drinking and not spending all day at the bar. What was I
thinking?!? I have become so used to him not being around
and now I realize I actually prefer his absence. Now, he’s
home so much I can’t stand it!”
Melissa and Angela were ready to start their families.
Melissa was 36, her biological clock was like a daily alarm
but her husband kept postponing. He assured her that he’d
be ready eventually, but just not yet. We did a few rounds
of surrogate EFT together. Then Melissa practiced alone. It
was not more than 24 hours later that Melissa called at
11:30 PM with a voice-mail, “I’m so sorry for calling so late
but I can’t wait until morning to tell you. He came home
with a dozen roses and said honey I’m ready to remove the
goalie! I burst into tears of joy!” Within 4 months,
Melissa was pregnant and they now have a beautiful, healthy
baby boy named Trevor.
Surrogate EFT is perhaps the most consistently powerful tool
I’ve ever used and had the privilege of witnessing.
However, it would not be fair to mislead you into believing
that surrogate EFT will always make situations the way you
believe you want them to be. This is not the case. The
situation may or may not turn out according to how you think
you want it. It does, however, turn out according to the
higher good and Divine Order of all parties involved.
Sometimes you just have to trust the situation and patiently
wait for the resolution to make itself known.
Angela was 32 and also ready to start a family. She decided
to try surrogate EFT as well. She shared with me her fear
that her husband really didn’t want children and that maybe
she married the wrong man. We EFT’d around her fears and did
surrogate EFT for her husband. Within 3 months, he came
clean and told Angela the truth that he didn’t want
children. A few weeks later he had a vasectomy. Angela
courageously made the tough decision to move on. This was
two years ago, she is happily remarried and expecting her
first child.
As a mom and as a conscious creator, I know in my heart and
soul the Truth about this how surrogate EFT has helped my
family and my magnificent relationship with my honey. I
also know why my children are the healthiest of all their
friends and cousins. I do not know what I would ever do
without surrogate EFT and intentionality.
I’ve only touched the very tip of the iceberg of the
stories that I could share with you regarding EFT and
Surrogate Tapping! And, I intend intend to share more including the actual
steps for HOW TO DO SURROGATE TAPPING.
In fact, I’ve included a video below on the actual surrogate tapping protocol. Watch your inbox for the next in this series.
In the mean time, it’s very important that I
acknowledge Gary Craig, the founder of EFT at
www.EmoFree.com and his original protocal. While this
article series are my good-faith attempts to share what I’ve
learned, I am very clear that Gary Craig has many, many more
hours invested in his protocol and methodology that is
proven and working for thousands of teachers and students.
I highly encourage you to research and read the online
stories at his site as well as learn the traditional version
of EFT as taught by this amazing man. I especially request
that you read his manual and view his videos before teaching
my methods to others.
See a video with a Surrogate EFT tapping example:
Surrogate Tapping – EFT – Example: My Teenager Argues too Much!
Notice: This article is one in a series on Conscious
Creation and Surrogate EFT. If you are concerned about the
ethics of using surrogate EFT on another without their
permission, please also see my video and article, here:
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