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August 19, 2011
How do I know if I’m visualizing correctly?
Category: conscious creation,law of attraction,LOA doesn't work for me,NLP — Anisa @ 9:41 pm
Dear Anisa – (Re: It only takes 17 seconds of pure-belief to launch a creation) So, does this include writing with a pure thought for 17 seconds then? Also can you give me tips on how to actually visualize for 17 seconds straight and actually staying focused? And, how do we know we are actually visualizing? I do get a mental image but it’s like it’s pushed to the back of my mind, and not clear like seeing through my eyes, if that makes sense? – Peppa
(Peppa’s question originated from my other article here.)
Hello Peppa,
OH YES… Writing is a fantastic way to get to 17 seconds of pure-belief! I suggest setting a timer (I usually set my timer for 10 minutes) and speed-write – allow yourself to flow positive, intentional, grateful thoughts towards what you want and intend to create.
If something negative comes out, notice it and finish the sentence but then scratch it out and redo that thought, until you get it just right.
Regarding the second part of your question: (staying focused, am I really doing it right.)
Instead of ‘visualization’, perhaps ‘forecasting’ is a better description.
First, let’s look at your primary learning and living modality. Are you Visual, Auditory or Kinesthetic mostly?
Some of us are simply not visual and instead we hear and/or feel the future as opposed to ‘seeing’ it. This is absolutely the perfect way for you. The goal is to forecast your future the same way you might choose your evening’s activities.
For example, how do you determine what to cook for dinner? Do you see the dinner you are about to create before you reach for the ingredients? Or do you have an inner-dialogue that directs you accordingly? Or perhaps you do not see/hear or talk to yourself but you have an ‘impression’ that you follow, a feeling that guides you to organize your cooking expedition?
While everyone uses all learning styles (visual / auditory/ kinesthetic /olfactory-gustatory) to some degree, one is usually more dominant than another.
If you see the dinner, then visualization may be the right word for you.
If you have an internal dialogue, then it’s possible that talking and dialoguing your way through it is more akin to your learning style and thus will enable you to feel more confident when forecasting your intentions.
If you experience a feeling or an impression, then imagine the end result and allow the impression or feeling to forecast your future consciously.
Now, let’s look at the last part of your question, possibly the most important aspect that you may not even be aware can be changed. You wrote: “I do get a mental image but it’s like it’s pushed to the back of my mind, and not clear like seeing through my eyes, if that makes sense?”
Yes, it makes perfect sense. Where we store our images including our past and future memories can be very telling about whether or not we are actively engaging in pure-belief or not. For example, you shared with us that your mind stores the ‘image’ of the future you want ‘pushed to the back of your mind’ and by reading through the lines, I guesstimate that you recognize this is not quite right; you sense that because it’s pushed to the back of your mind there’s something amiss about the visualization. Thus the question, “How do I know I’m actually visualizing correctly?”
>>>> I’m so excited to share this with you… I’m actually dancing in my chair!!! >>>>
Okay… here’s what you want to do. In the official vernacular, you want to do an NLP (Neuro-Linguistics Programming) process known as adjusting the sub-modalities. In layman’s terms, you want to pack-up and move where you store your ‘desired goals’ to be in the same warehouse as your ‘completed items’.
Let me explain WHY… No, let me illustrate…
Think of something in your life that brings you joy and pleasure and that you are 100% certain exists.
Now, where is that thought located? Is it inside or outside your body? (No, don’t think too much about it, just answer.) Is it in color or black and white? Is it close up or in the distance, straight ahead, behind you or to the left/right? What is its shape and size? If any of the following is applicable – describe its texture, temperature, tone, dialogue, melody, sensation, contrast. Is it bright or dim, clear or muffled? Does it have a smell or a taste? What? Is it moving or still, 3D or flat? Allow yourself to really ponder these questions. When you are satisfied, write it down – “My certain manifestation is…”
Now… tell me what did you have for breakfast? Is that your usual morning breakfast? What would be an unusual breakfast for you? (Don’t skip this… there’s a method to my madness.)
Okay, now that we’ve discussed your breakfast we can move on.
Think of a goal that you hope to manifest. Choose something that you want but lack real confidence about achieving.
Now, where is that thought located? Is it inside or outside your body? (No, don’t think too much about it, just answer.) Is it in color or black and white? Is it close up or in the distance, straight ahead, behind you or to the left/right? What is its shape and size? If any of the following is applicable – describe its texture, temperature, tone, dialogue, melody, sensation, contrast. Is it bright or dim, clear or muffled? Does it have a smell or a taste? What? Is it moving or still, 3D or flat? Allow yourself to really ponder these questions. When you are satisfied, write it down – “My uncertain manifestation is…”
Compare where you stored your CERTAIN experience with where you store your UNCERTAIN experience. You will inevitably discover that there are differences. Perhaps they are vastly different or perhaps there is only a few subtle differences. For the purpose of clarify, you may journal about the differences.
Next, imagine that your “uncertain goal” is morphing into the same location, look, feel, sound, texture, shape, size, etc. as your “certain manifestation.” Take your time and trust your imagination – encourage yourself to intentionally move it.
If it gets ‘murky’ – write it down; itemizing each descriptive element and one by one applying the CERTAIN descriptives to the UNCERTAIN goal.
Make note of how that feels? Does it feel odd or scary? Or, does it feel more certain and exciting?
If you feel weird and like – “OH no, what if this really happens now?!?!” It may be time to reconsider what you say you really want and the price you are willing (or not willing) to pay to have it.
If you feel more certain, hopeful, and like – “that visualization rocked”, then relax and begin to prepare to receive what you’ve just ordered.
Try this exercise – try it on something you REALLY, REALLY want and something that you would be happy to have, but content without. See what happens!
Let me know how you use this in your life! I know you’ll love it.
Lots of love and light, Anisa
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June 8, 2011
Pre-Celebrate it – to Create it!
Category: Affirmations,conscious creation,Creative Manifesting,law of attraction,LOA doesn't work for me — Anisa @ 2:01 pm
Quick Manifesting Morsel – Vibrational Video Coaching with Anisa Aven
Pre-Celebrate it -to Create it!
The Law of Attraction – Simple is Better!
“Nothing in the Kingdom of Heaven is lost!” my son, Parker, repeated over and over as he walked around the house looking for the lost remote for the flip-flopping, mini-r/c car that Santa left under the tree. A few moments later I hear, “YES!” and I know exactly what just happened, or I think I do. Without looking up from my book, I say, “good… you found it.” He says, “not yet… but I will… YES! COOL! YES!”
This time I look up to see if he’s doing what I think he’s doing. Sure enough… he’s celebrating! Even though he’s NOT yet found the remote, he’s celebrating as if he is already playing with it.
I revel in my own delight watching such a brilliant display of conscious creation. “Wow! He’s intentionally applying the Law of Attraction!” Feeling as proud as any LOA-Loving-Mommie ever, I congratulate myself for talking about the Law of Attraction to my children. And, now realizing he was actually listening?!? Oh, so delicious!
I remember thinking, “Why can’t I do that? After all, it’s just that easy.”
Most of the time, we tend to over-look the simple as not worthy of our attention; opting instead for the more complicated instructions and beliefs that only hard work and paying our dues will result in success.
However, this is often contradictory to what we experience every day – that simple is better: brushing our teeth prevents cavities, smiling feels better than frowning, and eating fresh vegetables right out of the fridge, for example are not only simpler, but better for us! Likewise, applying the Law of Attraction does not have to be complicated. In fact, it’s very simple.
There’s a principle called Occam’s razor (named after mediaeval philosopher and scientist, William of Occam), who put forth the theory that “the best solution to a problem is often and almost always the simplest solution.” Though the principle may seem rather trivial, it is essential for model building. In other words, nature wants life to be simple. With this in mind, it isn’t necessary to do everything the ‘hard way’ or the most complicated way. In fact, not only is it not necessary but it’s inefficient as well.
For example, when we utilize the Law of Attraction to make each day a little easier and more fulfilling, we simplify our lives. By leveraging the power of the Universal Principles to create the small things, we can build our LOA muscles. Eventually, when our conscious creation muscle becomes strong enough, we’ll be able to attract the big wins too. Here’s what we know – there has never been a million dollars created, a soul-mate found, a dream job landed or a rock-hard body experienced that didn’t have it’s conception, gestation, and creation as a result of the Law of Attraction, regardless of the person’s awareness of the law.
Thus, if you can master the law of attraction with the everyday ‘things’ then the championship manifestations will be easier as well. You wouldn’t pick up your first golf club today and next week show up at the Pro-golf tournament expecting a position next to Tiger on the tour. Likewise, the odds are not likely in your favor that you will manifest the lottery just because you’ve learned that “what you think about, you bring about.”
Mastering the art of attraction, like any skill, requires practice. And, just like a golfer that spends hours at the golf range practicing his swing, the more you practice your ‘swing’ the better you’ll get at the game of attraction. So what’s your swing? It’s using your thoughts and emotions to intentionally vibrate in harmony with an end result that you desire. Using our golf analogy, a golfer swings the club to hit the ball. A Law of Attraction practitioner intentionally vibrates (uses thoughts and emotions) to attract a desire.
For example, one way to practice your LOA swing is to pre-celebrate the ‘little wins.’ The act of pre-celebrating produces a vibration that is energetically and magnetically attractive to victory, passion, excitement, enthusiasm and other fabulous experiences. Thus, intentionally celebrating a goal prior to experiencing it is an act of intentional vibration.
For example…
Yes! I celebrate a beautiful day filled with fabulous conversation and uplifting experiences.
Yes! I celebrate with delight, as I enjoy an awesome day at work. I thoroughly enjoyed my co-workers today and had very productive and uplifting meetings. I have a great sense of accomplishment from my day today!
Yes! I celebrate the healthiest check-up my doctor has ever given me… “You’re in great shape! You’re as fit as a teenager.”
Yes! I frolic with joy, and celebrate the smooth flow of cars as I travel to and from my job. I am grateful for the comfortable drive and opportunity to be at peace and in silence with myself and with life.
Yes! I rise joyously and in awe of an incredibly recuperative night’s sleep. I slept better than a baby… I slept like I was on a cloud in heaven. I celebrate feeling energetic and alive!
Now, if that doesn’t sound exciting enough to practice your swing on, remember this is practice and you want to get in a lot of it!
Here’s another idea – how about pre-celebrating unexpected things that you can be indifferent to? Things that you don’t necessarily care a great deal about, but when they appear you’ll most assuredly know it was because YOU celebrated them and thereby intentionally attracted them into your experience.
This is an exercise that Abraham of Jerry and Esther Hicks fame, teaches. My first practice swing was to pre-celebrate hummingbirds! I imagined their tiny little bodies hovering around me. I delighted in the idea of having them come into my garden. I imagined elegant hummingbirds all around me.
As you can probably imagine, within days I started noticing ‘signs’ of hummingbirds. For example, at home depot I went to grab a garden hose and a humming-bird feeder fell on the floor. Then, a girlfriend sent me a sweet thank you note on what else, but humming-bird stationery, a magazine that I subscribe to (not bird watcher’s gazette) was delivered with a featured article inside titled “hummingbird friendly gardens”. I also remember overhearing a conversation while I was out about how a hummingbird flew in this woman’s face and just hovered there for a few seconds outside the store.
After seeing and hearing so much about hummingbirds, I began to wonder where the REAL hummingbirds were. I actually felt inadequate like maybe I wasn’t good enough to attract the real thing! So, I decided to really practice my swing this time by celebrating them. I celebrated hummingbirds for a few more minutes and this time allowed myself to really feel excited and passionate about them. I even jumped up and down this time and I celebrated the wonder of such an incredibly talented, beautiful, masterpiece as the hummingbird. The seemingly fragile but in reality fierce and territorial hummingbird; the gift from God that scientists study to discover and inquire into how we too can reveal the art of hovering the way the hummingbird does. YES! I love hummingbirds, God’s beautiful creatures. I celebrate the wonder of hummingbirds! Yes… hummingbirds! Hummingbirds! Hummingbirds! Beautiful hummingbirds!
I bet you can guess what happened the very next day! Hummingbirds! Hummingbirds! Glorious hummingbirds!
So… let’s make it easy:
3 easy steps to Intentionally Harness the Law of Attraction and The Law of Detachment
1. Identify what you want and Pre-Celebrate it now
2. Detach & Let it Go
3. Prepare to Receive
Remember to assume the best, no matter what occurs because the Universe has your back and all is well all the time. (You have to choose this mindset and at some point your manifestations will catch up to it.) Then, when you notice it’s not quite what you wanted, simply “Course Correct” by pre-celebrating the next edition until you get it more right.
Remember, simple is better and all you really have to do is CELEBRATE and watch what happens!
To wrap up the story… The doorbell rings. Parker says, “Who is it?” And I hear my mom say, “It’s your Mimi!” The door opens and Parker and Ashlyn run to give Mimi a hug. I kiss mom hello, fix some tea, and we settle into the couch to visit. I realize there’s a small lump in the cushion. I put my tea on the side table, stand and lift the cushion to find the remote to Parker’s remote-control car. Of course, he celebrated some more. We watch his performance as he makes that little R/C spin, flip-flop and celebrate its own existence!
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March 1, 2011
Lessons in Detachment: Video 6 of 10 Choice is Better Than No Choice
Category: Audios Free Downloads,conscious creation,Creative Manifesting,Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,limiting beliefs,LOA doesn't work for me,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 3:20 pm
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Lessons in the Law of Detachment: Video 6 of 10 Choice is Better Than No Choice
The Law of Attraction cannot be employed without the Law of Detachment. They go hand in hand. And, the Law of Detachment says you must relinquish your attachment to have your desires manifest.
This means that the Essence of detachment is Equanimity (a state of being centered, faithful, aligned and serene, no matter what you see or experience.) In Lessons in Detachment, we will explore exactly what it means to intentionally detach from the outcome and HOW exactly to do it. Be sure to explore all of the detachment videos and you will have a greater understanding of how to finally Let Go, and Let God, create miracles in your life.
Everything you desire is aligned with peace. If you want
to create more love in your life, then obtain greater peace in your heart. If you want to create more prosperity, then obtain greater peace in your heart. Being detached from the
outcome produces that peace in your heart. However, detachment can be tricky and slippery and that’s why I’ve created this series; to help you take The Law of Detachment to a deeper level. When you fully embrace the law of detachment, you become a better manifestor. When you fully understand exactly what it means to remain detached then you leverage the full power of the law of attraction. In fact, you cannot be a masterful creator without integrating detachment.
Now, let’s explore the subject of this lesson on detachment:Choice is better than no choice. (Also an NLP presupposition – a belief that when applied creates a solid foundation upon which to be more intentional and influential in every situation.) Think about this for a moment:“Choice is Better than No Choice.” Now, how do we apply this in our lives to be more allowing; to practice the law of detachment and become more effective conscious creators?
This idea goes hand in hand with the lesson in video 5: The Law of Requisite Variety – translated as the person with the greatest flexibility has the greatest influence.
This idea, that choice is better than no choice helps us to be more flexible in the moment. We get to choose how we respond to each situation; thus taking ownership of our experience.
One of the key tenants that helped me to live a more intentional life, I learned from Jack Canfield in about 1992. He shared with me his equation: E+R= O (the Event plus our Response equals the Outcome. Event + My Response = The Outcome) It is not the event alone that determines the outcome of a situation but the event plus our response to
that event that determines the outcome.
For example, there will be times when you feel you are backed into a corner with no way out. We may feel that you have NO choice. But, you ALWAYS, without exception have choices. It’s a matter of choosing which option is right for you. Even when you are unable to physically choose something different, you still have the choice of your emotions. In fact you have many choices.
Choice is better than no choice – teaches us to be mindful of the truth that we always have options. There’s fight, flight, freeze, and flow, for example.
We can fight! We can strike like a defensive snake! And, sometimes that feels like the best choice.
We can flee or take flight. Or, we can freeze, until we figure out how to respond.
Heck – sometimes it’s even better to play dead as a choice!
“Ueghhh…. I’m just going to roll-over and play dead for a minute.”
Or we can also learn to choose to FLOW! We can choose to go with the flow and practice the art of the aikido way. This is a skill that we can develop as we begin to fully embrace
the truth that choice is better than no choice. And, the choice of flow is the most aligned with the law of detachment and the art of allowing.
Let me explain. Morihei Ueshiba, the famous martial artist and founder of Aikido, believed that it was important to extend love and compassion to all, and especially to those who seek to harm others. Aikido is often translated as “the way of unifying with life energy” or as “the way of harmonious spirit.”
Ueshiba’s goal was to create a martial art that practitioners could use to defend themselves while also protecting their attacker from injury. Out of this philosophy and spiritual path, was born Aikido, a martial art that teaches the student to receive an attack while harmlessly redirecting it. In an ideal resolution, not only is the receiver unharmed, but so is the attacker.
When considering your choices, the highest most aligned choice, will align with no harm across all channels. Thus, flow and the aikido way is one option that uses the energy of the situation for a more enlightened and harmonious outcome. By adopting the idea that choice is better than no choice and combining it with the person with the greatest
flexibility has the greatest influence, you will find yourself living more in the flow of life more often and thus detached and allowing.
I’d like to give you some examples of how to employ Choice is Better than No choice.
You’ve heard of Murphy’s law?
Everything than can go wrong, will go wrong – that’s the summation of Murphy’s law.
When we remember that it is our response to the event that creates the outcome and we always have a choice as to how we respond, then we turn Murphy’s law upside down. For
example, a more harmonious choice would be, “Even if it goes wrong, I choose to see it as perfectly imperfect.”
Another example of a limiting belief (Murphy’s Law) turned upside down, is “Nothing is ever as simple as it first seems.” A choice that is more aligned with the law of detachment would be,“Even if nothing is as simple as it seems, I choose to be comfortable with complexity.”
Here’s one more. The limiting belief that “every activity takes more time than you have” becomes, “even if it takes more time than I have, I choose to eventually have enough time.”
It’s very important that I make the point that Choice is Better than No Choice means having more freedom, flexibility and personal responsibility for your life. All of which are essential for leveraging the power of detachment. I heard a story once that has stayed with me and helped me to understand that even in the most difficult of situations, I
have the power to choose how I respond.
There was once a ruthless warlord that captured a town where there were many monks. The warlord was infamous for killing without cause, slaughtering people for no reason and many monks fled to the hills.
But, one monk remained in prayer. The warlord came upon him and with rage-filled annoyance said, “What are you doing? Don’t you know who I am? I can run my sword through you without blinking an eye.”
The monk finished his prayer, rose
slowly, looked the warlord in the eyes and calmly said,“Don’t you know who I am? You can run your sword through me and I will never blink an eye.”
You see, we get to choose how we respond to even the most difficult situations. And, choice means greater freedom and flexibility; both of which produce greater solutions and enact the law of allowing. How do you practice this?
Exercise:
- Consider a time when you felt backed into a corner without options.
- Re-frame it using this new belief: Choice is better than no choice.
- Consider how it might have been different had you believed that you had options.
- Ask yourself: How could I have responded with Fight? Flight? Freeze? Flow?
- Now go into your future.
- Think of a time when you mightfeel backed into a corner or as though you have no options.
- Knowing there’s always a choice as to how you respond, what are your options?
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February 22, 2011
Lessons in Detachment: Video 5 of 10: The Law of Requisite Variety (The Most Flexible Has the Most Influence)
Category: Audios Free Downloads,Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,LOA doesn't work for me,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 1:14 pm
Lessons in Detachment: Video 5 of 10 The Law of Requisite Variety: The Person with the Most Flexibility Has the Most Influence
Hello! This is Anisa Aven and this is vibrational video coaching #5 of 10 in my series: Lessons in Detachment.
The Law of Detachment says “You must relinquish your attachment to your desire, to have it manifest.”
To become a master conscious creator, you must employ the Law of Attraction & the Law of Detachment together. Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself.
This brings us to the subject of this video The Law of Requisite Variety: The Person with the Greatest Flexibility Has the Greatest Influence (An NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming – key presupposition – this is a BELIEF that when implemented will provide you a stable, detached & very resourceful foundation.)
Let’s read that again – The Person with the Greatest Flexibility Has the Greatest Influence
Like many of the lessons in this series, understanding this idea will make a significant difference in your ability to leverage the law of detachment. Here’s what I want you to know. Our primary role in every relationship and every situation is to become the most flexible element within the system. If the most flexible element, controls and influences the outcome then by focusing on being flexible you are actually focusing on solutions and thus practicing the law of allowing.
We will face times when we are met with unexpected and unappreciated changes. And, if we choose to be inflexible – we will crack just like this egg as the vice-grip of life presses upon us.
It is IN relationship to others and IN relationship to life that we often become inflexible and inflexibility equals resistance, which equals attachment. When we are attached to the outcome or attached to how we think things should be, we halt our greater good and our Divine Flow. Often, our inflexibility is an unconscious attempt at protecting ourselves (like the hard shell of an egg). We believe that we must stand strong and be uncompromising in order to be safe. However, we are soft on the inside and our hard shell is weak and provides little protection.
Virginia Satir, probably the most celebrated, and effective family therapist ever studied said flexibility is crucial in relationships as it influences how a person feels in a family, she wrote, “Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family”
Being flexible is a strong and powerful response to life’s changes. Lao Tzu (founder of Taoism) said, “Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it.” By choosing to be as flexible and flowing as water, you become the most influential element in the system – whether that system is your relationship, your family, your work, or any other aspect of your life.
Many of us have a habit of resisting change and refusing to release our firm grip on life; not realizing that this prevents our dreams from coming true. Resistance and inflexibility do not help us manifest!!! In fact, it is just the opposite that is true. It is better to bend than to break.
I am not saying you should compromise on your values or your principles in order to ‘get along’ or ‘make nice.’ “Niceness” is over-rated if you ask me. However, kindness and a commitment to being flexible in your approach produces greater strength and greater access to resourcefulness.
When you find yourself being inflexible, remember how the natives in North Africa capture Monkeys! It’s very easy. They simply fill a gourd with a monkey’s favorite treats ( nuts or fruits) then when the monkey puts its tiny hand through the hole to grab the nuts, the monkey clenches his fist around the treat but now he cannot pull his hand back out. The hole is too small for the monkey to withdraw with a clenched fist; but being too stubborn to let go of the nuts, he will work all night pulling and pulling without success. Then, he is easily captured at the break of dawn, because he was too stubborn and inflexible to know when to relax and let it go.
Watch for inflexibility traps, such as “But this is how we’ve always done it.” Instead learn how to ask questions about the ‘tradition’ and learn how to willingly change plans when unexpected conditions require an adaptive response. Beware of getting discouraged when plans change. When you realize you are resisting change, choose to be the one that bends, refuse to allow anxiety to rule you. Instead look for the inner strength to respond gracefully and with ease and flexibility.
How do I learn to be more flexible?
Instead of being stubborn, upset with change, impatient and closed-minded, CHOOSE to be flexible and adaptable; choose to allow change, to be patient and to be open-minded.
How to Practice Flexibility:
- Be willing to be wrong.
- Be willing to not know the right answer.
- Be willing to be imperfect.
- Be willing to change ideas and plans.
- Be willing to be open to other’s suggestions.
- Be willing to view emergencies as opportunities for growth.
- Be willing to give up on activities that conflict with your values.
- Being willing to help others.
- Be willing to listen to the advice of others.
- Be willing to observe and model those who have the success, health, love or prosperity you desire.
“Blessed are the hearts that can bend; they shall never be broken.” - Albert Camus (French Novelist, 1957 Nobel Peace Prize for Literature.)
February 15, 2011
Lessons in Detachment: 4 of 10 People Do the Best They Can
Category: Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,LOA doesn't work for me,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 7:01 am
Lessons in Detachment: Video 4 of 10, People Do the Best They Can, With the Resources They Have
Hello! This is Anisa Aven and this is vibrational video coaching #4 of 10 in my series - Lessons in Detachment. The Law of Detachment says You must relinquish your attachment to your desire, to have it manifest. The essence is that state of equanimity – Equanimity is defined as being calm and centered internally no matter what’s happening externally. Detachment therefore is aligned with being Centered – Faithful – and Serene - no matter what you see or experience before you.
The law of detachment can be challenging. That’s why we are studying and practicing the beliefs addressed in this series: Lessons in Detachment – we will explore exactly what it means to intentionally detach from the outcome and HOW exactly to do it. Be sure to explore all of my conscious success and law of detachment videos and you will have a greater understanding of how to finally Let Go, and Let God… create miracles in your life.
Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself.
This brings us to the subject of this video People Do The Best They Can With the Resources They Have. (An NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming – key presupposition – this is a BELIEF that when implemented will provide you a steady, stable, and detached foundation.
Let’s read that again – People Do The Best They Can With the Resources They Have –This one will not automatically be easy to accept. Like the mindset of video #3 in this series (Under every behavior is a positive intent) there will be many arguments that this is NOT true.
Many watching this video will instantly reject this idea: “What about mass murderers” are they making the best choice available at the time? Are you saying Hitler made the best choice available to him at the time?” NO – That is NOT what this assumption supports — it goes without saying that people who commit crimes and hurt others are not making the best choice – but the full belief ‘people make the best choice available to them at the time given who they are, and what they know to this point’ has far-reaching benefits when you act as if this were true, even when it’s not –This assumption affords us a level of automatic compassion and empathy that bypasses a significant cause of detachment and disconnection. Let me explain…
This idea “that people do the best they can given the resources they have” goes hand in hand with the idea from last week’s video #3, “underneath every behavior is a positive intent.” These two ideas, may not be True with a capital – it’s always true T, but by acting as if this were always true, you can and will be in a better position to detach from negativity and judgment in your relationships… by accepting this as your belief, you will find yourself more willing to love and forgive.
… And, since relationships and our response to the people in our lives can either be the source of great joy or the source of great pain, developing the ability and in this case the mindset that ‘people are always doing the best they can given who they are and what they know up until this point’ will support you in practicing the law of allowing.
You see when we are ill-equipped to understand others, we easily disconnect from source and when we are disconnected, we attach to our assumptions, our desires, our need to be right, what we believe another should or should not do, what we believe they should have been capable of doing, what we need from that relationship etc… and ALL attachment, no matter how justified our judgment may be causes disconnection from Source – it’s this disconnection that halts our Divine Good – our ability to manifest our true desires.
Learning how to intentionally apply compassion on queue and intentionally forgive in a consistent and meaningful way will produce greater connection to your real Source and Supply – the Presence of God –and thereby connect you with the energy that creates worlds This IS practicing the law of detachment. As mentioned in video 3, The Course in Miracles says Forgiveness is the key to happiness. We cannot leverage the law of allowing without mastering the art of forgiveness.
I want to address any resistance you may be feeling about this idea, right up front. Argue that this belief: “People Do the Best They Can, with the Resources They Have” is not true…& You will win that argument. We all know that sometimes people do things they know they shouldn’t do. The business man that embezzles money and goes to jail, knows better.
The child who makes a mistake on his class assignment, could have tried harder or studied more. A physician that makes a critical error after two decades of school and practice, should have and could have been able to prevent the blunder.
I want to make a distinction here – understand that just because a person is doing their best given the resources they have at that moment –does not mean that it is THE best…, but it is their best given what they know, the environment they are in, and who they are up until that moment – & given their current level of consciousness…. They are doing the best they can, given their capacity, their skills, and their current consciousness at that moment.
If you look for evidence that a person could have done better – or should have known better – or that they were not doing their best – you will most assuredly find it. Thus I am not saying this is a belief that serves all situations at all times – for example, if you are a prosecuting attorney, I’m not so sure the belief that people do the best they can given their resources at the moment would serve your cause.
However, this series is about how to apply the law of detachment. & therefore – our aim is to find that state of EQUANIMITY.
Being detached supports a state of equanimity – which is the quality of being calm and even-tempered, maintaining our composure – no matter what is happening around us.
By acting as if this were true: “People do the best they can given their current resources” you by-pass judgment, assume a position of compassion, and are better equipped to influence the situation.
Here’s an example from my own life. This is a picture of my nephew, Marc (in the video). Here he’s wake-boarding behind our boat. Marc is 24 years old and he lives with us, because I’m the only family member that’s willing to support him. Because – Marc can’t get to work on time, to keep a job. Long story short… he was doing really well for about 90 days. Well, this morning he just didn’t get out of bed. He was trusted to do it himself and guess what? You got it – he didn’t make it. So, here we are once again – facing the possibility of him losing yet another job because he can’t get himself out of bed on time.
Now, we can look at my ignorance and say, “Anisa – you should’ve known better… ” and granted, there’s a good argument that this is true. We can look at Marc and say, “He knows better than to flake out and risk getting fired again.” Both perspectives are justified. And, I’m well within my rights to be upset – considering how much we’ve given to him. However, does that view, “that he knows better” help me influence the situation? Does it help me remain intentional and yet detached? NO. The assumption that he should’ve done better, only holds me in a place of disconnection, a very attached, weak, and powerless place.
Now, let’s look at this through the lens of ‘people do the best they can with the resources they have. ” With this assumption, I can move towards forgiveness. This does not mean there won’t be consequences. But, from this view, I can accept that he’s a grown man; If he chooses to be irresponsible, it’s his choice. And I can choose to continue to allow him to live in my house under those conditions or I can choose to find solutions that will help him grow and develop the necessary resources he needs to become a functional, mature, positively contributing member of society.
I find that by assuming this is true – that we all do the best we can, given the resources we have – I am instantly aligned with solutions, compassion, possibility and I allow Marc to be Marc and people to be people.
Now how about you put this into practice:
1) Consider a recent conflict in a relationship.
2) How would it have been different if you had assumed, “People Do They Best They Can With the Resources They Have”?
3) Ask Yourself: How can this assumption help my relationships in the future.
4) Write this down.
5) Now, moving forward set an intention to allow this assumption that people are ALWAYS doing the best they can given the resources they have at the time to be your default setting.
Shortly, you’ll find yourself less reactive and more accepting and influential in every relationship. I promise you’ll be amazed at how much more influence you have in every relationship when you do.
Thank you for the honor of supporting you! To join other like-minded creators and co-create your best year ever:
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Watch the other videos in this series: Lessons in Detachment (also using NLP pre-suppositions to master the law of detachment.)
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February 9, 2011
Lessons in Detachment: 3of10 Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent
Category: Audios Free Downloads,conscious creation,Creative Manifesting,Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,LOA doesn't work for me,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 11:57 am
Lessons in Detachment: Video 3 of 10 – Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent
Hello! This is Anisa Aven and this is vibrational video coaching #3 of 10 in my series – Lessons in Detachment. The Law of Detachment says you must relinquish your attachment to have your desires manifest. This means that the Essence of detachment is Equanimity – one of being centered – Faithful – Aligned – and Serene – no matter what you see or experience. Detachment can be the most troubling aspect of conscious creation. In Lessons in Detachment – we will explore exactly what it means to intentionally detach from the outcome and HOW exactly to do it. Be sure to explore all of the detachment videos and you will have a greater understanding of how to finally Let Go, and Let God… create miracles in your life.
Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself. Which brings us to the subject of this video: Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent (In NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming – this is a key presupposition – this is a BELIEF that when implemented will provide you a steady, stable, and detached foundation.
This one and the next Video/Belief in this series (video #4) will not automatically go over well or easily. There will be many arguments that this is NOT true and much evidence that could refute this idea. Perhaps you’re even saying, “what about lying, cheating, stealing, or mass murder? Are you saying that murderers have a positive intent?” No, hurting others is never a positive or acceptable behavior. And, that’s not the aim of this assumption.
However, there’s always a positive intent underneath the behavior. People believe they will gain something positive or they would NOT choose the behavior. This idea that underneath every behavior, no matter how misguided the behavior, no matter how wrong the behavior, no matter how horrific the behavior – underneath it the person has some belief that there will be a positive gain or they would not do it. Thus, this assumption that every behavior has a positive intent allows us to bypass the judgments (that cause disconnection) and bypass our reactions and instead look for the positive intent underneath the behavior. This re-focusing on the question, “what did they hope to gain from this?” shifts our perspective to one of awareness and potential compassion. When we find the positive intent, we learn to allow people to be people, and that ALLOWANCE is the art of detachment.
Okay – I’ve explained the assumption but so what? How will this help us be detached from the outcome? How will accepting this idea support us in utilizing the power of our minds and the law of attraction? The answer lies in our relationships. ALL emotional turmoil is disconnection from the Divine. And, what’s the cause of much of our disconnection – our emotional turmoil? Relationships! It’s our family, love, co-workers, neighbors and even the relationship we have with the world at large. When we are ill-equipped to understand the motives of others, we easily disconnect from source and when we are disconnected, we attach to our assumptions, our desires, our need to be right, what we believe another should or should not do, what we need from our relationship(s) etc. And ALL attachment, no matter how justified we are causes disconnection from Source. It’s this disconnection that halts our Divine Good – our ability to manifest our true desires.
The Course in Miracles says, “Forgiveness is the central theme that runs throughout salvation.” And, “Forgiveness is the key to happiness.” We cannot leverage the law of allowing without mastering the art of forgiveness. When we integrate this assumption that Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent, we easily slip into compassion and forgiveness – two necessary ingredients for connection and detachment.
This idea That Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent along with the next assumption in this series (People Do the Best they Can – be sure to watch video #4 in this series) can make a significant difference in your ability to detach from the negativity in your relationships. You will find yourself more willing to love and forgive. So, let’s talk about how to implement this idea.
First, understand that just because there’s always going to be a positive intent – some idea that there will be a pay-off to the behavior – does not mean that every behavior is the best way to fulfill a need. It is also not meant to absolve a person of their hurtful actions – they are still responsible for their choices.
Let’s apply this more deeply. For example, consider the man that cheats on his wife. What’s the positive intent under the behavior? Perhaps it’s to experience adrenaline, or the rush of getting away with something. Or since we are just guessing here – perhaps his wife is frigid or crazy or abusive and he just needs to feel alive and loved again. Now, let’s look at it from her point of view. What’s the positive intent underneath whacking her husband with a crow-bar? Perhaps it’s retribution – that internal need to stand up for ourselves, to feel important, special, powerful or acknowledged. Or perhaps she’s afraid for her children and how she will survive without him.
Now remember we are NOT ever saying the behavior is positive or the best way to fulfill our needs but we are choosing to act as if, there’s some positive intent underneath every behavior. And, by figuring this out, we can more readily inspire and create change AND practice detachment.
What about for ourselves – how do we apply this to our lives? Here’s one example, let’s say you want to lose weight, but you have a bad day and all you really want to do is have another piece of chocolate. The behavior is self-sabotaging – eating sweets while trying to lose weight, will not help your cause. However, when we look at ourselves in the mirror and we only see the behavior, it’s hard to love ourselves; we see the failure not the person.
Yet, when we look at the intention underneath the behavior, “I just want to feel better. I just want to experience the deliciousness of life.” There’s a moment there that satisfies our need for yumminess, our need for freedom, our need for attending to our inner desires without judgment, fear, or deprivation. And, by identifying THAT need – THAT positive INTENT – we can a) choose to have compassion and b) choose to find another way to meet that Need. For example, “What else can I do to experience the deliciousness of life?”
Our objective becomes LOOK for the positive intent under the behavior, find a healthy solution for meeting that need. Here’s a resource you may find helpful – to gain a better understanding of our needs, I suggest reviewing Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs. (Search online and you’ll find a visual map.)
By reviewing and studying this model you become more masterful at identifying the positive intent under the behavior. For example, when good people do bad things, often it’s a basic need (Physiological Need – Survival Need) they are trying to meet. I.E. A man steals a loaf of bread to feed his family.
Perhaps, a woman betrays her husband trying to experience more love. Or a philanderer betrays a mate trying to experience the need for achievement or conquest. Our objective is to preserve that intent (that need) by attending to it in a healthier manner and not only can we change our personal behavior without loss but we gain the ability to experience compassion and forgiveness – essential ingredients for practicing the law of detachment.
Here’s an exercise for you: Consider a past transgression against you. Re-frame it using this new assumption. Ask yourself: What was the need or positive intent they were trying to fulfill? Knowing now that they were trying to fill a need, albeit poorly, how would I feel if I had that need?
And, be sure to apply this idea to yourself as well. Extend this exercise to consider a past mistake/ poor choice that you made. Re-frame it using this new belief. Ask yourself: What was the need I was trying to fill? Knowing now that I was just trying to fill a need, what options do I have for filling that need with a more positive behavior?
Be sure to watch the other videos in this series: Lessons in Detachment (also using NLP pre-suppositions to master the law of detachment.)
Video 1: The Map is Not the Territory
Video 2: There’s no Failure, Only Feedback
Video 3: Behind Every Behavior Lies a Positive Intent
Video 4: (coming week of 2/22/11) People Do the Best They Can, With the Resources They Have
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January 18, 2011
How to Enact the Law of Detachment (Video)
Category: Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,limiting beliefs,LOA doesn't work for me,Videos — Anisa @ 10:59 am
How to Enact the Law of Detachment
Watch the video below:
What you’ll learn:
- The difference between being AT THE EFFECT of life VS. being AT CAUSE
- How to identify attached language that is counter-creative to your dreams
- How to create a detached attitude that supports your law of attraction efforts
- What you are currently doing wrong with the law of attraction (if it’s not working for you, you really want to learn why.)
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September 22, 2010
How to Infuse Certainty into your dreams for successful manifesting.
Category: Attract Prosperity,Audios Free Downloads,conscious creation,Creative Manifesting,law of attraction,limiting beliefs,LOA doesn't work for me,Videos — Anisa @ 10:32 am
Certainty is pure faith that no matter WHAT you see or WHAT you witness or WHAT you hear – ALL is WELL and ALIGNED with The Divine Order.
Certainty is understanding that it is impossible for you to have any wants, needs, or unfulfilled desires. It is IMPOSSIBLE for the Divine Order to NOT support your highest and best good; your most dominant dreams and desires.
In the video coaching segment, I ask you to do an exercise to illustrate how doubts – even one doubt can weaken your entire system, while intentional confidence and conscious certainty, can make all the difference to the fulfillment of your desire.
World class athletes know the power of certainty, they understand what happens when doubt and fear are allowed to pervade their thoughts in critical moments. It’s the meaning of the phrase, ‘he choked.’ It’s what happens when we are choking on our own self-conscious thoughts and doubts and allow those fears to cause us to break-down in confidence in the moment and fumble the ball, miss the shot, etc.
One doubt – one fear – can be lethal if it happens at the right time/moment.
An exercise:
- Find/create a photo/collage that represents what you want.
- Look at it and take notes about how it makes you feel (both negatively and positively.)
- Then, intentionally CHOOSE more faith/certainty/confidence.
- If you can’t find faith – then use Emotional Freedom technique to eliminate the doubt.
Be sure to add your comments/feedback below! I have some ideas for additional Certainty vibrational video instructions… I’ll post those over the next few weeks and will attend to your questions, if you post them below. Thank you!
September 6, 2010
How Does the Law of Attraction relate to Blessings in Disguise?
Category: Conscious Evolution,law of attraction,limiting beliefs,LOA doesn't work for me — Anisa @ 8:50 am
How does the law of attraction relate to blessings in disguise?
Q: I found myself wondering what, from your perspective,
prevents you from dealing with negative experience in the
way that your mother did? I am deeply interested to know
the answer for personal reasons I do not know how to put in
words at present. It interests me because you seem to be
suggesting that it is something about ‘different make-up’ or
something, & not a matter of choice – but you also say that
you believe it is a choice your mother made a long, long
time ago. Or do you mean that it is harder for some people
to make that choice? If so, why do you think that is? What
is it that ‘makes the difference’ do you think?
I am not sure if I have misunderstood what you have written,
& would really appreciate your thoughts about this. – Love,
Ama
Answer: All of my life challenges are blessings in disguise.
Let me explain…
I think you’re asking why do some of us have so much more
trouble than others?
And, why do some of us have a more difficult time going
through challenges than others?
(My friend A is referring to last week’s eZine, “I can’t
believe I drowned my honey’s pizza” about my lapse into
previous patterns even though I’ve done all this work. Link
at the bottom of this article.)
I want to clarify my comment, “I wasn’t built that way.” I
was flippant and did not mean to suggest that we are born
with a predestined blueprint. While I do believe in the
possibility of karma as an influential factor, I do not
believe in a karmic debt that controls our lives. The
distinction for me is the difference in our soul’s calling
being controlled by a pre-ordained agenda (karmic debt) vs.
influenced by pre-selected, pre-birth soul path (karmic
influence).
Karmic influence is akin to calling ahead for take-out.
Between worlds, I sat in front of the life-values menu and
circled a few that I believed would equip me best.
I imagine it went something like this…
Soulmate G: “So, ‘nee…” (That’s my nickname) “You gonna go
back or stay around here?”
Anisa: “What? Of course, I’m going back – I’m nowhere near
done! What about you?”
Soulmate G: “Naw… I’m thinking I’ll hang out on this side
and see if I can’t help those zany humans from this plane.”
Anisa: “Wow, that’s cool. Hey! That means you’ll be there
when I need you too! And, I’m sure I’m going to need lots
of help this time. I’ve got some big plans for what I want
to do.”
Soulmate G: “I’ll be here for you – definitely. What plans
you have?”
Anisa: “Well… I don’t know exactly what or how it will play
out – but I really feel this compelling desire to do
something BIG this time. I really want my life to have a
profound impact and make a difference. There’s some crazy,
messed up stuff happening down there right now. I gotta get
in there and see if I can help straighten things out in some
small way. I don’t know if I can but I have to try. It
would be so awesome to see if I can help that planet return
to love. I get this incredible HIGH just thinking about
it!”
Soulmate G: “I knew you were going to say that. Sooooo many
are returning right now with the same mission – big plans to
help the humans make that global shift. And, what with all
the innovations that are going to happen there over the next
50 years… it’s really possible. But, I hate to be the
bearer of bad news…
Anisa: “Ohh… Here comes the but…”
Solmate G: “But, you know you’ll have to go through and see
some terrible things, right? I mean you’re prepared for
that, if that’s what it’s going to take, right?”
Anisa: “Prepared? Ha! I don’t know that I’m prepared – I
mean who’s ever really prepared for pain?!? But, I’m
thinking I’ll put in some intentions to go through “just
enough” to equip me properly. Since I can’t take all my
memories and wisdom consciously into this next life
adventure, I’ll have to experience opportunities to remember
who I really am and regain my wisdom. And, I don’t want to
wait until I’m older to get it together, so that means I’ll
have to have a childhood that gives me the opportunities to
learn.”
Soulmate G: “Indeed. You’ll have to re-learn that you are
unlimited and have a huge capacity for love. You’ll have to
remember that we are connected and that you have unlimited
resources accessible; you’ll have to remember that you are
not alone but that the Divine always has your back. I hope
you get that quickly… I’m gonna miss you if you don’t!”
Anisa: <Ha ha… > “Yeah… I hope I get it quickly too… it’d be
so cool to just pop-out knowing I’m unlimited and just stay
that way no matter what happens.” <We laugh and then I take
a deep breath.> “But, we both know that’s not likely. I
mean I’m not choosing to be the Dalai Lama!” <We laugh>
Soulmate G: “I sort of envy you… you get to taste all that
contrast and all that passion. It’s going to be so
delicious. Okay, so what life-values are you going to
choose?”
Anisa: “I really think I’m going to have to choose the big
ones this time. The planet is really disconnected right
now, so if I’m going to make it count, I’ve got to choose
the highest values I can. I’m thinking I’ll need to master
forgiveness, compassion, and resilience for sure.”
Soulmate G: <cringing grin> “Wow… you’re not choosing the
easy ones are you?!”
Anisa: ” Erghh…. I know… and I can’t lie. I wish it could
be easier this time -but I absolutely don’t want to miss a
growth opportunity just for the sake of easy. Making a
difference is more important to me than having it easy.
I’ll manage whatever life brings me so long as at the end of
the day I’ll be able to fulfill my mission.”
Soulmate G: “What other values do you think you’ll need to
remember?
Anisa: “Well… since I’m sure I’ll have to develop other
skill-sets along the way, I’m going to need patience,
persistence, flexibility and resourcefulness.”
Soulmate G: “Ahhh… persistence. Did you choose that one
last time? I did – and ouch! The only way to learn to be
persistent is to be knocked down. And, knocked down a lot!
I remember I had to force myself back up over and over
again, sometimes it paid off but persistence isn’t an easy
one either.”
Anisa: <Nodding in agreement.> “I guess I don’t have to know
all the values I’m to learn so long as at the end of my life
I’ll be able to look back and say I made a difference. I
made my life count. I can leave this planet knowing I lived
my life to the fullest and fulfilled my mission. I learned
my lessons quickly, put them to good use and left the planet
better off than when I started.”
Soulmate G: “Beautiful. Well, remember to close your eyes
and listen. I’ll always be here for you; guiding you,
loving you, inspiring you, and whispering in your ear. You
are loved and supported. You are on your Divine Right
Path.”
Anisa: “Thanks. I love you too. Okay… I’ve got a train to
catch! See ya! Whoo hooo!”
I’ve thought a great deal too about why my personal growth
journey has included some disturbing traumas and violations.
I have shared some of my life challenges in past articles
and inside my programs to make a point, but feel that my
point today is not that I’ve had these horrible life
experiences and managed to succeed in spite of them, but
that on a deeper, soul-purpose level I understand that this
was a chosen path; a path that was required for me to do the
work I do today.
One example always bubbles to the surface whenever I think
about my life experiences and how they help me make a
difference today. About 10 years ago, I had the honor of
coaching a teenage girl (we’ll call her Callie). Callie had
an extremely challenging childhood, was skipping school,
experimenting with drugs and engaged in very risky behavior.
I was able to relate to some of her experiences and choices
because I had been through a similar time myself. I was
able to reach her in a special way because I understood and
I did not judge.
After working together for about 3 months,
my client’s grandmother showed up on my doorstep with tears
in her eyes. I was so afraid that something had happened.
She threw her arms around me and said, “Thank you. I don’t
know what kind of magic you performed but I have my
granddaughter back. I love you.” Callie is now in her late
twenties and has said to me, “When I say you saved my life -
I mean it. I was seriously thinking of leaving this world.”
If I never make a difference for any other person or cause
in my life, I will still feel like it was worth it. Every
challenge that I experienced growing up equipped me with the
right compassion at the right moment to make a difference to
Callie.
My answer to the question, “Why did you choose more
difficult life experiences?” is because I wanted my life to
make a difference. I want to have a profound impact on this
planet and leave it a better place. And, my pathway to do
this is through coaching, writing, and sharing spiritual
principles. Without my ‘rough patches’ I would have had no
reason to grow and learn this transformational stuff!
I believe we choose on a soul level to experience certain
lessons as a means of preparation. I also understand that
growth never occurs without a reason and change rarely
occurs without pain. (Why would we close the window if it
wasn’t hot or cold? Why would we get up and get a job
unless the pain of not having one inspired us?)
“Nobody’s life is entirely free of pain and sorrow. Isn’t it
a question of learning to live with them rather than trying
to avoid them? The greater part of human pain is
unnecessary. It is self-created as long as the unobserved
mind runs your life. The pain that you create now is always
some form of non-acceptance, some form of unconscious
resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the
resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level,
it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain
depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment,
and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified
with your mind.” - Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide
to Spiritual Enlightenment, (New World Library, 1999)
I also want to address quickly the question, “why do you not
choose to deal with negativity as your mother did”? There
are plenty of times when I too deal with negativity with
extreme flow, love, and kindness. And, times when my lesson
of “comprehension” or “compassion” or “sacrifice” or
“selflessness” or whatever value was up for bid that day
required me to fall out of my flow and fight the situation.
It’s all good as we cannot get it wrong and we’ll never get
it done. (Love this Abraham paraphrased quote! )
When spiritual seekers get to that enlightened place of
understanding that “It’s all good, all the time”, weathering
storms simply becomes a matter of flexing and flowing. We
do not stand in judgment with terms such as “that’s good”
and “that’s bad” and “that’s right” and “that’s wrong”.
Instead, we stand in awe as we wander curiously what
adventurous road will unfold next.
“If I had a formula for bypassing trouble, I would not pass
it round. Trouble creates a capacity to handle it. I don’t
embrace trouble; that’s as bad as treating it as an enemy.
But I do say meet it as a friend, for you’ll see a lot of it
and had better be on speaking terms with it.” ~Oliver
Wendell Holmes
For me, it is not about the pain of the traumas now but
about what these wounds have given me in the way of
fortitude and wisdom for fulfilling my bigger purpose.
It’s about seeing that the ever-flowing continuum of life
dictates that each of our challenges, when embraced, are the
experiences that become blessings in disguise when applied
to our life purpose.
I look forward to hearing of your success! (Please post
your questions and comments – I’ll try to answer them in
future morsels.)
To read last week’s article, “Find the linchpin” (also known as I drowned my honey’s pizza.)
July 30, 2010
I Feel Guilty for Having So Much When So Many Are Suffering
Category: conscious creation,Conscious Evolution,Conscious Leadership,global transformation,law of attraction,LOA doesn't work for me — Anisa @ 6:07 pm
Dear Anisa,
Last evening I watched Ann Curry visit one of the little
towns in Ohio where people are starving, children are ill
and dirty and have no food. The whole town seems to have
lost their livelihood and is ill-equipped by skill or
education to do much else. Jobs seem temporary when they do
come and even with the little income, the current economy
and abandonment to foreign resources leaves minimal options
for most. The town featured is not the only place where
poverty in the midst of surrounding luxury sharply
contrasts, but many of those featured were middle class
citizens with jobs and homes at one time.
I look at who I am, what I have, what I do on a daily basis
and I am so blessed. But I also feel a huge sense of guilt
and sadness….I cannot factor in the LOA and the ability to
create and how these concepts are not utilized…If we make
this work for us, why doesn’t it work for everyone? Is it
lack of awareness? I would like your thoughts on this as I
struggle. – Karen
A:
Thank you for your heartfelt sharing and question. I too am
finding myself more and more stirred by what’s happening
around the world and by something I can only describe as an
inner awakening. I sense that we are being called forth,
compelled by our connected sense of wholeness to do
something more, to fulfill a greater purpose and to co-
create a better, more conscious and harmonious world.
The challenges we face (sans excessive climate change) have
always been present. However, for the first time in
history, we are conscious of our creative powers and our
interconnectedness. The number of people awakening to a
world beyond survival, maintenance, selfish ideals and
materialism is reaching a critical mass – a tipping point
leaning in the direction of a conscious revolution and
intentional evolution. From my perspective, there’s a reason
why we are more acutely aware of the tragic conditions now
than we were previously – it’s part of the Divine Plan;
calling us forth to action and ultimately global
transformation.
I really want to make this point – so let me say it another
way. The fact that we are aware of those that are suffering
(in that small town in Ohio or anywhere else on the planet)
AND the fact that they are suffering are both active
partners in the Divine Plan to awaken us to our roles and
responsibilities as conscious creators born to co-create a
better world.
The message is not just coming from those of us who are
untouched by the financial crisis, for example, but also
from those that are in the middle of it. And, it’s not just
that the Universal Principles don’t work for them. It’s
that the Universal Laws are at work launching a higher
purpose!
The following excerpt from my article, “Why Bad Things
Happen to Good People” does not satisfy our need for a neat
and tidy explanation, but perhaps you too can find peace in
the consistency of the Universal Laws:
“….combining the principle of teleology with the many layers
of consciousness we find answers. I’m not suggesting the
answers are satisfactory or comforting, but they are at
least answers that are congruent with what we believe about
the Universal Laws of Creation. Consider, for example, the
evolutionary changes that, as far as I can tell, always
ensues chaos, destruction and tragedy. We can’t help but
wonder if somehow super-intentions along with the multiple
layers of consciousness were at work inspiring the end
result?
Viktor Frankl, considered one of the most profoundly
influential psychiatrists of our time wrote in his book,
Man’s Search for Meaning:
“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men
who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away
their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number,
but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken
from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms–to
choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to
choose one’s own way.” (-Viktor Frankl, M.D., Ph.D., (March
26, 1905 – September 2, 1997) was an Austrian neurologist,
psychiatrist, and Holocaust survivor.)
Imagine for a moment that Victor Frankl’s story, listed as
one of the ten most influential books in America, had never
happened? Is it possible that the Divine Order (possibly his
soul-choice) inspired not only his Nazi concentration camp
experience but his survival as a match to his higher
calling; a match to a super-intention? If his life purpose
was to arouse the spiritual liberation of millions of souls
that found his work then who are we to say that what
occurred for him was not a match?”
I am one of the millions that have been transformed by his
story. And, although it’s really difficult to accept that
pain/suffering may be required to awaken, or to find
liberation, I find peace in the fact that there really is a
Divine Plan that we cannot see. And, yet… maybe as we
awaken to the call, we really do see it because we have an
important role to play?
Even the invention of the internet was called forth from our
collective desire, even before we were aware of it, to have
instant and immediate access to knowledge and our global
community. The internet is the out-picturing of what we, in
the conscious culture, might imagine the “Akashic records”
would look like, if we had to draw out the architectural
design, for example. We now have access to anyone, anywhere
on the planet at any time and instant access to any and all
forms of knowledge, history, innovations, movements, news,
etc.
We are so intimately connected with our brothers and sisters
around the globe, there’s now an endless supply of
opportunities for not only personal fulfillment and global
contribution but also the 24-7 removal of our ignorance and
obliviousness with the onslaught of ever-streaming bad news.
It’s gloriously and heinously at our fingertips at all
times.
Underneath it all, we’ve always known about the suffering.
Somewhere on our planet there has always been someone(s)
suffering through persecution, war, genocide, extreme
poverty, violence, starvation, hunger, lack, illness, and
all manners of emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual
anguish. But now, we are not only aware of the suffering
we are poised to make the decision between defeat by
darkness or intentional advancement by illumination.
Here’s the exciting part – We are the Change-makers. We are
the awakened. We are the ‘chosen’ ones – not because we’ve
been chosen, but because we have chosen to awaken. Many of
us, who have much to be grateful for, have utilized the
power of our minds for personal gain and fulfillment. We’ve
read the books, attended the seminars, and invested millions
of dollars on personal growth, self-development, and
spiritual enlightenment.
And, we absolutely get to be grateful and proud of our
accomplishments. It has been a necessary part of our
journey to create wealth, comfort, and full bellies. When
people stay in ‘survival’ mode, they are less capable of
creative activism. We HAD to accept our unlimitedness and
manifest the cars, and the comforts, in order to experience
the possibilities of expansiveness. There’s zero shame in
achieving prosperity, even while those around us suffer, so
long as we realize that at some point our prosperity will be
meaningless and burdensome unless we expand and grow into
the ‘Enlightened Species’ we were born to become. This
enlightened species will not only have personal fulfillment
and abundance but will join together in one collective
spirit to transform our world’s problems.
I’ve heard Barbara Marx Hubbard, world-renowned futurist and
evolutionary leader speak of the mass traumas and global
crises that face us as “evolutionary drivers.” These events
are not without purpose but instead are propelling us -
driving us towards becoming what she calls “Universal
Humans.”
We are the Universal Humans being awakened to our incredible
potential as evolved, conscious, congruent, compassionate,
intentional, innovative, and co-creative species destined to
create a new and better world.
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