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We were born with the unlimited potential to intentionally create (use the law of attraction) to manifest all of our heart's desires. Together, as Conscious Leaders guided by the Divine, we have the Mind Power necessary to co-create a sustainable, harmonious, peaceful, and prosperous world.  And, we can do this while also attracting and creating a passionate, loving, rich, healthy life with all of our personal dreams fulfilled.

January 5, 2012

Affirmations Work: Succeed with Your New Year’s Resolutions by Mind-Washing – with Affirmations!

Category: Affirmations,Attract Opportunities,Attract Prosperity,attract relationship,Audios Free Downloads,law of attraction,Videos — Anisa @ 5:58 pm

Happy New Year!

I LOVE this time of year!  The energy of change, growth, renewed excitement about goals and what lies ahead… I love getting recharged over the holidays and then using January to launch full force  into my new year.  I do this by going over my goals, setting out new mind-maps around what I want to achieve and re-aligning my affirmations for the year.

  • What do I want to create now?
  • What was great about last year that I want to appreciate and expand?
  • What will help me to expand my consciousness and create an even better new year?
  • What new adventures do I want to manifest?
  • What’s my next level of prosperity, love, contribution, fitness, etc. that I want now?

I ask the questions and allow my heart to answer.  Then, I write out affirmations that specifically appreciate ALREADY achieving and living the very thing I now want to create.

Here’s a video with a LONG list of powerful affirmations for many different areas of life (Health, Wealth, Love/Relationships, family, parenting, personal/mental/spiritual growth, global evolution, etc.) I hope you enjoy it and be sure to create your own:

And, here’s a list of affirmations for you to pick/choose from:

Affirmations and Positive Statements absolutely work!

 

If they didn’t, then they would not have stood the test of time for thousands of years; nor would every mystic and every spiritual teacher that has ever lived have been consistent with this same Truth, “Be mindful of your words for they are powerful.”

 

Affirmations are simple.  Simply say what you want as if you already have it.  Then, as your confidence picks up, stretch yourself to the next level of belief by asking for just a wee bit more!

 

A couple of quick do’s:

 

-Do state affirmations in the present tense – NOW.

-Do keep them short and meaningful for you.

-Do reach for as much as you can believe while not going so far that you doubt the possibility.

-Do focus on the positive of what you want, not the negative of what you don’t want.

– Start with I or I AM; include positive emotions such as, “I am grateful.”

-When necessary, you may DENY the negative that you do not want during times of transition.  In other words, if you KNOW you are doubtful and you can’t speak positively without the feeling of doubt, then DENY the negative by REFUSING to accept it.  It’s perfectly acceptable to REFUSE to accept ‘this poverty’, ‘this ailment’, ‘this failure’.  Eventually, however, you’ll want to get over the transition period and focus only on the positive outcome you intend.

– Do use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to remove all doubt.

 

Here are some affirmation examples:

 

Examples of Health Affirmations:

 

I put my desires and health first.  I take care of myself.  I honor my time.

I am motivated and inspired to work out regularly and consistently.

I love to exercise.  I thrive on moving the energy.  I feel good when I work out.  I make exercise a priority and it’s effortless effort!

There is nothing more important than my physical health.  It is a way of life.

I like the way I look and feel in any and all of my clothes.

I feel and act trim and energetic at all times.

I enjoy eating healthy and take time to plan my meals.  I choose the food that makes my body celebrate.

I eat fresh, raw, whole, organic fruits & vegetables frequently.

I enjoy preparing my meals and snacks.  I always have healthy snacks readily available.

My skin is smooth and young and glowing with health.

I cleanse my body and release refined sugar.

I have a habit of educating myself on the effects of sugar and draw a book about this into my life.

 

Examples of affirmations to specifically heal a portion of your body: (Knee example)

Regarding my Knee: I commit to:

I focus on the truth that my knee is perfect and healthy right now.

My perception of myself is the only thing that needs to be healed.  Any evidence that I’m less than optimally healthy is a meaningless illusion whose purpose is to distort reality.

I choose to commit to healing my knee.

I do medical hypnosis on my knee every night before I go to sleep.

I exercise my knee regularly.

I turn all my fears over to God.

I acknowledge healing happens when the sufferer no longer sees any value in pain.

Decisions are of the mind, not the body.  There is no gain to me at all in this knee problem.

My knee is strong, stable, reliable, flexible and active.  I now release all fears about this.

 

 

 

 

A Prayer example:

Universe – God – Help me know the Truth of my wholeness; the Truth of my Divine health and inspire me to take action to heal; and to allow healing to occur.

God, work your magic through me as I focus on healing myself.  Shift me and help me to be open to feeling your loving energy.

Jesus, Master Healer, please assist me in this healing.  I allow that Christ Conscious energy to flow through me at all times.

 

EMOTIONS:

I allow myself to feel, express and honor my full range of emotions and I express them freely and in the moment.

I no longer repress or deny my feelings ever again.  I claim my right to a broad range of emotions, now!

God, help me to say “no” lovingly and truthfully.

I communicate my boundaries clearly and lovingly and say no when I want to say no.

 

PERSONAL TIME:

I honor my time.

When I am inspired, I say “yes” and when I am not inspired, I say “no.”  I allow myself to say no without guilt and without excuse.

 

MATERIAL:

I delight in my wonderful adventures around the Globe.  I’ve traveled from shore to shore and I’m delightfully open to more!

I gratefully acknowledge my remarkable real estate savvy.  I’ve purchased homes in a variety of different locations.  All of which appeal to any number of my interests.  I own waterfront, mountain-top, suburban, and urban properties.

I so thoroughly enjoy my Meditation Room.

 

SPIRITUAL:

My primary intent is to realize the presence of God within.  It is not I alone that creates; but the consciousness of Spirit within that is my master creator.

The pursuit of my spirit atonement is my primary purpose in life.

I meditate daily and it’s fun, effortless, natural and an essential part of my everyday life!

I read and affirm my affirmations daily.

I journal regularly.

I seek peace first.

I participate in a spiritual support group every week.

Peace Reigns Supreme in My Life, now and always!

I seek atonement. I am gratefully and completely connected to the power and the presence of God at all times.

 

 

COMMUNITY AND FRIENDS:

I experience and draw into my life many caring, loving, spiritually open and uplifting friends.

I uplift and inspire and support my friends in a loving way.

I am grateful for my fabulously aware friends.

My friends are kind, loving, giving, honoring, integritous, and like-minded.

My circle of friends is ever-expanding to match my highest ideal for intellectual and spiritual stimulation.

 

 

FAMILY:

I always speak lovingly and truthfully to my family.

I uplift and support my children and other members of my family.

I support my children mentally, spiritually and emotionally and continue to assist them to grow yet I allow them to make their own decisions.

I am an awesome parent!  I intend to be the best mom/dad I can be! I intend to continue being an aware conscious parent!

I am a Conscious, Aware, Loving, Kind, Creative, Attentive and Consistent Mom/Dad. My children are becoming conscious, self-regulating, loving, aware, conscious, spiritual, kind, considerate, well mannered, co-creators who develop and grow in alignment with their highest path of personal growth and fulfillment.

 

 

 

CAREER/BUSINESS: 

I am grateful to have the means and resources to exert minimal effort for maximum returns.

We attract spiritual seekers that are a perfect match to our life purpose and financial goals.

Our website is acknowledged and receives awards and accolades for it’s content, design and community.

Our website explodes with popularity and work of mouth travels.  People are telling everyone they know!

The upkeep on our website is a fun and easy process.

I am grateful to know receive in excess of $5 Million for my share.

I am grateful that I easily and effortlessly attract all the resources I require, when I require them, to do what I want, when I want!

 

RELATIONSHIPS:

I have a loving, peaceful, considerate, thoughtful, compatible, supportive, communicative, easy, understanding, passionate and joyful relationship.

I trust myself to make decisions wisely for my highest good and I honor my boundaries firmly and in every situation.

I am thankful for my lessons.  Now, I choose a relationship that is mutually supportive and uplifting on every level.

My mate uplifts me to a heightened place of prosperity consciousness.

I have all that I desire without compromise.

I am deserving and worthy of an awesome relationship.

God, help me heal my past and help me forgive myself and my ex-partners for anything I may have judged us for.  Help me to know we did the best we could, given our intellectual tools and state of enlightenment at that time.

Help me release my need to attract codependent partners and to honor my worth – and attract a healthy interdependent relationship.

Please help me see instantly and with crystal clear vision the compatibility of any partner that may enter into my life as a potential mate with my highest desires in mind.

 

FINANCIAL:

I am set free from the past and my financial mistakes of the past.

I now face the present and future wise, secure and unafraid.

I am grateful to receive $100,000 per month – free and clear! (NOTE: Use the amount that stretches you but does is not full of doubt. When I first started this, I was only able to imagine $15.00 an hour or about $1200.00 per month!)

I release the burden of debt to the Christ within and I am free, clear and paid in full at all times.

I now give and receive freely.

Money is energy representing my inflow and outflow.

Abundance is my Birthright and anything less than prosperity is an illusion.  I reject the illusion of poverty and choose abundance, financial freedom and success.

I am the embodiment of wealth.

God, take away all inequity and deliver to me the truth of my being as a prosperous, rich child of a loving Father.

The Universe spoils me!

In the past, I was uncomfortable receiving, but now I recognize God’s gifts and I now accept them gracefully and peacefully.

I attract people that help me grow, and I now accept all loving gifts.

All of my financial fears and questions are now put to rest easily.

When the right home appears, the perfect financial means and/or lender is instantaneously available.

I am Prosperous!  I am grateful to now have a net worth in excess of 60.6 Million dollars! (NOTE: Again, use the amount that is the most realistic stretch for you at this time, while stretching yourself a little more as often as possible)

I purchase anything I desire, when I desire it in cash.

My obligations are always paid in full and in advance easily and effortlessly.

I am an abundant child of a Rich Father in Heaven – Prosperity is my Birthright and I claim it now.

I have more than enough to spare and to share.

My income far exceeds all of my wants, needs and desires.

I effortlessly give 10% of my income to where I feel spiritually fed and this feeds my soul and supports my life.

 

 

PERSONAL GROWTH:

I take time to enjoy the beauty and goodness that surrounds me.

I maintain peace of mind in all situations.

I forgive myself quickly and easily, learning my lessons and letting go.

I look for the blessing in every event.

I experience boundless enthusiasm and joy in my life.

I now radiate unlimited love to others.

I live a life that flows peacefully.

I respond positively and enthusiastically to my inner guide, having and maintained close contact with that part of me.

I am filled with creative ideas to benefit mankind.

I act on these ideas without hesitation.

I experience a lot of laughter!

I have focus.

I live a life where I am relaxed and free of stress.

I live my dreams.

I act with confidence and determination.

I strongly attract that which is good and uplifting into my life.

 

Now, remember that affirmations planted on toxic soil are less effective than a positive statement planted on healthy, confident soil.  Remember, if you are doubtful about something you want or an affirmation, use Emotional Freedom Technique to clear the doubt.  Then, return to your positive intent!

Since many will set a New Year’s resolution to lose weight and get fit, here are a few extra Health and Weight Loss Affirmations: (And, if you’re serious this year, may I suggest my Get Fit and Fabulous with EFT & LOA program… visit here.) 

 

I feel healthy, strong and energetic.

 

My body converts everything I eat into energy and beauty.

 

I CAN take off weight and I am doing it right now.

 

I am in total control of what I eat.

 

I eat only what I choose to eat and I only eat when I am hungry.

 

Food nourishes me.

 

I am now in control of my weight.

 

I am now becoming slimmer and healthier.

 

I love myself no matter what I weigh.

 

I love myself and this allows me to love others and accept their love.

 

What I eat is automatically processed by my body and changes into energy.

 

I maintain my chosen weight.

 

What I eat turns to energy and health.

 

The fruits and vegetables that I choose to eat are pleasurable and aid me in becoming slimmer.

 

Love is always available to me.

 

I love myself, whether I am eating healthfully or not.

 

I am taking off weight and gaining in beauty.

 

I deserve the pleasures I receive from being slim, healthy and attractive.

 

I now allow myself to let my natural good looks show.

 

It is safe for me to be my ideal weight.

 

I am at peace with myself and with the Universe.

 

The more I love my body, the more lovable it becomes.

 

It is easy for me to love my body.

 

I forgive myself for eating when what I really wanted was love.

 

I now allow myself to feel safe in accepting love.

 

I now accept the responsibility for my weight.

 

I am now prepared to create the kind of body I choose.

 

As I free myself of blame, I free myself of excessive weight.

 

I am in control of my mind, my body and my life.

 

My body converts food into loving energy.

 

I love how my body is getting slimmer and healthier with each passing moment.

 

The more I love my body, the more it conforms to the weight and shape I desire.

 

I am now and forever at peace with my body.

 

When I am eating, I pay full attention to the experience of eating.

 

I feel no need to eat merely because others are eating.

 

I chew my food thoroughly.

 

I eat only what I want when I want it and only when I am relaxed.

 

I love myself as I am, regardless of my weight.

 

I mentally press the reject button on any negative images, thoughts or feelings about my body.

 

I now release all fear, blame, guilt, sadness, anger and resentment towards myself and others concerning my weight!

 

I regard food as a blessing.  It is meant for me to enjoy and maintain my health.

 

I think of food only as a positive influence on my life.

 

I love how good it feels to let go and free myself of resentment, blame and guilt.

 

I choose to stay young, energetic and healthy.

 

I am strong and healthy.

 

My body is a beautifully functioning vehicle of my mind and spirit.

 

I appreciate the years of faithful service my body has given me.

 

I will only eat and drink what is appropriate for me to release weight and maintain my perfect shape.

 

My metabolism is influenced by my thoughts, and I now direct it to function in such a way as to promote my good health and desired weight and shape.

 

Although in the past I may have eaten to fill an emptiness inside, I now fill myself with love for myself and others.

 

I am nourished by loving energy that is always available to me.

 

I am lovable and loving at any weight.

 

My body is becoming exactly the way I want it to be.

 

All excess fat is disappearing and melting from my body as I think this thought.

 

My body is conforming to the shape I have chosen.

 

I have a very healthy, youthful and attractive glow and appearance, externally and internally.

 

I am in better condition and shape than I have been in a long time, and it feels good to allow myself to experience the positive emotions that go along with this end result.

 

I look forward to, and get a great deal of pleasure from moving and stretching my body daily.

 

I feel the satisfaction, fulfillment, confidence and self esteem that go along with being the way I choose to be.

 

As my weight comes off, I feel rejuvenated, refreshed and revitalized.

 

I am filled with feelings of enthusiasm, well being and excellent health, feeling more secure and confident every day.

 

I know I am in control of my weight, and I feel a great amount of inner strength and energy growing with each passing moment.

 

All changes begin with the thought, the inner reality, and work towards the outer reality.

 

I understand that when I visualize the end result, there are trillions of chemical reactions happening in my body.  The thought comes first.  Physical matter forms around the thought.

 

My brain, body and subconscious mind are an intelligent guidance system, and work in perfect harmony.  This intelligent system knows automatically how to release weight easily and effortlessly.

 

My subconscious mind has a blueprint of me in perfect health, balance and integrity within my body.  All I have to do is remind this system and accept now.

 

Written & Copyrighted by ©Anisa Aven.

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June 23, 2011

How to Consciously Create When Another Has to Change (pt.2)

Category: attract relationship,Audios Free Downloads,emotional freedom technique,law of attraction,Surrogate EFT,Videos — Anisa @ 7:05 pm

Q: How to consciously create when your Dream (or Wish) depends on someone else’s cooperation.

Last week I shared with you the answer to our friend’s question:

Dear Anisa, I love my husband but I’m not happy….. (you can see the full article on my blog here.)
And, I promised to share an example of how to use Surrogate EFT to get what you want in your relationships, so here it is…

The Surrogate EFT Points:

  1. S – Sore Spot (or KC Karate Chop point on side of hand)
  2. EB – Inner Eye Brow
  3. OE – Outer Eye
  4. UE – Under Eye
  5. UN – Under Nose
  6. CH – Chin
  7. CB – Collar Bone
  8. UA – Under Arm
  9. RR – Right Rib
  10. H- Head (Crown Chakra)

Step 1) Surrogate EFT – Set your Intention:

“Universe/God – my intention is to create a more loving and harmonious relationship with my husband. If the words that I speak are not aligned with our mutual, highest and best good, then I ask they go forth and help someone else. I intend for this work to influence our relationship in positive ways according to our mutual desires. Thank you for this creative power and manifestation, now.”

Surrogate EFT Example:

1) SS/KC – Even though, I, John, feel frustrated that my wife is unhappy and I just can’t please her, I love and accept myself.

Even though, You, John, are neglecting your love responsibilities at home, leaving your wife feeling lonely and abandoned, you love and accept yourself anyway.

Even though, He, John, is doing the best that he can and is exhausted with work and family responsibilities, he loves and accepts himself anyway.

2) EB- I, John, feel frustrated, why can’t my wife just get off my back?

3) OE – You, John, are neglecting your wife and causing unhappiness by dismissing her needs.

4) UE – He, John, feels like he can’t possibly please everyone, so why bother trying.

5) UN – I, John, am tired of the constant nagging and unhappiness.

6) CH – You, John, are not trying hard enough and you act like you don’t even care.,

7) CB – He, John, is doing the best that he can but has too many burdens to bear.

8) UA – I, John, wish my wife would just back off and be happy with the way things are.

9) RR – You, John, are neglectful and refuse to pay any attention to your wife.

10) H- Head – He, John, is tired and frustrated and although he wants to please his wife feels like he doesn’t know how anymore.

Repeat the ‘negative’ tapping until you feel a shift towards Neutrality. Neutrality does not feel like apathy but it feels like a peaceful acceptance, “it’s all okay, even as it is.”

Then, implant the positive:

1) SS or KC – Even though I, John, feel frustrated, I am willing to do what I can to make things right.

Even though, you, John, are stretched too thin, you are willing to pay attention to your relationship and show your wife you love her.

Even though, He, John, is exhausted and doesn’t know what to do, he is willing to find creative ways that allow him to connect with his wife and restore thier romance.

2) EB – I, John, am willing and open to rekindle our marriage.

3) OE – You, John, are doing the best you can and you are open to doing what must be done to connect with your wife.

4) UE – He, John, is open and loving; thoughtful and committed to loving his wife.

5) UN – I, John, want to be inspired to show my wife more affection and attention.

6) CH – You, John, are willing and open to having more meaningful conversations with your wife.

7) CB – He, John, is creative and imaginative and feels inspired to be more attentive to his wife.

8) UA – I, John, find myself thinking more and more about how to connect, talk, and love my wife more fully.

9) RR – You, John, are getting more and more excited about rekindling your relationship with your wife.

10) H- Head He, John, is a loving and giving man. He feels inspired to pay more attention to his wife and family and feels energized and uplifted by his efforts.

I hold the vision of a renewed, loving and fun relationship for you. It is in fact, the ONLY possibility, now.

Copyright, 2011 CreataVision Enterprises, Anisa Aven.

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April 14, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: 10 of 10 Modeling the Law of Detachment

Category: law of attraction,Law of Detachment,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 4:34 pm

Quick Manifesting Morsel with Anisa Aven

Lessons in Detachment: Video 10 of 10:  A model for allowing and intentionally applying detachment.

Video 1 of 2:

Video 2 of 2:

  • What does it feel like to be willing to die?
  • What does it feel like to surrender to your worst fears?
  • What does accepting the inevitable truth that at some point someone you love will die?
  • What does it feel like to be willing to fail beyond your wildest fears?

The answer is – it feels like detachment. Not apathy.  Not indifference.

It feels like a surrendering to a Divine Plan.

It feels like the first verse of the serenity prayer in full force, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”

The purpose of these questions is not to incite fear or anxiety but to show you, through the experience of real-time emotional examples what detachment actually feels like.

Until one has tasted a strawberry, it’s impossible to really know what a strawberry tastes like.  My daughter was born a picky eater.  And, I remember when she was about four she wrinkled up her nose at the site of a strawberry and say, “I don’t like it.” I’d say, “But, you’ve never had one.  How do you know you won’t like it if you have never tried it?” She’d say, “What does it taste like?” I remember thinking, “How do I describe the taste of a strawberry? – A strawberry tastes like a strawberry, It’s not like anything else in the world; it’s unique.  So no matter how many other fruits I compare it to, it’s still different.”

That’s the challenge with teaching someone how to feel detached.  No matter how many different pathways we consider for traversing the law of detachment, the emotional experience of detachment is not LIKE any other emotion except its own.

It’s a unique road unlike any other emotional corridor.  So, until you’ve tasted a strawberry you will never know what a strawberry tastes like.  And, until you’ve tasted detachment over and over again, you will never know what detachment tastes like.

Here’s what we’ve learned about ideas and beliefs that support detachment.  And, following this recap, I will share with you one example of how these ideas applied to a real situation can bring about detachment.   My hope is that this will provide for you a model a few emotional samples and examples that you will be able to call upon when you want to taste and experience the art of allowing intentionally and on command.

The Nine Assumptions* for Practicing the Law of Detachment:

  • 1) The Map is Not the Territory.
  • 2) There’s No Failure, Only Feedback.
  • 3) Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent.
  • 4) People Do the Best They Can.
  • 5) The Law of Requisite Variety (The one with the most flexibility has the most influence.)
  • 6) Choice is Better than No Choice.
  • 7) If What you’re Doing isn’t Working, Do Something Different.
  • 8) The Meaning of Your Communication is the Response You Get.
  • 9) People have all the Resources They Need to Succeed. (& the Law of Pure Potentiality)

    *NLP Presuppositions

Now, let’s look at each one using real-life examples.

Here’s a scenario – This is Nan’s story:

Nan was passed up for a promotion about a month ago and now sees that more layoffs are looming.  She’s angry about the snub, fearful about the economy and worried about how she’ll feed her children, let alone put them through college.  She’s a single mom that has never taken a hand-out but fears she may not have a choice if she loses this job.  Her only surviving parent, her father, has symptoms of Alzheimer’s.  He has not set aside any money; has no financial means of providing for himself and just moved in.

She’s only ever worked in banking and finance and it’s a shattered industry.  She stands on the sidelines every day as her unemployed colleagues compete with thousands of other over-qualified professionals for the same underpaid, few and far between jobs.  She’s not getting any younger; she doesn’t want to go back to school and her stress level is off the charts.

She also knows that her fears and doubts are sabotaging her ability to leverage the Universal Law of Attraction.  She believes that if she could just detach and have faith, that she could consciously create a more prosperous and secure future.

But, how does she detach when there’s so many things that could go wrong, so many people depending upon her and so much at stake?

Intentional Process of Applying the Nine Assumptions for Detachment:

(Note:  While the following model can be used as a ‘technique’ for intentionally embracing detachment, this is not its only purpose.  When you adopt these assumptions, at some point they become more than a process – they become a way of life. You show up in any stressful situation full of the resources and mindset required for automatic detachment. That’s when life becomes more magical and effortless. )

Assumption 1: Nan reframes the problem with, “The Map is Not the Territory.”

“Okay, I confess!  I don’t understand everything that is happening or why it’s happening.  I don’t know why my father didn’t prepare for his future and now I’m left with the burden of having to care for him.  I don’t know why the financial industry had to be turned upside down on its ear. I don’t know what will happen to me or my children if I lose this job.  But I do know that this little map in front of me is but one small portion of the real map.  The Big U (Big Universe) may have great things in store for me and I just can’t see it because I’m staring at one little bitty portion of the roadmap.  I can’t possible see the whole picture.  I can’t possibly see all the different scenarios that could play out her and play out in my best interest.”

Assumption 2:  Nan reframes her story with “There’s No Failure, Only Feedback.

“Okay, if I accept that there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback, then I can look at my situation and respond with greater resourcefulness.  What do I know?  I know I was passed up for a promotion. Okay, it’ is what it is.  I can look at this as a failure or I can look at this as feedback.  If it’s feedback, then perhaps I can do a better job at asking my supervisors and those in charge about what areas I must develop to be indispensible.  Perhaps that’s the very reason I was passed up – so that I could ask more questions and discover how to make myself be indispensible?  Perhaps this is the wake-up call I need in order to make myself a better leader and team-player for the company?  And, perhaps if I do this then I will be secure in my job, even while others are being laid off?   Maybe this is the feedback I needed to do what I must do to create a more prosperous future?  Maybe this is the feedback I needed to consider my other options; the options outside of this volatile industry?  Perhaps it’s time for me to look at my other talents and see where else I could create prosperity and be even happier than I am here?”

Assumption 3:  Nan reframes her story with “Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent.”

“Okay, so if my boss’s decision to pass me up had a positive intent then what might it be?  Perhaps it’s to save me from the additional headache that I know that position came with?  I would have had to find better childcare; I would have traveled more and that means being away from my children.  Perhaps he thought he was saving me from failure on some level?   Perhaps he felt like the company would be better off with anther leader in that role?  And, perhaps I could embrace this information and learn from this?

Now, if my dad’s failure to plan for his future had some positive intent, what might that be?  Well, he was always very generous.  Perhaps he believed that he could show his love better by spending his money on his family sooner than later?  Perhaps he believed that he wasn’t going to live long enough to worry about retirement so he believed he needed to spend his money as it came in, in order to enjoy it more.  Or perhaps he believed that he could only make enough for retirement if he spent more money on his business and that just didn’t work out for him. Maybe I can just accept that he meant well, no matter what the consequence.

And, now, what about the economy?  If there’s a positive intent behind the financial industry’s meltdown, what might that be?  Well, that’s easy.  We all know that the financial industry needed an overhaul.  It’s common knowledge that credit default swaps and the derivatives game had to end at some point.  It’s common knowledge that the deep debt that we, as a society, have gotten ourselves into was nothing more than a house of cards waiting to fall.  Unethical business practices led to this crash and perhaps it was time to correct itself for the greater good?  Perhaps there’s a Divine Order here?  Perhaps we will come out the other side more conscious and willing to be responsible as an industry?  I will trust that there’s a positive intent here, even if I can’t understand it at this time.”

Assumption 4:  Nan reframes her story with “People Do the Best They Can.”

“If I accept that my company is doing the best it can, how does that change things?  Well, the company is hurting too. It probably is doing the best it can.  The entire industry is barely surviving and thousands and thousands are still teetering on the edge of bankruptcy due to this collapse.  If I consider the level of consciousness that this company was coming from when the industry collapsed, then I can only embrace the truth that it really is doing the best it can, given its level of consciousness, which isn’t more than a survival level to begin with.

What about my dad?  I accept that he really did do the best he could.  I accept that he just didn’t have the education to know how to save for his future.  I accept that while he had opportunities to save and prepare, he just didn’t possess the skills, the knowledge, the confidence and the foresight to do it any differently.

What about me?   I accept that while I may not always be handling this stress well, I’m doing the best I can.  I accept that although I did not get the promotion, I really was doing my best at the time.  I see where I have room for improvement.  I see that I was doing my best just as I am doing the best I can right now.  I accept that if I fail to pay for my children’s college or have to accept help down the road, so be it.  I am doing the best that I can and that will have to be good enough.  It feels good to accept myself and to accept those around me. “

Assumption 5:  Nan reframes her story with “The Law of Requisite Variety (The one with the most flexibility has the most influence.)”

“Okay… It’s time to be creative, resourceful and flexible!  I don’t know how this is all going to turn out but I’m willing to be flexible about it.  I’m willing to move dad in and trust that we’ll figure it out.  I’m willing to ask questions about being passed-over for the promotion and be flexible enough to take that feedback as information I need for my future success.  I’m willing to be flexible as I look at my industry, knowing that somehow I’ll be flexible enough to adapt, grow, change and be resourceful when and if the time comes for me to change careers.  I am flexible and I have the greatest influence because of it!”

Assumption 6:  Nan reframes her story with “Choice is Better than No Choice.”

“What options do I have?  I can be fearful or I can be faithful.  I can be scared or I can trust that the Universe has my back. I can be worried or I can hand my concerns over to the Divine Mind to handle for me.  I can be angry or I can be grateful.  I get to decide.  I do have options and I do have a choice.  I can quit or I can stay.  I can sit down and do nothing or I can stand up and command something better.  I have many, many, many choices.  In fact, new choices are revealed to me each and every day.  I choose to be grateful and I choose to know that all is well.”

Assumption 7:  Nan reframes her story with “If What you’re Doing isn’t Working, Do Something Different.”

“So… clearly the fear, worry, doubt and irritation that I’ve been displaying lately is not helping me to create anything better.  And, although I may not like it or understand it or even agree with it – my performance at work must not be working either.  If what I’m doing isn’t working, I simply need to do something else.  I want to stop trying to justify what I have been doing and why I’ve been so stressed and start looking for ways to be appreciative.  I intend to do my job differently and make myself indispensible.  I intend to appreciate the fact that I have the good fortune of taking care of my father for the last years of his life and that I get to share the idea of taking care of family, no matter what the price, with my children.  I realize that what I’ve been doing isn’t working so I now choose to do something, everything different.”

Assumption 8:  Nan reframes her story with “The Meaning of Your Communication is the Response You Get.”

“Now, if the meaning of my communication is the response I get, then I must not be communicating effectively with the Universal Mechanism!  Because what I’ve received is NOT what I really want.   How can I go about communicating what I really, really want with the Divine?  How can I communicate what I really, really want with my career and my boss?  It’s time for me to evaluate how what I’m thinking and feeling is manifesting in my life.  It’s time for me to accept that I’ve been communicating poorly and therefore I must change my message if I’m to change my circumstances.”

Assumption 9:  Nan reframes her story with, 9) People have all the Resources They Need to Succeed. (& the Law of Pure Potentiality)

“Here’s the deal  – I have all the resources I need to create the life and work I really want.  It’s my job to know what I want and the Universe’s job to deliver it.  It’s my work to accept my unlimited potential and put my time and attention upon the thoughts, beliefs, habits, and actions that SHOW the Big U, that I KNOW I’m unlimited.  It’s up to me to accept that I am a rich child of an all-providing, benevolent Mother/Father/God.  It’s my Divine Birthright to be happy, healthy, and prosperous.  I accept that I have all the time, knowledge, talent, skills, and resources to create abundance and even better opportunities in my career.

I accept that I have all the knowledge, patience, and energy required to care for my father.  I accept that I have all the resources required to not just survive the changes in our world but thrive during these times.  I accept that I have the resources and now I seek out ways to fine-tune my talents and take action upon my opportunities for growth and my opportunities for greater fulfillment.  I seize this moment and trust myself.”

By adopting these assumptions, you build into your personality an automatically detached and allowing default setting.  Eventually, you will not have to talk yourself into feeling detached; you will automatically arrive there – as a way of life.  This is when real conscious creation mastery has a chance to blossom.

To practice –

  • I invite you to take a troubling scenario in your life and apply these ideas in a systematic fashion.
  • Take an inventory of your thoughts.  Compare your thoughts with these 9 assumptions and reframe your mindset.
  • Then choose to hold steadfast to this new mindset.

You will be amazed at how quickly you can manifest something better, by shifting your focus and intentionally detaching.

I look forward to hearing of your success!

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March 30, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: Video 9 of 10 – People Have All The Resources They Need to Succeed

Category: law of attraction,Law of Detachment,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 6:53 am

Lessons in the Law of Detachment:  Video 9 of 10 – People Have All the Resources They Need  & The Law of Pure Potentiality

We are studying the law of detachment like there’s no tomorrow!  Understanding the art of allowing and the finesse of faithful detachment will make the difference between successful manifesting and unsuccessful.

Moving along to the subject of today’s lesson in detachment:  People Have All the Resources They Need (which means YOU have all the resources you need to manifest your dreams).  You are not broken or deficient but unlimited.

This idea is best embraced when we pair it with another spiritual principle – the Law of Pure Potentiality.  Deepak Chopra, in Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, calls this the first law of success – The Law of Pure Potentiality:  we are unlimited pure potentiality.  We are, in our essential state, pure consciousness.

“Pure consciousness is pure potentiality; it is the field of all possibilities and infinite creativity. Pure consciousness is our spiritual essence. Being infinite and unbounded is also pure joy. Other attributes of consciousness are pure knowledge, infinite silence, perfect balance, invincibility, simplicity, and bliss. This is our essential nature.” – Deepak Chopra, Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

People have all the resources they need to succeed.  This is an NLP presupposition (a helpful Neuro-linguistics assumption), that when embraced refocuses our attention away from ‘why we can’t have what we want’ and upon what we need to do to build the skills, capabilities, knowledge, and beliefs necessary to achieve the success we desire.

Let’s look at what happens when we believe, “I don’t have what it takes to succeed”….

A person that holds the opposite of “I have all the resources I need to succeed” has a self-esteem issue and if you have trouble manifesting something, it’s VERY likely there’s a self-esteem issue at the heart of it.  One problem of low self-esteem is being failure adverse.  It causes us to run from failure and use all failure as proof that we don’t have what it takes and thus we stop trying to succeed.  Whereas someone that believes they have the resources inside them, that just need to be developed, accepts failure and setbacks as just another step along the path towards learning.  They see failure as feedback and critical information to figuring out what will and will not work.  (See also All failure is feedback video. http://bit.ly/hTgu6D )

Let’s take weight loss.  Weight loss failure is a perfect example of what happens when people begin to believe they do not possess what it takes to achieve their ideal weight.   Weight loss is a simple equation: eat less than you expend.  Eat healthy and often, drink plenty of water, and exercise and you get weight loss.

However, most that have failed have a deep fear that maybe they ‘can’t lose weight’…. Maybe their body will not allow them to succeed at obtaining their ideal weight; maybe there’s something wrong with them and they just can’t do it.  It’s easy to understand how they could fall prey to this false and limiting belief, after repeated failures.  However, they continue to fail because they hold the idea that maybe they are not whole and unlimited but fractured and limited.  Once the “I’m not capable” idea has taken hold, it festers and becomes the reason not to make the effort again, “Why bother trying and make all that effort, if I’m just going fail?”

It’s a cycle that can only be broken by adopting the opposite belief – “I have all the resources I need to succeed.”

What about a child in school?  If the child believes they are not smart enough, this will predict how well and how far they go in school.  Versus children who are taught and told you are smart, you are capable, you can do anything you put your mind upon and effort into – can go from remedial classrooms to honors programs.

What about an employee?  The CEO that started in the mail room will tell you that first they believed in themselves, whether they had evidence or reason to believe in themselves or not, then they worked hard, seized opportunities and never gave up until they made it.

The gifts required for ALL success – inspiration, motivation, creativity, resiliency, confidence, persistence, flexibility, intuition, willingness, etc. are inside each one of us, without exception.  We were given these gifts at birth.   We are All worthy of and deserving of success simply because we were born.  That’s what the Law of Pure Potentiality is saying.  We do not need to DO something or Become someone else in order to be worthy of good fortune.  We are worthy because we are Divine children of an all-providing, all-loving, Mother/Father/God.

This relates to the law of detachment because low self-esteem will cause us to be more attached to the outcome.  If we have the idea that ‘we don’t have what it takes to succeed’ then we desperately want every attempt to prove us wrong.  We want so much to be validated, to be shown that we are worthy of love and deserving of success that we look to our experiences and to others to validate us, to tell us that we are beautiful, capable, worthy and good enough.  And, as long as we need evidence of our worth, we will be attached to the outcome and shut-down our inherent and God-given talents for success; we shut down our connection with the Divine that holds all the resources we need for success.  Low self-esteem causes co-dependence and a lack of creativity, openness, a willingness to fail and inspiration (all the things that are inside of us that we need to succeed.)

There’s a Native American legend that reinforces this Truth. 

The great Creator gathered all the animals and asked for their advice.  He said, “I believe we should hide man’s treasures, until they are capable of using them more maturely.  We should hide the gifts of inspiration, motivation, creativity, and confidence.  But where do we hide them?”

The Eagle said, “Give them to me.  I will take them to the highest mountain and hide them there.”

To this the Creator said, “No.  Man will one day conquer the highest mountain and find them there.”

The Salmon said, “Give them to me.  I will take them to the deepest part of the Ocean and hide them there.”

To this the Creator said, “No.  Man will one day find the deepest part of the Ocean and find them there.”

The Buffalo said, “Give them to me.  I will take them to the magnificent plains and hide them deep within the Earth.”

To this the Creator said, “No.  Man will one day, dig deep and find them there.”

They were all confused and felt out of options.

Then, the Prairie Dog spoke up, “Why don’t we put them somewhere they will never think to look?  Put the gifts inside them.”

To this the Creator said, “Yes, indeed.  They will never think to look inside themselves.”

And, this is why our greatest gifts are buried deep within ourselves awaiting to be discovered.  All we have to do is become aware of the fact that they exist and seek them out.

We are talking about the difference between high self-esteem and low self-esteem.  You can absolutely build your self-esteem and thereby your ability to manifest, by affirming your Divine Right to a fantastic life and acknowledging your gifts.

One sure-fire way to achieve this is through journaling.  It’s easier than you may think to build high self-esteem.  The first step is simply an awareness of the importance of building your self-confidence.  Then, it’s a matter of consistent action focused on acknowledging and building your belief that you do have the resources inside of you and you are unlimited.

Put it into practice:

  1. Journal:  If I knew that I had all the resources I need to succeed what would I do differently?
  2. Journal: If I accepted my unlimited potential, how would I be different?
  3. Then use this information to create affirmations and a new mindset embracing your new belief:  Nothing is impossible for a Divine Child of God.  I accept this as my Truth, so be it. Now affirm it.  And Live it – be it.

Thank you for the honor of supporting you!  I invite you to join me and other like-minded creators in my Power Creators Club coaching program.  You can find out more at www.PCC.CreataVision.com and find other conscious creation ad intentional success videos and articles at my site  www.AnisaAven.com. Remember, you are an unlimited child of an all-providing mother, father, God – Go seize your birthright and create fantastic day.  Namaste.

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March 24, 2011

Lessons in Detachment 8 of 10: Meaning of Communication = Response You Get

Category: law of attraction,Law of Detachment,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 12:02 pm

The Law of Detachment says –>  You must relinquish your attachment to your desire, to have it manifest. Everything you desire is in vibrational harmony with the peace that comes from knowing that all is well, no matter what.  Master detachment and you will master the art of intentional creation.

This brings me to the subject of today’s lesson in detachment: The meaning of the communication is the response you get and if you want to know what you want, look at what you have.   

Let’s start with this first idea, “The meaning of communication is the response you get”, an NLP (Neuro-linguqistics programming presupposition) tells us that the meaning of our communication is not about what we intended to express as much as the response it evokes.  For example, a parent may say, “I love you” but if the child hears “I only love you when you do what I want” then the response of the parent’s communication is more important than the words the parent espouses.   By evaluating the response, a parent can become a more mindful, effective, loving, and nurturing parent.  By evaluating the response, a parent has the option of changing how they speak, communicate and behave with their child in order to support a healthier childhood that can produce a healthier, more confident adult.

You see the meaning of our communication is not about the response you intended to create as much as the response you get.  If the response you receive does not match the response you intended, you automatically know you have to change your manner of communicating.   You have feedback and valuable information that allows you to re-issue the communication intent, until the result (the response) matches what you intend. 

Now – HOW DO WE USE THIS WITH THE LAW OF ATTRACTION AND LAW OF DETACHMENT?!?! 

(I’m so glad you asked!) 😉  This applies to the law of detachment because you become more resourceful and less likely be attached to ‘being right’ or ‘one way of communicating’ or any number of limiting beliefs such as, “If they would just do what I want, then I could be happy…” for example!  Thus, you are more aligned with flow and solutions as opposed to obstacles and problems. 

This applies to the law of attraction because you can look at the response you get (both in relationships and your physical experience) and decide if the Universe ‘got’ the message you intended, or if you need to change your communication!

To clarify, words are only a small piece of the communication puzzle.  We all know that each word can be communicated and interpreted 1000 different ways.  Research has shown that 55% of our message is our body language and non-verbal elements, 38% of our message is transmitted by our paraverbal elements such as our rhythm, tone, inflection and only 7% of our message is communicated by our words.

For example, how many different ways can you say the word ‘Hello’?  Go ahead, try to say it with apathy, now say it with enthusiasm, now say it with relief.   Are you beginning to understand  that the energy underneath our words actually communicates more loudly than our words themselves?

Each Hello communicated a different set of intentions and circumstances.  It’s not just the words we speak that communicate.  It’s the essence underneath those words – it’s the context, the intention, the beliefs, the tone, inflection, innuendo, ideas, fears, doubts, etc. that send forth the communication meaning.  Thus our communication is rarely direct and clear unless we review the results – then we can assess the meaning of our communication.   This is an important message: It’s not just the words we choose that delivers the communication message.  Thus, if we want to know what we are communicating it’s important to look at the results and the reaction that we have received. 

Now, are you getting why this is important for masterful conscious creation?  Are you considering now why it’s important to look at our results to see whether or not we’ve been communicating effectively with the creative mechanism; the life force that makes all our manifesting desires come true?

What I’m about to say is an idea that is not always easily or comfortably received.  Never the less, if you can wrap your mind around this next idea, you will take your ability to consciously manifest to the next level. 

Here it is – If you want to know what you want, look at what you have.

If you want to know what you want, look at what you have. 

In a moment, I will explain why these two ideas, when combined are so important for masterful conscious creation.  The two ideas are “the meaning of your communication is the response you get” and “if you want to know what you want, look at what you have.”  But first, allow me to explain this further. 

I remember the first time I heard this idea:  If you want to know what you want, look at what you have.  I was incredibly resistant and even indignant.  No that’s not accurate, I was actually angry at the idea that anyone could think I wanted what I had.  I remember thinking, “there’s no way that’s a true statement.  This life – of stress and poverty and conflict is the farthest thing in the world from what I want.”   I was 6 months pregnant with my first child, and I had just left my husband due to some seriously dysfunctional problems including emotional and verbal abuse.  My OB/GYN had put me on bed rest so my job was on the rocks; I was 1600 miles away from my family, pregnant, alone, broke, and on a runaway train to divorce.  

I was desperately searching for answers.  I kept asking God, “How did I create this and what do I need to do to create something different and better?”  That’s when God inspired my teacher to say these words, “If you want to know what you want, look at what you have.”

If this message had come from anyone else, I would have dismissed it instantly.  But Sue was the type of person that glowed when she walked into a room; kind, spiritually wise, serene and overflowing with love and acceptance.  She not only taught the science of mind classes at the Church of Religious Science that I was attending in Huntington Beach, California but she lived the principles.  Everything about her exuded peace and self-mastery.  I wanted to learn what she knew about life, so I tried really hard to listen and understand.  But, this one was a hard one.

“What do you mean I want this?  How can you say I want to be pregnant and divorced?  How can you say I want to be sick, bed-ridden, and too broke to take care of myself let alone a newborn?  How can you say, “If you want to know what you want, look at what you have?”

But what I was doing wasn’t working, so I was left with no other option than to try to make sense of this message.  I reconsidered.  I asked myself, “What do I gain from being sick?” The answer scared me.  And, even as I repeat it now, the truth is shameful. 

The answer was, “… well since your husband doesn’t care about you, maybe if you’re sick enough or need him enough, he’ll snap out of it and be a good husband and father.  Maybe if he thinks you’re going to die or the baby might die, he’ll come to his senses and love you the way you want to be loved.  Maybe, he’ll start loving you again and prove you are worth loving after all.”  Wow – what a wake-up call?!?! 

On some deep unconscious level, I wanted so desperately to be loved by my husband that I had created illness and being destitute as a crazy way to get his attention.  As a crazy way to prove that I was worth loving after all… as a means of countering my lifelong limiting belief of not being ‘good enough’ or ‘worthy of love’. 

Well, after many tears, I decided to just pretend like the words, “If you want to know what you want, look at what you have” were true.  I made a decision to act as if this were true and thereby be more conscious of both my reality, as a result of my innermost desires and my thoughts as the conductor of and operations manager of my life. 

I shockingly realized my desire to be ‘healthy’ was taking a back seat to my desire to be ‘good enough and worthy of love’.  Only after I realized what I was creating and why I was creating it, was I able to realign with the more important desire, “to be healthy and have a healthy, happy baby”.  If you’ve heard the rest of this story, then you know I created a bumpy ride – but on the other side of it, I have become a more masterful creator.  This lesson is one I will never forget and although a massive challenge, one I would not trade.  This is exactly why I want to impart this to you.

If you combine these two ideas, “The meaning of your communication is the response you get” and “If you want to know what you want, look at what you have”, then you have a formula for masterful conscious creation.  In the first idea, “The meaning of your communication is the response you get”, you have the formula for considering NOT what you are saying as the be all, end all but HOW your message is received as to whether or not you are communicating effectively.  If you say something and the response you get is adversarial, then you have a choice in that moment.  You can be stubborn and think, “Well what I said was right” or you can be flexible and think, “Well, they did not receive the message I intended.  How can I rephrase it to communicate my real intent.

This same formula for having better relationship communications works with the Universal Laws.  If you affirm, “I am wealthy” but the results you get are ‘I live paycheck to paycheck’, then it’s up to you to consider If it’s true that the meaning of my communication is the response I get, then what am I communicating on a non-verbal level that is NOT wealthy? 

And, then consider, If it’s true that If I want to know what I want, look at what I have, then what is it about this paycheck to paycheck living that is benefiting me?  What is it about this experience that on some level serves me? 

I know these ideas are not easy to understand so I will give you a few quick examples.  For example, one client when considering “the meaning of my communication is the response I get” and “if I want to know what I want, look at what I have” realized that he was keeping himself beneath the poverty level because he had a deep-seated fear of paying too much income tax.  His father had always complained that getting wealthy meant paying more taxes and subconsciously he adopted this idea and communicated to the Big U, “I don’t want to be too wealthy because that means paying too many taxes.” 

Another client wanted to attract a loving partner to marry.  She looked at her reality and considered these ideas and realized that what she was communicating to the Universe was that she preferred being alone because it’s safer to be alone than to be in an unhealthy relationship with a man that cheats, and since all men cheat (according to her cultural beliefs and experiences) it’s safer to be alone.  She realized she ‘wanted’ to be alone because it was simple safer than having her heart broken.   

If you want to know what you want, look at what you have – there’s a secondary gain, a positive pay-off to everything we create.  Thus, there’s something about your current reality that you want or you would not continue to experience it.  Additionally, if you consider – the meaning of my communication is the response I get, you’ll always have a framework and perspective shift to consider.

–           What am I receiving?

–          Is what I’m communicating producing the results I really want? 

–           Is this really what I mean to communicate? 

–          If it’s not, then what changes do I need to make to be a better communicator and more masterful conscious creator?

Putting this into practice:

  1. Consider one of your more challenging relationships.  What results are you getting?
  2. Consider, “If the meaning of my communication is the results I receive” then how can I change my communication to get the results I want and really intend?
  3. Now, look at one of your unfulfilled goals.
  4. Consider, If this is true that I can figure out what I want by looking at what I have, then what positive benefits am I gaining from my current situation. 
  5. Ask yourself:  How can I retain these positive benefits or protect myself from my fears?  What is it I really want to communicate to the Universe?  What do I have to change in order to be aligned with my real, positive intent? 

You are so very much on your Divine Right Path!  Thank you for the honor of supporting you.  You are loved!

 I invite you to join me and other like-minded creators in my Power Creators Club coaching program.  You can find out more at www.PCC.CreataVision.com and find other conscious creation and intentional success videos and articles at my site http://www.AnisaAven.comWhile you are there, be sure to subscribe to my creative manifesting ezine and receive my conscious creation 101 ecourse – a 5 part ecourse on the basics of manifesting for free.  You are an unlimited child of an all-providing mother, father, God – Go seize your birthright and create fantastic day.  Namaste.

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March 10, 2011

Lessons in Detachment 7 of 10: If What You’re Doing Isn’t Working, Do Something Different

Category: Attract Opportunities,Audios Free Downloads,conscious creation,Creative Manifesting,Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 7:07 am

Why are we studying detachment? Isn’t detachment just a matter of learning to “Let Go and Let the Divine” work in our lives? Yes. However, knowing that we must “let go” consistently and actually doing it are two different things. Stress, for example, in many cases is a clear sign that you are attached to something and in oppositional resistance to your real desires. Everything you desire is in vibrational harmony with the peace and appreciation that comes from being detached and allowing (yes, everything). By practicing the ideas in this series you will engage in consistent peace and more readily know that all is well, no matter what. Master detachment and you will master the art of intentional creation.

This brings us to the topic of today’s lesson in detachment. It is a simple idea really: If what you are doing isn’t working, do something different. This too is an NLP (Neuro-Linguistics programming) pre-supposition. At first consideration, this may seem trite and elementary, as we all know this in theory. However, being detached includes maintaining our clear, connected state of flow in all situations. Thus, if you can make this idea, “If what I’m doing isn’t working, I will choose to do something different” as an ethos, or a way of living, then flow, connection, solution oriented thinking and action oriented behaving becomes a more natural path.

If you want something different, you will have to do something different, and continue to vary your behaviors until you get the result you really want. This underlying assumption automates your intention to be flexible. And, we learned in Lessons in Detachment Video 5, the most flexible person has the most power and influence in any situation. Thus, the more you accept and apply this idea, “If what I’m doing isn’t working, I just need to do something different until I find the method that works” the more detached and vibrationally aligned with your true desires, you become.

In practice, this idea assumes there’s a solution to every problem if you’re prepared to keep looking until you find it. For example, if a person wants to lose weight and get healthy, they must first recognize, “What I’m doing isn’t working, I need to do something different”. If a person wants to succeed in school or succeed or in business, they may have to first realize, “I will have to do things differently than I have before.”

As students of the law of attraction, we’ve learned that what we focus upon expands. And this idea “If what you’re doing isn’t working, do something different. And, you have to vary you behaviors until you manifest the result you desire” shifts our perspective from what’s not working, to “I’m willing to experiment until I find the formula that works.” It’s literally an attitude adjustment and a time proven formula for success.

The most successful people that have ever lived think this way. Thomas Edison, held over 1000 patents including a voice recorder, a battery for an electric car, recorded music, movies, the light-bulb, and of course he was the originator of the crazy concept that we could ALL have electricity inside our homes, businesses, and factories. His ideas, at the time, were completely unrealistic and even absurd. He was successful, by his own admission, not because he was a genius but because he believed success was 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration. He once said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” This is the exact same ethos as, “If what I’m doing isn’t working, I choose to do something different.”

I could go on and on about how the most successful people that have ever lived fully embrace and live by this idea. Possibly the most famous of Einstein’s quotes is “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Yet, in our everyday lives we are often insane with repetitive behaviors.

How many people, now be honest, are constantly late for appointments? Is it because you do not possess the capacity to be on time? Not likely. The same old thinking, “Oh… there’s plenty of time” for example’ will produce the same old results, “I can’t believe we are going to be late again!”

What about your relationships? How many times have you tried the same old way to get your needs met only to be disappointed in the lack of change? The same old thinking, “I have to throw a fit to get any results” will produce the same old experience, “They never listen to me”.

The problem is that we get attached and disconnected when we start to feel as though we are out of options, as though it must be a capacity issue; a fear that we or the person we are frustrated with does not possess the capacity for growth, change, or success.

What about money?? How many do we know that desperately want to be financially secure and attract prosperity, yet they continue to behave irresponsibly, over-indulging and behaving recklessly with their money?

This repeated pattern of “I’m affirming and believing in my financial unlimitedness” followed by “I’m so wealthy I can go ahead and spend a bunch of money… “followed by “I cannot believe I’m over-drawn again! I cannot believe I’m such a terrible money manager. When will I ever manifest the prosperity that is supposed to be mine? I just don’t get it! Maybe, I’m just not good enough or it’s not meant to be for me?”

Without the idea, “If what you’re doing isn’t working do something different”, you begin to question your capacity; your innate ability to create and achieve the success you really desire.

When you question your capacity, you are questioning your very core; you are questioning whether or not you actually possess the ability, the talent, and the deservedness to experience love, wealth, health and success. Just the act of wondering whether or not you deserve it, immediately causes distress. The stress of “I’m not good enough” or any derivative thereof is another example of attachment. You see, you shut down the flow of possibility; the flow of the Divine, every time you even ponder for a moment – “what’s wrong with me that I can’t get what I want?” This is another way that we get attached to the outcome. In that moment, you are creating the opposite of what you really desire. And, STRESS is your indicator that you are attached and not practicing the law of allowing.

Here’s a decision that I encourage you to make: Do not question your capacity, question your methodology. If you are not ‘on time’ it’s not your capacity it’s your methodology. If your relationship life stinks, it’s not your capacity that’s the problem, but the way you go about relating to others that’s in question. If you have money troubles, it’s not your capacity for creating wealth that’s in question; it’s the way you go about attracting, managing, and making it that’s in question.

One word of advice – most people will fall short on implementing this idea because it requires effort. And, it requires thinking to embrace the truth that there’s another way, another solution to every problem. Your work will be to stick with it until you find the choice and the behavior that creates the fulfillment you seek.

If what you are doing isn’t working, do something different. Be willing to vary your behavior until you get it, & don’t question your capacity, question your methodology. This one idea – can create an avalanche of prosperity, love, and fulfillment for you. Now, let’s put it into practice.

1) Consider something that you feel STRESSED about.
2) What are you doing?
3) What are 10 ways to do it differently?
4) Choose one.
Imagine the future as you would like it, while trying on this new option/behavior.
5) Go do it.
6) Did it work? Yes, keep doing it. No, do something different.

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March 1, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: Video 6 of 10 Choice is Better Than No Choice

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Lessons in the Law of Detachment: Video 6 of 10 Choice is Better Than No Choice


The Law of Attraction cannot be employed without the Law of Detachment. They go hand in hand. And, the Law of Detachment says you must relinquish your attachment to have your desires manifest.

This means that the Essence of detachment is Equanimity (a state of being centered, faithful, aligned and serene, no matter what you see or experience.) In Lessons in Detachment, we will explore exactly what it means to intentionally detach from the outcome and HOW exactly to do it. Be sure to explore all of the detachment videos and you will have a greater understanding of how to finally Let Go, and Let God, create miracles in your life.

Everything you desire is aligned with peace. If you want

to create more love in your life, then obtain greater peace in your heart. If you want to create more prosperity, then obtain greater peace in your heart. Being detached from the
outcome produces that peace in your heart. However, detachment can be tricky and slippery and that’s why I’ve created this series; to help you take The Law of Detachment to a deeper level. When you fully embrace the law of detachment, you become a better manifestor. When you fully understand exactly what it means to remain detached then you leverage the full power of the law of attraction. In fact, you cannot be a masterful creator without integrating detachment.

Now, let’s explore the subject of this lesson on detachment:Choice is better than no choice. (Also an NLP presupposition – a belief that when applied creates a solid foundation upon which to be more intentional and influential in every situation.) Think about this for a moment:“Choice is Better than No Choice.” Now, how do we apply this in our lives to be more allowing; to practice the law of detachment and become more effective conscious creators?

This idea goes hand in hand with the lesson in video 5: The Law of Requisite Variety – translated as the person with the greatest flexibility has the greatest influence.

This idea, that choice is better than no choice helps us to be more flexible in the moment. We get to choose how we respond to each situation; thus taking ownership of our experience.

One of the key tenants that helped me to live a more intentional life, I learned from Jack Canfield in about 1992. He shared with me his equation: E+R= O (the Event plus our Response equals the Outcome. Event + My Response = The Outcome) It is not the event alone that determines the outcome of a situation but the event plus our response to
that event that determines the outcome.

For example, there will be times when you feel you are backed into a corner with no way out. We may feel that you have NO choice. But, you ALWAYS, without exception have choices. It’s a matter of choosing which option is right for you. Even when you are unable to physically choose something different, you still have the choice of your emotions. In fact you have many choices.

Choice is better than no choice – teaches us to be mindful of the truth that we always have options. There’s fight, flight, freeze, and flow, for example.

We can fight! We can strike like a defensive snake! And, sometimes that feels like the best choice.

We can flee or take flight. Or, we can freeze, until we figure out how to respond.

Heck – sometimes it’s even better to play dead as a choice!

Even Playing Dead is a Choice... “Ueghhh…. I’m just going to roll-over and play dead for a minute.”

Or we can also learn to choose to FLOW! We can choose to go with the flow and practice the art of the aikido way. This is a skill that we can develop as we begin to fully embrace

the truth that choice is better than no choice. And, the choice of flow is the most aligned with the law of detachment and the art of allowing.

Let me explain. Morihei Ueshiba, the famous martial artist and founder of Aikido, believed that it was important to extend love and compassion to all, and especially to those who seek to harm others. Aikido is often translated as “the way of unifying with life energy” or as “the way of harmonious spirit.”

Ueshiba’s goal was to create a martial art that practitioners could use to defend themselves while also protecting their attacker from injury. Out of this philosophy and spiritual path, was born Aikido, a martial art that teaches the student to receive an attack while harmlessly redirecting it. In an ideal resolution, not only is the receiver unharmed, but so is the attacker.

When considering your choices, the highest most aligned choice, will align with no harm across all channels. Thus, flow and the aikido way is one option that uses the energy of the situation for a more enlightened and harmonious outcome. By adopting the idea that choice is better than no choice and combining it with the person with the greatest

flexibility has the greatest influence, you will find yourself living more in the flow of life more often and thus detached and allowing.

I’d like to give you some examples of how to employ Choice is Better than No choice.

You’ve heard of Murphy’s law?

Everything than can go wrong, will go wrong – that’s the summation of Murphy’s law.

When we remember that it is our response to the event that creates the outcome and we always have a choice as to how we respond, then we turn Murphy’s law upside down. For

example, a more harmonious choice would be, “Even if it goes wrong, I choose to see it as perfectly imperfect.”

Another example of a limiting belief (Murphy’s Law) turned upside down, is “Nothing is ever as simple as it first seems.” A choice that is more aligned with the law of detachment would be,“Even if nothing is as simple as it seems, I choose to be comfortable with complexity.”

Here’s one more. The limiting belief that “every activity takes more time than you have” becomes, “even if it takes more time than I have, I choose to eventually have enough time.”

It’s very important that I make the point that Choice is Better than No Choice means having more freedom, flexibility and personal responsibility for your life. All of which are essential for leveraging the power of detachment. I heard a story once that has stayed with me and helped me to understand that even in the most difficult of situations, I

have the power to choose how I respond.

There was once a ruthless warlord that captured a town where there were many monks. The warlord was infamous for killing without cause, slaughtering people for no reason and many monks fled to the hills.

But, one monk remained in prayer. The warlord came upon him and with rage-filled annoyance said, “What are you doing? Don’t you know who I am? I can run my sword through you without blinking an eye.”

The monk finished his prayer, rose
slowly, looked the warlord in the eyes and calmly said,“Don’t you know who I am? You can run your sword through me and I will never blink an eye.”

You see, we get to choose how we respond to even the most difficult situations. And, choice means greater freedom and flexibility; both of which produce greater solutions and enact the law of allowing. How do you practice this?

Exercise:

  • Consider a time when you felt backed into a corner without options.
  • Re-frame it using this new belief: Choice is better than no choice.
  • Consider how it might have been different had you believed that you had options.
  • Ask yourself: How could I have responded with Fight? Flight? Freeze? Flow?
  • Now go into your future.
  • Think of a time when you mightfeel backed into a corner or as though you have no options.
  • Knowing there’s always a choice as to how you respond, what are your options?

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February 22, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: Video 5 of 10: The Law of Requisite Variety (The Most Flexible Has the Most Influence)

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Lessons in Detachment:  Video 5 of 10 The Law of Requisite Variety: The Person with the Most Flexibility Has the Most Influence

Hello!  This is Anisa Aven and this is vibrational video coaching #5 of 10 in my series: Lessons in Detachment.

The Law of Detachment says “You must relinquish your attachment to your desire, to have it manifest.”

To become a master conscious creator, you must employ the Law of Attraction & the Law of Detachment together. Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself.

This brings us to the subject of this video The Law of Requisite Variety:  The Person with the Greatest Flexibility Has the Greatest Influence (An NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming – key presupposition – this is a BELIEF that when implemented will provide you a stable, detached & very resourceful foundation.)

Let’s read that again – The Person with the Greatest Flexibility Has the Greatest Influence

Like many of the lessons in this series, understanding this idea will make a significant difference in your ability to leverage the law of detachment.   Here’s what I want you to know.   Our primary role in every relationship and every situation is to become the most flexible element within the system.  If the most flexible element, controls and influences the outcome then by focusing on being flexible you are actually focusing on solutions and thus practicing the law of allowing.

We will face times when we are met with unexpected and unappreciated changes.  And, if we choose to be inflexible – we will crack just like this egg as the vice-grip of life presses upon us.

It is IN relationship to others and IN relationship to life that we often become inflexible and inflexibility equals resistance, which equals attachment.  When we are attached to the outcome or attached to how we think things should be, we halt our greater good and our Divine Flow.  Often, our inflexibility is an unconscious attempt at protecting ourselves (like the hard shell of an egg).  We believe that we must stand strong and be uncompromising in order to be safe.  However, we are soft on the inside and our hard shell is weak and provides little protection.

Virginia Satir, probably the most celebrated, and effective family therapist ever studied said flexibility is crucial in relationships as it influences how a person feels in a family, she wrote, “Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family”

Being flexible is a strong and powerful response to life’s changes.   Lao Tzu (founder of Taoism) said, “Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it.” By choosing to be as flexible and flowing as water, you become the most influential element in the system – whether that system is your relationship, your family, your work, or any other aspect of your life.

Many of us have a habit of resisting change and refusing to release our firm grip on life; not realizing that this prevents our dreams from coming true.  Resistance and inflexibility do not help us manifest!!! In fact, it is just the opposite that is true.  It is better to bend than to break.

I am not saying you should compromise on your values or your principles in order to ‘get along’ or ‘make nice.’  “Niceness” is over-rated if you ask me.  However, kindness and a commitment to being flexible in your approach produces greater strength and greater access to resourcefulness.

When you find yourself being inflexible, remember how the natives in North Africa capture Monkeys!  It’s very easy.  They simply fill a gourd with a monkey’s favorite treats ( nuts or fruits) then when the monkey puts its tiny hand through the hole to grab the nuts, the monkey clenches his fist around the treat but now he cannot pull his hand back out.  The hole is too small for the monkey to withdraw with a clenched fist; but being too stubborn to let go of the nuts, he will work all night pulling and pulling without success.   Then, he is easily captured at the break of dawn, because he was too stubborn and inflexible to know when to relax and let it go.

Watch for inflexibility traps, such as “But this is how we’ve always done it.”  Instead learn how to ask questions about the ‘tradition’ and learn how to willingly change plans when unexpected conditions require an adaptive response.  Beware of getting discouraged when plans change. When you realize you are resisting change, choose to be the one that bends, refuse to allow anxiety to rule you.  Instead look for the inner strength to respond gracefully and with ease and flexibility.

How do I learn to be more flexible?

Instead of being stubborn, upset with change, impatient and closed-minded, CHOOSE to be flexible and adaptable; choose to allow change, to be patient and to be open-minded.

How to Practice Flexibility:

  • Be willing to be wrong.
  • Be willing to not know the right answer.
  • Be willing to be imperfect.
  • Be willing to change ideas and plans.
  • Be willing to be open to other’s suggestions.
  • Be willing to view emergencies as opportunities for growth.
  • Be willing to give up on activities that conflict with your values.
  • Being willing to help others.
  • Be willing to listen to the advice of others.
  • Be willing to observe and model those who have the success, health, love or prosperity you desire.

Blessed are the hearts that can bend; they shall never be broken.” – Albert Camus (French Novelist, 1957 Nobel Peace Prize for Literature.)

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February 15, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: 4 of 10 People Do the Best They Can

Category: Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,LOA doesn't work for me,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 7:01 am

Lessons in Detachment: Video 4 of 10, People Do the Best They Can, With the Resources They Have

Hello! This is Anisa Aven and this is vibrational video coaching #4 of 10 in my series – Lessons in Detachment. The Law of Detachment says You must relinquish your attachment to your desire, to have it manifest. The essence is that state of equanimity – Equanimity is defined as being calm and centered internally no matter what’s happening externally. Detachment therefore is aligned with being Centered – Faithful – and Serene – no matter what you see or experience before you.

The law of detachment can be challenging. That’s why we are studying and practicing the beliefs addressed in this series: Lessons in Detachment – we will explore exactly what it means to intentionally detach from the outcome and HOW exactly to do it. Be sure to explore all of my conscious success and law of detachment videos and you will have a greater understanding of how to finally Let Go, and Let God… create miracles in your life.

Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself.

This brings us to the subject of this video People Do The Best They Can With the Resources They Have. (An NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming – key presupposition – this is a BELIEF that when implemented will provide you a steady, stable, and detached foundation.

Let’s read that again – People Do The Best They Can With the Resources They Have –This one will not automatically be easy to accept. Like the mindset of video #3 in this series (Under every behavior is a positive intent) there will be many arguments that this is NOT true.

Many watching this video will instantly reject this idea: “What about mass murderers” are they making the best choice available at the time? Are you saying Hitler made the best choice available to him at the time?” NO – That is NOT what this assumption supports — it goes without saying that people who commit crimes and hurt others are not making the best choice – but the full belief ‘people make the best choice available to them at the time given who they are, and what they know to this point’ has far-reaching benefits when you act as if this were true, even when it’s not –This assumption affords us a level of automatic compassion and empathy that bypasses a significant cause of detachment and disconnection. Let me explain…

This idea “that people do the best they can given the resources they have” goes hand in hand with the idea from last week’s video #3, “underneath every behavior is a positive intent.” These two ideas, may not be True with a capital – it’s always true T, but by acting as if this were always true, you can and will be in a better position to detach from negativity and judgment in your relationships… by accepting this as your belief, you will find yourself more willing to love and forgive.

… And, since relationships and our response to the people in our lives can either be the source of great joy or the source of great pain, developing the ability and in this case the mindset that ‘people are always doing the best they can given who they are and what they know up until this point’ will support you in practicing the law of allowing.

You see when we are ill-equipped to understand others, we easily disconnect from source and when we are disconnected, we attach to our assumptions, our desires, our need to be right, what we believe another should or should not do, what we believe they should have been capable of doing, what we need from that relationship etc… and ALL attachment, no matter how justified our judgment may be causes disconnection from Source – it’s this disconnection that halts our Divine Good – our ability to manifest our true desires.

Learning how to intentionally apply compassion on queue and intentionally forgive in a consistent and meaningful way will produce greater connection to your real Source and Supply – the Presence of God –and thereby connect you with the energy that creates worlds This IS practicing the law of detachment. As mentioned in video 3, The Course in Miracles says Forgiveness is the key to happiness. We cannot leverage the law of allowing without mastering the art of forgiveness.

I want to address any resistance you may be feeling about this idea, right up front. Argue that this belief: “People Do the Best They Can, with the Resources They Have” is not true…& You will win that argument. We all know that sometimes people do things they know they shouldn’t do. The business man that embezzles money and goes to jail, knows better.

The child who makes a mistake on his class assignment, could have tried harder or studied more. A physician that makes a critical error after two decades of school and practice, should have and could have been able to prevent the blunder.

I want to make a distinction here – understand that just because a person is doing their best given the resources they have at that moment –does not mean that it is THE best…, but it is their best given what they know, the environment they are in, and who they are up until that moment – & given their current level of consciousness…. They are doing the best they can, given their capacity, their skills, and their current consciousness at that moment.

If you look for evidence that a person could have done better – or should have known better – or that they were not doing their best – you will most assuredly find it. Thus I am not saying this is a belief that serves all situations at all times – for example, if you are a prosecuting attorney, I’m not so sure the belief that people do the best they can given their resources at the moment would serve your cause.

However, this series is about how to apply the law of detachment. & therefore – our aim is to find that state of EQUANIMITY.

Being detached supports a state of equanimity – which is the quality of being calm and even-tempered, maintaining our composure – no matter what is happening around us.

By acting as if this were true: “People do the best they can given their current resources” you by-pass judgment, assume a position of compassion, and are better equipped to influence the situation.

Here’s an example from my own life. This is a picture of my nephew, Marc (in the video). Here he’s wake-boarding behind our boat. Marc is 24 years old and he lives with us, because I’m the only family member that’s willing to support him. Because – Marc can’t get to work on time, to keep a job. Long story short… he was doing really well for about 90 days. Well, this morning he just didn’t get out of bed. He was trusted to do it himself and guess what? You got it – he didn’t make it. So, here we are once again – facing the possibility of him losing yet another job because he can’t get himself out of bed on time.

Now, we can look at my ignorance and say, “Anisa – you should’ve known better… ” and granted, there’s a good argument that this is true. We can look at Marc and say, “He knows better than to flake out and risk getting fired again.” Both perspectives are justified. And, I’m well within my rights to be upset – considering how much we’ve given to him. However, does that view, “that he knows better” help me influence the situation? Does it help me remain intentional and yet detached? NO. The assumption that he should’ve done better, only holds me in a place of disconnection, a very attached, weak, and powerless place.

Now, let’s look at this through the lens of ‘people do the best they can with the resources they have. ” With this assumption, I can move towards forgiveness. This does not mean there won’t be consequences. But, from this view, I can accept that he’s a grown man; If he chooses to be irresponsible, it’s his choice. And I can choose to continue to allow him to live in my house under those conditions or I can choose to find solutions that will help him grow and develop the necessary resources he needs to become a functional, mature, positively contributing member of society.

I find that by assuming this is true – that we all do the best we can, given the resources we have – I am instantly aligned with solutions, compassion, possibility and I allow Marc to be Marc and people to be people.

Now how about you put this into practice:

1) Consider a recent conflict in a relationship.

2) How would it have been different if you had assumed, “People Do They Best They Can With the Resources They Have”?

3) Ask Yourself: How can this assumption help my relationships in the future.

4) Write this down.

5) Now, moving forward set an intention to allow this assumption that people are ALWAYS doing the best they can given the resources they have at the time to be your default setting.

Shortly, you’ll find yourself less reactive and more accepting and influential in every relationship. I promise you’ll be amazed at how much more influence you have in every relationship when you do.

Thank you for the honor of supporting you! To join other like-minded creators and co-create your best year ever:

Visit http://www.PCC.CreataVision.com for information on my Power Creators Club or visit www.AnisaAven.com and be sure to subscribe to my conscious creation 101 ecourse – a 5 part ecourse on the basics of manifesting.

Want to go deeper into the Law of Detachment?

Watch the other videos in this series: Lessons in Detachment (also using NLP pre-suppositions to master the law of detachment.)

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February 9, 2011

Lessons in Detachment: 3of10 Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent

Category: Audios Free Downloads,conscious creation,Creative Manifesting,Law of Allowing,law of attraction,Law of Detachment,LOA doesn't work for me,NLP,Videos — Anisa @ 11:57 am

Lessons in Detachment: Video 3 of 10 – Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent

Hello! This is Anisa Aven and this is vibrational video coaching #3 of 10 in my series – Lessons in Detachment. The Law of Detachment says you must relinquish your attachment to have your desires manifest. This means that the Essence of detachment is Equanimity – one of being centered – Faithful – Aligned – and Serene – no matter what you see or experience. Detachment can be the most troubling aspect of conscious creation. In Lessons in Detachment – we will explore exactly what it means to intentionally detach from the outcome and HOW exactly to do it. Be sure to explore all of the detachment videos and you will have a greater understanding of how to finally Let Go, and Let God… create miracles in your life.

Detachment is the art of allowing whatever is, to be perfect in and of itself. Which brings us to the subject of this video: Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent (In NLP – Neurolinguistics Programming – this is a key presupposition – this is a BELIEF that when implemented will provide you a steady, stable, and detached foundation.

This one and the next Video/Belief in this series (video #4) will not automatically go over well or easily. There will be many arguments that this is NOT true and much evidence that could refute this idea. Perhaps you’re even saying, “what about lying, cheating, stealing, or mass murder? Are you saying that murderers have a positive intent?” No, hurting others is never a positive or acceptable behavior. And, that’s not the aim of this assumption.

However, there’s always a positive intent underneath the behavior. People believe they will gain something positive or they would NOT choose the behavior. This idea that underneath every behavior, no matter how misguided the behavior, no matter how wrong the behavior, no matter how horrific the behavior – underneath it the person has some belief that there will be a positive gain or they would not do it. Thus, this assumption that every behavior has a positive intent allows us to bypass the judgments (that cause disconnection) and bypass our reactions and instead look for the positive intent underneath the behavior. This re-focusing on the question, “what did they hope to gain from this?” shifts our perspective to one of awareness and potential compassion. When we find the positive intent, we learn to allow people to be people, and that ALLOWANCE is the art of detachment.

Okay – I’ve explained the assumption but so what? How will this help us be detached from the outcome? How will accepting this idea support us in utilizing the power of our minds and the law of attraction? The answer lies in our relationships. ALL emotional turmoil is disconnection from the Divine. And, what’s the cause of much of our disconnection – our emotional turmoil? Relationships! It’s our family, love, co-workers, neighbors and even the relationship we have with the world at large. When we are ill-equipped to understand the motives of others, we easily disconnect from source and when we are disconnected, we attach to our assumptions, our desires, our need to be right, what we believe another should or should not do, what we need from our relationship(s) etc. And ALL attachment, no matter how justified we are causes disconnection from Source. It’s this disconnection that halts our Divine Good – our ability to manifest our true desires.

The Course in Miracles says, “Forgiveness is the central theme that runs throughout salvation.” And, “Forgiveness is the key to happiness.” We cannot leverage the law of allowing without mastering the art of forgiveness. When we integrate this assumption that Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent, we easily slip into compassion and forgiveness – two necessary ingredients for connection and detachment.

This idea That Every Behavior Has a Positive Intent along with the next assumption in this series (People Do the Best they Can – be sure to watch video #4 in this series) can make a significant difference in your ability to detach from the negativity in your relationships. You will find yourself more willing to love and forgive. So, let’s talk about how to implement this idea.

First, understand that just because there’s always going to be a positive intent – some idea that there will be a pay-off to the behavior – does not mean that every behavior is the best way to fulfill a need. It is also not meant to absolve a person of their hurtful actions – they are still responsible for their choices.

Let’s apply this more deeply. For example, consider the man that cheats on his wife. What’s the positive intent under the behavior? Perhaps it’s to experience adrenaline, or the rush of getting away with something. Or since we are just guessing here – perhaps his wife is frigid or crazy or abusive and he just needs to feel alive and loved again. Now, let’s look at it from her point of view. What’s the positive intent underneath whacking her husband with a crow-bar? Perhaps it’s retribution – that internal need to stand up for ourselves, to feel important, special, powerful or acknowledged. Or perhaps she’s afraid for her children and how she will survive without him.

Now remember we are NOT ever saying the behavior is positive or the best way to fulfill our needs but we are choosing to act as if, there’s some positive intent underneath every behavior. And, by figuring this out, we can more readily inspire and create change AND practice detachment.

What about for ourselves – how do we apply this to our lives? Here’s one example, let’s say you want to lose weight, but you have a bad day and all you really want to do is have another piece of chocolate. The behavior is self-sabotaging – eating sweets while trying to lose weight, will not help your cause. However, when we look at ourselves in the mirror and we only see the behavior, it’s hard to love ourselves; we see the failure not the person.

Yet, when we look at the intention underneath the behavior, “I just want to feel better. I just want to experience the deliciousness of life.” There’s a moment there that satisfies our need for yumminess, our need for freedom, our need for attending to our inner desires without judgment, fear, or deprivation. And, by identifying THAT need – THAT positive INTENT – we can a) choose to have compassion and b) choose to find another way to meet that Need. For example, “What else can I do to experience the deliciousness of life?”

Our objective becomes LOOK for the positive intent under the behavior, find a healthy solution for meeting that need. Here’s a resource you may find helpful – to gain a better understanding of our needs, I suggest reviewing Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs. (Search online and you’ll find a visual map.)

By reviewing and studying this model you become more masterful at identifying the positive intent under the behavior. For example, when good people do bad things, often it’s a basic need (Physiological Need – Survival Need) they are trying to meet. I.E. A man steals a loaf of bread to feed his family.

Perhaps, a woman betrays her husband trying to experience more love. Or a philanderer betrays a mate trying to experience the need for achievement or conquest. Our objective is to preserve that intent (that need) by attending to it in a healthier manner and not only can we change our personal behavior without loss but we gain the ability to experience compassion and forgiveness – essential ingredients for practicing the law of detachment.

Here’s an exercise for you: Consider a past transgression against you. Re-frame it using this new assumption. Ask yourself: What was the need or positive intent they were trying to fulfill? Knowing now that they were trying to fill a need, albeit poorly, how would I feel if I had that need?

And, be sure to apply this idea to yourself as well. Extend this exercise to consider a past mistake/ poor choice that you made. Re-frame it using this new belief. Ask yourself: What was the need I was trying to fill? Knowing now that I was just trying to fill a need, what options do I have for filling that need with a more positive behavior?

Be sure to watch the other videos in this series: Lessons in Detachment (also using NLP pre-suppositions to master the law of detachment.)

Video 1: The Map is Not the Territory
Video 2: There’s no Failure, Only Feedback
Video 3: Behind Every Behavior Lies a Positive Intent
Video 4: (coming week of 2/22/11) People Do the Best They Can, With the Resources They Have

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