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Is a Linchpin Holding Your Limiting Beliefs in Place

Category: law of attraction — Anisa @

Erghhhh… and Hurumph… Do you ever feel like you’ll never
get through all your personal development work?  <Sigh>…
I understand.  I had more work to do this week as I fell
mindlessly into an old pattern.  I threw a temper tantrum
when I was mad at my honey.  I won’t go into all the
embarrassing details but I will say I threw his untouched
pizza in the sink and turned on the water.  All the while I
was saying to myself, “Don’t do it!  Don’t do it!”  I sat in
front of that sink speechless.  I was so ashamed that I
could be so childish and vindictive, in spite of my
awareness that “we catch more flies with honey than
vinegar”, I was unable to stop myself!

Q's upset - when I drown his pizza

Fortunately, he has forgiven me and I’ve vowed to never
touch his food again when I’m upset.

Now, for those who want to email and scold me (I know some will), go ahead…
I forgive you, even if you can’t forgive me for being a teacher that is imperfect but real.

The point I’d like to share is that we never stop growing
and we never get finished.  As Abraham, with Jerry and
Esther Hicks might say, “You can’t get it wrong and you’ll
never get it done!” That’s okay… we can laugh at our
progress as long as we are indeed progressing.

In today’s Quick Manifesting Morsel, I address this very
issue of “Never getting it done!” BUT how to get as much done as quick as possible, just the same…
Here’s the question -

“But… there’s so much history and so many negative events.
I can’t help thinking that there must be a way to release my
past and heal my limiting beliefs without having to go back
through every memory.  I know others that live successful
lives and I can’t believe they all had to regurgitate all
their wounds to move forward.  Is this really necessary?
And, if it is – I might as well give up before I begin
because there’s just too many.”

I hope you find your ‘core issues’ and create personal peace
too!

Love and light,

Anisa Aven

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Q: "But… there’s so much history and so many negative events.
I can’t help thinking that there must be a way to release my
past and heal my limiting beliefs without having to go back
through every memory. I know others that live successful
lives and I can’t believe they all had to regurgitate all
their wounds to move forward. Is this really necessary?
And, if it is – I might as well give up before I begin
because there’s just too many." - Marie, L.A.

A:

No, you do not have to dredge up every past negative or
traumatic event in order to heal. However, let’s not kid
ourselves – there are times when we know our history is
holding us hostage. We know that there is something inside
that is causing our limited fulfillment. And, when we are
mindful enough to pay attention we sense the cryptic
whispers of our past: "Who do you think you are?" Or
"What’s wrong with you?" Or "I told you you’d never amount
to anything."

There are many pathways to wholeness. Some people, my
mother for example, find their purpose early (being a loving
mother is my mom’s purpose). Some have a natural ability to
simply forgive and flow. While my mom has had many negative
experiences that have told her she’s not good enough or
smart enough, she lives by the code of "Forgive and Love
first" and somehow this has afforded her a great deal of
happiness. For her, it’s not necessary to re-live and
process all of her life traumas in order to be fulfilled -
she already is. I believe it’s a choice she made a long,
long time ago.

However, I was not built like my mother; nor was my father.
My siblings and I have many ‘issues’ to deal with as a
result of our life experiences with him. And, of course
we’ve all experienced our own set of additional traumas and
tragedies.

For me, I have long sensed an inner mission and insatiable
compulsion to make a profound impact on this planet. As a
child, I had this recurring nightmare. I’d awake drenched
in cold sweats, shaking as I’d recall being a little girl in
a soft-blue dress standing at the top of a garbage heap;
greasy filth inching up my legs, spoiling my beautiful shoes
and dress. My perspective would shift and I’d see that I
was standing on top of our planet crying, exhausted with
hopelessness and overwhelm as I realized I was too small to
clean it all up. I was alone, helpless, and hopeless.

I now understand that I chose to be born at this time
because I wanted to make a different kind of contribution.
I understand that if I allow my limiting beliefs to
interfere with my purpose, I will be right – I’ll be too
small to make a difference. And, this fear of not being
enough has halted me on many occasions. I’ve missed more
than one express train to fulfillment because I was playing
too small and I was too insecure about my worth and value to
get on board.

If I could have chosen to ‘be enough’ then I would have.
But, I didn’t find that choice within until after I began to
process my life story, paying particular attention to all of
the emotional abuse perpetrated by my father. I won’t lie -
it wasn’t fun. One time, while at a seminar, I beat a chair
with a towel as we ‘Gestalted’ our way through the emotional
scale. I thought I would never stop crying. Now, I feel
very fortunate because I didn’t wait for the ‘magic potion’
to lift me into wholeness. I sought it with every ounce of
my being.

While the Gestalt session was a pivotal experience, I
discovered later that it was not the easiest way to release
my past. Of all the therapeutic techniques I’ve experienced
there are 3 "deconstruction’ tools and 4 "construction"
tools that I use almost daily: EFT, Surrogate EFT, & NLP
are my tools of choice for getting rid of my baggage
(deconstruction); Quantum Jumping, living visions,
coaching and meditation are my tools of choice for
intentional creation (construction). These are tools I use
personally to release my limiting beliefs and manifest my
dreams.

Take EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), for example. There
are other healing modalities and similar tapping techniques
that I could explore. But, EFT works for me. Thus, I don’t
feel compelled to continue hunting for more techniques. If
I have an upset or notice that I am playing ‘too small’, I
record it in my "PG ToDo" notebook. (PG stands for Personal
Growth and it’s a spiral notepad the size of my palm that I
keep with me at all times.) Then during my PG time (I
reserve time on my calendar and then commit to tapping as if
it were as important as breathing or eating), I open my PG
notebook, glance through and choose the item(s) that are
causing the greatest negative upset currently and tap it
out.

Initially, before my current ‘maintenance program’, I
recorded an inventory of every negative experience of my
life in a much larger notebook. I spent a couple of hours a
week for nearly 6 months tapping my way through the list.
Gary Craig, retired EFT founder, called this the "Personal
Peace" process because at the end of this effort you will
indeed experience a personal peace like never before. My
list was so long and just kept getting longer by the minute.
It was truly overwhelming to think that I would have to tap
on every ‘upset’ in my life! I ended up having 3 full
yellow notepads – one was for "prosperity/lack" limiting
beliefs/experiences, one was titled "love/relationship
limiting beliefs" and the third was "other". I thought I
would never get through it all. However, I was at that
proverbial fork in the road spiritually. I was either going
to DO WHAT MUST BE DONE or accept that I would forever be an
underachiever.

I was determined to break through my self-imposed barriers.
And I was banking on a little known fact about EFT – that
once you begin tapping on a particular "woundedness", even
though you may have 1000 memories and life experiences to
warrant that woundedness, you will not have to tap on each
memory (or event/feeling) to release it.

You may have to tap on a bunch but at some point the
structure of the wound begins to collapse. It’s unclear
whether or not that weakness in the limiting belief system
happens at 1%, 10%, or 60% of the memories. In fact, while
it can be a percentage that shifts the scales, there’s
another way to neutralize the negative vibration even faster
– find the "keystone" event that is holding it all together.
A keystone event can be described as the "linchpin" of a
limiting belief. It is usually a very early memory, such as
the very first traumatic experience that caused the limiting
decision. This keystone event is the source moment of the
core issue. It’s the cohesive foundation supporting the
limiting belief in the first place and thereby bolsters the
subsequent limiting decisions in place.

When we pull the linchpin of that first limiting decision,
everything shifts. Similar to shifting your home’s
foundation, everything shakes loose and eventually settles
back into place but never in quite the same way. I always
imagine that my limiting beliefs are lined up like dominos
and when I find that keystone memory and knock it down, I
watch in awe as all the ensuing dominos fall down, click,
click, click, click, one by one they wind and fall! It’s a
beautiful experience.

Here’s a simple process for finding your keystone events:

- Label 3 yellow notepads/ or sections in a spiral notebook:

o Prosperity/Lack

o Relationship/Love

o Other

- Leaving one small column to the left and one small column
to the right for future use, in the middle of the page,
create a bullet point list:

o For prosperity/lack: "When in my life, did I first feel
there was never enough money?" & "What does this feeling of
‘lack’ remind me of?"

o For Relationship/Love: "When did I first feel unworthy of
love?" & "What does this feeling of ‘undeserving of love’
remind me of?"

o Other: "When did I first feel ‘this limiting
belief/emotion’? & "What does this feeling of
________________ remind me of?"

- Edit/change the questions to match your feelings/core
issues. Hint: Our core-issues can be found by answering,
"When I consider this ‘event’, what’s the worst thing this
could say about me?" The answer will always look like, "it
means I’m not capable/smart enough/good enough/ worthy of
love, etc." And, it’s the thought that we most hate, fight,
and rebel against. (The more you deny it, the more likely
it’s your core issue.)

- Now, schedule 3 to 60 minutes a day to just start working
your list.

- Select the bullet that is the earliest memory/event. In
the far left column, I like to add a box to the ones I want
to tap first; followed by a check-mark when I neutralize it.
In the far right column, rate your current SUDs (Subjective
Unit of Distress) level on a scale of 1-10 (10 being the
most painful).

- Apply EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). Check in again,
and if you’ve shifted, cross out the previous SUDS level and
note your current SUDS. Continue tapping until you hit ZERO
– even if it takes multiple sessions.

- Be mindful not to move to the next domino. If your mind
is now on the next event, note it and return to THIS event.
"How do I feel about THIS event?" And, continue working
that ONE keystone event until you neutralize it (zero).
Then, move to the next memory, if it’s still there.

There’s more I’d like to share about the power of this
process… but I know I’ve gone on too long already. The
bottom line is we are what we think most. Eliminating those
past-inspired thoughts of unworthiness
will leave us whole, complete, and happy. From this place,
manifesting our dreams is effortless.

I look forward to hearing of your success! (Please post
your questions and comments – I’ll try to answer them in
future morsels.)

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