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emotional freedom technique,law of attraction,Surrogate EFT
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Anisa
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Surrogate Tapping EFT… Wow! Nooooooo…. Could it really be?!?
That’s exactly what you will say after you experience the
miraculous shifts from doing surrogate EFT on someone you
love.
Helena had a very serious conflict with her in-laws. They
were condescending and disrespectful. When they came to
visit their grand-baby, they disregarded every request Helena
made. If Helena said, “no milk” they gave him “milk”. If
Helena said, “no disposable diapers” they went out and
stocked the house with Pampers. It did not matter what she
asked of them, they refused to follow her wishes.
Additionally, they were very vocal and arrogant about their
disapproval of her as a mother.
Helena believed there was nothing she could do to change the
situation, except ban them from her home. She said,
“They’ve always been this way. Even when I first started
dating their son, they ignored our requests for personal
space, meddled in our lives constantly and always
disrespected our lifestyle choices. I really don’t like them
at all.”
After surrogate EFT, Helena now LOVES her in-laws. She
enjoys their company now! They show more respect about how
she and her husband choose to raise their children.
Additionally, they not only follow her requests regarding
parenting choices but she has overheard them talking about
what a great mother she is.
When you begin applying surrogate EFT, you too will go
through several rounds of awe, – “I’m absolutely amazed this
worked” followed by disbelief and rational denial – “…no,
it’s just a coincidence and cannot possibly be permanent”,
followed by a curious guilt “…is it ethical to influence
others in this way?”
Finally, you’ll begin to accept responsibility for what you
created: “Okay, if I did influence this situation what else
could I influence?” You’ll feel a great sense of gratitude
for the changes occurring and realize beyond doubt that you
influenced a previously ‘helpless’ situation in a positive
manner. And, you did it intentionally: “I can no longer
deny that the ONLY thing that could have possibly changed
this situation was the surrogate EFT that I did.”
“I wonder what would happen if I did a little surrogate EFT
on this situation over here….???”
My son, Parker, plays football and Lacrosse -two rough
sports. I’m not willing to be the weenie mom that says “No
way, I’m afraid!” So I’ve had to do enough EFT on my fears
to at least not negatively co-create and influence the
situation. During an Autumn Lacrosse game, he had a bad
collision. The orthopedic surgeon said, “it’s a slap tear
and the only solution is surgery.” My son, having been
raised with the belief that we are powerful creators waited
until we were alone. He said, “Mom, can we heal this? I
don’t want surgery.” I said, “Yes, we can. But, we have a
lot of work to do and we can’t slack on this one.” We EFT’d
all the way home. Then, I did surrogate EFT all night. I
did surrogate EFT until I couldn’t think straight any
longer.
The next day we saw another orthopedic doctor. We
intentionally withheld the previous doctor’s opinions in
hopes that this doctor could make a fresh call based on the
current vibrational influences that we (Parker and I) had
newly established. The doctor said, “Well, I don’t see
anything on this MRI that says we need surgery. Let’s do
physical therapy and rest. I think it’ll heal in about 6 to
8 weeks.”
We were in awe. In fact, we attempted to dismiss the
situation by saying, “the first doctor just misread the
data.” Then, 6 months later, I had another opportunity to
tap again. In football practice, Parker was tackling a
much, much, much larger boy! His arm snapped back and the
pain was excruciating. I was at the office and couldn’t get
to him fast enough so my honey, Parker’s step-dad, picked
him up and took him to the emergency room. Parker was
convinced it was broken as was the coach.
I stayed at home and did surrogate EFT. There was a back-log at the
emergency room and the doctors could not see Parker right
away. Shortly, Parker decided he wanted to take off the
wrap and try out his hand. Within two hours, he decided
there was nothing wrong and he was ready to come home. He
was sore for about a week. We will never know if it was
just a mistaken analysis on our part or the surrogate EFT
that altered his reality.
The awakening to your conscious power is a moment you will
never forget. It’s a moment of no turning back. You may
even feel a sense of regret for not knowing your power
sooner and for not being aware of Surrogate EFT earlier.
You might start to fantasize, “If only I had known surrogate
EFT when this was happening….!” If you allow yourself,
you’ll end up mourning the opportunity lost over past
failures and heartaches. If you must, go ahead and quickly
mourn those losses. Then, put your foot down and
consciously forgive yourself for doing the best you could at
the time. Let the loss go and consciously choose to move
forward, fully embrace your new friend, surrogate-tapping EFT,
and your unlimited potential.
The realization that just maybe you are not so helpless and
powerless after all will set you on a path of renewed
passion. You’ll realize that you are a powerful being;
fully capable of intentionally influencing and co-creating
your relationships in positive and powerful ways.
In fact, my advice is that you be very clear about what you
really want, because when you start intentionally tapping
you will get it. K. had resigned to living with an alcoholic
that she despised. Her husband spent more time at the bar
than at home and when he was at home he was a mean drunk
even when he was sober. While uncomfortable she was not yet
ready to change course. It served a greater purpose to stay
put…for now. She learned of surrogate EFT and thought she’d
give it a whirl, “what have I got to lose?” After only a
couple of rounds, her husband began spending less and less
time at the bar. After a few weeks of surrogate EFT, he was
no longer drinking. She wrote to me, “This surrogate EFT is
unbelievable. However, I’ve learned that I better be careful
what I go asking for! He’s at home full time now, not
drinking and not spending all day at the bar. What was I
thinking?!? I have become so used to him not being around
and now I realize I actually prefer his absence. Now, he’s
home so much I can’t stand it!”
Melissa and Angela were ready to start their families.
Melissa was 36, her biological clock was like a daily alarm
but her husband kept postponing. He assured her that he’d
be ready eventually, but just not yet. We did a few rounds
of surrogate EFT together. Then Melissa practiced alone. It
was not more than 24 hours later that Melissa called at
11:30 PM with a voice-mail, “I’m so sorry for calling so late
but I can’t wait until morning to tell you. He came home
with a dozen roses and said honey I’m ready to remove the
goalie! I burst into tears of joy!” Within 4 months,
Melissa was pregnant and they now have a beautiful, healthy
baby boy named Trevor.
Surrogate EFT is perhaps the most consistently powerful tool
I’ve ever used and had the privilege of witnessing.
However, it would not be fair to mislead you into believing
that surrogate EFT will always make situations the way you
believe you want them to be. This is not the case. The
situation may or may not turn out according to how you think
you want it. It does, however, turn out according to the
higher good and Divine Order of all parties involved.
Sometimes you just have to trust the situation and patiently
wait for the resolution to make itself known.
Angela was 32 and also ready to start a family. She decided
to try surrogate EFT as well. She shared with me her fear
that her husband really didn’t want children and that maybe
she married the wrong man. We EFT’d around her fears and did
surrogate EFT for her husband. Within 3 months, he came
clean and told Angela the truth that he didn’t want
children. A few weeks later he had a vasectomy. Angela
courageously made the tough decision to move on. This was
two years ago, she is happily remarried and expecting her
first child.
As a mom and as a conscious creator, I know in my heart and
soul the Truth about this how surrogate EFT has helped my
family and my magnificent relationship with my honey. I
also know why my children are the healthiest of all their
friends and cousins. I do not know what I would ever do
without surrogate EFT and intentionality.
I’ve only touched the very tip of the iceberg of the
stories that I could share with you regarding EFT and
Surrogate Tapping! And, I intend intend to share more including the actual
steps for HOW TO DO SURROGATE TAPPING.
In fact, I’ve included a video below on the actual surrogate tapping protocol. Watch your inbox for the next in this series.
In the mean time, it’s very important that I
acknowledge Gary Craig, the founder of EFT at
www.EmoFree.com and his original protocal. While this
article series are my good-faith attempts to share what I’ve
learned, I am very clear that Gary Craig has many, many more
hours invested in his protocol and methodology that is
proven and working for thousands of teachers and students.
I highly encourage you to research and read the online
stories at his site as well as learn the traditional version
of EFT as taught by this amazing man. I especially request
that you read his manual and view his videos before teaching
my methods to others.
See a video with a Surrogate EFT tapping example:
Surrogate Tapping – EFT – Example: My Teenager Argues too Much!
Notice: This article is one in a series on Conscious
Creation and Surrogate EFT. If you are concerned about the
ethics of using surrogate EFT on another without their
permission, please also see my video and article, here:
Comments (11)
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Anisa, this is a wonderful technique and example you demonstrated. I can relate to the first story and also to the argumentative teen issue. I actually am having issue with 2 of my teens fighting with each other and I plan to try this technique in the hopes of improving the situation. Thank you for sharing this with me! I have some of the training DVD’s from Gary Craig and have not applied the teachings in quite a while. This was a great reminder and wake-up call to me to return to EFT.
Comment by Julia Mazza — October 7, 2009 @ 1:59 pm
Hi Julia,
I’m so pleased that you are going to try it on your teens too! Watch for any sign of a shift or change and then do more EFT as you recognize the little nuances of ‘why/how/when’ the conflicts arise. I’m holding the vision of a peaceful home and two flexible, harmonious, respectful siblings!
Let us know how it goes.
love and light,
Anisa
Comment by Anisa — October 7, 2009 @ 2:06 pm
Anisa, what a wonderful article and an awesome video! I have a 9 year old who I have to repeat myself several times in order for ANYTHING to get done. Not only that, he’s having difficulty controlling his emotions when things don’t go his way. This is a good tool to help! Thanks!
Comment by Donna — October 7, 2009 @ 2:14 pm
Hi Anisa,
Wonderful technique and video, really done well. I wish I had this 5 years ago. My son is now 22, off by himself and I still feel he needs help though.
God Bless
Comment by Mario — October 7, 2009 @ 3:00 pm
Dear Anisa,
I am an EFT practitioner and have recently had a rather disturbing experience with surrogate tapping, which I don’t know what to do with and especially how to go on with the process. So I would appreciate your advice! Here is the story:
I gave a teleclass to a handful of people on surrogate tapping. I asked for a volunteer to work on a real issue. A woman (let’s call her Mary) asked that we work on her son (let’s say John). It seems that John has a serious addiction, has had serious fights with his parents, moved out of their home and stopped all contact. Mary wanted to work on this issue. We mentally asked for permission to work on his addiction. We did not get permission to work on that (we saw him turning away, and several participants received a big NO). After this we asked permission to work on his feelings of not being loved and accepted the way he is by his parents. We asked permission, and seemed to get it, so we started to work surrogately on this. However, right in the middle of the first round the skype conference room completely blocked, chucked us all out, we could not get back in and had to cancel the whole class. Later on I managed to log back in and the whole recording was gone. When I talked later to some of the other participants, they said they sensed a very black, negative energy. So it seems, that after all there was no permission to work on him. This is still OK – the problem is, that Mary cannot let go of this issue and (naturally enough) is very adament about helping her son get rid of this very damaging addiction. When I talked to her, I found out that she was doing surrogate tapping for her son saying things like: I am John and I feel less and less craving for this substance, and feel more and more inclined to go back to my parents..etc. Now to me this feels like pure manipulation, and as if she cannot hand this problem over to the Universe. How would you approach a problem like this?
With love and appreciation for your work,
Agnes
Comment by Agnes — October 8, 2009 @ 3:33 am
Hi Anisa
Many thanks for the very interesting article. Unfortunately I was unable to access the video and very much want to see how to do this. No matter how many times I tried to open the link, nothing would happen. I’m not sure if it was just me or a real problem. Hope you can solve this. With much appreciation for all your wisdom and wonderful writings. Blessings, Barbara
Comment by Barbara — October 9, 2009 @ 7:15 am
Dear Anisha,
thank you for ypur help with eft.
I’d like to ask you how could I use it to change situations in my
relationship I don’t know what to do and what to say for this problem
If you could help me I would be very grateful
I mean I know eft but I’d like to know the exact exercises and the sentenses to be used
, if possible
thank you very much
Nadia Della Corte from Italy
Comment by Nadia Della Corte — October 9, 2009 @ 10:03 am
Dear Anisa
Thank you for share with us this wonderfull techniques!
I speak in spanish but try to read and writte english as best I can, but it´s more dificult for me to understand the spoken english. So my first wish is if you can write in an article the technique that show us in video,and the second, is ask you how to construct sentences according what I would like to change or obtain with surrogate EFT.
Very grateful
Silvana from Argentina
Comment by Silvana — October 9, 2009 @ 10:12 pm
I have been asking the Universe for help in making major shifts with my teen, my ex, my fears/health issues for quite some time. Yesterday I was listening to a teleseminar with Bob Doyle on EFT and I did some practice rounds. Today upon checking my email, there was your email with links to surrogate EFT. I couldn’t believe it when I saw the video for your teen, health/fears – as these were my specific areas of major need. I was relieved and overjoyed! I look forward to working with this to change all situations for the better. Thank you for being there just when I needed you………….the Universe is so amazing, I am speechless! xo
Comment by Lisa — October 19, 2009 @ 10:59 am
Hello everyone!
I just began practicing Surrogate EFT with a situation I have with my husband, we got married a year ago and I feel we are getting used to live with each other, I honestly want to be more respectful towards my husband, as sometimes we fight like we are 15 years old and we stop talking to each other for days. That is just wrong. I have been doing surrogate EFT and saying things like “even though I feel frustrated, angry, humilliated, sad, dissapointed towards my partner I totally forgive and accept myself, I completely forgive and accept and respect my partner and I understand I am part of the infinite intelligence and filled with unlimited love and intelligence and everyday I am able to understand better what I need and what my partner needs to have a better relationship.” I don’t know if this is good enough? And Finally my question is, how often must I do the EFT Surrogate tapping? Three times a day? What is your recommendation? I still have not seen any improvements, we are still not talking to each other…
Many thanks!
Comment by J — October 20, 2009 @ 11:59 am
Hi,
I watched a little bit of your video as I wanted to do surrogate tapping for my husband, who had childhood trauma (sibling bully) leaving him crippled from the age of 12. And he still shows a lot of behaviour problems, he just did not feel comfortable to do eft. Memories are still too painfull that he cant sleep after 1 session of EFT I desperately want him to be healed and freed from this bondage, for him to enjoy the freedom of being himself . We have 3 yrs old son, there seem to be endless problems and issues with our boy. It just hurts me to see this, am desperate for help, could you please guide me through as to what to say and do, am familiar with basic EFT tapping, I have done a few times for myself.
Comment by helen — May 2, 2011 @ 3:30 pm