We were born with the unlimited potential to intentionally create (use the law of attraction) to manifest all of our heart's desires. Together, as Conscious Leaders guided by the Divine, we have the Mind Power necessary to co-create a sustainable, harmonious, peaceful, and prosperous world. And, we can do this while also attracting and creating a passionate, loving, rich, healthy life with all of our personal dreams fulfilled.
Q: Hi Anisa,
This is difficult to share. But, here goes, because I need help and really want to change. I hate confrontation. I’ve figured out (through a lot of tough self-reflection), I either withdraw or don’t speak to those who upset me – thereby punishing them by pushing them away passive-agressively. Or, I end up pushing them away with my anger. For example, I explode in a mean rage attacking their character with harsh words like “Are you really that stupid?” I’ve been like this for as long as I can remember and I realize that to some extend it’s served me. I’m viewed as a tough, independent and self-reliant woman. And, I also have my good traits and have many friends and family members that really love me. However, I’ve come to realize that my anger and volatility along with the way I allow people to ‘get under my skin’ has created illness and isolation. I don’t want to push people away. I don’t want to hurt the ones I love. And, I don’t want to be sick! I don’t want to be this angry. But, HOW do I get rid of something that’s been with me for so long? I can see myself about to withdraw or explode but even as I’m aware of my desire to change, I can’t stop the train-wreck from happening. It’s a default response that seems to have more power over me than my own mind has to make a better choice!
What do I do to change this? (Yours truly, anonymous.)
A: Accept your unlimitedness and you automatically become a vibrational match to your desire.
Ideally, you could just jump to accepting your Divinity and that would be that! You could just say, “I accept the truth that I am a Divine Child of God. So Be it!” And, it would be SO for you and all your dreams and the changes you desire, would materialize.
When we really accept our Divinity – that we are Divine Children of an all-providing, all-protecting, ever-flowing life-force of unlimited design and potential, then there’s nothing to ever fear, doubt, resent or defend. Our unlimited nature never sees other’s mistakes as mistakes but as Divine fellow humans doing their very best worthy of love and compassion simply because they are human. Our unlimited nature never needs to isolate or withdraw because there’s nothing to fear and nothing we need to protect. Our unlimited nature is all-loving both inwardly and outwardly. As we accept this Truth we become ONE with the essence of all that is GRACE and all that is LOVE.
Sounds simple enough?!?!
Not so much, for most of us. If you’ve been living your life in negative self- talk and free-wheeling emotional swings of anger, fear, doubt, and shame then that jump to “I accept my oneness with the Divine” is more like a Grand Canyon leap!
If you know that you should believe in your inherent Divinity but can’t quite get there, then stop trying to jump across the Grand Canyon and instead walk up the vibrational scale (from neg-attractive emotions to pos-attractive emotions) using your words, your voice and the power of your mind.
How do you walk yourself up the scale? Here’s an example, which I respectfully share anonymously, using a situation that a fellow law of attraction student experienced.
Our work as students of the law of attraction is to re-focus our energy and emotions so that the vibrations of positive trust, confidence, love, and peace are attracting what we want. Using the above example, here’s an illustration of how to intentionally climb the scale.
(Use Dr. David Hawkin’s Map of Consciousness as a guide and assume you have ALL of the lower level emotions and walk yourself up to the higher emotions.)
According to the map, at the bottom of the consciousness rung is Shame (20), then Guilt (30), then Apathy (50), then Grief (75), then Fear (100), then Desire (125), then Anger (150)and finally Pride (175).
Courage (200) is the first ascending emotion, followed by neutrality (250), then willingness (310), acceptance (350), reason (400), love (500), joy (540), peace (600) and then enlightenment (7001000).
Before we can get to our destination, we need to know where we are on the map.
First, figure out where you are by asking:
Using our example, the essence might be summed up in the underlying thoughts, “I will not be able to support my children. I will not be able to feed them and take care of them.” This energy of desperation is terribly creative and is going forth to create the very opposite of what she really wants, and she knows it. Thus, the even more desperate feeling that she MUST stop the meltdown!
Choose the lowest or most negatively-attractive emotion and corresponding thoughts first, in this case, starting with apathy, simply acknowledge the thoughts and feelings by speaking them aloud (while tapping)
Then, take the route to the next more positive ’emotional city’ on the map. For example, if you start with “I feel helpless and hopeless. I can’t even get myself out of bed because there’s nothing more I can do.” Using emotional freedom technique tap those very words. Do an entire round on “helpless, hopeless, apathetic” and “I still choose to love and accept myself.”
++++EFT Example Round:
If you are unfamiliar with EFT, please see my tutorial here. It explains why we focus on the negative in an effort to call a spade a spade then release it as required.
TAP through ALL the negative emotions – Apathy, then Grief, Sadness, Fear, Desire, Anger, then Pride and never stop before you have arrived at courage. Ideally, continue until you reach bliss, but never stop until you’ve at least hit courage.
Next, tap in the positive!
Now, let me give you an example of how you would do this work with ongoing anger and resentment that’s creating illness. Note: My example will start with shame, but you must proceed through courage on the vibrational scale. Do not stop until you are at least feeling courageous enough to trust the process and trust that you have the capacity within to make the change.
+++EFT example round:
Tapping on shame:
Tapping in the Positive:
I believe that we (including myself) receive some self- righteous or protective emotional pay-off for jeopardizing our happiness with habitual negative thoughts. Whether it’s a need to be right, a desire to avoid the pain of change, a desire for attention or any other counter-productive, fear-based desire (also known as a secondary gain), we must be willing to release the emotional pay-off in order to get to the peaceful, prosperous, and loving destination that we truly desire. (Emotional Freedom Technique works wonders on these self-sabotaging needs.)
By using this technique regularly, you’ll find that overall your life is simply happier, easier, more prosperous and peaceful. From this place of positive vibes, you are certain to attract more of the things you really want.
Create a Great day!
P.S. Here’s a fre*e EFT Worksheet too – EFT Worksheet:(Click here and then scroll to bottom for link)
I look forward to hearing of your success! Please share your comments with me below.
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