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What if we speak different languages? How do I do surrogate EFT?
Category: emotional freedom technique,law of attraction,Surrogate EFT — Anisa @
Q/A: What if we speak different languages? How do I do surrogate EFT?
USE the language that you feel most comfortable speaking fluidly. Whenever possible, include WORDS that have meaning in your friend’s native language and finally, consider and acknowledge any cultural differences you can identify while you are tapping.
Since our collective minds are interconnected and we cannot actually remove this connection (no matter what we do), tapping while speaking in either language is fine. Use what works for you. And, if there are certain phrases that your ‘surrogate EFT beneficiary’ uses to express their personality, their emotions or worldviews then by all means use those words when tapping.
For example, Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) is a collection of models and tools that assist us in understanding how to change our behaviors by changing our patterns of thought. Through NLP studies of how language affects our behavior, we’ve come to understand that words hold different connotations, meanings, and emotional triggers to different people. Since understanding what someone means by the words they choose to use is important to successful communication, whenever possible USE the phrases and words exactly as your friend would use them.
Here’s a challenge for you…
Let’s say you are more proper than your friend. You prefer to refrain from cursing or using language that is offensive in any way. However, your friend (that you want to do Surrogate EFT for) uses profanity and offensive language. It’s your call how you choose to deal with this when tapping surrogately. However, I believe that WORDS are very important and if my friend says, “This sucks”, I’m not going to try to modify it when I’m tapping to suit my sensibilities. I’m tapping for my friend and the more aligned my language is with what they really feel, the more likely I am to be effective with my tapping. Therefore, I’m going to use the same words because those words have a vibrational pattern within my friend that is important.
Additionally, remember that an event has no meaning until we give it meaning. The meaning we give to any situation is influenced by our beliefs, previous experiences, our cultural conditioning, our likes/dislikes and even our mood at the time.
When it comes to different languages, there will likely be different cultural barriers that could get in the way of really effective communication and surrogate EFT.
For example, I was speaking to a friend the other day who was born and raised in India. He was taught that it was inappropriate to express any affection towards a woman outside of marriage. Well, now he’s living and dating in America. Through trial and error, he has discovered that ‘not showing any affection’ to his dates (American women) is often misconstrued as a lack of interest. He has found it challenging to find the happy balance between showing his interest and honoring his heritage. “How do I know it’s the right time to kiss her and not get slapped, or worse thought of as a very bad person?” is a question that will rarely cross an American man’s mind. However, because of my friend’s cultural conditioning this is a very real dilemma for him.
We want to take into consideration the culture of whomever we Surrogate tap for.
If we were to tap surrogately for my friend, we would want to take into consideration how his friends and family would react should he choose to suddenly change his personality. We would want to make statements in our Surrogate EFT that allow for BOTH cultural views to evolve into a blended, more enlightened world-view that takes the best of both perspectives.
Now, having said all the above – don’t worry about it and certainly don’t overcomplicate this! Tap and talk however it at feels right for you in the moment. Use your native language when it feels right and use your friend’s words when you feel inspired. The key is to just do the tapping and the rest will fall into order.
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