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August 28, 2008

What to do when you can’t get over your EX and all you want to do is attract them back into your life – no matter how dysfunctional it was?

Category: Creative Manifesting — Anisa @ 11:27 am

Vibrational Video Coaching Q&A:   What to do when you can’t get over your EX and all you want to do is attract them back into your life - no matter how dysfunctional it was?

Q: Dear Anisa,

“I am still deeply in love with my Ex,  and I mostly cannot think of being with another. When I visualize my mate I have to force myself not to think of him, but even so I can’t deceive my feelings: “It is him that I’m in love with; he is the one that deep within I have chosen against all common sense, against almost five years of evidence that we can’t make each other happy. But something in me, bold and stupid, says “It’s true, no we can’t. Not yet. I don’t care that we are not aligned. I don’t care he has given me nothing but suffering. I don’t care if it will take this entire existence and maybe another one too, I believe we will be happily together one day; a wonderful couple blessed with peace and harmony. I don’t know how and when it will happen, but it will. The Universe will take care of this.”

When I feel this way I feel absolutely happy, joyful and completely at peace.

Then, if it lasts more than a couple of days, I begin to tell myself that this is all crazy, that I’m fantasizing like a teen over someone who doesn’t want to be with me; that I should know better by now, that I will meet a wonderful mate, hundreds times better than him, and be so incredibly happy. But I feel resistance to these thoughts and they don’t last, my desire to be happy with  my ex wins over and everything starts again.”

A: Dear Conscious Creator Friend,

First, congratulations on recognizing your feelings and becoming aware of your internal conflicts. I encourage you to go easy on yourself - you are very much on your Divine Right path.I cannot think of even a single time when I’ve been asked the question, “How do I manifest a specific mate into my life?” when my suggestions have been well-received or easily heard.  The resistance to my suggestions are natural and I understand them.  When we come from a desire to ‘manifest this ONE-AND-ONLY one for me’ while your LOA mentor is saying, “Don’t do that! You will not be happy with the results and you are taking a zillion possibilities for your fulfillment and funneling them down to ONE chance for love - (and not even healthy love at that!)”

However, today, I go at this question a little differently with my Vibrational Video Coaching clip:  What if this time apart was meant to be so that you could create the possibility for a healthy relationship?  And, if you get aligned with a healthy relationship and say - ‘this or something better’ then IF you attract a reconciliation then you’ll have that healthy love you desire.  And, if you do not, then you’ll be open to the ‘better’ that you really want just the same.  My video clip explains more fully how to do this.

How to get over an EX - (or better yet - attract them back using the Law of Attraction?)

(Be patient - the video will load in the next screen. )

For more on Using the Law of Attraction and Emotional Freedom Technique to ‘get over an ex-flame’ or ‘attract the REAL love of your life’, see: Attract a Mate (or Re-Create the One You Have) with the Power of EFT & LOA. http://www.creatavision.com/products/EFT-relationship.htm

2 Comments »

1. “Settle into the sit bones, side body long, spine erect, close the eyes and take a deep breath in and exhale slowly, letting go of anything you don’t need.” That is the first thing we do in the yoga classes I teach and it really helps. I understand that obsession because I had it too. I went so far as to spend thousands of dollars that I did not have to speak to psychics trying to get an answer as to how I could I claim my obsesion (Chuck). I was determined that I was going to transform Chuck into an emotionally healthy, loving and caring person and that we would walk down the aisle of heaven on earth.

   Well, I knew I was on the wrong track and it was like a drug. I would put yself through craziness to be with this man who would stand me up, not return my calls (unless he felt like it) …just to name a few. So, I would get my fix and then start feeling bad all over again and call the psychics trying to make sense of it …

   Finally, I got some professional counselling and I participated in Anisa’s call in sessions and had some private coaching with her. I was getting stronger through these positive steps and then I went back into yoga and found it to be a godsend. There are many poses for depression, anxiety and addiction and it really helped me to the point that I became a certified teacher.

   I will not tell you to leave him alone because you won’t want to hear that. What I will advise is that along with Anisa’s help, try a yoga class … if nothing else, it will boost your self esteem, your body and mind will be relaxed and you’ll get a banging body to boot

   By the way, I have a gorgeous boyfriend who lives with me now, is 10 years younger than me, is in to yoga as well, and we have a very healthy, loving relationship. From what I hear … Chuck is still flitting around.

   Wishing you love, light and success.
   Anne (reggaeyoga.org)

   Comment by OmWorks — August 28, 2008 @ 4:11 pm

2. hello, seems like this thread comes at an opportune moment. my ex and i split up 4 year ag0 (yes you did read that right) and i still cant seem to move on. we remained dysfunctional friends for a few years and i was an easy lay when he felt like it. what i didnt know was at the time he was also seeing my best friend who he has now married and had a baby. i too am finding it difficutl to move on, especially as when i was pregnant he wouldnt support me. i am trying to practice the LOA (just newly go into it) and am realising what i created in that relationship. been doing meditation, and seen a councellor but i guess cant imagine anyone loving me again. i am very overweight and i know the LOA brings you what you believe in but whilst society tells me i am crap etc how am i supposed to believe in my value enought to manifest someone into my life. all i read is people who now after all this heartache have a loving relationship but it aint happening to me.

   any help or success stories i can build on

   thank you

   Flossie

   Comment by flossie — August 29, 2008 @ 1:55 am

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