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Why Use the Negative Phrases When EFT Tapping?
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Q/A: What I don’t get is that EFT states things in the negative. Why not use positive statements like what we were taught in books like “Think and Grow Rich” etc.?
A: This question is a common one – especially from those of us (myself included) that have always believed that we are supposed to be positive at all times.
–> How many times have you heard someone say something negative and then say, “Oh.. I don’t even want to go there! Cancel, Cancel!”
Of course we do not want to focus on the negative or we’ll attract more of it. And, it can feel very contradictory to what we’ve been taught to realistically face all the reasons why we don’t have what we want.
However, just because we ‘pretend’ something does not exist, does not mean that it will go away.
A woman victimized by her husband’s abuse may pretend that one peaceful night is the beginning of a renewed relationship. Unfortunately, statistics reveal that pretending that ‘all is well’ will not prevent the next round of violence.
Likewise, some students of the law of attraction will reach for abundance through the excessive use of their credit cards. Today, they may be pretending they are abundant in hopes of enacting the ‘law of attraction.’ Unfortunately, tomorrow they wake up to realize they are deeper in debt and further from the wealth they desire than ever before.
We’ve heard the phrase, “fake it, till you make it” and attached ourselves to the idea that we have to pretend our way into success. While there’s wisdom in this axiom, faking it alone is not enough to remove the limited consciousness that is the source of our need to pretend in the first place.
On the other hand, when we accept our unlimited potential as our True nature, we can no longer pretend. Instead, we just are.
While using a tool such as EFT requires that we acknowledge those negative beliefs and problems, we are not going to focus on them long enough to expand and attract more negativity. On the contrary, through the very act of becoming aware we instantly weaken the negativity while empowering our consciousness of well-being.
When we start the EFT phrase with the ‘Elephant in the room’ clearly acknowledged, then there’s no place for this subconscious fear, doubt, or belief to hide any longer. Then, after we’ve ‘called it like it really is’, we say “Even though I have this ‘dysfunction’, I LOVE myself anyway!!!” We are actually saying, “I allow myself to love myself in spite of my problems.”
Our subconscious mind has been taught to protect us from falsehoods. It’s like we have this determined gatekeeper standing outside our mental gates, protecting us from being hurt by illusions and false promises. When we say something like, “I am rich, rich, rich!” About half the time our gatekeeper smirks back at us, “No you’re not!”
With the EFT set-up phrase, we catch the gatekeeper off-guard! When we acknowledge and then allow LOVE to flow, our subconscious mind lets the new intention past the gates and into the fertile soil!
[ Side-note: (although not completely unrelated… )Another way to do this is by using assumptive affirmations that start with “Why is it…?” Such as, “Why is it that I always have all the abundance I require, when I require it no matter what?” When we phrase our affirmations as a “Why is it?” question, we again ‘stump the gatekeeper’ into trying to answer the question! ]
By stating the problem, we shine a light on where it resides within us. EFT is about resetting our energetic grid. In order to see where the disconnection is located, it’s necessary to speak the situation as negatively and as boldly as possible in order to shine that spotlight directly on the source of disconnection.
With EFT, we are eliminating our limiting beliefs. In order to eliminate them, they must be brought into the light. Through the process of EFT, we not only put our problems out there and love ourselves anyway, but we take our positive intentions and get them past the gatekeeper!
This is why EFT is so effective EXACTLY as it stands. Many an experimenter has tried to do the set-up phrase differently, without success. If it’s not broke, don’t fix it! EFT works so let’s keep using it!
As you grow in your EFT practice, you’ll find that you naturally gravitate to move quickly out of the negative and into the positive. Thus, using more positive-toned ‘I choose…’ statements or ‘What if…’ statements allow you to shift very quickly as well.
For more information, See Gary Craig’s Videos.
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Thanks Anisa
This clear things up for me.
Comment by Chak — November 23, 2009 @ 2:36 am
Thanks Anisa
Comment by Chak — November 23, 2009 @ 2:53 am
I need to know what statements should one use when you want to fall out of love? My girlfriend broke up with me and we are not getting back together. But I am still hurting. I still love her, she still matters to me, I feel jealous, think about her all of the time.
What should I say when I tap? Should it be: even though I am still in love with Jane Doe and still want to be with her, even though she does not want me or love me anymore, I fully and deeply accept myself.
Should it be something like that? Please tell me what to say.
Thank you
Comment by Chak — November 23, 2009 @ 3:26 am